| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:42:32 AM |
I’m just referring to a person who has nothing to offer you other than their love; pure and undefiled companionship.
I got it, and I also get that getting something for something is a chief motivator in many people's lives. The days of simply loving someone and enjoying being in their company are gone. There appears to be some hidden agenda behind everything. I will love you if, when, until, because...
I think it's funny how the immediate leap for many was to the "bum/mette" on the street. To the financially destitute, irresponsible, and unworthy. If this isn't testimony to the state of true love in our country then I don't know what is. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/2/2008 1:05:17 PM | | ^^^^ this i s our reality! but yet and still, those, that in heart feel this way, are still in search of a true love. this to me is a riddle i can't decode. i guess the idea of 'true love' is relativistic in itself. and as Plato would agree, there's just something wrong about that. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:23:04 PM | I think people evaluate potential partners like we evaluate a hitchhiker. If they are next to their broke down car, then I am willing to stop and give them a ride because they are experiencing technical difficulties and I have been down that road before. If they are standing at the entrance of an on-ramp, then I figure they are in a state of desperation and probably (i)have nothing to lose(/i). I prefer not to put myself into a position where I have to protect what I have just because another person wants what I have and could care less if I lose my stuff.
Misery loves company so I don't make company with the miserable. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/2/2008 5:55:19 PM | Your original question was would you consider dating someone that could not help your materially? Now, I am not sure what kind of material you are speaking of, but I took it to mean financial. If you meant something else, please clarify. Then you further asked if love will pay the rent, again, my clue that we were speaking finances.
I see this to be the case, for the most part that is: the majority of the replies here are mostly concentrated on a potential partners financial status. That is, even if it is the case that he or she could hold there own financially, but couldn’t give financially, most people would prefer not to take this sort of person seriously
Actually, most of the replies to your thread said they didn't need anyone to take care of them financially, nor, in exchange were they looking to take care of someone else's bills. That isn't the same thing as not taking someone seriously who could not give financial help. Rather as responsible adults, we should have our own finances in order, and be able to meet our own needs. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:33:15 PM | I got it,
I believe love is unconditional to a point. I mean if your love is beating you up with words or fists then it is time to fall out of love. If your love forgets to profess their love daily, or their love grows silent when they seem to get a lot of attention from others, that is time to fall out.
When they flirt with others and not with you is a good sign to go else where. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:59:39 AM |
Rather as responsible adults, we should have our own finances in order...
Absolutely! The problem is there seem to be an aweful lot of needy people out there.
...and be able to meet our own needs.
Self servicing?
I'm going to hell for that I'm sure. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:03:58 AM | What is rare about the love thing is the number of Dorks that can hold on to it when they have it!
>mak^o>
Edit: Including my Dork a$$ed self of course. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:25:08 AM | What must he or she materially posses in order that you take into consideration the person in question as a serious potential partner? I mean, do you follow your heart, or do you follow your senses?
For me it's a touch of both. The emotional component means I'm charmed and fascinated. The objective part means she and I have a large number of ethical values in common.
I guess this is rare because I haven't met anyone like this is a dog's age.
Don't get me started on my last few dates.
Simply put, if you are financially set, would you allow yourself to be with someone who isn't?
I'd be suspicious of such an arraignment. There would always be some doubt in my mind about my partner's motivations. My last girlfriend was such a basket case that I couldn't count on her for any sort of shared responsibility; financial or otherwise. The real irony here is that her free-spiritedness was the very thing I found most attractive.
I can't say that I miss her to be honest. But on the rare occasion I think back on the relationship you'll see a wry grin on my face and likely see me shacking my head.
Yup, I'm one of those guys who can find humor in my own misfortune.
How's she doing? She's supporting a guy, successfully I might add, who stays drunk 24/7.
My mind boggles. (as I laugh and laugh and laugh) | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:48:15 AM | Not meaning to get off topic, but is love really 'unconditional?' What if you get cheated on...do you remain?
I think we all hold expectations in giving our hearts to another...but 'reasonable' expectations is really what one should be striving for, imo.
[When mine become 'reasonable' -- then maybe I'll marry afterall! ]! 
(don't we all though when 'reasonable' enters the picture). Is reasonable our friend or our foe? At anyrate love abounds and is never rare when he shows his face. :-p | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:25:11 AM | Tsk tsk tsk. Shame on me.
Not meaning to get off topic, but is love really 'unconditional?' What if you get cheated on...do you remain?
Regarding the last sentence above; nope. Had that happen in my twenties and I just couldn't let it go. It's a betrayal of any level of trust when that happens. I just didn't trust her on any level after that. For whatever it's worth I still wished her the best.
I chalk this up to my youth and inexperience. I had 'stolen' her from another man. It was rather egotistical and deluded of me to believe that she wouldn't be 'stolen' from me.
I think we all hold expectations in giving our hearts to another...but 'reasonable' expectations is really what one should be striving for, imo.
I've come to believe that expectations by both parties and the realities in direct opposition to the expectations is what kills relationships.
I think it's far better to go with the flow until you know someone pretty well.
Besides romantic love is not the same as lasting love. One is fleeting and often based on self-delusion. The other comes from actually knowing the other pretty well.
My ideal would be feeling both simultaneously. I'd like to walk on the moon too.
I don't discount either possibility, but they aren't all that likely either. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 1/9/2008 2:41:09 PM | I don't think love is rare at all. I think people get real frustrated with it, though... because they don't understand the nature of it.
We're the only ones who know if it exists or not.
Love is something you have for things that you want in your life. If you're blessed to have many things in life that you care so much about that you want to keep them in your life, that's the true blessing. It's not something you can get from someone. You can feel loved but you can never know if the other person loves you, because that's impossible. You can only enjoy the life you have. You can't feel feelings that others have for you. | |
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| Is it rare! The love thing!
Posted: 2/17/2008 9:57:48 AM | | love is an invisible phenomenon; mysterious, alluring and most incarcerating. to possess of her, is the essence of existence; the quintessence of what we at times refer to as passion. | |
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