| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/6/2008 8:21:47 AM | It is uncertain to as what pleasures you get from the relationships you form or, why you choose to remain within the ones you supposedly have? You see sir, you are the only one who knows the answers and have the solutions to all the questions you ask. And, by your conduct sir, you have already made your conclusions as to where your preferences shall be.
It is never a waste - Time always presents to us many opportunities to learn.
The sad part is we often fail to grasp the essence of the lessons that were presented to us. | |
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| Am I stupid?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:38:15 AM | | It is clear that you already know the answer to this question. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:42:15 AM | | I don't buy the "watching a movie story" you don't spend the night out WITH ANOTHER MAN when you're IN A RELATIONSHIP. And yes, you are stupid for cancelling the date, MOVE ON...she isn't faithful! | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:50:29 AM | | Man I can't blame you for being suspicious. I too have to agree with Desi for she is not through partying yet. If she actually didn't like that guy you couldn't have melted her and poured her on him. That is b.s. Since you two have already been living together, you are "getting the milk without buying the cow" so now what is left? If you truly cared about one another you might not have gone separate ways but attended the same event together, but if my chick was doing the dirty boogie while I looked on like a starving puppy, I'd think over the entire situation, read all the signs, and say "Adios Babe." | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:58:01 AM |
I guess I am a hopeless romantic at heart. She has done a complete about face on her actions and her stance regarding them. Now admits she made the biggest mistake of her life and wants me back. Should I trust her?
Should you trust her = just shows desperation on your part.
Hopeless romantic = desperate
Come on man. Kick her ass to the curb. She is playing you ten different ways to Sunday. The fact that you even try to rationalize what she is doing comes across as pathetic. The only reason she wants to come back (if she really even does???) is your money and a stable place to live.
Get it? She is using you ten different ways. Cut your losses let her go, lick your wounds and find somebody worth your effort. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/6/2008 11:14:18 AM | | OMG......wake up mr.... Men who date younger women are not going to get the committed relationship they want. She's still in her partying stage. Think about where you were at 25. Some gals are ready to settle down while others are not. She wants her cake and eat it to fella. KEEP the date.....if you cancelled it reschedule it. Don't let your ex g/f tug at your heart strings, clip them now.... quickly....this new gal may be just the one you're looking for. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/6/2008 11:19:17 AM | A mistake.........are you kidding me.......was it a mistake when she turned off her cell phone at 3:00 a.m.??????? NOT... She knew what she was doing. She should have put your feelings into play before she decided to go home with this guy. Would it have been okay for you to have done the same thing to her?????
Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. If you can forgive her then that's up to you. Either way, please learn from this experience. Don't let it become a habit. Remember these famous words.....PEOPLE TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU LET THEM TREAT YOU. You have no one to blame but yourself for accepting ones behavior. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/7/2008 1:47:26 PM | | having went through something similar i can tell if it wlks like a duck quacks like one it probally is one | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:37:31 AM | I don't think you are stupid, but you are allowing her to treat you in a manner that she probably would'nt tolerate from you. You've probably heard of the golden rule, obviously she has not.
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 3/14/2008 4:09:55 AM | I cannot comment on if one is stupid or not
let me say this....you sound about 12. OK?
One thing I know...trust this...play horny, sexy, phone, juice ya later stuff with your gal and she might get super hot and bothered ...but
take it to the streets
instead of bringin' it all back home to you . hahaha
soothe up, brother
take a breath and laugh
regards
Akimbo~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:27:34 PM | | hmmm cinderellas got a point people treat you the way you let them true an many comments on here are true also..it is more than likely that more went on than shes saying but then you know that dont you really.. youd have to get the truth out in the open to deal with it whether it was lust,the drink or where her head is..i suppose if you love her and you want to give her a second chance its your call but to make the relationship work youd have to forget the past and trust her..ask yourself ..can you do that..on the plus side if you can and you want to try then good luck and you go into it knowing the risks and accepting them the worse that can happen is she does it again and your back in this situation but with the added benifit of knowing you tried but it wasnt to be ..good luck | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:54:46 PM | My ex wife was like that, she liked to have girlie nights out but turning up at home around 3AM. What she did from when the clubs closed until 3am was anyones guess.
Some women seem to need other mens attention and love it, yet if the man gets the same attention from a woman she loses her temper !
Sometimes people just dont realise what effect their actions are having and how there actions bring about mistrust and bitterness. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:23:28 PM | I'm going to speak to you with brutal honesty. Don't be a ****.
In your stories you frequently act like that. Girlfriend didn't come home until 7am and slept beside some other guy? And this wasn't the first incident? No arguing. No yelling. Pack your stuff and go. Text messages and phone calls at 3am? That's nice darling, tell the nice man you'll be free tomorrow for a date because we're done.
If she's not going to respect you why are you wasting your time with her?
Have some pride! There are soooooo many women out there. Why are you wasting your time? | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:49:36 PM | | At 39 you should have had enough life experience not to have to ask this question!! Open relatioships such as these are disasters waiting to hppen. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:55:01 PM | OP You're not being stupid, you're being human.
Clearly this is not the right girl for you and you need to move on. Staying out all night with a guy she knew before you? I'm sorry but the chances of her being innocent are slim to none, imho.
Best Wishes ~ | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:19:12 PM | what she did wasn't right. move on find someone better... try finding someone closer to your age, might have better luck then... go on that date this weekend, have fun | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:54:03 PM | going out to separate events doesn't include turning off your phone and showing up at 7:15 in the morning. falling asleep on some guy's couch, is lame.
drop her. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:05:13 PM | Of COURSE, I'm wasting my time here.. I don't think there's anyone that is TRUELY the correct choice for me here,.. or anywhere else. Still,.. the HOPE of possibly being wrong cancels my doubts temporarilly. I haven't been able to get it right for decades, why would I think PoF would be the Messiah of all my woes, hopes & dreams?? like Jesus would say if he were here... "I'm only here for the forums"   
As Jesus would say... if he were here...
From underneath the trees, we watch the sky
Confusing stars for satellites
I never dreamed that you'd be mine
But here we are, we're here tonight
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we'd see the day when nobody died
And I'm singing
Amen I, Amen I, I'm alive
Amen I, Amen I, Amen I, I'm alive
And in the air the fireflies
Our only light in paradise
We'll show the world they were wrong
And teach them all to sing along
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
(I'm alive)
And as we lie beneath the stars
We realize how small we are
If they could love like you and me
Imagine what the world could be
If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we'd see the day when nobody died
When nobody died..
We'd see the day, we'd see the day
When nobody died
We'd see the day, we'd see the day
When nobody died
We'd see the day when nobody died...
Courtesy of Nickleback.....
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:22:30 PM | | do you REALLY believe one minute that she was watching a movie with this guy? and she was out until 7 a.m.??? why did she feel the need to turn off her cell then i wonder? obviously she did not want to be disturbed or interrupted. you seem very naive for a 39 year old. | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:50:11 PM | | Have you tried the cuckhold lifestyle? I've heard that the situation your gf put you through would be a cuck's dream.... | |
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| Am i wasting my time here?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:12:55 AM | | stupid no crazey.she has been cheating on you the whole time.you fell for that storey about falling asleep on sombodys couch.if you do i have a bridge i want to sell you.she doesnt want you and she doesnt want anybody else to have you either.i think you should give that other girl a shot if she doesnt like it tough its her problem maybe she will stop sleeping around bye. | |
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