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Posted: 3/12/2008 5:09:22 AM |
I 'actually' find myself attracted women of mixed race more than any other...
Yes, I caught the word actually too. It is QUITE telling.
Good sound advice for an honest racist...
That's the bottom line. At least with an honest racist one knows exactly where they stand.
However, finding someone from a different culture that shares my views on the world is a lot harder than finding a white woman who does.
There you go again. Colour does not equal culture. Are you going to really tell me that you don't know the difference between the terms race, colour and culture? Do you STILL get the fact that you can have 2 White people from totally different CULTURES? Do you not understand that two 3rd generations Canadians will likely have more in common CULTURALLY than an Italian and and Russian? Yes, this is true even if we are talking about a White Canadian and a Chinese Canadian vs a White Italian and a White Russian? Do you honestly not GET that?
Why am I surprised? Most school systems in Canada and the USA STILL don't bother to cover such basics.
Beides, who are you to tell me what I'm supposed to like & dislike?
Read what I wrote AGAIN! No one is telling you who or what to like or dislike? You are entitled to your prejudices. The bottom line is OWN them and have the cahones to call them exactly what they are. Why sugarcoat things? | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 5:32:41 AM | "Do you STILL get the fact that you can have 2 White people from totally different CULTURES?"
Of course I get that fact.
"There you go again. Colour does not equal culture" - I never said that!
But for me to find a Black woman that is from Polish/German heritage that has similar values, likes & dislikes, grew up in a similar family environment is a lot harder than finding a white one, it's that simple.
Even if a Black woman were to have grown up in my neighborhood, chances are, we would still have had many cultural differences, which leads to incompatability issues in a relationship, unless you were both looking to expand your horizons. Most ppl stick to what they know, they don't expand their cultural base throughout life. That's not racism. A very small percentage of ppl worldwide cross that cultural barrier. And it just happens to coincide with skin color, as that's a derivative of culture. (not even taking religion into account, which is the main factor most ppl do not cross the cultural divide when looking for a life partner)
How am I sugar coating anything? I'm saying I don't have a problem with a checkbox...
We simply disagree that it racism. I don't think it is, you do...
You won't really change my mind, and I don't care to change yours tbfh...
If there was a black woman out there who shared the same interests, shared the same views religiously, culturally, politically, etc. Skin color would not be an obstacle for me...
We all know it's hard enough to find someone you're compatible with from your own culture, let alone find someone with heritage from a different culture, that is similar to you... I'm sure some have done it, but it sounds like the odds are certainly not in your favor.
Lets not pretend that Black American culture & White American culture are able to produce ppl who can intermingle seamlessly in interracial relationships. That's not the norm.
Yes, there are whites who" act" black, and blacks who "act" white. But that is not the majority of America. Canada may be different, I don't know.
You can't force the mingling, you have to let time bridge that gap. So saying ppl of different cultures who refuse to cross that barrier are racist is a bit much IMO... It's a preference, and there is nothing wrong with it.
It time, we will all be one race, but for now, just deal with the fact some ppl don't want to date out of their culture/race.
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