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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 5:57:00 PM | Lets just say that I rather be single rather than dating someone who is not 100% into me. That makes my filtering process too easy  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/2/2008 7:20:08 PM | "Not everyone (men and women) screw around... some of us actually have self respect and respect for others. Oh and chances are... I will not screw a date to figure out if I know them...." Boy, gotta love the self-righteous indignation here!
"Some of us actually have self-respect..." blah
..."hate to think my value in dating is based on my screwing you to determine our connection" drivel - no sex no relationship see ya. Still here? Why?
"...hate to think" - that part is believable.
Someone needs to get laid! Massively!!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 5:21:23 AM | The answer to this question is because they are easy and they feel the need to have multiple partners to feel secure about themselves. There is a certain name for women who date more the one guy at a time, it is not a nice name so I will not write in this post, but some people just need to get a grip on the truth. How do you think others will perceive you if you are dating multiple people.
If a woman is not willing to put 100 percent of her interest in me then she is not worth my time, nor is she worth any other guy's time. She is shallow, lost, immature, weak, soulless, heartless and evil spirited. The post is only intended to show another view point about the OP's subject and question. I am actually very thankful that not everyone agrees with me so please don't get the wrong idea with my posts. It is all part of the learning process.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 8:38:42 AM |
There is a certain name for women who date more the one guy at a time, it is not a nice name so I will not write in this post, but some people just need to get a grip on the truth
Well people who pass judgement on women who exercise their right to choose whatever dating style works best for them need to get a grip on their heads and pull them out of their asses.
How do you think others will perceive you if you are dating multiple people.
How do you come to the conclusion that others actually GIVE a rat's ass how anybody else conducts their social life, provided no laws of God, man or gravity are being broken?
If a woman is not willing to put 100 percent of her interest in me then she is not worth my time, nor is she worth any other guy's time.
I give her a couple of dates, for the sake of fairness, but any woman who buys into your BS after that must not have much going for her anyway. The 100% of her interest is probably equal to 25% of the interest coming from an emotionally healthy woman.
I am actually very thankful that not everyone agrees with me so please don't get the wrong idea with my posts.
Well then I reckon I must have just made your day.
It is all part of the learning process. IMHO, yours is stalled... on the RR tracks.
Look, this actually applies to both genders, but since the OT asked about women specifically...women date multiple guys for a variety of reasons. But mostly they are looking for guys who can walk it like they talk it, in a world full of guys trying to get what they can get by talking a good line that they either cannot or will not actually walk.
And as far as whether she's doin' the horizontal mambo with some, all, or none of her dates, provided she's acting responsibly as far as not producing unwanted babies or spreading ugly diseases,it's absolutely nobody's business but her own.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 8:45:06 AM | | When I am on a date, I put in 100% and to my knowledge this doesn't have to include the wild thing. If I date 1 guy or 5 guys, it's nobody's business but mine, I am shopping, just like I would for anything. If there is no chemistry, it isn't moving past "thanks I had a good time" and probably no kiss goodnight. Simply put, I wasn't feeling the love connection. Everyone deals with rejection; dating, jobs whatever, it doesn't mean we like it, but it is part of the process. I would never continue to date someone that wasn't physically, emotionally and spiritually attractive to me and they MUST have curb appeal. I am not dating to just date, I am looking for a life partner. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 9:16:24 AM | | LMFAO.. Wow so many sensitive peeps out there these days. YES it is a guy's business when a woman is dating him and others at the same time. YES her dating past is his business as well, because of potential health risks. Yes women over 25 years of age who feel the need to date more than one person at time can not make up their mind. I have noticed that people who serial date never seem to find the one they are looking for. Why would anyone want to date someone who is already currently dating half of the planet? Why would you not consider that? OK, the real reason why women date multiple guys at one time is for attention. Those that do this are attention addicts and need to go to rehab so they will understand why this should never happen. To those who think it is okay to serial date, please be sure to not get your feelings hurt when you partner cheats on you. After all they were only just dating other people. LMAO. Here is some advice if you do not have the courage and honesty to date one person at a time, do yourself a favor and go buy yourself a dog, instead betraying all those that you have dated at one time just to get a free lunch or attention. Now don't get mad now, I am only trying to help out here. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 9:46:32 AM |
Yes women over 25 years of age who feel the need to date more than one person at time can not make up their mind.
OTOH, maybe they could make up their minds if they found a man who knew what the hell HE really wanted( besides sex).
Why would anyone want to date someone who is already currently dating half of the planet?
half the planet?? oh fer gawds sake get real. Possibly in large urban areas a woman might have the opportunity to date more than 2 or 3 men,but I doubt that there's much of anybody dating "half the planet".
Here is some advice if you do not have the courage and honesty to date one person at a time, do yourself a favor and go buy yourself a dog, instead betraying all those that you have dated at one time just to get a free lunch or attention. But then who pays for the dog's lunch on a date?
Now don't get mad now, I am only trying to help out here. Dude, people who want help want it from people actually capable of GIVING it, not somebody that's even more f*cked up than they are.
Cindy O | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 9:51:15 AM |
Well people who pass judgement on women who exercise their right to choose whatever dating style works best for them need to get a grip on their heads and pull them out of their asses.
Re post #783, I agree with the point, Cindy. There are different "dating styles" and each person is free to select what works for her/him.
The only time that this would be "wrong" would be if a woman lied, overtly or by omission, that she was interested in "just him", while doing the same with someone else.
That being said, I wouldn't date someone, who was simultaneously considering, or dating, others. Among other reasons, I'm not willing to "work" or "compete" in terms of developing a relationship. I have enough of that in my job. If a relationship isn't mutually intense and singular, I don't want it. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 9:53:59 AM | | Such bitterness, anger and hate come out in threads such as these. Today's dating world is a sad place indeed. Especially when people can date as many as they want to at one time with out considering other people's feelings. Another answer to the OP's question is because they date more than one person at at time to crush and hurt feelings. Some people are just cruel and enjoy watching people they date get hurt. Now that it is okay to date as many as one wants to, then adultery should be made obsolete. Emotions and feelings should be made obsolete as well, because who cares what the others think. It is all about you, is it not? Attention must be given to you. You must go through your dates like pairs of shoes because after all, why not be greedy and selfish? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 10:08:10 AM | Most women are not bitter, angry or full of hatred. Most women are sick of short, dumpy men that think they have right to insult us and our choices. Some postings sound like maniacal rants, from an unhappy self-loathing person of the opposite sex. You give men a bad rap Bobisherenow.................................. yourself. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 10:21:06 AM | Why do women date multiple guys at once? Because they are attention seekers and addicts and must have their attention fix. Some even do not stick to the thread topic because they need attention so badly.. How pathetic and sad. They also date multiple guys at once just to have more people to blame for their problems instead of taking responsibility for their actions. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 12:43:45 PM |
Some people are just cruel and enjoy watching people they date get hurt. Now that it is okay to date as many as one wants to, then adultery should be made obsolete. Emotions and feelings should be made obsolete as well, because who cares what the others think. It is all about you, is it not? Attention must be given to you. You must go through your dates like pairs of shoes because after all, why not be greedy and selfish?
Dude, what the hell are you ON??
Look, those who take the position that they don't care for the feeling of "competing", or whatever, and that is their own personal philosophy,that's OK.
I don't see it as a "competition" so much as it is simply evaluating the level of interest ,attraction and potential compatibility if one happens to have more than one interesting prospect in one's life at a given time. Do you want someone to be with you because they think you are the cream of the crop, or do you want them to be with you because they think you are better than nothing? And that works BOTH ways...I wouldn't want a man to be dating me,although he also had a couple of other women he found interesting,but was too scared that I might get mad or jealous if he explored the interest. I'm talking here about DATING or being close friends without any statements or assumptions about exclusivity/committment being involved. I personally don't hold with screwing multiple guys, and I wouldn't care to date a guy who was sticking his d*ck everywhere he could...BUT...if no agreement of exclusivity exists , appropriately responsible sexual behavior is being practiced, and men think it's their obligation to pork as many as they can because of some prehistoric biological imperative,then women should have the same options.
Attention must be given to you
Help me out here, doesn't a guy date to get attention too? Or are they just out there in search of more "injustices" to whine about? Or don't you guys have the "flake off" rate that we women experience?( as very basic example, if you have 4 guys expressing interest(dating you) IME, out of those 4,REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU MEET THEM ON, OR OFF,LINE, 3 are going to flake off or will have to be "ditched" generally because they were untruthful about some pertinent aspect of their lives or their reasons for dating you.
As has been mentioned before, other than extremely attractive younger people in large urban areas, for the most part the question is moot anyway,the average person isn't going to HAVE multiple people asking for dates in the same time frame.But if it does happen(and there is a "feast or famine" tendency to these things LOL) it should not be something to get your Fruit of the Looms in a twist over.
Cindy O | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 12:54:08 PM | | Why do women date multiple guys at once? Not all women do this. Just only the insecure, desperate attention, angry, getting upset at the truth types do this. There are some out there who realize that dating multiple people at once is wrong and do not do it. The ones that do behave this way do this because it is an ego boost, to con so many helpless innocent guys into buying them dinner. Notice how the ones that do this get so very angry when they are called out on their lack of morals and understand what the purpose is. Also notice how many of those that do this have no sense of humor and get all bent out of shape when someone does not share their same views. Once again. those that feel the need to date so many at one time are just looking for some attention. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 1:07:13 PM | Back through the posts it was mentioned that the Lion keeps his Lionesses under his safe keeping in the wild.
Well not before he has been b*tch slapped by a paw full of claws on full show first to prove his worth.
Sounds like someone is having trouble proving his worth  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 1:11:29 PM |
Look, those who take the position that they don't care for the feeling of "competing", or whatever, and that is their own personal philosophy,that's OK.
I don't see it as a "competition" so much as it is simply evaluating the level of interest ,attraction and potential compatibility if one happens to have more than one interesting prospect in one's life at a given time. Do you want someone to be with you because they think you are the cream of the crop, or do you want them to be with you because they think you are better than nothing?
Cindy, I like you, from your posts, and I respect your way of reasoning. I happen to disagree with you on this point. Well, sort of disagree. You have every right to follow the dating paradigm that is right for you, but your paradigm would be "wrong" for me.
It's not as if someone is "settling", when he/she focuses on one person at a time. At age 58, I've had a thousand "first dates" and a lot of relationships. I can "compare" someone I'm talking to, and considering seeing, against the life experience that I've gathered over time.
For me, it's a matter of having someone's "undivided attention" during a short "evaluation period", so we can each gain a really clear sense of the "who" and "what" of the other. If it turns out that we're not a match, it's not as if it's all that difficult to "get a date" with someone else. There are always "others" out there, and in my experience, it rarely takes more than 2 weeks to make a "connection", so what is accomplished by concentrating on more than one at a time? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 1:18:02 PM |
I will never compete
What is this 'compete' thing? It's not about that, it's about finding someone who is really right for you...and yes, I'm fairly sure that there is more than one person who can be "right" for any given individual. It's about a reasonable atttempt to find the one that's the most clear cut "right".
Let me put it this way...do you want a woman to be with you because she found you to be the best of what was on offer, or are you thinking the only way to get a relationship is to be the only item in the store?
Cindy O | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 1:47:44 PM | MeloFelow
My experience has been a bit different,because as a completely practical matter, I could be dating a couple of guys in different towns( and I mean just going for dinner, going to a movie, a concert, whatever,NOT having sex with them) and maybe having a "friendly flirtation with somebody and seeing if it goes anywhere" type of thing going on through one of my social or cummunity activities, and all 3 of them would turn out to be nonstarters for a variety of reasons that have nothing to do with "concentratingon" or "grooming" the connection. Could be a values conflict that comes to light only after a few dates, could be one of those guys who "gets scared" of whatever, could be a wife he forgot to mention...and what I experience is that either I have more than one viable prospect at the same time, or I have none...and the key word there is VIABLE. True, it isn't " that difficult to get a date" except this is a fairly rural area and the dating pool ain't all that deep, unless you dig a HOLE to put your standards in.
It's not ABOUT competing, concentrating, evaluating,but about seeing if there's a connection capable of healthy growth. And sometimes that means dating multiple guys because they are HERE, NOW, and you have to jump thru the window of opportunity when it's OPEN...
Cindy O | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 1:49:06 PM | CindyO makes a lot of sense, I have read many of her posts. What it comes down to is matter of choice, agreed upon by both parties and may the best man or woman win. I have tried one at a time and a few at a time. These weren't really dates, but simple meet and greets. I wouldn't want to be stuck with the likes of Bobishernow for more than coffee. I guess that's saying I would even have coffee with a short, dumpy guy, willing to overlook his physical flaws to see the real him ROTFLMAO........................ | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 4:12:09 PM | Wow. So many opinions. Fortunately all of you are insane. I know, because I am insane also. Here's what I tell my daughters, both of them over 21. I also pass this sage advice to single women friends:
1) If you date one guy, then you are a total dumbass.
2) Dating one guy exposes you to pressure to maintain a relationship. In other words, you will put up with "whatever" cause that's what you've got - whereas if you had 5 boyfriends, you would say "dude, stop eating your boogers or we are ****ing done! I got 4 more just like you down the street, and they don't eat boogers!!!!"
3) If one guy gets psychotic (i.e., stalky) on you, the other 4 boyfriends will kick his ass.
4) If some dude puts his hands on you, the other 4 will kill him.
5) If you want to get laid, you can - but you have choices and they are not dependant on any one guy's wishes. So, if you like guy #2 and wanna get laid but you don't like guy #2 THAT WAY you have reasonable choices that don't make you a slut. You maintain the relationship you want with the specific guy - nothing is rushed.
6) You make out like a bandit on holidays, birthdays, etc.
7) You can be honest and demand that everyone is on the same page as you are. That means these dudes can have 5 or so girlfriends. Your reference on the street will help these guys with that effort and your base of friends grows exponentially!
This is a brilliant strategy and you people are spooge-noggins for not thinking of it yourselves! Now go out there and start ****ing, and for goodness' sakes, PIPE DOWN! Oh yeah Happy Holidays! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 5:32:58 PM | OMG CINDY i so love you!!! lol...that was too freaking funny!! I will admit I am dating and still talking to other guys and the reason is just like Cindy you said we women wouldnt do that if the men would make up there mind and stop talking in circles of i want to see you as a friend but I dont want you to see anyone but me... WTH!! He wants to be friends and have sex but dont want me to see others? Lawd!!! If i am willing to lay down with a man i aint wanting just friendship!!! Im like ok ill keep you for company but NEXTTTTT!!! I dont sleep around so hes wanting my goodies...but he can keep asking lmao!! when he makes up his mind on what he really wants then we will talk more but until then we friends and thats it!! Why do most men have to be such sex hungry pigs? I want to know is there a man out there thats got heart and is sensere? Guys post i want an honest woman thats caring and knows what she wants but in reality he just wants to get laid...Women its a line of ..can we say BULL SHIT!!! I am and will see who i want when i want until i find MR right not MR right now. It doesnt make me desperate for attention cause to be quiet honest I dont call them they all call me..i am not looking for a meal ticket cause i gotta job...i am not angry cause I just want to fine the best for me. I am having fun dating again and hanging out with my girlfriends seeing what the dating life has to offer after 6 years of darkness (marriage). I want to get married again one day but its gonna take a special person to come along. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend and hugs to all.
Jinny  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 10:56:55 PM | It depends on what your defintion of dating is.
Mine is getting to know a man by doing activities with him such as going to dinner, going to a movie, going for drinks, going for a drive, making wine, going horseback riding....whatever that makes you smile and have a good time....and most important seeing what each other is made of emotionally and intellectually. No sex involved. This way I can date whoever and how many I want. Sometimes I go through times where I can date 3 men at a time....
When I find that a certain man has captured my interest and we both have that attraction factor, then I define it in my mind as dating him exclusively. I still have no sex with him until we both are on the same page of exclusivity. He knows my boundaries. It's up to him to be comfortable with it or walk. It's not my problem. I am not in the business of pleasing men sexually to keep them. They stay because they are really into me. I need to know that. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/3/2008 11:27:53 PM | | Kinda like a preemptive strike. They do it to us because in their minds we are either doing it to them or will do it in the near future. Some are just hoes like that and are trying to run game on unsuspecting victims. Some get favors from a bunch of different dudes, so why buy the cow when milk is free? I don't trust women like that, she will always be out there exchanging numbers and creeping on the DL. I think I make it pretty clear up front that if she is dating other dudes she can just throw my number in the trash because I don't roll like that. I don't date multiple people and sure as hell aint going to sit back like a dummy while someone does it to me, because in my mind is sleeping with at least one of them. I've seen it too many times to not know better. There are just too many ladies that want just one man and are willing to let the others pass by so she can focus and get to know that "one" better. So why waste time on someone who really isn't serious about you?.. Funny, when a man dates multiple women at once, he is called a player, no-good, a dog, and a womanizer etc etc. But when a woman does it she is just "selective". It's just another dating double-standard. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 4:54:59 AM | Dating more that one person at the time is not moral. It is sleazy, trashy, nasty and selfish. I can't help but laugh at some of these posts in this thread. Especially ones that disagree with me. It is interesting how the wolves come out and attack another poster when they have another point view. Back to the question.
Why do women date multiple guys at once? The ones that do this only care about themselves. They are also attention starved and attention addicts. Plus they like to receive free meals. I am speaking from what I have witnessed myself. I am not saying people should not have other options. It just make sense to date one at a time. When the one does not go well, then just move to the next option. Why is there a need to date a different person every other night? Are people just that bored with there lives or what? | |
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