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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:37:39 PM | | There is no denying that the majority of women still expect a man to pay on the date ,but that does not mean that all women still think this way.If other women wants to let the man pay however that's her business . | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:42:04 PM |
I know I've yet to go on a date where the woman has even offered to pay for part of the night out. Now how could one not come to such a conclusion?
You could date each woman on the planet and if none of them pay or offer to pay, then your comment could be considered fact. If you ever manage it... let me know and I'll gladly rethink and edit my comment.
Until such time. Don't assume. Or generalize. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:44:07 PM | Those women who expect a man to pay ("let him" or expect him) - foot the total cost for dinner, movies, etc, it is indeed their business. They are in fact looking for socialising and free riding on it because they are women. So much for equality.
I guess it is not their fault, they have been brainswashed by those who say that women not only dp/should not like sex AND/OR those who keep arguing that women should not offer their "goodies" to the sex hungry animal men w/o "something" in return (be it commitment or presents or covering the costs of the night out), goodies being not necessarily sex or anything physical, but merely a man's priviledge to go out with them! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:53:12 PM | I only wish i could do that but my integretty stops me from doing it..
My mother use to date 5 men at one time and I saw how much they were in love with her, I saw how she would have me when they called tell them she was in the shower and yet she was getting ready for the next date. I felt so bad for the men and some of them I really liked but even today on the phone my mother told me...
Julie why do you think i dated so many men at your age because men can not handle a women they want only what they think they want and when they have it then they do not want to fight for it or work for it any longer and they become lazy and then all the fun runs dry. Sometimes a man only sees with his eyes and when he has what he wants he wants more and more and more.. Women can only give so much then after that they just have to let go.
She said, she use to date a lawyer for the divorce, then a mechanic for the cars, a carpenter for the to do list, a plummer for the toilets, a jeweler for her fingers and a million are for her vacations..... I never new why she dated so many men but today after hearting what she told me... It still breaks my heart..
No wonder, I think that one man can have so many quality's... I thought that a man could be everything to a women and that all men new how to fix cars, and how to use a hammer, I thought all men new business stuff and all men new how to be great husbands and fathers.... I WAS WRONG.. SO WRONG..
I am now only in the last 4 yrs finding out that ... Men do not have quilitys that Grandmothers told them.... men are not all the same.. if they were I would not be dating so many of them.... it is sad that i thought a man could be my world, but he can not be....
So what is a man for when you are 45yrs old, you do not need him for anything anymore, not even sex, What is a man for.... to love and hold for ever and ever...... NO.... not in this day and age....
Now all a man is for.. I asked my mother ... she said.. My dear.. It took me 7 marriages and the man i am in love with for 26yrs who i adore still today is all because.. He put me first above himself and that he dose what ever i want him to do and I do what ever he wants me to do. We both work together in are career and in the house, He keeps me healthy and I keep him warm at night, he dose the house work and I do the paperwork, he dose all the cooking and i do all the shopping.
My dear it is compermizing, it is wanting to be the best you can for your partner even if they don't appreciate it.. they know you know you do...even with out words. love my dear is when that person no matter what you do or say or feel still loves you no matter what and just wants you to be happy... They never want to be a day with out you.... no matter what.
So all the dating tons and tons of men is because WOMEN CAN NOT SEEM TO FIND THE qualities ALL WRAPPED UP IN ONE PACKAGE..
like, i found out that after all the dating i have done, each one only had one quality that i searched for in a man.. I wanted a man who was a carpenter, mechanic, gardener, teacher, a cook, a lover, a kid inside, a hunter, fisher, a women in his heart, a nanny to take care of all my personal need, a mother and father, sad but true.
and in the end..... I have learned.. that I had to be so many people for the man that i could not handle it.. They wanted me to be their EX=WIFES... there sister, there mothers, they wanted me to be the teacher they fell in love with as a kid, or there old girlfriends, they wanted me to be a actress in a movie that they like, or a sex goddest, stripper, hooker, maid to clean their house, a cook to fix them 10 corese meals. The mother of there child.
you name it... this is what is the problem
WE WANT THE PERSON TO BE ARE EVERYTHING........... AND .. THEY CAN NOT BE.... EVERYTHING TO US..... so in the end... we date and date and date until we are so tired of dating and then we get so old that we can not take being lonely any longer and accept who ever will take us and love us but by then we can not love we just stay with the person because it is better to be with some one then to be alone... Then end. P.S. we are going to all die anyway so what the hell... you only live life once un less your lucky and get a second chance then you make the most of it and never give up looking for love..
Pastor Julie... my life. not yours.. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:54:48 PM | <<< i never expect a man to pay for me. always pay for myself or alternate treating if seeing someone long term. occasionally a man will insist on paying for me, but i tend to feel awkward about accepting and try to find some way to balance things out.
certainly there are the gold diggers and opportunistic princesses who expect a man to support her, treat her, and blow his money on pretty things for her. but if you guys are dumb enough to be attracted to that kind of woman, who can you really blame, the woman or yourself? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 8:56:10 PM | She said, she use to date a lawyer for the divorce, then a mechanic for the cars, a carpenter for the to do list, a plummer for the toilets, a jeweler for her fingers and a million are for her vacations..... I never new why she dated so many men but today after hearting what she told me... It still breaks my heart..
No offence to your mother ,but this sounds like my b*tch of a stepmother who is only 5 years older then me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:00:59 PM | This is a hypocritical statement at it's best... Its like going to a buffet....looking around, sampling everything, but not making a commitment to one single dish...Guess what....women have dealt with the same thing for a much longer period of time. Say...oh....the whole of recorded civilization....So let's cut the women a little bit of slack before out precious glass houses find themselves in the midst of a hailstorm.
Oh essex...awesome response...will you marry me??? 
On a more serious note, you hit the nail on the head...and I seriously DO applaud you for that...if only more men thought like you ...
OP, my personal position on it is that we are only DATING -- not engaged, not getting married, DATING. An activity designed to get to know one another, decide if there's enough substance there to move it along to a new level, whatever that level is. Unless the two of you have discussed it, and decided that you are going to be exclusive with one another, there is no harm in that, and actually, it is in BOTH your interests -- if she's kicking tires on other cars around the lot, then when she does finally settle on you, you KNOW she's done her homework, and you are the BOMB by her. So, relax, enjoy the ride, and try not to take it so seriously... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:01:03 PM | Ok I have to stop you there... Native warrior..
I have paid for all my dates, i have paid for the dinners and the gifts, I am the one that takes the man out of town and pays for the motel and I am the one that has moved the man into my house and paid for all the bills and the food ect....
there has only been 3 men during my entire dating time that even paid for me.. they bought me a few dinners. One paid for a trip he took me on that cost a thousand dollars.. but I worked in his job to pay that off... helping him sell his retail. The other man brought me flowers every time he visited me and he paid for them... but I paid for dinner and the movies, i paid for are retreats out of town.
I will say this, Men can not handle a women who is secure in her life, I am the one that drove to the men and took them out for dinner...
So now my dear you have met a women who has paid her own way and paid the mans way also.... Thank you very much... Pastor Julie...... I am a strong willed minded women... To bad i can not find my match........ no one has ambision any more.... it is all give me this and that... no one just wants to make a life with each other... no one has dreams any longer and if they do.. they want you to pay for it all....
Me you are taking it way too far... that is all i have to say........
Now.. I let the man pay..... and i sit back and wait... and wait... sooner or later my true love will find me and we will start a business together.. like my mother did with her husband of 26yrs.... come out and play who ever you are.... I am still waiting.... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:07:06 PM | Can only answer for me. Have learned from experience not to put ALL my eggs into one basket. I too accept that maybe, YOU are testing the waters with others too.
Frankly, there may (possibly) come a time when a man will attract me in "all" ways and I will no longer want to engage with another.......until then I will enjoy interacting with who ever wants to interact with me.
Regards
nCurls | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:08:28 PM | I don't think it matters,for guys or girls,.. multiple dates, multiple orgasms, multiple headaches,. it all averages out.. If You find a GOOD one, (man or woman) all the others will bleed off, and again, things average out...  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 10:29:53 PM |
I personally dont do it, and I dont get it either.....
maybe until you will experience a "disappearing" phenomenon a few times, or find out that a guy that *you* are seeing exclusively is also seeing others and doesn't think much of it. But as a previous poster said, whatever is suitable for you.
I have been the victim of the disappearing phenomena and I have also gone out with men who have multiple dated and used me as 'second fiddle'...sorry...I don't agree with it--I didn't like it being done to me and I won't do it 'just because I can' or because it's been done to me. If someone has my attention they get it all...you know immediately if you want to see them again. If you don't then you go on your way...if you do then I don't think it's appropritate to see other people.
Just my thoughts... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 11:56:33 PM |
So why do women date multiple men at once?
So why do you want to make this into a battle of the sexes deal? Some people date multiple opposite sex members at once. Others DON'T. And so it has always been.
Seems to me that those who do are insecure: what if they pick one, won't another one get away? And what if the *best* one gets away because you're already tied down to another. I'd think that if you had any sense of who you are, and what you want, you might be able to choose who among the suitors is likely to match, and just do that one. But that's me. Many many many of both sexes just have to keep bunches of irons in the fire.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:22:46 AM | is there a reason dates must involve spending $ in the first place? a lot of my dates are on the racquetball court (ya learn A LOT about a guy on the court, skill isn't the most important thing) or a walk by the lake (I usually bring an extra water bottle for him). cash cow indeed...the comments by some men have been very enlightening. let's be careful of generalization please...another thinking error. tsk tsk tsk!  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 7:50:23 AM |
...I don't agree with it--I didn't like it being done to me and I won't do it 'just because I can' or because it's been done to me.
This has nothing to do with vengeance. A definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a diferent result. I was doing one-at-atime exclusive thing, didn't bring the result I wanted.. So.. the choice was either to stick to the idealism and keep doing it and hope for a different result.. or change the ways(whether I feel it's the way the things *should* be or not) ...It's everyone's personal choice. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:42:53 AM |
This sounds like shopping at Walmart... Bombarded by choice and poor quality.
Yeah. That's why I hate Walmart. A bunch of cheap crap I really don't need or want.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:50:56 AM | | ok in my experience its not just the women who r dating more then one person hell some men even hav live a gf or wife at home | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:29:16 AM | I have to admit, I like paying for the 1st date. and i am totally aware that it comes from my upbringing. but i sure as hell wouldnt get in an argument about it-if she insists on picking it up ,splitting, or a a commitment for reciprocity on a second date, it leaves me with a sense of hope. I've long given up on the damsels in distress from a dating perspective. help them if you can. just dont date them. they are in fact damsels in distress. i am attracted to women who are in fact my equal. (wasnt always this way). someone that tells me to 'shut up' and 'put it away, its my turn' gets points. someone who says 'thats a good idea' as much as 'thats a stupid idea.' as long as its my turn next and the reciprocity continues.
And if she is dating multiple people its cause she's looking (same as you and me), you need to play the game and decide whether you are trying to "win her over" so she wants to stop at some point in the future (which u have no control over, so if you roll the dice and loose, its your risk), back down to the "go out as friends" mode (dutch), or simply bail. but remember. No matter what the disturbance, the problem lies within. its your decision. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:38:19 AM | Ok this has been done to death.. OP, I have a newsflash for you. This isn't just a "women" thing, it is a personality issue..
I have dated a few guys from here, and let me tell you with the exception of maybe 1 of them, their fishlines were always out there, even after months of dating.
Sure-- women, I suppose could do the same, I'm not one of them, but I'm not going to go on a second date if I didn't like the guy..
Men on this site seem to be famous for having wonderful dates with women and dissapearing, read the forums and you will see that.
So why shouldn't women keep their options open? Men do...
JJ
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:47:16 AM | | keep your options open as long as you want. Turn logging off into a date and do it simultaneously as some sort of symbolic act if u want. an dont go on a 2nd date if you didnt like the guy. but we are stupider than you. so please tell us. hit us in the head with it. then, purchance, everything might just be cool. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:51:33 PM | | native...you'd be surprised at the number of men who lie about their ability to play. well maybe you wouldn't...but that's probably under another topic! i just figure its a fun thing to do for a date; healthy, cheap (i'm a member), entertaining, and enlightening. but, yeah, most men i date play...but not all. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 1:12:12 AM | | ive been seeing a lady for4 weeks now, she seas that she is trying to find out how much she feals about me and shes looking forthe best option. my concerns are that when she meets up with a new fella, she usaly ends up on my door at 2 sometimes 3 in the morning. then we talk and have sex for up to 3/4 houres, its been like this for 4 weeks, only 3 nights we havent made love or sex, some times if she doesnt get anything out of the men then she will give them another chance, but she comes to me first. she seas that she feal relaxed and comfortable with me and injoys my company, if so why cant she stop doing what shes doing. igzample. she meet a new blook 1 week ago, rawchy texting the lot. this clown bosted about how endowed he was, so she hoohs up with him and gives him head, 3 minutes this clown blow. she got nothing, if thats not disrespectfull, i dont no what is but she was thinking of giveing himanother chance. i told her how could this be defining our relationship. shes out with another tonight. how long must this go on before i pull the pin and find a more serious lady, she keeps telling me i need to understand and give her more time | |
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