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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:53:19 AM | | Perhaps you think the more the gift costs the more one cares...if he took the time to buy you a thoughtful gift, regardless of the cost, you should have accepted it and treasured it....placing cost on the value of the gift is unimportant if it was given from the heart... | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:56:57 AM | This kind of stuff is what gives Christmas a bad name . . . we all know folks who just try to stay out of the whole fray and who are relieved when it is all over. When relationships live or die by the relative cost of the gifts, that creates a tension that anyone could do without!
Should she tell him why she dumped him? Pretty embarrasing to admit you're a Christmas Grinch, yeah? Maybe better to just focus on expanding her heart, which has got to be at LEAST three sizes too small . . .  | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:59:05 AM |
If you find one of those rational, mature and non-materialistic beings, could you send her over my way? :)
Sure! But in exchange, you have to get me the phone numbers of Lenny Kravitz, Christian Bale and David Bowie.
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:05:48 PM |
She doesn't feel comfortable discussing the gift exchange with him and just wants to leave it.
She's determined the relationship by her belief that gifts should be assessed by their dollar value?
There are lots of women that get big dollar gifts from guys that they're planning on breaking up with or divorcing.
This stupid thinking that just because a person has a higher income means that they should spend more of it on you is ludicrous.
I'd prefer a GF who's crazy enough about me that if I gave her the prize from inside a Cracker Jack box she'd think it was the most wonderful thing she had ever gotten, rather than someone who keeps financial score.
Yeah, I think she should tell him. Then he'll understand she made the money value of the gift more important than the heart behind it.
No wonder she's "uncomfortable" discussing this with him. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:15:03 PM | | Perhaps next year, she should get up and sit on Santa's lap and ask him for a new heart that appreciates the gifts people give her. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:17:05 PM | | gonzo took the words right out of my mouth. That was a well thought out analysis of the situation. That woman is the female version of a jerk. Not just a jerk, but a stupid jerk. She deserves losing, what I suspect, is a great guy. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:35:51 PM | original poster,
without having read all the responses in detail, my immediate though is that if she had made her feelings about his gift known to him right away, she might just have discovered that he bought her a $40 gift because he was sensitive about how much money she makes and didnt want to make her feel awful if she got him a gift she could safely afford.
your friend clearly could NOT afford the $400 gift, but likely got one just the same because she was trying to get him something that was congruent with the lifestyle he is accustomed to. and in my opinion, that's not wrong either. what IS wrong, is that your friend and her new beau did not communicate their way through this misunderstanding, and now are both alone and hurt when they could still be together.
tell your friend it is not too late, and she better call him before he finds someone else; by the sounds of it there is still time. best of luck to you and your friend. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:07:58 PM | | I think HIS amount spent was appropriate, hers was not. I am wondering if she was just looking for some reason to sabotage her relationship. She may as well 'fess up and tell him she thinks he's a cheap **stard, but I wouldn't expect that to go over that well. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 2:40:01 PM |
What would you want to hear if you were the boyfriend?
hmmm....i guess i'd want hear why some tube socks and a sweater with a ****ing reindeer on it cost $400 bucks. that sounds high.
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:20:33 PM |
She spent $400 and he spent $40. She made him a nice dinner and spent the day well.
She was appauled at how unthoughtful his gift was and saw it as a reflection of how he truly felt about her. Blah blah blah....
She sounds like an unappreciative brat that measures love by how much a guy spends on her. How the hell did he even know ahead of time she was going to spend $400 on him? she should've ASKED him first... maybe he would have turned the gift down before she pulled out her moneybags and expected the same in return from him (which she is not entitled to and he isn't obligated to do)
I hope that guy found someone way better & less materialistic for him.
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/4/2008 4:22:22 PM | | If you're really into someone you don't really care how much he spends on you...you'll be happy nonetheless with whatever it is. If your feelings for him aren't that deep, you'll be susceptible to being critical. I was dating this multi-millionaire guy once, didn't know he was at the time, and we stayed in the worst place I've ever stayed in in Whistler, and I've stayed in a lot of places there. The coach was sunken in the middle with springs sticking out, the stove was an old rusted campers stove...but I didn't care and I happily cooked us spaghetti on this old rusting stove....where if I liked him any less...then I wouldn't have thought too favorably of the situation. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:51:10 PM | so what did you do ggirl,, change your i.d.?? cuz ya sure didnt change this story,, im glad for that guy that he is rid of your superficial friend.
this story is the exact same on in the other thread you posted, same dollar ammount and everything.
they obviously weren a good match, she should be looking for someone just as superficial as she is. someone just as maniupulative too. perhaps then she will be happy.
i said it before and ill say it again, your friend is awful.
you say the gift was thoughtless when in fact what it was , was not of the same dollar ammount or close to it. sadly some ppl still equate the thought with the cost of a gift.
he is one really lucky guy to be rid of her and i say yeah,, she should tell him just what kinda female he was dealing with. she should be very upfront with him and tell him she was pissed cuz she spent $400 to his $40.
so did she give back the cd and the gardening tools?? did he give back the extravagent item she bought? ( you never mentioned just what it was she spent $400 on)? | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:58:57 PM | i wonder how many threads this chick is gonna start with the same sob story, and how many ppl have to post to her that SHEcoughHERFRIEND is a shallow golddiggin loser before she finally gets it.
gg,, you arent fooling anyone,, you are "the friend" and you are attempting to have anyone else validate your crass personality. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:11:08 AM | just had to chime in.....a past boyfriend for christmas bought me a strap on clit vibrator
any-way....weather it cost 10 bucks ...or was a 10 grand solid gold do hicky
all i could think of was ...what thought should i think counts
by the way before he could bend over i was outta there by new years
say...la...veeeeeeeeeeeeee gold dinker...middle finger....moon faker
live or be dry.....luv...**** nomore | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:54:09 AM | | Could he have been saving for a much more important gift? Maby he was strapped because she wasn't the only one he was getting gifts for (IE: family, friends) Tell her to stop acting like a spoiled little brat and go back and apologise for her actions. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:54:18 AM | | Could he have been saving for a much more important gift? Maby he was strapped because she wasn't the only one he was getting gifts for (IE: family, friends) Tell her to stop acting like a spoiled little brat and go back and apologise for her actions. | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:07:53 AM | OMG,your friend is a moron and women like her make all of us look bad.
It doesn`t matter how much he makes or how much she spent on his gift.
He should dump her for being ingnorant , shallow and a golddigger. | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:28:24 AM | She broke up with him because she claims that his Christmas gift was ignorant.
Rather than telling him how she felt and giving him an opportunity to explain or "do better" in her eyes, she just took the chicken's way out.
He deserves the truth, particularly if he is a decent guy. | |
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emena
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Joined: 11/18/2007
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:42:28 PM | personally if i was him- id be singing thanks be to god for finding out what a MATERIALISTIC B*TCH she is, early on...and id be WAVING BYE BYE TO HER WITH A SMILE
she's useless and he's WAY BETTER OFF | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:51:29 PM | | just a sallow woman what a **** you are to break up with some one over that that man should be happy a **** like you dumped him later he will be happy just another golddingger | |
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| He wants to know why they broke up!
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:52:36 PM | | a smart woman we need more woman like you out there loved what you say thanks from all the guys out here bye charles ............ | |
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