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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 8:16:01 AM |
Okay, by this reasoning it is acceptable for a man to date multiple women, as long as the man is paying for the dates? What about going dutch? Are both parties then allowed to have "half-dates" with multiple people?
I am sorry, but until there is an actual COMMITMENT (someone paying for my coffee doesn't count), I can see who ever I want, as long as I am not deceiving anyone.
Oh, and I'm not really sorry at all.
That's not what I wrote at all.
I guess the real problem arises when a man and a woman are dating and one of them chooses not to date anyone else, whereas the other person is playing the field. That's a recipe for problems. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 8:37:23 AM | I have a female friend that is dating 2 guys at once, they know about each other too. She does it cause she needs a man's attention 24/7. So she just goes back and forth. To top it off, I was hanging with her and a few friends on Monday... neither boyfriend was there with us, so she baited another guy to come hang out with us... boyfriend #3???
We went to a restaurant, her, myself and my cousin. It was the first time she had been at a restaurant where she had to pay for her own meal in 2 years. She was complaining about it, and had her own money.
I told her she should just go over to the table across the room full of guys and start flirting. Surely one of them would buy her a meal. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 9:24:28 AM | | A lot of women have not met the person they 'want' to be with yet. Also one person cannot be everything to one person and they may need some space or a variety. Until things get serious there should not be a problem with someone having several friends they can enjoy. Doesn't mean they need to have sex with all of them, but then again, you should not buy a pair of shoes until you have tried them on. The main thing to worry about are std's. No one needs a surprise like that. Try not to give your heart away so quickly and you won't get burnt so badly. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 9:27:18 AM | | Married men do the same thing. And another that I recently met was a big joke. His picture had to be at least 20 years old and would have never recognized him if I didn't know there was a meeting to take place. Some people just have to live in denial | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:19:47 AM | | You know, I do not want to "date" (as in, be intimate with) many people over a long period of time, but I think people need to "date" (as in, get to know one another over conversation and [publicly appropriate] activities) more than one person to find out who they want for a partner. I am hopeful that I will know "the one" when I meet him (or meet with him a few times) but please do not confuse my patience and persistence with something more - erm - distasteful. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:27:19 AM | Went shopping on Monday; couldnt make a decision between 8 dresses so I bought the lot! wonder if that says anything about my dating style!
ps avoided the shoeshops that day! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:34:10 AM | I don't like to date one at a time because sooooo many times some major dealbreaker comes out once i've invested time.... but of course if i like one a lot & he wants to become exclusive, i wouldn't necessarily say no just to continue "juggling" -- lol.
Also, no one lives forever, and society is still very harsh on females about age. So. we don't have a lifespan of 300 years here, and none of us stay young & cute forever. Give us a break, lol. Probably the ones who multi-date are doing it because they can (they're in demand) so in a sense you might be happier going for someone less popular?? lol.
so, in essence, my 3 suggestions:
1. accept it, knowing that you'll win out when the match is right
2. if you don't like it, work to change societal perceptions about female beauty & age, lol.
3. if you don't like it, date someone who doesn't have as many "man-'portunities."
in any case, best of luck!
(and yes, after a little while, once she's really gotten to know you, ask her to choose & be willing to walk away if she doesn't.) | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 1:58:45 AM | | Because I love calling the guy the wrong name, screwing up their professions and other life details. Actually I date multiple men because I haven't found one that makes me stop and go hmmmm. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 4:28:23 AM |
So why do women date multiple men at once? Why can't you date one guy at a time? It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it.
Dont know why they do that, but its not only some women. Its some men who do that too.
1 guy atta time for me! Hell i can barely remember what i did the day before. How does one remember the names of all these men/women they are dating at once?  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 5:22:29 AM | re post 646:
"I don't like to date one at a time because sooooo many times some major dealbreaker comes out once i've invested time.... "
Makes sense! Except for "invested time"? Are daters "investors"? If so, why do they not use stockbrokers? lol
"but of course if i like one a lot & he wants to become exclusive, i wouldn't necessarily say no just to continue "juggling" -- lol."
What about anti-monopoly laws? lol
"Also, no one lives forever,"
Very true, not even 150 years!
".. and society is still very harsh on females about age."
Now, here I am not sure I agree! Is is so nowadays?
And not on men? Maybe not on looks, but other "factors" (eg "erectability", lol)
"So. we don't have a lifespan of 300 years here, and none of us stay young & cute forever."
Yes but women at 50 today look super!
"Give us a break, lol. Probably the ones who multi-date are doing it because they can (they're in demand) so in a sense you might be happier going for someone less popular?? lol."
Hey, no complaining, "competition" is good, we are not "communists"! lol
"so, in essence, my 3 suggestions:
1. accept it, knowing that you'll win out when the match is right
2. if you don't like it, work to change societal perceptions about female beauty & age, lol.
3. if you don't like it, date someone who doesn't have as many "man-'portunities.""
No prob, as long as it holds for both "sides"!
"in any case, best of luck!"
Luck is for rabbits (from an old American Airlines commercial, lol)
"(and yes, after a little while, once she's really gotten to know you, ask her to choose & be willing to walk away if she doesn't.)"
But what if by then I am accustomed to this "pluralism" and not intend to ask her to choose and to continue in this "free market" (lol) way????
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 5:37:59 AM | | I have met a few women who have low esteam and looking for a high. I found out just reciently a woman I was talking with was dating many guys andwe all began to realize the head games and we all dumped her. she is on swinglife style, match.com, pof, adultfriend finder and my space . she has posted pics thinking the guys would never spot her. what a creep. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:50:49 AM | | It's against my nature to date multiple guys, but I am finding out that putting all my eggs in one basket is not working so well. They seem to spoil and then it's time to get some fresh ones or a new basket. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 8:18:20 AM | Wow! Someone dredged this one up from the archives. LOL!
I know that I date multiple people at the same time b/c I don’t want to limit myself. I know what I’m looking for in someone and if I meet more than one compatible person I want to make sure that I choose the one who is best for me. It helps to narrow down the selection. I refuse to put myself into a dating box and settle for less than what I want and deserve just to be with someone. I want to be with the RIGHT person and if dating more than one person helps me to find them instead of wasting an extended amount of time with the wrong person for me (though they may be great guys), then I prefer to date more than one person. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 11:22:04 AM | | I would talk to a lot of people on e-mail, but if after the first date I felt strongly about a person I would make it clear that I was taken! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/21/2008 2:34:43 PM |
It's against my nature to date multiple guys, but I am finding out that putting all my eggs in one basket is not working so well. They seem to spoil and then it's time to get some fresh ones or a new basket.
Some people end up over filling the basket dropping some along the way. | |
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