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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:38:52 PM | They are not serious and still looking to see if the grass is greener. If someone meets someone they are into they usually date exclusive.  | |
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jcolsa
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Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 53 | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:56:12 PM | Hi whtaguy...Merry Christmas. Funny you should say that, 'cause we women think the SAME thing about the guys....but, if we're DATING more than one guy at a time, it's only 'cause we gotta get OUT there, and we haven't found the right guy. I for one, want just ONE guy.
I'll tell u something REALLY screwed up--it's funny, but pathetic. I recently called a guy back on this site, told him it was "Debbie" (my name), responding to his message. He sounded a bit confused (a serial dater, I guess), and proceeded to guess and went down a list of FIVE Debbie's trying to figure out which one I was!! omg I was like, I don't need this, and hung up. So, there you go. take care, Debbie | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:04:50 PM | Maybe they are confused by all of the women on your profile, maybe you should date younger women with better memories, maybe you should make more of an impression. There is always something that someone is going to biatch about.
If a woman wants to focus on one guy, men will allege that she is intent on snagging a husband or psychotically needy.
Most women that date more than one man are trying to make sure that there is some degree of compatibility with an individual before deciding to cull the others and stick to one guy.
If you don't like it, keep moving to the profile of someone who likes to date one guy at a time. Most of us have to go through many people that are unsuitable before we find someone with whom there is any potential. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:09:27 PM | Oh boy ave Caesar instead of answering the original posters question or quoting someone else you go right after me. Obsession is a really bad thing. Must really burn you that i blocked . You can't send me hateful messages anymore.
Having a few dates with someone does not make a relationship. How much can you possibly find out in a few dates? I may know that i am attracted to someone and that i like their company ,but i don't know by then if i want to date them exclusively. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:44:32 PM |
I don't know one man on this site, that I have spoken to, that is just focused on one girl... so why should I?
That's just simply because my head is down, I have my reading glasses on, and I'm trying to figure how I missed out on all this mulitplicity going on........and NOBODY is even in my peripheral to get me to LOOK UP!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:08:11 PM | Wake up my friend, If your dating a "lady" that is dating other men then she's telling you your not the "one", ask her to pay half the time and just have fun while you find your "1"
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:08:34 PM | jcolsa...I am so curious about the statement that women have a such a better market on line than men.
Really, as in how would you know this, since you are hmmm from the looks of it a man?
I see and hear plenty of threads and women lament how lousy dating in general is, and I haven't heard many say, well ya know, I always have the advantage of the internet.
Since you have made this statement, PLEASE explain how dating for men on the internet is so much less of an advantage for them???
As for the OP...
I have tried it both ways, getting to know one person at a time, only to find it was only ME who was doing the one at a time thing. Then I have also tried the multiple dating, that too hasn't been the greatest thing either.
As stated by Red and Blue, men have up and disappeared after wonderful dates, no word, no explination, NATHANG.... Hey, I am sure women do it too, don't get me wrong, don't date women, don't know what they do...
I do see why it would be a complaint and insult to get wrong information, especially when the cover up is soooo not good... Guess the poor girl needs much MORE practice..
Then once again from the female side of things, I too have been mistaken for someone elses info.... All you can say is WRONG PERSON... That usually makes the mistaker feel like an A$$...
Someone else said if and when people click, they will both give up the mulitples... I have always been respectful, and let the guy know what MY choice was, but what ever they felt for themselves was THEIR choice...
It does NOT feel good when they aren't honest and up front that you are one of many.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:11:29 PM | I personally dont do it, and I dont get it either.....How can you possibly get to know a person and know if they are right for you if you are dating around???? I say if its not worth the time to see then break it off and date someone else..... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:13:19 PM |
ask her to pay half the time and just have fun while you find your "1"
I am trying to understand why are the guys frustrated -because women *might be* going out with someone else, OR because men might be paying?
I don't know about your world, most of my dates (esp. 1-2nd) are simply a cup of coffee in some public place and chat.... So why would that be a $$$ issue at all?
P.S. if someone has a "crystal ball" that will enable me to recognize "the 1" (mutually) in one date.. I will pay a lot of money to use it! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:16:43 PM |
How can you possibly get to know a person and know if they are right for you if you are dating around????
If you personally feel you can't do that , then that's ok. However not everyone thinks as you do or lives their lives as you do .Just because others will date several at once until they decide they either really like this person and wants to see them exclusively , or that they don't want to see them anymore at all , does not make them a bad person. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:19:20 PM | Wow, you are a guy that is out there only dating one at a time?? I have not seen one of those yet.. My experience..... I will say this... I only date one at a time, sorry I am not in a circus and can not juggle, I want one to be interested in me and so forth.
best of luck, she is out there just like me!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:21:24 PM |
I personally dont do it, and I dont get it either.....
maybe until you will experience a "disappearing" phenomenon a few times, or find out that a guy that *you* are seeing exclusively is also seeing others and doesn't think much of it. But as a previous poster said, whatever is suitable for you. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:03:08 PM | | B/c I'm "older" and my time on this earth is limited. I didn't date for a long time b/c I was raising my kids and, now that I can, I've gotta go back to square one and figure out what I want and need in a man. So I don't wanna try to date just one person and spend two months figuring out I don't like him or he doesn't like me or we're just not compatible. I wanna date several and spend time with each one and get to know each one well enough to decide if I want more than just a casual dating relationship. See? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:23:16 PM | Cause they can. It's that plain and simple enough of an explanation. And as long as you're willing to put up with it then you're nothing more than her cash cow for drinks, dinner and entertainment. And no I'm not talking about the first couple dates. We've all seen and know women who do this as a way to supplement their lifestyle.
I've read a couple posts to this thread where the women claim it's merely a way for them to decide who will be her best match. What I don't understand is how they can decide who's their supposed perfect match. Comparison shopping? Not everyone is the same in all areas. Each one of us has our strengths and weaknesses. I guess the overriding factor is going to come down to what kind of transportation you're going to pick her up in? Where you're going for dinner. The social status of the company you keep and how she will look in that social circle.
Funny how women will get so pissed when they discover that a guy is doing the same thing. What is it they call them? Oh yeah, PLAYERS! Yet it's ok for them to date multiple men. But according to them, they're able to know how they feel about each and every guy they date and not confuse them with all the others. LOL | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:28:29 PM |
It's that plain and simple enough of an explanation. And as long as you're willing to put up with it then you're nothing more than her cash cow for drinks, dinner and entertainment.
I guess I am form a different world. Never though that a cup of coffee/soda was considered "drinks, dinner and entertainment".
No, it is until guys start being clear about what they want 9even if it's not this particular person), communicate and not disappear after one or 2 "great and wonderful" dates. And also stop serial or multiple dating  We just learned from you guys | |
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jcolsa
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Joined: 12/20/2007
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:15:59 PM | Hi nexthyme,
Hope you had a wonderful xmas. The advantage that woman have over men is related to the numbers only and not its a guarantee that because more men are available that you will find that SO.
Overall we are the same so if 1 of 10 men are great then about 1 in 10 women are great too. The men to women ratio is however not balanced.. There are more men the women on this site and most other sites..That's ok that just a fact of life..
Sure you can say that to get to that 1 good man you have to go through 100 bad ones but women have a greater opportunity
I for one am not intimidated by my odds being less. To me the numbers mean little because I am only interest in finding just 1. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:19:55 PM |
you're nothing more than her cash cow for drinks, dinner and entertainment.
Never do i ever let a man pay my way on a date . Not even once. I will never let someone think that just because they paid for my meal that i owe them anything. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:21:29 PM | jcolsa....
Ohhhh well thanks for the explination.
Yeah, well this maybe the only time the odds are in balance of females, well that and moving to the state of Alaska.
Ummmm I have to admit, I don't have the exact #'s, but I do know for a fact there are more single women than men at any given time. So at least if the odds don't balance out on a dating site, then there is always choke gag... REAL LIFE...
Anyway, thanks for the info, I have wondered why men said this before...
Merry Christmas... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:25:32 PM |
How can you possibly get to know a person and know if they are right for you if you are dating around????
Well.. lets see. I'm out with THEM on any given night. That night they have my undivided attention.. and I have theirs. We get to know eachother.. however people go about such things. Maybe.. nights later someone else has my undivided attention.
At worst.. maybe doing things that way means it takes a bit more time than usual to get to know people, but it's not a LOT of time.
If you can't keep details and info straight, then dating multiples isn't for you. That's cool. Your call, etc. Some folks can manage a plate like that, so they do.
And as long as you're willing to put up with it then you're nothing more than her cash cow for drinks, dinner and entertainment.
I adore the automatic assumption that someone dating around.. particularly a woman can't possibly be paying her own way. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:27:49 PM | | well the real issue at hand is what you define as "dating." if you're talking about a few dinners, drinks or movies...that's still within the realm of casual, getting to know eachother, trying to figure out if you're really interested while "seeing" eachother. during that phase, there's no exclusivity, no right to expectations, and the freedom for you both to meet and see other people. only once interest and exclusivity are established can you consider yourselves actually "dating" and no longer just "seeing" eachother. at that point you have the right to expect the other person to refrain from having any other *dates* or interests on the side. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:35:58 PM |
I adore the automatic assumption that someone dating around.. particularly a woman can't possibly be paying her own way. Let's see, the vast majority of women that heard about and read in profiles, expect a man to is dating, not a singular date mind you, them to pay for the date. I know I've yet to go on a date where the woman has even offered to pay for part of the night out. Now how could one not come to such a conclusion? | |
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