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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/5/2008 9:28:37 AM | | You guys need to get SEX and DATING straight........MOST women sleep with the guy that is a gentleman, that physically is appealing to them and they feel an emotional connection to. Meet and greets for coffee, before one has to bolt out the door, are prior to dating. Bob, do you get past the meet and greet?????? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/5/2008 9:44:47 AM | LMAO.. On subject: They do this because they want to. They also do this because someone told them not to and now they feel the need to rebel.
Off Subject: I prefer sitting at home alone and drinking myself into oblivion. Less drama and work involved than dating.
Back on Subject: They do this because many of us so called grown gentlemen out there act like teenagers instead of adults. They have not met me yet, and most of the women out their are in love with me, but just don't know it yet.
Once again, they do this because of of cynical guys like me.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/5/2008 11:36:41 AM | Well it sure seems like there are some people on here who THINK they know ALL the ANSWERS. May I suggest that you back off and LISTEN to what WOMEN have to say, instead of deciding FOR them. That's not gonna get you an exclusive relationship any time soon, I don't think!
Speaking ONLY for myself...I date multiple guys at once (and that means DATE, not SLEEP WITH), because, until such time as a "relationship" forms where both of us have discussed and agree to become an exclusive twosome, there is no reason to sit home, waiting for a phone call, and wasting days, weeks and months, when, by dating regularly, it's a much better use of whatever time I have left to find my significant other. This applies to ME...NOW...at this time of my life....and it works just fine.....causes far less heartbreak.....
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/5/2008 11:41:36 AM |
Joined: 11/12/2008 Msg: 826 view profile History Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 12/5/2008 10  05 AM Because they have nothing better to do. Because their folks cheated on each other so now they think it is alright. Because they feel like it. Because some a**hole did the same thing to them. Because we let them. Because they want attention from more than just one guy. Because they know they can get away doing this. Why not, everybody else does it. Just because....
Bobisherenow, have you heard the expression, "different strokes for different folks"...or how about "live and let live".
As I've said before, I won't enter into a dating relationship with someone who is seeing other guys. That's not what would work for me.
That being said, though, I have known women IRL, and seen posts from women in this thread, who I respect as being fine, decent human beings, who see it differently.
This whole thing on the POF fora, where some people demonize and personally attack those who see things differently is troubling. Your posts, Bobisherenow, are very troubling. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/7/2008 7:08:47 PM | Dating is just that, dating, nothing serious , just getting to know if you're compatible, so untill i find the right guy, i will date whoever i want . When i find a man that has my complete attention and is what im looking for , when we both decide to be in a commited relationship, i would stop all the dating , but why would i blow off any "potential" boyfriends ??? for a mr. "maybe" ?? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/7/2008 7:42:56 PM |
.I guess us guys have trouble with the multiple dates because we are lucky if we have one a week or two weeks, and women have a whole lot to choose from...
I disagree with your conclusion. If merely "making a date" were a goal, I believe that most men could make 7 dates a week, with a little effort. Of course, one would know little about them, or if they were compatible, but almost every day of the week, in a 1/2 hour at the grocery store, most "dateable" guys could connect enough to make a date for "a drink after work".
Of course, beyond knowing that the women are reasonbly attractive, you'd know nothing about them. In my experience, when one is simultaneously considering "several", whether online in real life, one is not learning a great deal about any, which is why I choose to concentrate on one at a time, and am only interested in those who approach it the same way.
That being said, women who approach it differently aren't "wrong", "bad", dysfunctional, etc.. They just have an incompatible dating style, but there are a lot of men who are "ok" with it. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/7/2008 7:45:22 PM | Dating a lot of men helps you learn what you want in a man. If she's not sleeping with all of them and doesn't lead any of them to believe that they're exclusive...I don't see what the problem is.
I was seeing a guy and we'd talk about our other dates. ...I mean, that might be a bit extreme but whatever. If you aren't both comfortable with what's going on in each others' dating lives...you're probably not right for each other. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 4:41:26 AM | Because they one more Birthday, X-Mas, Valentines Day, Easter and Halloween gifts. They like to eat candy so they like getting candy from more than one person. LOL. Women date more multiple guys because they are allowed to do so.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 7:53:07 AM | | They do because they can! If u know he is not the right guy then u continue to look but maybe u will date him when your bored but u won't give up looking. When I find someone I think is could be the one I only date him. I want to know him completely. If he is dating around then I keep dating around. I will not date anyone one on one if they keep their profile on here while with me. To me that says beware I'm still looking. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:03:02 AM | What's the big deal if you're just "dating"??? guy's date multiple girls...so why shouldn't women have the opportunity to date multiple guys??? it works both ways, always has, always will, why should us girls hafta sit and wait for a guy to make up his mind on whether or not he wants to go out with, date or have a relationship w/us when we can just move on? c'mon now...  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:18:56 AM | | I know from my own experience that the more you date the more difficult it gets to really know what you're after and what you want. It's as simple as that. If you don't give people a fair chance and you're going from date to the next without being truly serious, how the f**k are you supposed to find someone who's "right" for you? I also believe that dating a lot means giving away a part of yourself because deep down inside everybody wants to settle down. At the end of the day even the worst player will be lonely. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:19:13 AM | Why do women date multiple guys at once?
1. Because there are no laws to keep this from happening.
2. Because they are allowed to.
3. Because they think we are doing the same thing to them.(insecure)
4. Because more than one person asked them out that particular week.
5. Because they are looking for the next best deal.(just like shopping)
6. Because marriages are not arranged and there is no one to keep them in line.
7. Because they see this sort of behavior on TV and think it is ok to do so in the real world. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:24:09 AM |
Bobisherenow (msg 808 & 813):
Yes my definition of dating is different. As far as said subject goes, it is really none of my business how someone dates.. and I can't stand dating to begin with so therefore this thread does not apply to me so I will now shut up with my rants. Good luck to all and happy dating.
Just trying to make a few points from the devil's advocate view when it comes to this subject. No harm intended. Good luck to all, and once again I really don't care for dating and should of never posted on this thread to begin with. Good luck to all and God save me.
So much for that huh? Lasted less than a day. Good stuff!  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:33:06 AM | Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Why do women not stick to the subject of this thread and move on to attack posters that they disagree with?
1. They are mad because none of the other dates turned out that well.
2. They just found out that someone they are dating is hooking up with someone else so they date more to try to make the one they are after jealous..
3. They are always shopping, so why not shop for attention.
4. They are desperate for affection. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/8/2008 11:25:14 AM | Some people here really have their knickers in a knot over women dating more than one man lol!!!...
Sounds like they have had some bad experiences and are not understanding the reason women do this.....for me it wasn't about 'ego' or attention and definately not about sleeping around.....like some of the other's have said, it's just a screening process to find the most compatible person for you, and until/if you both decide to take to to the next level of exclusivity, it's just DATING!!!!....Are you listening Bob? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/9/2008 7:02:00 PM | This question is right along the same lines as
"Why do you need more than one pair of black high heels" or
"Why do restaurants serve more than one thing"
Honestly, if you are single and not looking for to settle down, why would you only date one person? Restaurants have menu's for a reason, a little something for everyone. Damn, now I'm hungry  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/9/2008 7:29:27 PM | | i usually "date" two men at a time. that way i can always have something to do on the weekends. plus, it helps me decide which one i like best. i do that until i'm exclusive. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/9/2008 8:10:13 PM | Personally, I subscribe to the Bobby Brown method of dating...
"I see nothing wrong with spreading myself around...sing!"
someone has got to be comic relief on this thing.lol
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/9/2008 8:27:45 PM |
Most women will date a man, or a few men until they meet someone they might like, and then they immediately stop dating the other men. Now that they've given up their other guys, they focus all their energy and attention on the one guy they like. (Your back-burner guy.)
Will he call? Will he ask me out on Saturday night? Should I hyphenate my name after we get married?
Here's what you need to do: At all times you are not in an exclusive relationship, you date (rotate) three men. (The pair, and the spare.) In the event that you have a full rotation (dating three men), but someone new you would like to date asks you out, you simply drop your least-favorite suitor from the group, and add the new one.
Why would you do that? The reasons for dating three men at a time instead of one man at a time are simple:
First, rotation takes your mind off any one man.
You're not worried about whether or not bachelor number one is going to ask you out on Saturday night, because if he doesn't, one of the other two will. Men can smell desperation a mile away, but the opposite is true as well. When they have competition, at some level, they sense it.
Dating three men keeps you from worrying about any one of them. If one isn't up to your standards, you always have another two. Plus, here's the kicker: They always want you a lot more when they're not sure how many players are in the game.
Second, dating three men at a time keeps your schedule pretty full.
No kidding, right? This is good for several reasons. First, you get a lot of dates, so your grocery bill is bound to drop dramatically, leaving more cash on hand for essentials like herbal body wraps and building your stock portfolio.
Third, you won't have to play hard to get, because you will be hard to get. And last, having so many men competing for your time is fabulous for your self-esteem. All the men will be wondering what you're doing with the time you're not available to go out with them. Men are intensely competitive, and their attraction to you will increase tenfold if they sense another rooster in the chicken coop.
As an added benefit, you'll never sit home waiting for the phone to ring. You'll be out on a date, or recuperating from one (maybe while napping on the couch with one of those little blue ice-masks) whether your phone rings or not. Meanwhile, the members of your rotation, including Mr. Backburner, will each be trying to figure out how he can have you all for himself.
This was from filly.ca "the chick website"
Couldn't help but love this!
And...don't shoot the messenger! | |
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