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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:43:09 PM | | Sometimes they want to see what's out there before they make a decision on spending time with only one and getting too serious too fast...It is a way to slow things down and keep your options open until you decide you really click with someone and really don't want to spend anytime with others. Even if someone dates one person, it is still good to have alot of friends from both sexes. This keeps it balanced, but make sure you are not with someone who is jealous and insecure. Then you may resent them for putting you in an emotional prison and not allow you to grow and network with others. Balance is important... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/14/2009 1:59:39 AM | | It depends, some are not looking for a LTR. However if you find a girl who is looking for a LTR but dates multiple guys it's because she is insecure of her ability to keep a partner. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/15/2009 5:24:47 AM | Marina:
I'm not convinced that a gal dating multiple guys is because she's "insecure about her ABILITY to keep a partner." While it's fine with me if that's the way YOU feel, I would ask you if it could possibly be due to the fact that she's simply not convinced that she WANTS one of those multiple dates to BE her LTR.
Because of controversy over the sexual activities that might go on while "multiple dating", I will state here that, while I believe in and engage in multiple dating, for the reasons stated above, I do NOT believe in or ENGAGE in multiple sexual partners. Therefore, when the time comes to be intimate with one, dating of the others, for ME, stops.
I can only speak for myself...but, I do believe there are many VALID reasons for dating multiple people ...it's an elimination process and if there's only one...where is there a "comparison".
Just my thoughts...
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/15/2009 6:05:33 AM | So why do women date multiple men at once?
I won't say why women do this, but this is my opinion why they should.
Dating is a process of getting to know people. Therefore its quite possible he/she is not willing to just say this is the one for me,, without getting to know him or her. Therefore why give up your social life just for one person when a relashionship hasn't been established..
I would also say, If a woman were to stop dating after I met her one or two times,, I would consider her, just a little needy.. now she may have her reasons for that,, but for me that puts to much pressure on me,, assuming I'm the guy she wants to date exclusively. Now I'm thinking,, I don't know her well enough to give up what I'm doing,, (by the way isn't much at this time lol)..
Why can't you date one guy at a time?
I'm sure she can if she want to,, but again, I think most men and women are smart enough not to jump in with both feet..
It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it...
I'm confused with what you mean.. The only information she has to go on,, is are your actions and your words, (is there truth in all of it) ...I think the confusion is, one or the other wants a commitment to being exclusive/dating.. It's when both want the same thing with each other that the confusion may end.. This is only a guess, but I would think at sometime in your life a woman wanted to date you exclusively,, but you weren't interested in her.. My point is just because one person wants one thing,, doesn't necessarily mean the other person wants it as well..
How to over come this dilemma that you seem to have OP..
This is what I do, because I don't date more than one woman at once,
( I may go out socially with different women, because it's already established, we like each other, but long term is not an option)
If after a couple of dates, I truly find I;m interested in her, I'm smart enough to know if she has an interest in me,,(there are signs).. for so many this is a hard concept.. but communication is very important,, so you just sit down over a couple of drinks, and say whats on your mind,, what you would like, listen to her as well.. she may want the same thing or not.. there up side is no more frustration or confusion..
Dating is easy,, it's people that make it difficate, by not communicating and being honest.. Just my opinion...
Note: The concept of needy, gets lost, if people communicate, and do it well.. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/15/2009 6:58:19 AM | Both sexes are very guilty!
1. An ego boost
2. Always on the look out for something better, never content, maybe even they are not sure what they want?
3. Keeping their options open in case you do not work out
4. Lack of respect | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:53:59 AM | Women date multiple guys for the same reason men date multiple women, because they want to, they may be attracted to different guys at once, and when you are single that's what you do if you want to.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/15/2009 3:29:55 PM | What a woman needs:
A man who adores her and makes her feel loved.
A man with whom she can share her hopes, interests and dreams.
A man who makes her laugh when she wants to cry.
A man who is trustworthy, loving and caring.
She needs to make sure these four men don't know about the other.
Okay, kidding aside. The point is, no one can be everything for another person. So you pick the best of the lot (as a friend puts it "the least broken one"). It is wrong, however, to make commitment (by deeds or words), just to keep a guy around.
Think of it as buying a HD TV. Doesn't it make sense to compare them side-by-side? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/20/2009 11:30:14 PM |
Because you have to date man people to find the right person, and as lond as exclusivity hasn't been discussed....and agred upon, it's fine. Gosh...I would feel a lot of pressure acepting a date if I thought that it meant that I had to be exclusive immed!
I don't think most men have a problem with going out on a couple of dates with someone while they are seeing someone else. I think the problem arises when that person is nothing more than a habitual dater. If you go on a few dates and you have a connection, you should try to focus on that one person. You can't be giving the person your full attention because you have a few on the side. I personally think I'm a really good catch and would rather be with someone who was looking to settle down rather than see a multitude of men.
I personally feel that dating sites can't be a great tool but at the same time foster an attitude of always feeling like there might be something better out there. There is this never ending faucet of people to tap into. There needs to be a point where people want to seriously get off the dating site. Unfortunately, many people use them for dates rather than their true intentions. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/21/2009 5:03:54 AM | | Because we can? Same as men? I always find that when i'm dating someone I get asked out by other men more often then when I am single. I am free to date others now if I choose. I choose not to. Simple as that. Me and my guy are dating only. I have accepted a few dates with others since we started dating. I didn't lie to him about where I was or who I was with or what we did and everything is fine. I think it's more about being honest with each other about dating others and making sure you both agree to it. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/21/2009 7:22:37 AM | | I would assume for the same reason men do it... it may not make it right but turn about is fair play....One thing I have noticed from both men and women we tend to pick on the things about the opposite sex that we ourselves tend to do...I will say this however that if you are going to burn the candle at both ends have enough sense to keep all the info straight and or at least dont date so mant at a time you cant keep it straight... personally speaking there is really no way to spend adequate time with somone and still date others to make a clear decission about any one person... thats why you can only have one not everyone..... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/21/2009 7:29:42 AM | lol Not all women do this. I haven't had an actual date in 3 years mostly my fault because I don't put myself out there. Reason I am on pof. lol so hopefully something will change this year. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/31/2009 7:11:54 AM | Maybe we do this because some men are to dumb to be with us exclusively!!!. So when they say, oh hon this relationship is moving to fast for me, can we take a step back? We smile and say sure hon and then go answer the e-mails or voice mails from the men we have previously put off. Until said man realizes he's an idiot and back pedals to get us back or another man sweeps us off our feet and we leave.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/31/2009 3:39:28 PM |
Until said man realizes he's an idiot and back pedals to get us back or another man sweeps us off our feet and we leave. somehow I noticed that back pedal doesn't work
I won't say why women do this, but this is my opinion why they should.
Dating is a process of getting to know people. Therefore its quite possible he/she is not willing to just say this is the one for me,, without getting to know him or her. Therefore why give up your social life just for one person when a relashionship hasn't been established.. Golden words | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/31/2009 3:48:55 PM | same reason guys do methinks....
I've never been good at dating more than one guy at a time but thats kind of the idea these days, Ideally I want to find *one* person I click with and go from there but I'm guessing that it takes dating around a bit for that to happen, Spose I was just lucky in my past that compatable guys happened to come my way without much effort on my part. (not the case these days wahhhhh hah) | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/31/2009 6:42:00 PM | | This is why: my story: Yes, I met this guy that was good looking and just divorced. I met him at a home town bar and we hit it off...I told him I had a son that was 13 teen and we hung out for 2 hours having fun. We even talked about going skydiving the next day..and after I said ok lets go..he says after a few beers and a couple of hours later. Quote..you know it bothers me you have a kid..I got up and said I have to go! and walked out. I had nothing more to say to him. I got in my truck and I was shocked, I didn't expect that and no had ever had a problem with me having a son before..that was a wake up call. I guess my point is yes he told the truth and it does say on my profile I have a kid. But why the hell would he want to know more about my family and what we do if you don't like me..Geeze...this is why you keep dateing other people... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/31/2009 6:48:45 PM | I COMPLETELY AGREE with Red N Blue on this one... its about extra security ...
men often take off after 2-3 dates ... and they often control where the relationship is or isnt going in the initial stages... men are notoriously committment PHOBIC and women are much more relationship oriented to begin with .. so its one of the only ways to really balance out the playing field...
Now for me -- if a man I like who i'm dating gives me a reason to feel secure, i.e. calls me regularly, comes to see me more than once a month etc... then I will feel more
invested...
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/31/2009 9:10:40 PM | Is this really a gender issue? I think it is just a personal choice. I would rather date one man as I would rather be in a committed long term relationship.
I think it also depends on how one defines dating. I also think one needs to be honest. If he/she asks if there are others please be honest.
I want to be invested and be with just one man but, it seems men want to just keep meeting women. | |
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