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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 3:56:15 AM | hmmm...haven't tried that one yet..maybe that would work out better for me...guys have been doing that for some time now..but seriously i think it's absolutely necessary to specify exactly what you are hoping to find in that potential person even before you meet.that won't guarantee anything perhaps,but at least you will have be honest and upfront about it.
personally,i couldn't date more then one..maybe i'm too afraid i will get the names mixed up or their interests confused with another!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 7:00:24 AM |
native...you'd be surprised at the number of men who lie about their ability to play. well maybe you wouldn't...but that's probably under another topic! i just figure its a fun thing to do for a date; healthy, cheap (i'm a member), entertaining, and enlightening. but, yeah, most men i date play...but not all. Works for me. At first I thought it was a way of seperating all the girlie men from the Alpha Males, covered in another thread. But I can see your point, and you're right, I wouldn't lie about that, nor do would I even begin to claim I play. Now VolleyBall!!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 7:11:01 AM | "...you'd be surprised at the number of men who lie about their ability to play..."
I am confused.
Ability to play and what or ability to pay (foot the bill) for the dinner and night out expenses in general? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 9:13:36 AM | | Because not all of us are looking for our soulmate to settle down and live happily ever after with. Some of us just date for fun, no expectations, no strings. Some of us are happy being single but still like to have friends of the opposite sex to hang out with. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 6:28:46 PM | There are women that want it all, the steady guy and date others. BBD that steady guy might be about 90% of what she wants, but will keep looking for that 100%, and keep the steady guy as fallback crutch(family, friend functions, handyman,and the 2/3am booty calls).
IT is pretty sad, cause guys usually get the blame for various things! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 7:18:56 PM | Because it's fun, that's why. Gone are the days when a gal sits home waiting for the phone to ring, forget that noise! Until a couple sits down together after how many ever dates and has 'the talk', each of them can do whatever they want, nobody owns anybody anymore. No, no, no...
Pink | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 11:01:00 PM | OP...have ya ever looked at just how many people have the women on these websites on their favorites list??? Good luck getting one of these girls to say "sorry boys, I've got a boyfriend" when they're being bombarded with offers and accolades all day and nite. Dammmmm I hope I didn't sound bitter just now!
The world has changed amigo...Not sure if this quote will cheer ya up but what the hell I'll throw it out there just the same "Give me the good ol' days when a pair of boobs were a couple of dumb guys"
Doubt it really helped anyone but I just like quoting Smokey & the Bandit for no apparent reason...I'm quirky that way  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/27/2007 11:18:22 PM | | I did a lot of multiple dating before I was married..it was great to be free and have fun. Huh! I wish those days were here again | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:50:05 AM |
I am confused. Ability to play and what or ability to pay (foot the bill) for the dinner and night out expenses in general?
nick, if ya look back i said that i often play racquetball with guys on first dates.
native, the alpha males and passive males ARE weeded out actually. i prefer a nice mix of assertiveness and manners...but on the racquetball court, if your skills are close to equal, you play to win. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:05:46 AM | Re post 112:
Thanks for the clarification.
I still do not understand the point about guys some lying about their ability to play: Do they claim they are good a racquetball and they are not or the opposite? And what does have to do with the topic at hand?
The poster wrote in post 92:
"... a lot of my dates are on the racquetball court (ya learn A LOT about a guy on the court, skill isn't the most important thing) ...."
I guess many types of courts are good "tests" for "analysing" a man or a woman's character, personality, view towards winning and losing, mindset, etc.
A lot of my dates are on the bed court: I learn a lot about a woman on the bed, skill in discussion or petting or sex is indeed not the most important thing that I look for, it is the personality and character that comes out of the discussion/philosophising, necking and (if we decide to proceed with that on the first date, usually later than that) sex.
The choice of the court makes a difference too. Most of the women I date do know how to have sex. And many do lie about their ability to "play" (as in discussion culture, expressing themselves via touching-feeling and via love making, it is not about winning, it is a co-op "game").
But I do not parallel date, due to the nature of the ... court!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:29:23 AM | nick2020, I belive that what you do isn't actually called dating by most people, and was not originally discussed But to each his own of course  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:46:51 AM | Guess that's why it's called dating!
Dating is what I taught my kids (girl & boy) to do rather than get 'involved' before they knew what was up.
To me dating means no commitment and no explanations.
If you're dating a woman and she can't keep your stats correct then maybe it's time to move on. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:20:29 PM | Because some women play games and others do not. Just like guys do. Here is the thing. If someone plays games. They are not going play games your not going to know about it. Here is the thing those people who lie, will be lied to as well and you want nothing to do with those people. If they lie to you, they will lie to everyone. This is not the person you want to date anyways. Think about it, do you want someone who wants you or do you want someone who is going to be with anyone. Man up and just say that your not interested in being with someone like that.
Brian | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:51:14 PM | | There's a difference between dating and relationship, and some people (I was guilty of that before) confuse the two. dating is not commitment, it's getting to know one another. I guess the worst situation is when one party assumes that other party is dating them exclusively. If people make no assumptions and communicate clearly, there will be a lot less disappointment... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:28:54 PM | "nick2020, I belive that what you do isn't actually called dating by most people, and was not originally discussed But to each his own of course"
I believe it is. Who says dating takes place in restaurants, bars, or raquetball courts? In bed intellectual discussions and touchy-feely stuff (followed or not followed by love making or sex) are IMO as much "dating" as anything! And I said I did not parallel date, or that my date multi-dates, so why the:
"But to each his own of course"
Of course!!! Of course!!! 
tsk, tsk, tsk!!!  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:44:31 PM | | When you say "date" do you mean go out to dinner ? or a movie? or do you mean have sex with? I think most people both male and female would be happy to go to dinner or go out casually with many people, friends ect... but if you mean have sex I would hope they are doing this with only one at a time. How would you know if you wanted an exclusive intimate relationship with someone if you haven't even spent any time getting to know them? And why would you limit yourself to only ONE friend to go to movies, dancing, dinner, ect... with. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:48:17 PM | Well for myself..
I have my crass moments... If'n I'm boffing the guy... I shall not use the term 'dating'... depending on who is asking... I'll use something more colorful.
If'n I'm going to clubs, movies, concerts.. any social-y events with him (or him and him)... i calls it Dating.
I've had too much sugar today... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:57:03 PM | | Momma always said you should havea guy whose a smart dresser, funny, a good cook and a hard worker. She also said its important that these 4 men never meet each other. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:01:34 PM | | People that date many people at once can't keep them straight. They also don't give each person a fair chance. If you date Marcie Friday night and Barb Sat night, chances are your mind Friday night is split between Marcie, your current date, and what you and Barb will do Sat. night. It is too confusing. You get names, times, places mixed up. I dated a guy from 03-05 who told me right off he dated only one woman at a time for that very reason. (we split due to his ex causing problems of a major scale). He sold me on that concept. It worked well. Without thinking about Mr. tomorrow night, I was able to focus on him. I learned his personality, likes and dislikes. If we had not hit it off by the 3rd or 4th date, we would have parted ways and pursued other people at that time. If we had disliked each other the first night, there would not have been a second date. But as I said, we liked each other, and from the first night, there were no others. I was relieved not to have to juggle several men at once. I was pleased that he was giving me his full attention. I did not feel like I was on a buffet and he was sampling all the goods. See, if you date several at once, each person will have something good and something bad about them. There will ALWAYS be the "bigger better deal" just around the bend for you. Dating su*ks. Multiple dating feels sleezy. Ever since this guy, I have only dated one at a time. That may mean 1 date and move on for good, or 2 or 4, but only one man at a time has my attention. I will only date men who do the same. I will NOT compete with any other woman. At least give me the dignity of having your full attention for the length of time we decide to go out! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:04:52 PM |
When you say "date" do you mean go out to dinner ? or a movie? or do you mean have sex with? I think most people both male and female would be happy to go to dinner or go out casually with many people, friends ect...
can only speak for myself, but to me "date" means exactly that - coffee, dinner, movie, beach, bicycle ride, museum etc. Get to know a person and see if we want to eventually progress to more. Not sex or a relationship - date. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:06:03 PM | re posts 119 and 120
Did the esteemed fellow posters notice that what I described as a date consisted of philosophical discussions and touchy-feely stuff in bed, with an option for love making? If they did, how come their posts seem to miss that DETAIL?
And WTH is "boffing"? If it means sex, well I repeat that philosophical discussions and touchy-feeely were the certain component of the date, the sex being an option, and that is what happens with dates that take place not in bed or in the house but at restaurants or fast food joints as well. So why all the fuss in posts 119 and 120?
PS. "TO KNOW" a person, what more enlightening than good philosophical discussions re everything under the sun???????? What some fellow posters describe as a date to me sounds more like "socialising". And of course one can multi socialise. Maybe a 1950s model of "dating"!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:12:50 PM |
PS. "TO KNOW" a person, what more enlightening than good philosophical discussions re everything under the sun????????
They are invaluable. But I don't see having them in bed? at least until I know *enough* about the person | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:18:34 PM | Because when one is in an inclined (?) position, one's thinking capacity goes up by 15% according to studies. What is so "sinful" re a bed? Would a couch shock the fellow posters less?
To address the core issue, of course I can see why some women (I do not mean the fellow posters) like to call "a date" a social outing and why they would be OK with parallel or multiple dating, hey these are activities that are not of romantic nature, one can socialise that way with friends, not a person one is romantically interested in! And a good way to secure company so that one does not go to movies or dine out alone!!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/28/2007 8:47:16 PM | It's called... dating
dating is getting to know someone... it's a part of "courting", a way to find out if you are compatible.
That's all
Now some people seem to think dating means having sex. It doesn't... having sex is having sex.
If someone wants to get to know several people and find out which of those several people he/she might actually want to commit to I can't think of a better way to do it than to date. That's the whole point of it.
Otherwise it's not dating, it's serial monogamy. Until there is a commitment between 2 people they are free to see as many other people as they want to. That's what SINGLE means, NOT committed. Might be none, might be a hundred. | |
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