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Posted: 12/30/2007 9:55:11 AM | | well it depends on what kind of conversation you're referring to. dirty talk during sex is a huge turn on...but i share the opinions of the poster above regarding mood killing pillow talk. provided conversation in bed should remains sex related, then it's all good... ; ) | |
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| Conversation during sex
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:25:16 AM | prima, Intercourse during sexual intercourse can possibly lead to the latter being made all the better, but it's a matter of relevance to this end. Off-topic discussions can be quite the mood-killer ...and some of the noises made in the process can be very distracting (or mood-killers also, if followed by certain odors), but pillow talk w/ laughter has merit for making love as sex-done-right can be considered.
Not to digress too far from this topic, but I found it interesting that girls gave me more direction than I needed for other matters usually done in an upright position (Those Honey-Dos on her list intended to keep me busy), but turned mute and silent when I was doing my best to 'scratch her sexual itch(es)' in mostly horizontal and/or juxtaposed positions. I've yet to feel the need for 'dirty talk', but wouldn't mind it from the right company ...or her wanting me to utter what might turn up the heat for her. Ultimately, I'd only do so out of the greatest respect ...already established conversationally and via all else that we find to do together as a couple. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 10:46:54 AM | | I do not know if this is off topic or not but every man i am with asks me "Are you ok?" durning sex. Strikes me as funny. | |
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| Conversation during sex
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:33:49 PM | | I switch, depends on what kind of mood i'm in. i like to enjoy the "sounds" of sex without dirty talk sometimes. i guess i prefer quiet, but won't hesitate to tell my partner what to do. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 3:19:44 PM | | I like a man who talks dirty to me while we are having sex,it's a turn on. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 4:56:51 PM | Sexy conversations are a great "pre game" but during? Not for me.
So much can be said without saying a word ~
Although sexy "word's" being exchanged is a turn on during ... but not a full blown conversation. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 5:42:54 PM | Now you have me thinking ...
I wouldn't mind my man talking to me, but hopefully I'd be enjoying what he was doing to me more ... therefore not expecting me to respond with more than a moan.  | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 7:24:49 PM | Yes Im definitely a bit of a talker especially with new partners. I find it helps relieve the awkwardness and you can often find out a lot about what they've done before with other people, what they liked, didn't like etc etc than if you asked them over a meal.
Surprisingly not too many men I've met are put off by this chitchat. Some love it. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 9:51:36 PM | Mizbex,Buzz and of course Leanne..I agree with your comments..us men do need to be told what to do and whether what were both doing is alright  or | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 10:40:04 PM | Primavera, if I've read all your posts correctly, I believe you are asking about intimate words/conversations of caring, tenderness, desire, et al, as opposed to commentaries on the action in progress... if this is your question, then I say without a doubt yes, those kinds of words/conversations are always welcome from my lover (because my lover is my lover because I do love him) as are any words he feels moved to whisper into my ear while we are being intimate.
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Posted: 1/1/2008 1:41:59 PM | You are correct catabrie..
I've always felt for a long term, successful relationship...that making love...should be about far more then just 'sex'...and 'sex talk'...but about sharing an experience... intimate conversation.. even if it strays into the realm of normalcy from time to time...though teasingly talking about what restaurant were we going out to later, while she was getting close was often frowned upon..lol. :)
It should always be fun and enjoyable...and being 'in the moment'..together, sharing, conversing. I just feel these days there should be so much more...and find quiet while giving or receiving pleasure as unfulfilling.
I would think that over a long term relationship...the 'sex' talk would get a bit old. One of the challenges of relationships is keeping intimacy fresh...and making it a shared experience and fun...versus 'getting down to business'..makes sense.
Since i'm assuming everyone on here is not in a long term relationship, but some may have had some lasting 5+ years...and knowing what worked and didn't, the insights could benefit many.
I had a conversation 'afterwards' recently where I asked why she didn't let me know how things felt as we explored certain things..and she said she'd never really done that with anyone. Why is it as 'lovers'..we don't communicate more about what feels great and encourage our partner to try different things as well..I love that personally.  | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 4:25:00 PM | yes prima I agree..I must say having a "conversation" does summon up images of chitchat about politics and weather and philosophy etc - so in that sense I am not interested in having a conversation. I would find that somewhat off-putting to say the least and somewhat of a commentary on my ability to help her escape the normal conversational thought processes.
However, I am all for a woman that can talk openly about what she is feeling physically or what she wants and what feels good and so forth...that in my mind is all part of proper intimacy. Unfortunately, it is this that is too seldom found in women I find. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 6:48:05 PM | | This brings to mind a hilarious evening when my somewhat dim-witted friend Donald scored at a party we were having. We heard them in the next room having sex and the entire time he was talking about the weather and how it had been rather sunny that day and then proceeded to discuss the upcoming weather for the week. I don't think I've ever laughed so hard in my life. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 8:58:34 PM | | Ok Well, theres talking and then theres talking! If some dude talked about the weather when we were having sex he would find his ass out on the cold pavement where he could judge for himself in the weather forecaster had indeed been correct! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:07:09 PM | The weather..
Oh baby...i'm going to bring the rain like a Category 4 hurricane...you'll be left shaking & a'quiverin' and so wet that you'd think it was a tornado plowed right through you..instead of.. . Before i'm done with you, you'd think with all the groundshaking going on, the granddaddy of all earthquakes was rolling through...but 'twas just the bedposts slamming back and forth darlin'...
Yep...weather is dull. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:09:27 PM | I don't mind but prefer to focus on the task in hand! It wouldn't bother me but i'm usually too busy screaming to talk!!!!!!!
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:05:39 AM | | I'm quiet during the act. Maybe a moan will come out but not very often. But conversations during sex?? Na a turn of for me. I like quiet. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:11:39 AM | I like conversation during sex; but, I do like that conversation to be a bit one sided. That means I like him telling me how much he is enjoying it. That is a turn on.
I don't like it if he asking me too many questions...it is sometimes a little hard to be coherant and I really don't want to have to think. Maybe if it is questions like "do you like that baby" and all I have to say is ah huh....that would be good | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:12:15 AM | | in my profile i was specific about wanting to find a man who will talk to me while making love to me so, i think its very important. if you can communicate on that level with someone i feel like you can communicate on any level. and besides...who wants to be with someone that cant let you know what feels good and what doesnt...thats a waste of time. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:12:46 AM | Talking is great, but sometimes a couple needs to just enjoy each other. If a couple talks it should be low and sweet.....except at the end when it's the crescendo...just like an orchestra at the finale!!!!!!!!!!! DAAA AAA daaa taaaaaaaa TAAAAA TAAA dummmmmm DEE daaaaaaaaa da da daaaaaaaaaa! ha ha ha
Nothing like a woman who enjoys it at the end and wants it all!!!!! Yes yes yes!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:24:28 AM |
I like it when my partner talks to me during sex to let me know he is enjoying the experience -as much as I am. Yep! I used to have an active sexual life with a woman who was a financial advisor to Wall Street...she loved when I read the end-of-week stock market results to her, especially if things were looking UP! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 10:57:28 AM | | Hm, I kind of like dirty talk, but not TOO much of it. Don't require me to answer questions. Don't ask me about the bills and dogs and did we shut the garage door? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 11:04:36 AM | Yes I do like "talk" during the intimacy... but it has to be focusing on making things more arousing... I dont want to hear:What do you want me to say? or kid talk or anything else...
I dont really think about what i want to say...the words just come when im in the moment... and hahaha come to think of it... makes him laugh...
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Posted: 1/3/2008 11:07:58 AM | | I like when my gf talks to me about what makes her feel good. After all, how else will I know. Tell me where to touch you and how and I can make it very exciting. Besides, I AM guy and would rather think with my penis than my brain. | |
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