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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 10:53:51 AM | Whether multiple dating makes sense for you
depends on how active your love life is.
Some people go out 5 or 6 nights a week,
while others are only dating 2 or 3 new people a year. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 11:01:34 AM | | Dating more than one person means that you are getting physical with one of them or all of them. Hanging out means you are hanging out. Meeting out, means you are just meeting new people.. In my lifetime I have never met one single person who did not get physical with who they were dating. It will happen eventually and if it is not with you then it is with someone else. Don't think for one second that this does not go on. The woman you are dating could be" friends with benefits" with someone but still date you and others. So if you are ok with this then you are allowing yourself to be used like a pair of shoes. Hanging out, Going out, Meeting out for drinks or the movies is not a date or dating. Dating means you are going steady with a particular person you like. Of course there are many that will disagree with that statement but, if you don't agree then I guess if you get married then it should be okay if your significant other dates around as well, I mean after all. It is only a date.. Do you see the point I am making. If you go to a ball game with your drinking buds does that mean you are dating them? The answer is NO. To date is to be exclusive any other term is just an excuse to be selfish and to take advantage. I am sure that many those who disagree with this post have cheated or been cheated on by someone they were dating, and probably can't figure out why the one they were wanting does not want them anymore. I mean after all what harm can a "date" cause. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 11:34:43 AM | | Slaps Bobisherenow on the hand and say right on brother you are right on target man. this is so true its just another name for have multiple partners. i totaly agree with you. to me i feel that its a way for people to have benifits off of others with out having to spend too much time with them on a mental level, but more physical. Every one should listen too what Bobisherenow saying hes like a missle on target. his thoughts and concepts on this subject has real meaning to it. keep up the good stuff man and teach these people what it means. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 11:39:26 AM | I am sorry, YOU are wrong. Dating doesn't me screwing, what planet are you from? That is the most ridiculous thing I have read on here. When you were dating in school, were ya having sex, probably not. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 11:50:13 AM | | Why even ask this question? Feeling threatened? If you've got the goods, you'll look better by comparison, and she'll spend proportionately more quality time with you than with her other dates. If you're just a "nice guy", you'll be stuck in the "friend" (read: chump) zone, and get the honor of taking a woman out that has interest only in other guys that won't spend any money on her. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 11:58:18 AM | | I wonder how many those who disagree with me have been cheated on and have the nerve to cry about it. Sorry but in this day and age dating means screwing. Why else would you date someone then? If you are lonely then go buy a dog. I would certainly hope that any one who is over the age of 21 would know better to believe in fairy tales these days. If the person you are dating is not screwing you then she is screwing some one else. Keep believing that this is not happening. Gosh there are so many naive people in this world. So since so many think it is okay to date multiple people at one time then marriage should be ruled obsolete and no longer needed. IF you are dating someone then you are exclusive. If you are hanging out then you are hanging out. I once heard a very wise person say if a kiss does not take place then a date has not taken place. OH, and just because you are not kissing your dates then that does not mean the person you are dating who also dating multiple people is not hooking up. Give me a break. Can't believe that someone would be arrogant enough to think differently. If she is not interested in getting down n dirty with ya. chances are she is interested in someone else and is most likely doing it with someone else. Don't kid yourself now. The internet world is different than what happens after you leave your computer. I am sure those who disagree with me are either getting screwed over, as in being used,or are hooking up with one of the dozens that hey are dating with if not all of them. The guy who refused to pay for your dates meal is probably the same one who is banging her. Once again, for what ever reason adults still believe in fairy tales. How sad. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 12:56:49 PM | You are so off target here; I don't need a guy to pay for my meals or my drinks. If you think "most" women if NOT screwing you, may not be screwing anybody. No wonder men (with your attitude) are dateless, that goes with clueless. IF I were to date more than one man, again this is DATE, which by the way, doesn't give him the right to expect sex, it may be because I am checking out one of MANY viable partners for myself. I am only exclusive when it is decided by both involved parties that it is exclusive. You can kiss someone goodnight without it going further too. What ever planet you live on, stay there. You are the one rotten apple my friend!!!! I would resort to toys before I would expose myself to the likes of a person with your thinking. Jaded, maybe, stupid for sure. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 2:30:33 PM | Probably the same reason men do it... because they can.
I have dated more than one guy at a time until something viable comes into play to suggest we are both interested in a relationship. Dating is the way to find someone to spend your time with. Dating is not a serious commitment/relationship until you agree that it is. To get to that you have to "date" in order to determine if you like a person.
Not only that, but dating does not mean "SCREWING!" I don't sleep with everyone I date and would hate to think my value in dating is based on my screwing you to determine our connection.
Not everyone (men and women) screw around... some of us actually have self respect and respect for others. Oh and chances are... I will not screw a date to figure out if I know them....
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 6:16:26 PM | | lol damn someone pissed in the cheerios again. Bobisherenow not everyone that dates more than one person is screwing around. So you can't go making a generalization against females or males for that matter. We all date more than one person for our own knowing. To figure out if someone is mean't for us or not. And unless exclusiveness is discussed and agreed on, people are free to do whatever they want without explanation. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/1/2008 6:40:11 PM | Dating it just that, *Dating* not sleeping with them, at least it is not for me... when and if you meet the right man, then of course you stop dating other men, and sleep with that one, LOL
In the mean time, you have to date men to see if you can find the right man to give up dating other men, LOL if that makes any sense,
As a matter of fact I don't like dating, I m tired  of it now,  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 2:34:54 AM | If one looks in the dictionary the definition of Date it is a social or romantic appointment. Nothing to do with sex at all.
I for one do not believe it to be, imature or a sign of insecurity to date mutliple persons. In a lot of ways it is a sign of maturity and security.
By this it means the person knows what they want from life and have a good idea of the person that will give it to them or at the very least can identify those who wont.
Ask yourself what is going to make you most C*ck of the Coop. Hooking up for life with some one who has only been on one date, and that was with you......or some one who after going on several dates said you are the one that stands head and shoulders above the rest, and physically your the shortest of the bunch, so we are not talking height here.
Consider:
Would you really go into a bookshop with only one book on the shelf ?
No.....even a bookshop having a closing down sale, in the last 5 minutes of it`s last day has more than one book on the shelf, much to the upset of the owner who is going to have to auction them of as a job lot. 
Dating is not about getting laid, it is however what, if you are BOTH successful in finding someone you like a hell of a lot to start with, leads to BOTH of you getting laid.
Then with time that turns into love making as you learn all each others likes and dislikes. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 4:32:28 AM | | Well now. If you are not hooking up with one of your multiple dates chances are they are hooking up with someone else...Go ahead and think different. You do understand that this happens on the planet Earth do you not? What is the point of dating or courtship if you are not intending to breed? I happen to have a realist attitude toward dating. That is why I only date one person at a time. I don't feel the need to date multiple women at once because I already know what I want. If you are over 25 years old and still have no idea what kind of partner you want then you need to seek therapy. .I do find it funny that people who continue to date multiple people at one time still seem to not find the one. Chances are you may have already found the one, but since you attention is with your 25 other dates then you probably passed "the one' buy. It seems that when it comes to dating people are becoming more and more selfish. They could care less about anyone else except themselves, and are leading all their other dates on, making them think they actually have a chance with you. People who think like me are not bitter or jaded. We just don't have time for games or bs. I mean who wants to date someone that has been passed around town. Why does someone who knows what they want need to date multiple people at one time? The point I am tying to make is that if you are dating multiple at one time would you be okay with these same folks dating others. I mean if you were married would you be okay if your partner took your best friend to the movies and said, "don't worry it is only a date." I guess as long as you are up front and tell the people that you are dating you are dating many folks at one time and kissing them after each date, then I guess there is no issue. But if you are not telling them this then you are tricking them and using them. I wonder how many women who date multiple guys at one time tell them that they are doing this? But that's okay because in this society there is an excuse for everything. What a sad dating world that we live in. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:29:50 AM | So far on this site I haven't found any guys that are really serious about finding the "one." So why not go out on other dates.? It doesn't mean different sex partners.
Alot of us women do not sleep with someone right away. So most of those don't work out anyways., because some of you men don't want to put in the time nor effort to see if it can be a relationship. I know one woman that waits 15 dates. I know alittle extreme, but at least she doesn't get used. I don't wait 15 but I do give it time to know if that man is only about the sex or is really wanting a relationship. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:52:37 AM | | I am not saying that people who cereal date are sleeping with all their dates, what I am saying is that one of the many you are dating are probably sleeping with someone, while dating you also. So until you become "exclusive," one of your dates has a least hooked up with another sometime during the month you were dating them. Because after all you are only dating until "you" decide to become exclusive. The stuff about making people wait for some length of time until they become intimate is a joke. What if you find out you are not into what they are into. The person that is waiting for you is probably hooking up with someone else. Because if you are not doing the deed then how is the person you are dating going to know that you are exclusive or not. Your definition may not be the same as their's. Plus if any of your dates find out that you are dating many others, then they are going to do the same and milk that for all it is worth and maybe still continue to do that even after you become "exclusive." In this situation people hear only what they want to and will use that to their advantage. My posts are not to place blame but only to state another point of view. As far as the question "Why do women date multiple guys at once?" The answer is because we let them and the same goes for "Why do men date multiple women at once?" This occurs because women let us. As far as not knowing what someone is about, if it is too good to be true than it is. I do find it sad that those who I know who date multiple folks always find something wrong with all of them and never seem to find the one or be satisfied. Oh the humanity of it all. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 9:24:02 AM | I think I have done enough to prolong the human race with the kids I have, and a bit long in the tooth to go through sleepless nights for years on end, to start thinking about doing any more "breeding" for the good of the human race.
So what am I looking for, well while still young enough to be sexually active a long term lover / partner. But I am also looking for some to share a sandwich with on a park bench in my dotage. This would be someone who is as much fun to be with sat quietly feeding the pigeons, later in life as bouncing around a dance floor to our favorite tunes now.
One of the things I like about Plenty of Fish is the fact there is an opportunity to organise meets with lots of other members. I have made a lot of friends that way and I ask you where else can you go on a multiple date with 20 or more people of your sexual preference at the same time / at the same place / in the same room, without getting your face slapped.
You can have fun getting to know one another and if you really get on with some one you can then invite one of them out.
I am a one woman / one man guy but this does not mean I expect exclusivity until there is a bound strong enough for both to want it. Nor does it mean I have the more than one "possible relationship date" in my diary at any time.
This does not mean I don`t have social dates in my diary with friends both male and female to attend.
I would say that most of the women who know me have a fair idea of who is on my social only date calender, or at least only have to ask one of the others, and the fact that is likely to continue, after forming a relationship with some one.
I will definitely have less time to go on social dates by myself, but I would have friends to go to the pictures etc with, when my partner is not around, and I most certainly want her to be able to say the same.
There has to be a large portion of trust between 2 people for a relationship to work.
So by multiple social dating one can get to learn who one can trust, at least in having the same basic moral values etc as you.
It is possible for men and women to be just friends and as an individual I have the right to agree or disagree with whoever I like, without recommending anybody should take up therapy, especially to those who disagree. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 9:36:07 AM | "Why do women date multiple guys at once?"
Once again the answer is because we allow this to happen. And the answer to Why do men date multiple women at once? The answer to that is because the women allow this to happen. Funny thing is that when a guy dates more than one woman at a time that is considered wrong, but for some reason women think it is okay to date more than one male at time. There is a double standard here.
Once again, the people that I know who go out with multiple people never seem to find what they are looking for, always find something wrong with their dates, and always complain when the ones they are dating do the same thing to them. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 10:36:53 AM | | Bobisherenow - I notice your profile basically says you are looking for SEX. That's fine it's out in the open; therefore, you need not date ,AGREED. Spare some women and just keep screwing your way through life. That makes you just another guy looking for sex without any commitment - BRAVO ! I can't believe you have the audacity to even bring up dating after reading what you are looking for, another double standard........... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 10:44:56 AM | | Why wouldn't any one date more than 1 person at a time ? On a first or second date as long as your not commited it's nobodys buisness but yours . Frankly I'm a little afraid of a woman that would be ready to start monagamy on the first date. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 10:58:21 AM | Sorry double standards do not apply to us men. They only apply to women. As a male it is my job according to the laws of nature to spread my seed around and produce as many offspring as possible, Just like the male Lion does in his species. We are intended to be kings of our castles through the laws of nature... It is not our fault that we are this way and that we feel that we have a job to do.. Sorry that is just the way that we are wired. For some reason people don't like to hear the truth when it comes to dating and get all upset when facts are mentioned. Then they result to personal attacks. As far as my profile goes I AM BEING HONEST and am not trying to bs someone into thinking that I want something more, unlike those who DATE MULTIPLE PEOPLE..
People date multiple people because the are allowed to do so, and because they only think of their own feelings and not the poor person that they are coning their free meals from. For one to get all whinny about this post just proves my point that she is out for a free meal all the while screwing the ones that treat her like crap and of course complaining and whining when that happens. I HAVE SEEN THIS in the real world. Happens all the time. Funny how humans are in denial over this.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 11:05:46 AM | | No personal assault, just listening to you flapping your keyboard on something you obviously know nothing about. I must admit, based on your Bohemian comments, you should be the poster boy (and I do mean boy) for POF. I don't know any woman that needs a free meal, just a "heads-up" on boys like you! YOU are the reason women SERIAL (not like cereal) date. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 11:22:31 AM | LMFAO. Women who serial date just have no clue as to what they want. Many of whom complain and whine all the time that they can't seem to find the one, when most likely the one that they are searching for does not exist and is a figment of their imagination. I am only trying to be truthful about this subject and also only wish to take care of my responsibilities as being the KING of the castle. NOW, if one has no sense of humor then one will only get all whinny when reading my posts. Once again a woman who serial dates needs to seek therapy and possibly be put on medicine. She must then be re educated afterwards and taught that serial dating is only intended for us men to do because it is our job to pass our genes out as much as possible to continue the survival of the species.. It is an atrocity to human kind for a woman to serial date. It is justice for a male to serial date, and it is not my fault if you are unable to laugh at this post.
Woman dating more than one at at time equals an injustice to human kind.
Us men dating more than one woman at time equals us males providing a much needed service and doing some ladies a favor. LMFAO  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 5:01:21 PM | Its kinda like going in a shoe store you pick three pairs and you walk out with them..
you wear the shoes on diff days and finally get to pick one that is your fave and stick with it.. fave cos its comfy, you can wear it on any outfit and your feet dont hurt...
Short answer ---- we trying to find a good man..
Besides i thought men did the same.. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 5:34:58 PM | berrywild thank you for the shoe explanation, now I know why you females buy so many shoes lol. 
now bob it's okay for us guys to go around date more than one female? But it's not okay for her to date more than one guy? That's a BS double standard right there. If roles were changed and I was a female and on you pulled that kind of f*ckery movement on me. I wouldn't think twice about getting rid of ya. People keep there options open for they own reasons selfish or not. It's about what they want and people have to learn not to take things personally if they get dumped for someone else and vice versa. It's apart of dating. If you were looking for a job would you drop off one resume to just one store? I think not. Dating and job hunting go hand in hand. It's about finding a person well suited for you, yes they are feelings involved but at the end of the day it always comes down to what you want. It's a selfish world out there and you gotta learn to cope with that. | |
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