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Posted: 12/27/2007 8:14:20 PM | | Humbly, I submit; Nowadays: Trust Noone !!! I don't get taking relationships too seriously anymore. I take them all with a grain of salt. Friends with Bennies and she can do what she wants. I mean, you could kick her to the curb, but why not just take her less seriously and still get some butay when she's giving & in the mood. I certainly wouldn't live with her. Just put her on a list & find yourself a bunch of other women and use condoms. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/27/2007 8:26:27 PM | "Also if it matters, she is 25 and I am 39."
IMHO - irrelevant
"I am on this site because we have broken up and I now consider myself single"
Wise move, again just IMHO. She's a swinger and you clearly are not
"Another bit of info, I was always there while she did these things. "
That is implied consent and approval. You wanted other things in a relationship. Hence, again, wise for you to move on to someone who does want a committed relationship. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/27/2007 8:34:26 PM | | If at 39 you even need to ask these questions.. I am not sure who is older in that relationship.. Both seem to be juvenile. I guess I can see how a 25yo doesn't know what a committed relationship is.. But I'd hope a 39 yo would... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/27/2007 8:42:20 PM | Yup Yup Yup ......
About the time I ask myself “self - isn’t it about time to stop putting it off and get a girlfriend?” ........
I read things like this and ......... forget all about getting a girlfriend lol | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/27/2007 9:21:59 PM | Can I b!tch slap you?
But dude, don't feel too bad. Look at you, you're a 39 year old dude that instead of starting to see a glass half empty you are seeing that is not only half full, but it will get a hell of a lot more better. Two things that stroke me wrong. And it's just me. Too much text and checking on each other, it not only comes across as needy, but quite frankly it gets annoying. You want THEM to be checking on you, wanting you, wandering where you are, why have you not called them. A guy I met once said, chase and they will run away, pull back and they will come to you. This is so true it is ridiculous. I've left chics because at the time just well boring, and they called and they checked what I was doing and was I pissed or okay. You need to change those dynamics. Second, should you have told the chic about the other girl after her little thing. Yes. Should you have cut off the date. NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. She now has your balls in a yard. She cheats on you. Then she wants back. And you wussed up to her. She doesn't want you back. She wants to be put in her place. If you don't, she will dump you. If you tell her your rules of engagement (without any wooshy sh!t) she may look at you with interest. The tell her you are not quite interested. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/27/2007 10:34:58 PM | I will be blunt. She's got a hold on your dcik. And she's playing you right. She had like a spare tyre all the time while she had an eye for someone she met by "chance" while on a night out. And according to you she had an eye for him and kept touch with him while you were with her, but she slept on his couch the whole night with no sex but her mobile offed itself. You gotta be impotent to believe that!
She ignores you, keeps you waiting, treats you like you are the pile of garbage at home to whom she can come back with any story. Why did she not message you that she was not gonna make it and that was alright and will see you later? I dunno how serious this relationship to you, but it does not sound like on her part there is any respect for you ... the question is whether you have any respect for yourself... if you think this is how you want to be treated as a humanbeing.
Reading your story, you are treating her a lot better than paid you back and you are still wondering how many times should she bite you for you to wake up.
You are not stupid, you are naiive, easily manipulated and suffer from low self esteem.
Before I fcuk off let me tell something...
No woman will ever treat you better... you are a door mat! | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 12:12:24 AM | Ca – rack!! That’s the sound of a whip…
You need to gather what you have left of your self respect and stay away from the so-called girlfriend. She obviously does not respect you and respect is a major corner stone in building a relationship. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 12:14:20 AM | Am i wasting my time here?
Can't believe you actually have to ask.............! | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 4:48:25 AM | If you broke up with the girl you were living with, why would you inform her of the new girl that was showing some interest? Some of the other things you mentioned, her dirty dancing at a Christmas Party while you watched? Is she calling you at 3am? She went to close down a bar with a guy she wasn't sure she liked, then ended up at his place? All snuggled up watching a movie, and (she says) falling asleep together on the couch?
I'm just curious if you went to this other girls place, now, after you've broken up and fell asleep on the couch, the original girl would probably be furious. Even mentioning your date (god knows why) to the girl has her running back. Let me guess, she's soooo sorry that incident happened and it won't ever happen again. Get back to us in a month or so.
So everything will be good now? I guess until the next time she disappears. Personally, I'd rather be alone than with someone like that. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:57:45 AM | | i think your wasting your time being her and so am i and i am speaking for my self as well but the best way now a days is to stay single i have been single since 1988 and i it does not bother me one bit and there are some realy stupit profiles here some that dont make sence but i have seen some nice girls but i am not even going to chat them up becouse i am interested i am to busy enyoying my self doing raido disc jockey and i am not gay i am straght 100persent no your not stupit for canceling the date daing sites are not the safest place to meet any more if you ever get a reply from a russian girl watch her she is after your money and should be done for fraud i was on a fraud site you want to seet the list of girls done for fraud and there all from the ukraine and russia i was in good contact with a girl from the ukraine she was nice but the other night i seen her name on the list for fraud how to find the site go to google and type in your ex and the site should come up i know i typed in helen tarasko and bingo her name came up on the fraud list | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 5:06:01 AM | | Tecnic, you talk about seeing stupid profiles here? You can't even use capitalization, punctuation or a spell checker. No wonder you're not having any luck. :) I couldn't read most of what you said. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:08:05 AM |
Find someone your age and you'll get better results. .....According to OP's profile women his age don't look after themselves as much as younger women do.
Living with/dating? What's that exactly?
One thing I do NOT understand is why people tell their ex's about their future dates/meetings. What's the purpose?
You obviously don't trust your ex, and the two of you will continue to play these silly games until one of you really has had enough.
If you have broken up and you DO make plans to meet up with someone, then it's YOUR business.....Your ex doesn't need to know about your personal life. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 6:20:17 AM | she wanted to work things out with me and insisted I cancel the date. I did. Am I stupid? Yesss!!!!
Why don't you just wrap up your balls and mail them to her? It will be less painful in the long run ... 
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Posted: 12/28/2007 6:47:52 AM | You've stated that throughout the time that you've been dating that she's received text messages and phones calls as late as 3am, she's disrespected you, nay, embarrassed you in public, by dirty dancing with other men in front of you. Lied to you about what time she left the club. Turned off her cell phone so that you wouldn't interrupt their movie. What's it gonna take? A swift kick in the balls? Oh wait, she pretty much did that by sleeping with another man.
What would make you stupid, well I think you're off to a good start already. Why would you feel even slightly compelled to inform her about your upcoming date? If you were looking to get a reaction from her, the best way would have been not to tell her and then let her eventually find out by seeing you out with another woman.
As for her wanting to work it out; why is it that she only suddenly wanted to work it out when she found out that you were going out with someone? The reality of it is, she's been playing you like complete idiot. Obviously she knows that you're crazy about the idea of dating a younger woman with her being 25. Based on your actions of not kicking her to the curb much earlier with her humiliating you in public in front of your face by her previous actions, she knows that basically she's got you P&#@YWHIPPED! And as such she knows you'll put up with her crap and as you've indicated not do anything about it.
If she truely was sincere about wanting to work it out, she would not have waited until you told her you were going out with someone else. Basically she's playing the game of: "I DON'T WANT YOU, BUT I'LL BE DAMNED IF I LET ANYONE ELSE HAVE YOU.'
You're 39 and supposedly a mature adult. Act like a man and move on. Remember,"THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL." | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 8:51:39 AM |
There have been other incidents of less severity in our past from her
If these other incidents also involved staying over at guys' places, then I'd say you did the right thing. But from what you've provided, you just come across as overly jealous if there was just this one incident, and she may have been honest about it. If you're the one she's texting or calling at 3am, you're probably the one she cares about. Then again there are clearly conflicting interests here if she's always out at 3am and you're elsewhere.
But honestly, if you don't care for her behavior and you're 39 and she's 25 ... you're probably looking at 5 more years of it. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 9:16:00 AM | | no, you're not stupid. You've attained the new level qualifier of STOOPID. Ditch this bimbo, because it sounds like there's nothing but drama driving her train.... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 10:30:31 AM | At your age, I know letting go of a sexy 25 yr old and finding a suitable replacement isn't the easiest thing to do. I'll be 38 next month and am trying to do it myself, and for lesser offenses than what you've shared with us.
But given the stunts your woman has pulled, you have to get rid of her. This is not a woman you want to knock up and raise a kid with, accidentally or otherwise. She's got too much growing up to do.
As for you, the very next thing you need to do is either move out or move her out. You don't need to see her anymore, or see her panties, or worse yet see her in her panties.
Don't date the new gal or anyone else until you are living alone again. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 10:55:15 AM | | No I think they are, in a way, a good fit. 39-25. what did the OP expect? | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 11:17:15 AM | You're not necessarily wasting your time here but you are probably still too stupid (your word, not mine) to make the most of this site. You have to be really cautious on here and you need to use your upper brain (well, unless what you want is something really casual but that's what you had and sounds like you wanted more).
Your age does matter. Young girls usually (very few exceptions) like "older" men for a few reasons and you have to accept them if you want to date 10 years younger or more. While they list "maturity" that's just the politically correct excuse because it is not a "mature" act to actively seek someone way out of your own age range or life stage, and a "mature" person would normally find little in common that would make someone that young very interesting. You basically end up sinking to their maturity level which your texting and "checking up" on each other demonstrates. Young girls know that "older" men will buy them nicer things, take them nicer places, and treat them nicer than guys their own age. They know that they have to contribute a little as well but well ... not that much! They also know that they don't have to treat the men that well because "older" men will put up with a lot more than men their own age would, because, as a previous poster mentioned, she knows she's hard to let go of. They also know that they have a lot more choices than you do and besides the fact that it's a disappointment to realize that she lost the "control" over you (of course, she hasn't yet), breaking up with you will be a pretty minor setback. Girls like that never stay single very long. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 2:22:31 PM | Agrees with Texann on this one with a nickle to add. Young women seek security
their lives are molded on the premise. I'm not knocking the Ladies here. What I am
saying is this : You are providing somewhat of a secure place for her to "Crash",
therefore when she looks at the "on the other hand situations" she choses to take
the road most traveled. In layman's terms she trades a piece for a place to stay and your emotions are simple stew to her. The phone off thing is as black and white as they come.
It's as easy as saying bugger off this guy is screwing my brains out and text messaging
your lame ass is the least thing on my mind. No punches pulled guy but you are being PLAYED!! WAKE UP!! Nothing comes without a price and you are paying for what your getting and the price is getting ready to go up! My suggestion: Pack her S--t and show her the door. Just think about all the other strange stuff you talked about. You wanted a relationship, she wanted a friendship with benefits.........Yours!! Young stuff is great
but she won't keep your feet warm on a cold winter's nite.
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Posted: 12/28/2007 2:38:45 PM | Sorry to say it, but just walk away... don't look back...
Get on a plane to Amsterdam... sit in a coffee shop for week and order off the menu... 
And when you come back you'll be all better and won't remember a thing and you'll be ready to start looking for the next one...
Or you can wallow for a few months.
Either/or has worked for me... | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 3:01:17 PM | It was not her fault.
The guy’s dog accidentally turned off her phone. They were just watching TV (Leave It To Beaver reruns) with his parents and the minister of the local church. | |
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