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Posted: 3/1/2008 2:49:57 AM | Blondie, you are publicly lost...
people on here though should only go after white if they are white and black if htey are black. if ur black then u shoudltn even message a white woman. but then again there are some white women who date black. im one who is totally agaisnt it. but thats jsut my choice.
I'd take a deep breath to excuse your idiocy if ... Nvm. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 9:00:38 AM | Being a young black man my self i find it quite funny for someone to say i only date X race it seems to me that people who say that come from those kind of settings and never decided to step out the box and it is in these preconceived notions that the ignorance still thrives today i mean i know what it feels like to come from a family who only dates X race
my dad only dates black women and he is a Native my mother only dates black men and my grand parents on both sides dont like white people and even learning about all the things that were done to black people how could i hate them i dont i love all people i mean i do find that white people are funny when they ask why black people do this and that i know it is off topic but basicly what i am saying
is that the only reason one can say that they dont date X race is because u know nothing about them at least that is what i have come to know and see ill be that if all the people who say that I dont date X race and blah blah blah would take the time to just hang around and find out about that set race or races would be surprised to know that some times the most beautiful person in the world is the exact opposite of you
i love white women and i love black women I love all women there is no reason to hate all people cause when it comes down to it we are all pretty much the same across the board we are different variants of the same thing so my advice to you is to get out and try something different test the waters have some fun
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Posted: 3/1/2008 9:13:02 AM | i find it quite funny for someone to say i only date X race it seems to me that people who say that come from those kind of settings and never decided to step out the box and it is in these preconceived notions that the ignorance still thrives today i mean i know what it feels like to come from a family who only dates X race
Well it could be that but i would say it's more that people who don't date people of specific races are simply not attracted to the physical characteristics of that particular race.I know for me specifically there are certain races of which i have simply never seen one person who i found attractive,yet in other races i find their specific physical characteristics very attractive.
I know this is impossible for many paranoid minds to believe ,but sometimes it's not about racism at all.Sometimes it's just because as a race some people will not find your particular race attractive.It's hardly a big deal.I know i could care less if someone of another race found white people generally unattractive. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 11:51:55 AM | I just don't understand the racial restriction thing. I'm sorry, can someone explain how the color of someones skin makes them unattractive/attractive. Or are we going to bust out the "common" features of a group thing now?
Here's a funny thing, discriminating against someone for their race is racism. You can't work your way out of that. There's no way you can say, "But members of x group are fine as friends." It just doesn't fly, embrace your racism or give it up.
By all means, put it in your profile. Don't be a coward. If you are afraid people will tear you a new one, maybe you should rethink how you feel. I actually don't think people would actively do that.
The only reason I'm commenting? It's in the forum. I've come across a few profiles of women I would like to chat with, meet, whatever and they have clearly stated what their looking for something specific. Doesn't upset me. Here's a tip, don't say what you don't want. Say what you do what. I know that I, as intolerant of racism as I am, seem to be less affected by that.
I just shrug and move on. But please, don't try to act like it's not racism. It is, pure and simple. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 12:45:07 PM | I am not attracted to dark skin this is true.To me in my eyes it's just not an attractive thing.To someone else they may love it.I am attracted to very fair skin blond men like myself.I also am not attracted to men who are skinny,short,have big noses,are bald,have bad teeth,have a unibrow,are hairy and who are terrible dressers.
It's not always about racism.There will always be people out there who insist on seeing racist behind every bush ,tree ,curtained window and hiding under cars.You gotta watch the ones under cars because they like to bite.
Just like i don't find skinny men or hairy men attractive ,i dont' find dark skin attractive.It's not alway a racism thing.Sometimes it's just what we personally find attractive.Other people will find different things attractive then i do.It would be a pretty boring world if we were all attracted to the same things.
Many people out there find very fair skin like mine very unattractive.They find it so unattractive that the tanning industry is a big thing.Tanning booths ,spray on tans ,tans in a towelette and bronzers are available everywhere.Should i find this insulting and racist?No it's just what some people find attractive.My pale skin is a turn off for many.Should i insist that other look past my skin color?Should i call them a racist if they refuse?No i should not because i don't care what other people find attractive.If someone is not turned on by my skin color i am fine with that and i don't think they are a racist for not liking it.   | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 1:29:15 PM | GREAT post,,Rachelle. Could not agree more.
True,,there are folks out there who downright just do not like other races and who do not wish to associate with them AT ALL. That to me would be racism. But,,ATTRACTION is a whole different thing. 99% of the folks on here will choose the term PREFERENCE because its basically what it boils down to. Men/women who will not date an obese person (for example) will not say they have a body type restriction. They will infact say their PREFERENCE is slim, average,,,yada yada yada. I do not give 2 sh*ts about being politically correct.
As the man a few posts above stated,,,,his family members do not date white folks. Are white people going around throwing hissy fits because of that? No. lol My gf from work will not date white men. Uh,,,,so? lol
For most,,its simply a case of being attracted or not. Simple as that. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 4:52:00 PM | | Wonder if I can get away with changing my profile to say African American? It would sure cut down on the riff raff. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 4:52:19 PM | You have a right to date whoever you want to date. No one has a right to force you to date someone you don't want to date (at least not in North America). It would probably be a good idea to state what you are looking for including your racial restrictions in your profile. That way, no man who isn't White will bother you. No White man who takes a dim view of racial prejudice will bother you either. You'll attract only the people you WANT to attract. However, don't be surprised if during the course of your life, some people call you on you racial prejudices. You are entitled to them. OWN THEM. You shouldn't be afraid or ashamed to wear the label "prejudiced". You can't have your cake and eat it.
How does that old saying go again? If it looks like a duck walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, guess what? It's a duck.
You can't expect to display prejudices and not have some people call you "prejudiced" and possibly lose some respect for you. Why should you care? I am sure that these are not the people with whom you would choose to associate anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 6:16:15 PM | | I can understand generally not being attracted to a certain group of people. But there can be exceptions to that. For example, I am usually not attracted to Asian/Indian men. However if I saw a large group of Asian/Indian men, it is possible that I could find a few of them to be attractive. That's why I wouldn't put a racial restriction on my profile. As stated by other posters...Having a racial restrction isn't necessary racist ( depends on the reasons for it ), but you could be missing out on a potential great match. Also some ( not all ) people will use the word "preference" to hide the actual reason why they aren't interested in a group of people. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 6:24:45 PM | I have said it before on here that stating on your profile which races you find attractive and which you don't is a very bad idea.There would be no end to the hate mail.I may not be attracted to certain races ,but i am attracted to others.
As for slinging around words like racist and predjudiced,well sorry to break it to you my dear but to some extent each and every single human being on the face of the planet is predjudiced.No one is excluded.Not even you almond cookie.The definition of prejudiced is predjuding someone.Do i prejudge that when i meet a very short man or skinny man that i am not attracted to him?Yes of course i do.Do i think that a short,skinny bald man is a bad person and i could never be friends with him?No of course not.Do i believe myself to be superior to him?No of course not.
the belief that one race is superior to another. ... The belief that one 'racial group' is inferior to another and the practices of the dominant group to maintain the inferior position of the dominated group.
This is the definition of racism ,not your convoluted view of it.I do not believe that any race is superior to another.I have dated outside my race a number of times and almost married someone of another race.We would be married today if he family were not such racist.They believe their race to be superior to mine.That is racism.Your convoluted view that you are a racist if you don't find every single race to be attractive is false.I think you need to take that duck out back and shoot it because it's not a duck .
Oh and while you are shooting that mutant duck, pull your head up out of your a$$.It's killing off brain cells. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 5:06:15 AM | Let's keep this discussion civil and not resort to insults just because you are having difficulty countering an opposing point of view with reason.
To answer your question, no I don't harbour prejudices towards people on the basis of race. Like everyone else, I do have some bonafide prejudices that are directly related to character and the likelihood of success in marriage.
When it gets right down to it, it really doesn't matter how one defines things. We can't change the meaning of words just because we aren't happy with the words that fit our behaviour and attitudes.
Here is what Oxford dictionary has to say about:
prejudice
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1. preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or experience.
2. unjust behaviour formed on such a basis.
racial
• adjective
1. of or relating to a race.
2 relating to relations or differences between races.
— DERIVATIVES racially adverb.
racism • noun 1. the belief that there are characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to each race. 2. discrimination against or antagonism towards other races. — DERIVATIVES racist noun & adjective. discrimination
• noun
1. the action of discriminating against people.
2. recognition of the difference between one thing and another.
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:22:59 AM | | jsut becuase a white person does not date black does not make them prejudice. the problme is not that a person is predjudice but how others automatically start yelling prejudice. its the dumbest thing i think i have ever seen but there are people who wnat to start a war over it and it jsut makes no sense to me. some dont date black some dont date skinny some dont date fat some dont date for wahtever the reason. its just a choice . everyone of u that are accusing a person of being prejudice also has their own "dont date" this and that . so take a look in the mirror before u judge others ok. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 9:02:52 PM |
jsut becuase a white person does not date black does not make them prejudice. the problme is not that a person is predjudice but how others automatically start yelling prejudice. its the dumbest thing i think i have ever seen but there are people who wnat to start a war over it and it jsut makes no sense to
This woman will never get it.....she lacks the intelligence to figure it out for herself. Having said that I understand that people who don't continue to learn as they age will never get it. It has nothing to do with dating a person of a different race....it is the attitude......being Catholic I don't have time I have to many statues to worship..
Honestly you need to start educating yourself and helpfully your children it might save you from yourself...............Your attitude is frightening and you don't understand your narrow mind,,,,,,,actually neither do we.....that is what is so appalling about your posts.............Blue
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Posted: 3/3/2008 3:50:22 AM | | dear ms blue wake up and smell the coffee will ya. i dont have an attitude its u who seems to. quit whinning and live ur life the way u wnat and quit downing others. there is nothing appealing about you or your post. talk about lack of intelligence.. take a look in the mirror lady | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 4:08:05 AM | | I actually prefer some one a different race to my self. I seem to be more physically attracted to women who are asian, black, or middle eastern rather than a white woman. It's a fetish I guess. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 4:09:37 AM | Having preferences does not make one a racist.
Writing words like the ones below DOES.
people on here though should only go after white if they are white and black if htey are black. if ur black then u shoudltn even message a white woman. but then again there are some white women who date black. im one who is totally agaisnt it. but thats jsut my choice.
To repeat it, just to make it a little bit more clear. A statement like this is a racist statement:
if ur black then u shoudltn even message a white woman
Why?
Why?
Why?
Instead of calling names and insulting individual posters, own up your words and explain them. Why is it that an African American man should not even message a white woman? This is not "just your choice"... you made a claim that African American man SHOULD NOT EVEN MESSAGE a white woman. Explain that.
Ignorance is not an excuse...
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Posted: 3/3/2008 4:25:58 AM |
take a look in the mirror lady
The sad truth is that many people are ignorant and haven't any idea of just how bad they sound. This little person is one of them. So maybe explaining it in a very simple term will help her understand just how she sounds. Its not about what your attracted to that has inflamed the people on this post. It is how you have written it. Your true feelings come through loud and clear. But as everyone can see by what has been written it is self explanatory. The more uneducated a person is the more ignorant they are....it starts with parents and schools.......we can't overcome all ignorant people....this poster is a fine example....this post is so lacking in intelligence she will never get it..........She is probably at her highest skill level in education and coping skills.....as she has posted over and over again and keeps making a fool out of herself. She lacks the ability to see how appalling she truly is.........but water seeks its own level and wouldn't you hate to be on her level.......And by the way .......I am very appealing because my mind works.......... Blue | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 10:37:25 AM | | why is because its common sense alot of white will not date black. so why message them. is there somethign wront with their own color???why would a black want a white to begin with. i could understand if they were friends in real life and things went that direction but to be hunting them on net is a diff story. so to ask me whaty is wrong with the balcks that i wont date them i think u should be asking the balcks that question becuase its them who are hunting white instead of black. why dont they want theri own color? thats a question i would really like an answer to. do they not like their own color??? | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 10:43:24 AM | why is because its common sense alot of white will not date black. so why message them.
More racist and ignorant comments. Yes there are some white people who wouldn't date a black person for whatever reason. There are also some white people who don't care about race or even prefer dating black people.
is there somethign wront with their own color???why would a black want a white to begin with. i could understand if they were friends in real life and things went that direction but to be hunting them on net is a diff story.
Maybe some black people are attracted to people from various races. Maybe some black people are generally more attracted to white people. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 10:53:33 AM | | thjere u go so why is it ok for them to prefer white but it snot ok for white to prefer white? a black is not considered predjudice is he wants to date white so why is the white predjudice is he or she wnats to date white? as u siad above........attraction . so me being attracted to whites does not make me prejuduice. I have no problme with blacks other than im not attracted to them.......attraction is the key word. so why do people try to make more oout of it then it is??????????????? | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 11:03:22 AM |
thjere u go so why is it ok for them to prefer white but it snot ok for white to prefer white? a black is not considered predjudice is he wants to date white so why is the white predjudice is he or she wnats to date white? as u siad above........attraction . so me being attracted to whites does not make me prejuduice. I have no problme with blacks other than im not attracted to them.......attraction is the key word. so why do people try to make more oout of it then it is???????????????
You are missing the point. I don't think many people have stated that it is wrong for white people to be attracted to other whites. However it would be racist not to date a certain group of people due to false stereotypes and generalizations. It is also wrong to tell other people who they should or shouldn't date. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 11:28:23 AM | Having preferences does not make one racist. However, the desire for others to have the same preferences does. Why should you care what other people prefer? If enough people had the same feelings, it would lead to segregation. And segregation is one of the fundamental principles of racists. That's why statements like
if ur black then u shoudltn even message a white woman
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Posted: 3/3/2008 4:15:12 PM | | i never told anyone who to date and who not to date. thats their choice. we all make our own choices including you. in one of my previos post i did say i do not care what others do. i dont care who dates who i only care who i date. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 7:21:00 PM | | To sad to even comment anymore.......you will never get it or even begin to understand what you have written.........Blue | |
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