| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 12:52:00 PM | Okay...look...
I NEVER believe when a woman says that.......never. And I never will.........
Because what they are really saying is....'GOOD looking men, of the same genetic superiority don't want to seem to get past my good looks and get to know ME...'.... They fail to mention that they ignored all of the AVERAGE to below average guys who DID try to get to know them past their outter beauty...... and the average ones STOPPED talking them all together because, well.....she set herself up for the failure for having the very physical qualification requirements in order for a guy to be considered worthy of finding out her INNER BEAUTY.
It's hogwash........ Surveys have already shown that physically attractive people DO get more in the ways of jobs, opportunities, and higher wages..... Why in the WORLD do I want to feel sorry for them with some whiny bull of how nobody wants to see their 'inner beauty', when they used their exterior beauty to get what they wanted in the first place?? Or did anybody NOT watch 'The Apprentice"???????? That's why I had to rely on TALENT to get what I got in life where beauty failed me........ | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 1:48:40 PM | I've chatted with this guy who after a couple of days of chatting he just disappeared. Awhile later we started chatting again and he tells me he thought he wouldn't have a chance because I was too pretty. Ya know, that really burns me. I don't chat with anyone without seeing a pic first because yeah I do have my preferences but why would I continue chatting with someone for no reason? What the hell...are some guys really that insecure or is it just me? Or do guys think women are so hard up that they will resort to chatting with just anyone...no matter what they look like. lol..sorry about that but it does burn me.
It's also very controling when men cannot get past the looks of a women and take a look at who she is on the inside. They don't give her the opportunity to beautifully unfold and be the woman that she truly is...very controling. I personally enjoy doing things for that special man in my life and making him feel special...but what the hell...get over the lust and let her show you an even more beautiful side of her.
I have been on a couple of dates in which I was completely analyzed and picked apart simply because they thought I was too good to be true. Felt like job interviewes and needless to say, I didn't take the job. Since then I have changed my profile and if there's any question about the human side of me...ask your mother.
I used to debate on the blessing/curse thing with looks...but it truly is the individual women and who she chooses to date. If he's a bonehead and can't get past the looks then he's out...period. If he can appreciate a beautiful women but has the ability to look beyond that then he's a gem...much more likely.
Hell yeah I'm glad I'm good looking....who wouldn't be? Strut my stuff and talk shit...definitely. You gotta problem with that?.....then get yourself an insecure Klingon and knock yourself out. JMO | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:02:37 PM | " The Curse of the Beautiful Woman " . .
She's Intimidating to some . . Admired by Many . . and Envied by other women !
I was fortunate enough to meet . . and Marry one . .
Only to have the Honeymoon tragically cut short . . after only 5 years . . !! | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:08:52 PM | msg 28....
Sorry hon..... but if you're walking around day to day with the same 'tude' that's literally REEKING out of your profile........ you proved my whole point.... What DECENT man is going to actually try to get through to THAT...... And even though I CERTAINLY can undestand your sarcasm in your writing, all you wind up showing is that you are FAR from approachable to any man who actually has good intentions. NO MAN is going to risk having that attitude rear it's ugly head sometime down the road, even if you were pleasant as punch in the initial onset.
See....men will tell you that they are intimidated by your beauty..... but what they're really saying is, because you KNOW you have your beauty - you will use it as a ploy to get what you want from somebody else if the man somehow unintentially fails to be able to provide what you want.... Just how EASY is it for a woman like you to get all dressed up and go out to get some new ATTENTION when you've finally thrown a temper tantrum by not getting what you FEEL you're entitled to??.
It's great that you're intelligent as well as beautiful.......but from that profile writing....even your beauty won't save you now....... | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:18:41 PM | It's a curse,. a terrible curse! Take it from me, I know..
I'm never understood, or wanted for my soft heart, or beautiful intellegence! Oh,. woe is me.!..I suppose I'll have to bear the brunt of just being yet another tastey piece of meat to the slavering fangs of the horrid wolves in little black dresses, or the cougars gripping claws,. for another 45+ years till my beauty finally BEGINS to fade, and I can finally be appreciated for "me"... .........................
Even I couldn't keep a straight face with that stuff  | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:27:36 PM | As much as I _Dispise_ Conceit . . . . I still Admire Beauty . . !!
In an effort to avoid extreme disappointment . .
I'll often just send a 'Note of Admiration' to someone that is fairly obviously
'Out-of-my-League' . .
An 'Off-the-cuff' compliment Can reap rewards . . . on occasion . . !!
. . .  Suprises Happen . . . | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 4:12:59 PM | Well I am average looking and I think thats a curse.
Beautiful people get in the door much quicker than an average looker.
I think men in general are looking for beauty,its said because the one they might really be compatiable with is that average looking one.
Don't get me wrong I know a lot of beautiful people and they have hearts of gold
I'm just saying that in reality it harder for the average to get looked at.
I'm a real nice person and easy to get along with whats wrong with that. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 5:26:56 PM | Good looking, a blessing or a curse? I don’t know, but I’d be willing to take the risk and find out in the name of science. I’m sure being ridiculously good-looking would be a tough row to hoe, but it’s preferable to being a tough Ho who smells like roe.
To be good-looking is one curse I wish I had been blessed with.
Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful (there are so many other reasons!) | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:57:31 PM | Becky_J,
Boy, dash got that one smack on, didn't he. Sorry I got here late 'cause that would have been my next post. And I assume you feel that your last post here just somehow adds to your allure? | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 8:20:26 PM | +1
Dash has hit the nail on the head throughout this whole thread. Every guy knows the "attitude". "Boohoo no one sees the real me!" LMAO Yet, someone average approaches them and see what reaction they get! Very hypocritical.
You find a lot of the really beautiful ones are very spoiled too (bad stereotype but that's just what I've seen very often). Seems like they haven't had much hardship in their life and it comes through in their personallity. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 9:44:16 PM | A closer inspection of a large number of profiles on Plentyoffish shows that most of the people w/ profile pictures on here are unburdened by the curse of good looks.
They can safely go about their daily lives.
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:03:49 PM | Well, said, theinker.
I'll add that I read somewhere that someone did research on news stories of accidents. It is very common for journalists to mention when the killed or injured person was an attractive person, especially if they were female. The researcher said it indicated a subconscious belief that if a beautiful person is damaged, the accident is more important, or more tragic. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:10:43 PM | Sorry hon..... but if you're walking around day to day with the same 'tude' that's literally REEKING out of your profile........ you proved my whole point.... What DECENT man is going to actually try to get through to THAT...... And even though I CERTAINLY can undestand your sarcasm in your writing, all you wind up showing is that you are FAR from approachable to any man who actually has good intentions. NO MAN is going to risk having that attitude rear it's ugly head sometime down the road, even if you were pleasant as punch in the initial onset.
See....men will tell you that they are intimidated by your beauty..... but what they're really saying is, because you KNOW you have your beauty - you will use it as a ploy to get what you want from somebody else if the man somehow unintentially fails to be able to provide what you want.... Just how EASY is it for a woman like you to get all dressed up and go out to get some new ATTENTION when you've finally thrown a temper tantrum by not getting what you FEEL you're entitled to??.
It's great that you're intelligent as well as beautiful.......but from that profile writing....even your beauty won't save you now.......
After reading this profile I have found it very comical to say the least. Definitely LMAO to think that this little comedian got you so riled. I think this Becky J has basically said what every other woman would like to say in the frustration of dating, but they fear rejection. I certainly don't see any fear reeking from her profile.
I believe the personality of woman such as this is not in the least bit concerned about needing to use her beauty as a ploy, but rather knows exactly who she is, want she wants, and is able to obtain that on her own.
Maybe she's weeding out all the POF'ers who claim they have a sense of humor. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:20:54 PM |
Ms. Merlot,
I just read your profile - it's got to be the best one on P.O.F.!!
Oh my F'n Gawd, I have to totally agree. Your profile is by far the best one I have ever read on here, you are a f'ing riot and have an awesome sense of humor. Your rock!! And to address the original post, I suppose beauty can be both a blessing and a curse, but I also suppose that is something I will never get to experience. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:21:39 PM | *sigh*
the physical attraction in relationships is so important yet so insignificant.....
I'm average....or below average depending on who you speak to, and many of my friends are quite above average....I get overlooked everywhere and when i'm not overlooked m beautiful friends say hi and I become overlooked lol
it's not their fault...........
whether ure ugly or pretty it's all people see at first.....lol my looks make men not approach me and my friends looks make too many approach them......it's ridiculous. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:39:12 PM | Supragurl, just pick uglier friends...
Ohh that is a commercial... You're a think, and when someone looks at you, they don't see that glazed over I'm so purdy look.
I have two one 23 and one 20 both are beautiful and incredibly smart... It used to pi$$ my oldest off that all her good looking friends were noticed... She figured out how to balance her life and give a glazed stare when needed, the rest of the time she's finishing up a 2nd degree after her bachelors.
You are a beautiful girl, I have no doubt the rest will catch up with you. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:53:28 PM | I read message 22 and I'm reminded that (IMHO) an attractive woman, if she also has been blessed with intelligence and some class in her upbringing, will determine if and when she is viewed as a 'sex object'. She has nearly total control - by how she dresses and otherwise presents herself.
How much would you bet that the complaints about 'being looked at as a sex object' only come out when the complaining lady is not interested in the guy doing the looking? :-) | |
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