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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:09:52 PM | Wow, if a woman I was dating spent the night at some guys house that has a crush on her, I'd throw her ass on the curb the second she walked in the door man!
What the f*ck else would they be doing? Playing f*cking monopoly? Why would her phone be off? | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:22:39 PM | | I started to laugh when I read almost everyone's answer...YES...you're wasting your time...but you obviously love her so it doesn't feel like you're wasting your time...it feels like you're giving her time to get to the same place on the page that you are...I don't know you, you don't know me...but you look like a decent guy...give yourself a break and walk away. If it's meant to be, it will be. Give her time to miss the cool things about you and let her see how many a**holes there are out there in the real dating world... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:36:04 PM | Yes you are stupid. What is even worse is your need to have us verify your stupidity.  | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:47:03 PM | Leave her now before you do something really stupid.
She had no reason to go with that guy in the first place, especially not to his home after 1 AM if she was in a real relationship with you. Open your eyes and move on.
If you continue to stay with her you will be stupid. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/29/2007 11:56:05 AM | | MAN...You are 10 notches past stupid. I know love is blind but COME ON! And she wants to reconcile now that u have a date...WELL YEAH! She does have the convience of "daddy" there to take the trash out. Move on man, lose this loser. Its better to lose a lover than to love a loser. Find someone who will appreciate you. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/29/2007 12:05:01 PM | | Well OP, bag her a few times and enjoy your life, 25 she was and your 39, way to go dog, but the ride is over get another. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/29/2007 12:43:36 PM | | I agree with Desi she is not the one for you if she is cheating on you and i would say she si , not answering the phone would be enough to get me upset with her , Drop her and get you a real woman , | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/29/2007 1:27:19 PM | | Your question is easy to answer. Yes you are wasting your time. You obviously don't trust her because you know you can't and you are throwing the question to others to verify what you already suspect about her. Yeah they just watched movies and fell asleep, and not once did he try to put his hands on her even though he always liked her. Yeah right. Time for you to move on and next time take things cautious before moving in with someone until you know they can be trusted. In a relationship, trust is probably the most important. If you don't have trust, well....... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/29/2007 4:51:38 PM | dude!
the bed you were sleepin in that night was it your place or hers?
if it was hers i would just take off after hearing where she had been, if it was your place, i would just say "get the f... outa here!"............and she would have to play the strings very well in order for me to talk to her again!
first of all: how was the cell off, when she suposadly fell a sleep? suspicious.....seems like she turned it off, cause she didnt wanna b bothered....
second of all: why would she head to the place of someguy who likes her in the middle o the night when her bf is waiting in bed....and messaging and calling her!!!
she went through one of those "screw it" moments....in which she didnt care at all what the consequences of how she made you feel were!!!
for her to have one of these moments is because she doesnt really care about you, or she was thnkin she could have more with that other guy than with....
there is also always the option of her being really drunk........!!!! if that was the case....id just sttop talkin to her for a lil while, and agree to only talk to her if she never gets drunk again without having you around!! hehe
there ya go........my 2 cents..... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/29/2007 6:48:28 PM | | LOL, I thought only us women fell for the old "Honey, honest, nothing happened!" crap. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 12:00:41 AM | Oh man, can I slap you upside your friggen head please??? thats not stupid...thats super stupid, almost qualifies for a nomination of DFOTY awards ( dumb f*ck of the year)
What on God's green earth do you think she was doing at his house at the time of the night, you think they were commissioning polls on how Canadians feel about sub surface agricultural products??? she was subbing on his product 
Ditch the b itch, and find someone closer to your age for f*ck sakes. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/30/2007 12:18:25 AM | Sorry dude........but your at the losing end of this entire deal. She is just to young and imature. Your a little older and wiser and thinking of the best. JUST MOVE ON... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:31:31 AM | | I know she must be some lil hottie, but please start thinking with the head on your shoulders,& for f's sake,man,find someone your own age,who's mature & can treat you with some decency................................................ | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 8:26:09 AM | Wth the questions you asked and the scenario you just typed out.... Stupidity doesn't even begin to describe this .
Message 33 said it all in a couple of sentences.
I will be blunt. She's got a hold on your dcik.
Find someone more your age who has been there, done that and doesn't need to do it anymore. This sounds like something one would do in highschool.
You sound like such a nice guy but intelligence isn't an issue when it has to do with the heart. Most of us are stupid or a nicer way of putting it...BLIND...when it comes to making sense to something that is so clear to others who have no emotions invested....me included. So from someone (me) with no emotions invested and can see very clearly...please take the blinders off and let her go...it's only a matter of time anyway. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 10:25:29 AM | | I truly think that it depends on the people involved myself I would rather enjoy life then be in a relationships to me guys are controlling been there done that they are fine until yu move in or get involved with them life is too short who's says yu need to be in a relationship to enjoy life | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 10:31:31 AM | I think some women just do not like themselves and just feel this is the way to get the attention they need and if a woman is that needy and of course that much of a liar then you dont need that in your life at all.
Everyone deserves to enjoy life however they wish but lying and being a tramp is not a woman with any morals at all.
Dont fall for the lies and the bullshit life is way to short you want more find more. It is out there not all men and women are self centered selfish inconsiderate fools
Good luck
Christy | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:14:44 AM | When I come in late to a thread, I make sure I read the whole thing, and not just reply to the first post. The benefit of that is seeing if additional information appears... i.e. the OP posts again to clarify something or interact with those who are responding. Red flag if the OP has not returned.
Assuming the original story is true, I agree with the general theme of the advice... although surprisingly very few touched on the possible "Daddy issue" this girl may have, instead of piling on the guy for wanting arm candy. I do have female friends who are notably younger than me, but I try to keep them to a "big brother-little sister" relationship - someone they can talk to about anything on their mind and get an honest conversation in return. I have zero interest in dating them, and I don't allow them to "fall" for me. When it looks like they're headed that way, I set them straight immediately so there's no misunderstanding or hurt feelings.
As I have often said to friends, you can't have sex 24/7 - so if there's not enough in common that you want to spend the rest of the day with them, you're just in it for the physical and not the mental. And in the case of the OP, they both appeared to be in it for the physical - and thus both share in the responsibility/blame.
Of course it's a boost to the ego to have someone much younger and exceedingly attractive show interest. But is it realistic in the long run? Not often enough to count on. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/30/2007 1:12:38 PM | I had a similar thing happen to me. She kept saying that I was over-reacting when I saw all the signs of trouble. Trust me... if you don't end it now, you will have more heartache later.
Just my 2 cents. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:47:44 PM | Gossip Girl picks up on the little things....because.... better 'gossip' comes from slip ups. 
You said you are dating/living with a girl. Ya'll agree to meet back up at her place. This indicates you two maintain 2 residences. You fall asleep. She doesn't arrive till after 7 a.m. You aren't living together if either/or keeps a separate place. If she had been thinking - on her feet - she could have said she went to the other residence thinking that is where ya'll agreed to meet....fell asleep - which would have made you the no show. Geez... this younger generation needs to take lessons from the baby boomers.
Anyway, it's a moot point since you cancelled the date with another one due to being p-ssy whipped.  | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/30/2007 3:15:55 PM | | You asked if you were stupid and it's pretty hard not to take it but I'll leave it alone. I'd suggest rereading your post and answering your own question. I think you'll come to it. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:09:49 AM | | Further to the recent post I am still here and I check it everyday!!!! I am very interested in what all you folks have to say. I am not all that stupid because I knew and saw all this coming, I guess I chose to believe. I closed my eyes and lept! I do that often because I am a romantic and I choose believe in the good in others. I sometimes pay the price, but it is the price we gotta choose, makes me wonder if it worth the price at all. I agree with some of the other posters on here that I should just be single and have fun, YEAH RIGHT! Easy for a woman to say "hey I just want to fcuk you randomly when I am horny....." Ladies, tell me what you would say if a guy you liked enough to fcuk said that to you.....SLAM goes the door in the face! So it is a double standard. I am sure there are ladies on here that have to defend male friends all the time. Guys don't have female friends, they have girls they know that they want to fcuk and girls they are trying to fcuk. A guy does not buy drinks at a bar for the interesting writer dude at the other table, or the girl that he thinks is disgusting at the end of the bar. He buys drinks for the girls he is ATTRACTED to. End of story. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 6:15:54 AM | ^^ Only superficial people like you do I suppose. I know a lot of men that buy drinks for their friends or people they respect. It's a shame that you only buy things for people with one motive in mind... pretty selfish in my opinion.
If addressed correctly and with tact you'd also be surprised at how many women are interested in just friends with benefits. At our age, as long as both parties are getting something out of the deal it's actually pretty common. | |
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