| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:10:08 PM | I don't agree with Ferret..at all! Just sounds like a dream worls..a romance novel!
I'm a realist..and in order to get to know someone..rather than some fantasy man..you have to have the reality with the romance. Romance me..and be realistic with both of us..yourself and me. Maybe that's where some of the marriages here have gone wrong..wanting a romance novel to come true..instead of incoorporating reality with romance. POP went the magic bubble! Ferret..buy a doll! That way you don't ever have to conversate about how work is..and the kids are..and life is!! Like Cher in the movie "Moonstruck"..Ferret.."Snap out of it!!!" | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:03:56 PM | I do agree with Ferret, because I have lived a romance. Yes, it did end in separation, but it was beautiful while it lasted and for a while I felt like the most treasured woman in the world. Yes, I did my best to treat him in kind, but other issues got in the way. I believe it is possible for it to happen again--I just have not matched up with that fish
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:46:02 PM | For me romance is about sharing and the best way to be romantic is to make the other person feel special
Romance isnt as much about giving flowers or candy as it is about just giving something to someone to make them feel special. I have done some romantic things such as a smal gift or setting up a night with special foods or activities that me and my significant other would want to share. Or even something as mundane as doing a chore for someone to free up their time so they can spend it doping something they enjoy rather than spending time taking care of a chore they need to do.
From giving massages to cooking dinner or even just setting up a night for a quiet walk or doing an activity out of the ordinary just to break the rut is all things that can be romantic.
The best romance is always when you share and both enjoy it.
So nah I still love to be romantic. Is alot of fun and never dull | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/1/2008 10:16:14 PM | ...Society has changed so much over the years, all the dos and don'ts...what acceptable and not.....Personally I love it when a man surprises me with a card or a single rose...I think thats romantic .....a simple little gestures like that is what keeps the romance alive in a relationship. The thoughtfulness is not only appreciated, its heart warming....I hope romance never dies.
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/1/2008 10:21:12 PM | | Maybe my romance ability has been all used up. In the past when I experienced the magic of romance it was out of this world. Today, it seems very plastic......or maybe I am just meeting plastic people. Time will tell which is reality. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/1/2008 11:07:02 PM | OOTD..
What other issues could there be..if you're only living in a dream world?
Romance is wonderful..but reality is where romance makes it's biggest impression on me. To be able to hear him say.."Hi honey..I'm home!"..and to be able to ask.."How was you're day dear?"..and really mean it..and more so..to really listen. That's what makes all those hand-holding..wine sipping..warm fires..cool evening boat rides..all worth while. It's being able to say what's real..and still have a romantic candle-light dinner for two. We exist in a real world. If we use escapism in a relationship..then what type of relationship are we getting? I want one with substance..not some fantasy dreamworld..where we both think (adolecently) that we can run away from our everyday problems and issues. That doesn't solve those problems..and not being able to relate with someone on those issues..isn't what I need in a relationship. I want someone elses opinion on the difficult decisions..I want the wisdom of a man around my own age to engage in conversation..not to dance around the truly important stuff. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:12:08 AM | I like romance -- but I'm not looking to be "swept off my feet". Just a sweet, caring, romantic gesture now and then. It's the fact that it's not expected that makes it romantic. That said, I want both...I want someone with whom I can feel comfortable, have a great time, live a good life -- who also has a bit of romance left in him.
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:31:44 AM | I have living proof that romance can last a lifetime. An example to me is my aunt and uncle sqealing and running around chasing each other after 50 years of marriage. I sure hope I live and learn. As for me. I live in the real world of day to day living and do not discount romance. I am well aware that the hum drum of daily living is more prevalent and look forward to that lifestyle. Romance to me means coming home at the end of the day and glad to see each other. I may not have the energy to run from you but I sure do have the energy to listen. Now, come Saturday..........  catch me if you can. Sunday? A day of rest. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/2/2008 12:25:18 PM | I do miss romance,,whatever happened to it..even at my age I get butterflies in my tummy, I still love to hold hands,,problem is its been a longgggggggg time since i found someone like that, romance never has to die..romance and living now that's the best combination I ever heard of,,,good luck
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:55:38 PM | romantic isn't in the eyes of self. It only matters if someone else think we are romantic. I think I'm rich. I think I'm handsome. I think I am a good find. I think I'm romantic. I think I'm funny. I think I'm sexy. Haha. But if no one else thinks so....what does it matter!................................................ JMO | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 12:48:39 AM | Ok ,, I see lots looking for the romance , etc etc etc ,, is this really important at this age in life , or is reality a better option ??
If we spend a lot of time romancing , we may have little time left for living ,, which do you prefer ??
OK It may sound wierd to some, but I just feel reality is a better option from day one .
I don't think there is anything 'unreal' about romance: it is just one facet of existence. And I do think we need it, especially as the world seems to becoming more cynical than ever. A pendulum swing back to a time when people were more idealistic and appreciated art, beauty and romance more on a daily basis would not come amiss. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 2:56:30 AM | The other issues in that relationship were all females....................
The current relationship, he is extremely romantic and so am I. We live the day to day stuff, but making the other feel 'warm and fuzzy' is what it is all about. Picks flowers out of the garden and puts them on my bedside table, sends me cards, give me cards, and other tender things. Romance can and SHOULD be a great part of a relationship unless BOTH parties don't care for it. One sided won't work unless the one who is not romantic is willing to do so for the one who likes it. The unromantic person will soon become so when they discover the rewards..................oh, yeah!   | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 10:02:21 AM | romancantic guy lives in wisconsin . romance is something better then full blown sex . romcance this guy and he will NOT leave you . romance is what makes a relationship . once a week sex . but , romance will cause this guy to have the same emotions as you ladies do after a guy has had sex with you .  this way ladies . to wisconsin . stop in oshkosh . | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 2:51:54 PM | | I am romantic and a dreamer and I'm passionate. There's nothin wrong with that. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 3:34:53 PM | ^^^Well God help me then! I need "inspiration"!!!
OT: Definition of romance? Hmmm...wait a sec whilst I go an google it!!! | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:21:32 PM | | Being romanced or being the romancer is all good. I think the passion and enjoyment in either position changes considerably when your older and for the better. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:29:48 PM | I think I am still romantic.
I mean, it feels like it is in there.
But until there comes a person to share it with... it sits fairly quiet, inside.
It softly surfaces when I listen to beautiful music, write certain words, see lovers share a look, sit by the ocean, and other lovely or peaceful moments.
So I'm pretty sure it's in there. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/22/2008 9:16:40 AM | | Romance ... I lived in one for ten years. She died in a auto accident. The pain was ... great, but the joy, love, wonder, ... we had was worth every bit. Would I do it again? Does a bear sh*t in the woods? And better this time, I know more. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/22/2008 9:24:16 AM | | Romance means different things to different people. I find alot of men trying to "romance" me initially will buy flowers or chocolates................I'm afraid I see that as really trying to hard. But true romance comes from the heart, in my opinion, and I would fall at the man's knees that could read beautiful pages of poetry to me that would sweep me away.............. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/22/2008 10:23:54 AM | | My reality would be romance. A touch, a loving glance, a tingle, all are important to me in a relationship. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/22/2008 2:00:20 PM | | Dating is about romance in my op. Reality is when you decide whether or not the romance and the feelings are strong enought to overcome disadvantages your potential partner has. lots of folks marry or settle for someone just so they are not alone. they dont value romance much. i understand them, but pity them a great deal. i kept to marriages alive long after they should have been dead trying to fix things that were too broken to fix. thats what those convinience type relationships feel like to me. i think most of us want romance but lets face it, its risky. people put their emotions out there and there is a risk of major pain and reopening old wounds to boot. guess romance is like most things in life. you risk more, you win more or you lose more. | |
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| Romantic !!!! Are we still?
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:40:55 PM | Both! I'm a realistic romantic! To me romantic means you know and do the little things that let that special person in your life know that you think they are special - it doesn't always have to be candlelight and roses or sexy lingerie.
Romance can be as simple as cooking their favorite meal, making sure their favorite shirt is ready to wear to that outing that is planned, fixing/creating something that makes their daily tasks easier to do, slipping their favorite snack into their bag/lunch for them to find and smile at knowing you were thinking of them when you put it there. My favorite, curling up on my guy's lap sitting on a porch swing in the evening, watching the sunset with my head on his shoulder listening to his heartbeat.
Romantic reality is a surety if two people are committed to working together, working hard to understand each other, remove the 'one-upmanship' from the relationship (unless you're playing pranks! hehe), and just plain playing together.
OH, dang! Good movie preview, good movie preview - sorry! "Nights in Rodanthe" with Richard Gere and Diane Lane...
I know, I'm wierd - don't care! LOL!
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