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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/10/2008 10:09:56 AM | Agreed . .
Just compliment him on his Profile . . or any part of it that you find interesting . .
A note of admiration isn't a BIG effort . . and . . *Suprises Happen! * . .
That's what Real Men do . . !! | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/10/2008 11:05:13 AM | As an adult it is your task to examine the values you were taught and let go of the ones that no longer work for you. So is it working for you to look at a man's profile and hope he will respond? Does that get you the contact you are seeking? I say if the man and the profile look interesting to you then send along a note. Indicating an interest is just that. We are not forward or s***ts . We are looking for a date or a relationship and this is a good way to meet people. If a fellow thinks that is forward etc. he will likely not answer anyway. You have every thing to gain and nothing to loose. Also times have changed.We are modern women not teen aged girls. | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/11/2008 10:57:27 PM | Hi Mom.
I think we are all over the impulsive, hormone-driven stage of dating, where we worry about what He or She might think if we make a first move. What is she says "no"? What if she says "no"? What if no one does anything?
I value a woman who believes I am worth making that first move. I know, you are worried we might think you are "needy". That is not the case. I smile at a woman with adventure in her soul and the confidence that shows her true strength and intelligence.
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/12/2008 10:38:16 AM | | Wouldnt you think that he may assume you are not interested since you looked at his profile but didnt even comment? If I am interested I will send some little note commenting on his profile, either the similarities, the funny, the interesting..etc. | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/12/2008 6:37:05 PM | You know the best advice I can give is just find something interesting to you or him to talk about. If you can have a conversation with each other and are willing to communicate and let each other talk and listen then take things from there.
Best advice is dont go into a relationship with expectations go into it with a sort of curiousity. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2008 12:53:58 PM | It is true, we can all browse the profiles here in "stealth" mode if we want. I won't. If I see a smile on a woman's profile photo, or an interesting headline if there is no photo, then I will read her profile. I often message you girls after doing that.
I believe strongly that if you get a message from someone interested in you, don't refuse to reply. All it takes is "thank you, good luck with your search" and what is that, 2 minutes is too much out of your day? I would say that 75% of you women do not reply at all when you get a message from a man interested in you.
I believe that women should be equal in all ways if they want "equality of the sexes." It's the old fears of "what if he thinks I'm too forward or what if I look too needy?" We are all here to make new friends, right?
If you see my profile, you might just realize that the "Dating Game" is no longer much fun when you reach your "Golden Years." So, feel free to say Hello! | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:04:56 PM | It's always scary, making the first move, because fear of rejection is STRONG..... but guys have been going through that for years, and have to "save face" when they're rejected, so.......might as well just "go for it", ladies.....
And now that I've given that good advice, I'll start FOLLOWING it.... | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/19/2008 6:28:58 AM | I think my headline says what I feel: First, break all the rules. Most rules, including--perhaps especially--those in relationship building come from something in our past. And most of them don't have much relevance to our present. So break them. Do what's comfortable for you.
For me, being 'contacted' by a woman is fine. My guess is most men would feel the same way. | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/20/2008 6:21:55 AM | While you were raised that way many other women were contacting guys with hints to be contacted or outright invitations. I know I got many unpleasant reactions for not 'noticing'.
I't perfectly OK to contact any one you wish and don't be insulted or hurt by a lack of response or stupid responses.
Remember the russian crime syndicates are well entrenched in the dating sites to lure unsuspecting men and women for $$$ gain and don't respond to targets with little chance for collecting and narcissism is rampant.
Other than that, I can tell you I was contacted by a beautiful woman over a year ago and I'm still happy she did. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 3:52:18 PM | | Stacismom, if you see someone who stirs you, write! I write to people whenever I've read something in a profile that made me laugh, brought back a fond memory, or aroused me on any level. Don't be shy; just be you! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 4:01:04 PM | First....IS THAT A REAL SNAKE!!
It's hard to switch to different rules at our age!! On one hand I like being the "guy" and doing all the guy stuff. Holding open a door, first to contact, pay for the date, you know the usual stuff..... On the other hand, technology has zipped upon us so quickly that it's difficult know if the old rules still apply.
Personally, I think that with the sheer number of people that are looking for someone, it's probably a good idea to just grab for what you like. Perhaps someone you might like just has not seen you yet, why take the chance of passing in the ethereal night! Besides, it's just a first contact! How much can it hurt!  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 5:20:13 PM | I like your qustion,I'm no authority on internet ettiquet,but it has been my experience that there is none.I've met some of the rudest people on the net that do things that they would never do in public.but making the first move is not one of them.In fact,if you don't ,with so many people here,they may never find you.Which could be regrettable because they may be a good match that just hasn't seen your profile.
Heres something else to think about,for myself and many guys that I talk to,having a woman approach us first is a great compliment,and is great for our ego.I know I love it when I get an unexpected response to my profile.that is why I put it up.isn't it an ad?
By all means,e-mail him,if he is a decent person he will appreciate the compliment even if you arent what he's attracted to,and may still want to be friends.
Good Luck!!!.....lonesomewolf | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/20/2008 5:29:29 PM | I am also from that time when you waited for the man to make an approach to you....but today, as you said this is a different age.
Some men are sure of who they want, some are not, some just don't care....but for me I write even tho I have many hurdles to cross on friends here....still I write. If they have a problem with anything and prefer not to respond, its OK. Life goes on! I have had some men write back to me in a very rude fashion, I have to go back and read what I wrote to see why it inspired their rough response.
Reach out to who you want to touch with, don't be afraid, just be sure of who he is once you get to know him....because of the times we live in these days.
A person responding to anyone on here or any dating site, has nothing to fear, but fear itself.....I say....search, and search again with a humble heart but positive feeling about you. Ml | |
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| At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/20/2008 10:19:54 PM | I think the words, "AT OUR AGE" Should never be spoken again! 
What are we... almost dead? Dear Lord, we're at a point where our life is just begining. Kids are out, house to ourselves, settled in our jobs.. At Our Age, BLAH.
I'd rather, "Now that I have my chit together"  | |
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