| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 5:42:01 AM | Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Because they are angry that their "one" has already been taken by another lady and think by dating 100's will add up to the one that they can not have and will never have. Why is this question so hard to answer and why do those who can't answer this question honestly, attack those who can? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 7:04:49 AM |
Hey guys... Can't you read the sign? It says, "Don't feed the trolls."
I was going to post this yesterday. If excessively repetitive posts about the same exact thing and posting the subject question over and over and then pontificating on it like it's the first time you posted (when in actuality every other post is from you) isn't a sign of a troll (or someone who's OCD, and really shit out of meds but the new shipment's taking forever to come in), I don't know what is.
Ignore it, it'll go away. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 7:22:30 AM | | My posts are only my opinion on this thread. No need to get be so negative to someone who has many different opinions on this subject. All I can say on this subject that I don't know why women feel the need to date so many at a time and since I am obviously not one of them I probably should not care anyway. Oh well, eventually I will get old and die alone(I am already used to that fact) and all will not matter anymore anyway. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 8:22:50 AM | | if they do not know the correct information about you its your fault you should have told her.also i do not care if a women dates ten men because they will not get a shot at me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 8:24:57 AM | Bob....Your definition of 'dating' and most people's definition of 'dating' are not the same-therein lies the problem.
If you were to ask these women if they believe in sleeping with more than one guy, I think most of them will say no. For most of us - dating does not equal sex. That's a committed or exclusive relationship. To most people - dating is meeting someone for 1-3 times to see if there is any compatibility and chemistry. If not, why continue to see them? I think your definition of this was 'hang-out' or 'meets'. I guess the old fashioned word for your definition of dating would be 'going steady' - where sex is involved.
As to having sex with multiple people-that's not most people's definition of dating and I don't believe that 'most' people do this. Some of us are able to get through the 'dry' spells just fine-with a little help from our toys.
Personally, I might date two guys at a time but its usually more of having two first 'meets' in the same week. I don't care for actually dating more than one at a time.
If someone catches my attention, then I will focus on him - not 5 or 10 others.
I find its usually better to find someone who agrees with one's approach to dating. Since I don't date multiple men, I wouldn't like to date a man that dates multiple women (after the first few dates).
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 8:34:01 AM | Thank you HappyRebel for the positive post.
Yes my definition of dating is different. As far as said subject goes, it is really none of my business how someone dates.. and I can't stand dating to begin with so therefore this thread does not apply to me so I will now shut up with my rants. Good luck to all and happy dating. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 8:38:42 AM |
Dating more that one person at the time is not moral. It is sleazy, trashy, nasty and selfish
Bobisherenow, your posts in this thread are way over the top, IMO.
I won't date someone, who is dating others, but I don't view women who do as "bad". They have a different dating style, and this subject has come up in many threads. There are some women who seem to be very good, normal people, who believe in "playing the field", until they settle on one guy, who they want to get serious with.
I've always been a "serial monogamist", but I've known a lot of people IRL who have always "played the field". Just because someone has a different dating style is no reason to demonize her. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 9:07:41 AM | | Dating more than one man means we're attention starved? Want a free meal? The last thing on my mind when dating is getting a free meal. I think I speak for most women. I have dated more then one man at a time, just timing. I am not sleazy, trashy or selfish. I know if I've met 3 men at the same time, chances are I might feel a connection with one. Nothing wrong with meeting people to find out if there is one. I think maybe men should stop buying women dinner. Seems there's issues pertaining to this. I, nor do most, need someone to buy our dinner. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 9:11:29 AM |
I think maybe men should stop buying women dinner. Seems there's issues pertaining to this. I, nor do most, need someone to buy our dinner.
One can't discern the prevalent view in the real world, from a few whiny people in the fora.
In my real life, I have never talked to another guy, who doesn't assume paying for dinner to be an "issue". It's part of dating, and most people accept it as such. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 9:22:06 AM | Just trying to make a few points from the devil's advocate view when it comes to this subject. No harm intended. Good luck to all, and once again I really don't care for dating and should of never posted on this thread to begin with. Good luck to all and God save me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 12:09:07 PM | | I rarely meet more than a couple of people in a years time I would be interested in dating. The idea of dating multiple people at the same time is so foreign to me, it makes me think the people who do it are desperate to find someone, or are just having fun at others expense. Neither type appeals to me especially. I'm sure that's not true for everyone, but it seems to be how it works out whenever I see someone doing it. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 6:28:35 PM |
ravenousroger wrote: I rarely meet more than a couple
of people in a year's time I would be interested in dating.
Approximately how many women do you have to meet
per year (on average) to find those two? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 7:38:53 PM | Dating multiple men/women has nothing to do with esteem issues, okay maybe for some people, but generally it's all about keeping your options open. If there are esteem issues with dating multiple people, I would say they lie in the person with the problem! You have no commitment to someone that you have been out with once, twice, or even five times. Dating is about getting to know someone to see if there is a connection. Why would you make a commitment to someone, by only dating them, when you have no idea who or what they are about?!?!  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 7:56:33 PM |
Approximately how many women do you have to meet
per year (on average) to find those two?
My job has a customer service aspect to it. Does that give you any idea? I see and meet a lot of people. Talking to people and getting some idea of who they are, prior to asking them out, actually saves you from wasting time on trying to get to know them on their best behavior... On a date. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/4/2008 10:14:07 PM |
Dating multiple men/women has nothing to do with esteem issues, okay maybe for some people, but generally it's all about keeping your options open
While not "demonizing" those who have a different dating style from mine, I do think esteeem issues factor in.
I date one woman at a time, because I'm fairly confident, based on life experience, that if it doesn't work out, it's not difficult to find someone else fairly quickly. So I feel "ok" about "investing" a couple of weeks, having exclusive focus on one woman, and really getting to know her.
It does seem to me that those who are dating several people at once, have some insecurity about their ability to make a connection, so when someone interesting displays an interest, they need to "hedge" their bets, and, as a result, are more "surface level"with each.
In any case, I respect the right for others to have a different dating style, but I won't play the game. Either we're both interested enough to focus on each other for the short time it takes to find out, or else, I'm not going there. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/5/2008 7:31:23 AM | MeloFelow wrote: It does seem to me that those
who are dating several people at once, have some insecurity
about their ability to make a connection, so when someone
interesting displays an interest, they need to "hedge" their
bets, and, as a result, are more "surface level"with each.
Some are like that, but other multiple daters engage in polyamory
(i.e. make a number of simultaneous connections). | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/5/2008 8:56:05 AM | Because they have nothing better to do.
Because their folks cheated on each other so now they think it is alright.
Because they feel like it.
Because some a**hole did the same thing to them.
Because we let them.
Because they want attention from more than just one guy.
Because they know they can get away doing this.
Why not, everybody else does it.
Just because.... | |
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