| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:13:11 AM | It seems if you are looking for a LTR or more (marriage) the odds of anyone getting together while both multiple dating are slim. If I meet someone that I am interested in why would I want to continue to date anyone else. Presonality I would not continue to date a women if I were not interested in any LTR relationship with her.
Not fair to her and not fair to me.
Question to the women: What kind of guy is going to ask you out too many times again after you explain that you would love to go but this is "George's" week-end.
I know we may get into the time frame discussion. To be honest how long does it really take to decide if someone you want to date. It is there or it is not, in my opinion.
I close with the fact that it is New Years Eve and I have no plans, so what do I know! LOL | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:21:41 AM | Not all of us women date multiple guys at once. I don't know how women find the time to do that ha ha!!
I feel guilty for talking to more than one guy at the same time so please do not tar us all with the same brush, there are some exceptions out there!!!
LOL
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:24:20 AM | ^^^ your not alone... I completely agree...
And even more strange - whats going on with someone who admits to never having sex for ten years but dates multiple guys?
What does that say about their dating technique? | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:25:39 AM | John in a way i do agree with you. Some people carry out their multiple dating for months on end . I don't agree with that . However when you are talking about a few dates to really get to know this person then to me that's fine.Keeping up multiple dating after a month i would say you are not seriously looking for any LTR .
After a couple months you know if you have strong romantic feelings for this other person or not ,and even if you may be in love with them. After just a couple dates though you really can't be all that sure how strongly you feel for this other person.Personally i would be a bit freaked out if on a first or second date someone told me they loved me. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:31:55 AM | After 3 weeks my partner told me he loved me and It was mutual.
We've been together for 4 years now. It does happen.
I personally cant see how anyone can devote any serious undivided attention or interest in someone when they are number 2 or 4 in the list of 'possibles'.....
Not for me im afraid. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:33:05 AM | It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you
It's also easy to determine that those type of women aren't reserved. So you're not anything special to them, since they can't even get the facts right.
Just think about it, some women multi-tasking phone calls and having to talk to a bunch of guys everyday. I would question if a woman couldn't make herself available at certain parts of the evening, if she's trying to hide the fact she's talking to/ dating a lot of guys.
How about if guys did that? women always know something is up, get upset and immediately question you. They always want to confirm that they're the only one and giving them undivided attention. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:44:09 AM | "Why do women date mutiple guys at once?"
I think that the reason SOME women do that is for the same reason one visits many houses before one buys one, or checks out many cars, etc. These women, ie some of the women who multi-parallel date, have a "goal", and that is an LTR, and since they are looking for an LTR, they "interview" many candidates. Until they make a short list of 1! Makes sense, considering what they really seek, the LTR. One can call it rational dating, as in rational investing or rational bying (see Consumer Behavior 101, the chapter re durable consumer goods, not the ones on fast moving ones (FMCGs)). | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:56:16 AM | First of all men date different women at the same time. You are not mentioning what they are up too as well right? It goes both ways people! If you are a single person you do not have to justify how many people you care to date or not date.!
I am not looking for a long term relationship and I certainly am not interested in marriage, so therefore I and anyone else can talk to or be friends with or date anyone on the planet that we want too.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:59:27 AM | How about if guys did that?
Simply put it is none of my business what a man who i have only been on one or two dates is doing. He does not have to answer to me for anything . Perhaps i should start following dates home after the first and second dates and hide in the bushes to see if he goes out again or has any visitors.
Again a couple dates is very different then a couple months of dating. It's nowhere near the same thing .A first date is mostly something like coffee or lunch which may take up to an hour . Second date maybe dinner and a movie so a couple hours. 3 hours total spent with someone is not a relationship. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 10:06:53 AM | | Because they can and only do what men also do...plus it is a free country. When they find one they really like they will let go of the others. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 11:37:11 AM |
Question to the women: What kind of guy is going to ask you out too many times again after you explain that you would love to go but this is "George's" week-end.
What's wrong with simple " I already have plans made, but XYZ day will work for me" | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 11:42:39 AM |
Question to the women: What kind of guy is going to ask you out too many times again after you explain that you would love to go but this is "George's" week-end.
George's evening, I can understand. lol lol
But the whole weekend? In such a case I agree with the poster!
Unless it is Nick's week (Mon-Fri)!!  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:48:10 PM | I was a cereal dater, alternating between shredded wheat and cherios.
The problem was, I just couldn't decide.
Many people are like that. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:58:59 PM | Personally... I am against dating multiple people at one time... but a lot of the men I have encountered are also dating multiple women. I find it very hard to get to know a person that you could be potentially interested while you are dating a zillion other people. So it isn't only women... it is men also!
Happy New Year Everyone!!! Didn't find my New Years' Kisser this year... but here is to a better 2008!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 2:09:18 PM | Hahaha. This thread is so ironic. It seems like men complain constatntly about women who think they are in a "relationship" after one or two dates. Good Gawd. If I go out dancing (on my own, mind you), should I only dance with one guy? I belong to a Salsa Club and people would think there was something VERY wrong with a person who did that. 
As adults (presumably), it is your responsibility to make your expectations known. Why not have the "exclusive" talk on the first date, or just come right out and ask her if she is dating anyone else for Gawd's sake. It is always safest to make that assumption, at the beginning. Why do women do so? Some do, some don't. Just like men. If you don't like it, find a woman who doesn't! 
It also seems like those who come down so hard on other women are certainly riding a high horse of some morality perspective. One does not even know what "dating" means in this context. If someone jumps to conclusions regarding another's behavior, we can only assume it is because they are looking at it from a perspective that makes sense to them (i.e. they are the ones who think dating is synonymous with sex!).  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 2:39:18 PM | | Its just like others have said keeping options opened. At that moment there not ready to settle down with one person for there own reasons. So they date only for a while then decide later on what to do. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 2:47:53 PM | I suppose it all depends on your definition of “dating”, when such “dating” begins and what your purpose or ultimate goal is, in "dating".
Some believe that after going out with someone two or three times, you are “dating” that person and as such, a lot of people want to focus on that one person and not on anyone else. And they want the person they are “dating” to feel the same way.
Others view the first few dates as “exploratory” and “getting to know” someone. They aren’t prepared to “exclusively date” that one person until they believe there exists a compatibility to build a relationship on. Once that has been established, then they want to focus solely on that person and hope that the other feels the same way. But UNTIL then, they feel it is acceptable to date others as well.
And then there are those who view “dating” as a recreational activity. They aren’t interested in building a relationship that could develop into a long term one and don’t really care whether or not there is a basic compatibility present that could sustain one. They just want to have fun meeting new people and doing fun and interesting activities with those people.
I think it’s important to understand where someone is coming from and what their mindset is on these issues BEFORE you invest your time and emotional energy in them. Makes for fewer disappointments and unrealized expectations.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:12:11 PM | I don't
I'm not a 'multitasker'
I don't continue 'searching' online either
It's not a issue of requiring 'instant' commitment
It's a matter of committing to a 'focused' ,,,'undistracted' exploration
within a 'one on one' scenario
This is a logical process,,,
IF,,,,?????????
your goal is to get from point A to point B
Point A being ,,,the Hypothesis,,,,,,,,,,I think this person
IS,,,,, a potential for a committed relationship
First the 'hypothesis'
Then the process
Then the Conclusion
The most successful scientific experimenters use the 'focused' method | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:14:24 PM | They just want to have fun meeting new people and doing fun and interesting activities with those people.
And getting free meals
I don't get how some women ONLINE say theya re talking to someone online, when they haven't even met them y et? lol | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:20:37 PM |
I don't get how some women ONLINE say theya re talking to someone online, when they haven't even met them y et? Dude - Get over it. I saw your post #188. It was just an excuse because her interest was no longer piqued by you. She thought telling you she could only date the Phantom was an easier let down.
P.S. I guess "getting free meals" wasn't a big enough attraction to have to sit through the time with you!
Edit/Add: Betty, he is talking about an experience he had (Msg 188) where a woman told him he's out because she was more interested in a guy she had only interacted with on-line. He doesn't "get" why she wouldn’t want to be with someone more accessible. He doesn't understand that it's not that she wouldn't want to be with someone closer to home, it's that she does not want to be with him! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:22:45 PM |
And getting free meals.
I know you're joking, but for those men who think women do this, do you know how many women would rather starve or pay for their own meals while eating alone than sit across from a table with someone they don't like more than 10 minutes? I bet you'd be wrong about your answer. Truth is, the meal better be quick and really worth the effort if it's a guy we don't have any interest in.
I don't get how some women ONLINE say theya re talking to someone online, when they haven't even met them y et? lol
Because you can talk without meeting maybe? | |
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