| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 10:38:53 PM | River deep, mountain high! Dontcha jus love it! | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 2:07:20 AM | I'm effectively in London (I have a tube station 5 mins from my door and am well within the M25) but in terms of practicalities I can get to Oxford, Newbury or Northampton by car sooner than I can get to Morden, Elephant & Castle or Stratford by Tube
Consequently I never know where to look.... | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 2:15:10 AM | Hey there JohnnyComeLateley1,
Thanks so much for the amusing anecdote!!... Was a greatway to start the day! 
Bumemer about loosing your licence... car sounds like it was already a write off..
I make no apollogies for my 'irrational' behaviour.. Both those ladies remain as good friends and thier friendship love and support hs helped me through some rough times when I first arrived in the UK.
To be honest, I tend to remember the silly things I've done with a lot more clarity and they always bring a huge smile to my face and make the day that much more special..
So travelling distances is not only about finding true love, its alo about friendship..
To paraphrase from the "GrumpyOld Men II" movie;....
"Life goes by so fast and before you know it you're 90....
and when you look again you're 97!! ...."
Life too short to spend your time regretting things...
Round the corner is always nice and convinient although how many people out there really get on with their neighbours?. Most people I know 'B1tch' about theirs.
Well any, time to head off to the Bait Shoppe
Take care and enjoy the rest of your day,
Michael | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:40:12 AM |
*leaves cookies for GrumpyOldWoman as a thank you...
Grabs the cookies, puts them in the pocket together with the half dead tennins ball, puts her timberlands on and heads for the woods with her mutt to start a new family Boxing Day tradition as fed up looking at the 234567890 boxes inside her flat which are not pressies but stuff packed to move on the 18th.....
Thanks for the coockies - hope they are Fox-es? 
Another country?
I do have a very special friend far away whom I have met few years back and keep in touch all the time with acasional sms etc.
Where he comes from, any unatached female , any age, shape or form can bag herself a very handsome, young and extremly loving darling just by waving her British passport in the air.
Some of them do bring them back home with them - they last on avarage 3 years (till the "indefinite stay in UK" granted by our dear Home Office).
Would I bring someone from abroad here? Probably not. But again that depends and everyone to their own. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:49:39 AM | When I put in the info for my search, I usually specify between 25-50 miles.
Living just on the edge of London with great rail links to the City and a five minute drive to the M25, makes travel easy.
Depending where the other person lives, as people have said previously, visiting someone in London can take anywhere between 20 minutes to an hour and a half.
I personally would put a limit on an hours drive. I recently met a really nice lady in Bedfordshire, and although it was only 40 miles away it took about 50 minutes to get there.
She was definately worth the drive, but the sparks were flying more on my side than hers.
Merry Christmas everyone | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:53:18 AM | i think you have to look at each oppertunity as it presents itself.
theres lots of different ways they do.
if for instance you have grown to respect someone from the forums after some time of noticing them then you find you get along great privately through personal msgs,then surely there is much greater reason to think there worth making an effort for.
the same can be true after getting to know someone from attending a few meets.
but meeting someone a few hours away after very little time in msging has got to be more of a wild stab.
but then sometimes if you have the time on your hands its easy to just think fook it,why not? at least it will give me some confidence with meeting/dating if nothing else.
evaluating each oppertunity and minimising any risks are important i think. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:58:27 AM |
if for instance you have grown to respect someone from the forums after some time of noticing them then you find you get along great privately through personal msgs
Ah... that is a completely different topic in my books.
In terms of possible "mates" - Forum is great.
I personally would not even think of getting hmmm romantically involved with anyone I have had contact with for more than a week.
It may seem weird to some but this is my personal choice.
If I do not meet someone within a week max 2 weeks of the first contact - that is it.
I do not want to build some virtual image of a person based on their typing style and ability to use emoticons for months only to be dissapointed with the real person when we finally meet.
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:03:44 AM |
If I do not meet someone within a week max 2 weeks of the first contact - that is it.
I do not want to build some virtual image of a person based on their typing style and ability to use emoticons for months only to be dissapointed with the real person when we finally meet.
Do you actually want to meet someone to date at some point as you seem to disqualify yourself at every juncture.
Personally if I talked to someone for months I would keep an open mind as to whether there'd be any kind of spark and if it could develop if a meeting took place.
It's difficult enough to try and find the right person who could be a life partner without being overly prescriptive about it IMO. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:07:53 AM | Do you actually want to meet someone to date at some point
Hmmm, the more I am here on POF - the more I think internet is not a place to find my Mr Right...
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:12:13 AM |
I personally would not even think of getting hmmm romantically involved with anyone I have had contact with for more than a week.
so,that means all men from there first contact have the clock ticking down untill your vertual buzzer rings out in there ears?
where is the room for you to get to know each other?
do you think they will be drawn to just focusing on you from your very first reply and drop anyone else they contact in order to impress enough in that time?
It may seem weird to some but this is my personal choice.
If I do not meet someone within a week max 2 weeks of the first contact - that is it.
you have just stated that it was a week max,nice to see you changed your mind so swiftly!
good to see a women that knows what her boundries are! | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:12:13 AM | How far is too far? How long is a piece of string?
I've had too long distance relationships, both were ultimately unsuccessful and the distance was obviously a factor.
One thing to consider with the distance thing is cost, I couldn't afford to go gallivanting round the country to find my one true love... sadly.
But then again, what if I made contact with someone, found there was a cyber-spark? I would have to make the effort to meet him, it would be foolish not to.
Having said that, I make sure that I don't chat with anyone from a different continent!
I tend to not search, I'll let the universe bring us together, one way or another! | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 4:13:57 AM | where is the room for you to get to know each other?
That should happen in real life, not typing /net life...
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 5:02:52 AM |
That should happen in real life, not typing /net life...
so,presumably if a message gets through your deffences do you reply "ok,lets meet"?
without any getting to know at all?
on topic;
it seems obvious to me that some people can be so negative as to there specific that it screams out that they have no real intentions of meeting anyone with a view to beginning a relationship.
instead this site is used as a way of building up confidence while comunicating and exploring there own thoughs and feelings.
unfortunately to be able to build confidence truely you have to actually make the next step and meet people too.
meeting someone who is not in your area is not a bad way to start.even if that means that you have to have an understanding about it with the person you intend to meet. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 5:56:47 AM | Don't be so negative, Geordie. Everybody in his/her own time. They are ready whenever, and then restrictions will be broken, boundaries won't exist anymore once the right person is met. I went the extra mile before, even left my home and moved into this strange country for the right man (at the time!). Things have changed but nevertheless, I am willing to do it again.
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 6:41:48 AM |
the more I think internet is not a place to find my Mr Right...
How do you feel about a mr wrong then? | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 7:54:11 AM |
I went the extra mile before, even left my home and moved into this strange country for the right man (at the time!). Things have changed but nevertheless, I am willing to do it again.
So maybe I am not the only one who would move to be with someone.
I can understand why many would not want to move to... say, the US.
Many Americans who've been outside their country can't stand things here. If Bush spoke for you, would you be all warm and fuzzy about it?
(sorry... *stepping off soapbox)
Point being, it seems most people would like to meet an interesting person, but only in their own back yard... where as I would cross seas for the opportunity to find out. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:22:19 AM | [Point being, it seems most people would like to meet an interesting person, but only in their own back yard... where as I would cross seas for the opportunity to find out. ]
Like most things in life, people today want everything 'yesterday'... and at their convenience.... Instant coffe, instant Messaging, Instant Weight loss .. the list goes on...
... They seem to view relationships in the same light as fast food... "Just nip 'round the corner for some "Fish & Chips"/ Slap 'n Tickle ...and many other crude expresions that debase the magic of budding romances...
If fast food is what you want,... don't be surprised when the boy/girl next door turns out to be just like the last person you had a relationship with...
...It all becomes way too generic... you'll never learn anything new or positive that you can carry into your next relationship...
I've crossed the seas, and traversed continents, and I'm damn sure that I'll gladly do it all again!!.. ... Even if it doesn't work out the way I'd hoped.. the thrill in trying and daring to be different makes my pulse race!!
Slouching in front of a TV with a "six-pack of oblivion" at my side is not my idea of having a good time...
Dare to be different!!! | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:41:53 AM |
How do you feel about a mr wrong then?
I feel it is an old joke that was cracked ages ago by someone else on here | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:50:59 AM |
I feel it is an old joke that was cracked ages ago by someone else on here
Ahhh, yes... the "old as the dust on the hinges of hell" joke.
I think I recall it in the history books... somewhere.
*snicker...
*ehhem... back on topic...
That would be too far a reach.
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:55:34 AM | ^^^^^ Ok! And?
next time i post a comment i shall endevour not to repeat something somebody else may have said "ages ago" 
I shall now search the web for possible programmes to auto search forums for previously made comments to alleviate repeating them. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:07:58 AM | nothing ventured, nothing gained, if both of the people involved are willing to travel to see each other, then why not, but it has to go both ways
i have personally made the trip across the ocean before, and although it wasn't entirely successul, it hasn't put me off doing it again
that said, i think closer is better, and if you are willing to meet halfway, even better | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:08:35 AM | tend to look very local at first and then expand to say 30-40 miles, but that tends to bring in london which by default seems to include the whole of london, regularly work in and across london and tends to be not worth the hassle
guess 1 hours drive in any direction should suffice :) | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:10:12 AM |
This poses a follow up question:
If you live great distances or in separate countries, would you be willing to allow them to come spend time in your world in order to get to know you? .
For me this is very relevant.. I´d have to invite the girl to come visit lots of times... And obviously I´d do the same in return. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:12:52 AM | Im a lazy twat who believes i do not need to move off the sofa to find the girl of my dreams. In future i am only looking for cyber sex and due to this being the new age think i can get everything i want from my sofa ...
Though if anyone has any tips for getting stains off a brown leather sofa feel free to mail me. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:19:00 PM | rub fairy liquid into the stain then scrub briskly with a moistened badger
[edit to add: this comes across as pretty random as first post on a new page of the thread... damn that page-break] | |
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