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Posted: 12/31/2007 11:06:58 PM | Yeah I would say that was a red flag. Big time.
Good luck with sorting it out!
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:04:10 AM | | Someone who is desparate to talk to you after one phone conversation is definitely needy. This is a huge red flag. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 11:20:42 AM | I am going through the same thing and I am kinda frightened now. I talked to this man, and well told him to cool it a few times. He actually posted my picture as his background on his computer, calls me constantly, etc. I do not move that fast. yes, we all want to meet the one, but I talked to my sister about this and she stated he sounds extremely desperate, Jeffery Dahmer type. He actaully told me.. once we meet get off POF because he will, I am like dude chill! You must start as friends first, yes I only date one at a time, and hope they would, but relationships take time to grow. mainly I really like the forums on here and told him that. He is very attractive, nice job etc. But last night he said.. just wait next new years Eve we will be together. I said I told you many times to chill, you are frightening me. I do not want to hurt this man's feelings, he seems nice, but I am to the point I am frightened and really do not want to meet him now. I never ran into this ever, usually I get players wanting sex, act interested when in fact they are not, I have never ran into someone so obsessive. he actaully told me my profile, OMG was everything he wanted in a woman!! I said, they are typed words, yes what I am looking for but please do not become obsessed over typed words and pictures. I said... we could meet and not even like each other, you are building up things way too quickly, and you might be letting your self down. He said he has a big heart and very open, what do I do?
I in a way do not want to meet him, I am afraid what may come down the road. I mean last night he called after midnight and asked if anyone else called at midnight. now I am very honest and open and I said yes a friend, a male friend, he said oh really, I said yes one of my gay male frinds, he still acted jealous.
is this guy, desperate, how do I tell him in the nicest way possible I do not want to meet him, I mean he said I will call you tonight, I said no, I will be in bed, he was like oh ok. and acted mad
I need advice on what to do and not come across as being a major bish, because I am very nice. but really I am frightened!!
I mean eventually we want some sort of attention from our partners, what is wrong with this man, insecure, I am not sure, as I stated never ever in my life ran across this type!! | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/1/2008 11:43:20 AM | ^^^You should start your own thread!^^^
Next call the police and run like hell!!! | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:11:15 PM | | if it's a one-time comment I'd say don't dwell on it unless/until it becomes a pattern | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 10:49:59 AM | | My advice is not to respond to two week + old threads that are long since dead and buried. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 12:36:59 PM | Such needy and worse yet, jealous types
can quickly make your life a living hell!
Be so glad that a man would reveal this so soon,
and run like hell Sister! | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/17/2008 1:05:09 PM | | I listened to myself, and most of the posters here. I never talked on the phone with him again. He said hello to me online a couple of more times and that's about it. It just sucked because he was single, never-married, no kids and around my age. waaaaaa. | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/17/2008 1:08:18 PM | So were the total wack-jobs that my Mother got involved with | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/17/2008 1:24:13 PM | I am sure that everyone else has said it... but yes big red flag. If he tries to get you to commit to something that early, he is the type that will throw it back in your face when you do not call him. OR he will just be calling the shots in your life.
He will not go crazy. He probably already is. Plus he should be calling you if he is interested! Unless he doesn't have your number like you star six sevened him. | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/17/2008 2:34:32 PM | Avoid him.
His claim that he'll go crazy seems to be an indicator that he is already there. | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/17/2008 2:53:50 PM | | I honestly believe it is a red flag. he sounds flakey and clingy. Change you number. | |
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| Question: Red Flag?
Posted: 1/17/2008 3:43:05 PM | [[[[You guys had one 45 minute conversation and he's talking about going crazy if he doesn't hear from you the next night? Asking you to call him the next day is acceptable, but practically begging is pretty sad. I suggest that you run the other way quickly. Because either this guy has virtually no relationship experience or he's seriously that obsessed with you. Both of those are BRIGHT FCKIN RED FLAGS]]]]]
Manipulative. Trying to make you do what he wants you to do. But then, you knew that OP. It made you uncomfortable. | |
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