| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:53:28 PM | I read message 22 and I'm reminded that (IMHO) an attractive woman, if she also has been blessed with intelligence and some class in her upbringing, will determine if and when she is viewed as a 'sex object'. She has nearly total control - by how she dresses and otherwise presents herself.
How much would you bet that the complaints about 'being looked at as a sex object' only come out when the complaining lady is not interested in the guy doing the looking? :-) | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:05:12 PM | hmmmmm people's personalities tend to go a lil wonky when in the presence of the very good looking...and that's never a good thing....because a natural conversation can't unfold unless a bunch of alcohol is consumed to numb the senses....
I think that being in the spotlight can have some very negative effects on someone's mental state if they're not the type of person who likes that attention...it's true that there are a handful of very beautiful women that are complete messes on the inside....
ahhhh it is definately a BLURSE! | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:15:52 PM |
good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Beauty alone..a curse
Beauty along with intelligence, class, and a great personality..is a blessing.
@supragurl
I'm average....or below average depending on who you speak to
Your definetly above average..you just havent figured that out yet..
JMHO
MAPT | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/31/2007 9:03:40 AM | | I don't post a lot, but read a ton. I see a lot of women say that they are average or below average in the looks department and I think to myself what are they smoking. Or if they get comments from other people about the way they look, I think those people need glasses or are completely blind. I think it's just been drilled into women's heads that if you aren't drop dead gorgeous you aren't pretty. There are a really good percentage of women here are well above average in the looks department. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/31/2007 11:30:47 AM | I've honestly thought about getting uglier friends haha!
although...I love the friends I have and I'm not sure how to go about being friends with someone for their looks hahahaha, it's just not feasible.
I'll figure sumthin out! | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/31/2007 11:53:07 AM | Believe me supragirl... You have very striking eyes. I do believe when you decide you want to be noticed then you won't be able to keep the guys away from you...
BUT you are on a mission, and not willing to mess that up with someone that will complicate your life...
Good luck... I love seeing women refine their intelligence over being a Beauty Queen... | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:08:03 PM | egbdf , you made a very interesting point about messenger 22.......I didn't want to come across as judgment, RUDE or jealous... Cause I have learned often times if a person makes a comment the retort is your just jealous...
egbdf , you make a great point by what you say about a gal having complent control...
I can remember one time coming into a restaurant with a friend, classy dressed, and as we left, he asked me what it was like to have all eyes on me? I said what? Didn't notice...
Of course a gal notices, it is what she does with these looks and or attention that gets her treated more as a piece of pretty tail, or not... I was there with my friend, not picking up strangers...
I have also learned if a gal is with a guy, don't focus on her man, focus on her... You won't be considered a beauty threat, but just someone really friendly... I also recall reading someone saying pretty people get smiled out... Welllllll hello could it because we might be smiling??? Drives my kids crazy that strangers will come up and talk to me in the store or places we go... BUT it isn't not just men, it is women too, because once again I am out with my kids, and am NOT looking to be picked up...
AND YES, I have gotten discounts that I have seen steamed the heck out of other customers... Hate to admit I am willing to use my CHARM to get a good deal, but ya know those mark ups on tires really do need to come down...
egbdf ...I really think you hit the nail on the head with this whole post, especially about women complaining that people sees not interested in are salivating... I don't generally feel victimized by my looks... And as Supragirl on here has proven, some of us were convinced we were ugly because we had some hot sister to compete with... In the mean time we went out and develop a brain and a personality... It is generally later that we discover we have looks too, and we learn to balance these things out... | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:24:25 PM | Beauty is only skin deep.~ Pink Rose Lady
>" I'm tired of all this nonsense about beauty being skin deep. That's deep enough. What do you want? An adorable pancreas?" (~ Jean Kerr, American writer)
> Peter. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 2:50:20 PM | | I would take the curse of beauty anyday. Who cares if your personality sucks along with your conversational skills. In our world it's what's on the outside that counts. Heck if I could go on extreme makeover I would. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:34:56 PM | | Who decides if you are good looking or not.I know some of my male friends find certain women attractive that I don't and vice-versa. I am sure that this would apply equally to the female of the species.That is if two women together see a man walk past, one might find him attractive and the other doesn't. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:44:11 PM |
Asking a question like this is asking a question like, "Big pen!s....a blessing or a curse?"
That depends on how big. It can be a curse if it's too big. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:45:24 PM |
I've honestly thought about getting uglier friends haha!
although...I love the friends I have and I'm not sure how to go about being friends with someone for their looks hahahaha, it's just not feasible. Believe me supragurl, you have nothing to worry about.
If I were closer to your age, closer to where you lived & if I were better looking I'd date you in a second. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 9:15:40 PM | I'd say it's neither! It depends on other factors. Now, that's for dating!
In other areas of life, good looks can only help! It's been proven! In studies,
even small children make more positive assumptions about good looking
people!
I've heard that old idea that good looking people sit home alone, because
people assume that they are busy! I don't really buy that! Then why are
the best looking women quickly married, it seems? | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 10:29:09 PM | There are far more ordinary looking people than extraordinary. If you are extraordinary looking and want someone like you (so called "in your league")- you have far less people to choose from.
I think people who are healthy inside and out but not really extraodinarily good looking have it easiest. I think some if not a lot of that is within our control too so that's a good thing.
Good posture, healthy habits both mental (shows on your face) and physical etc can keep almost anyone in that range. There is quite a lot of choice in the matter. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/28/2008 11:00:24 PM | Here's a thought: BOTH of your friends are NARCISSISTS. BOTH of them are so wrapped up in their own identity that they FAILED to even acknowledge that YOU, indeed were paying attention to them without regard to their looks.
BOTH of them totally ignored that you saw their plights and had deep discussions with them. BOTH of them were so blinded by their self-importance that they couldn't even recognize when someone was being kind and attentive.
Maybe they should try to see the personality of others instead of fishing for compliments 24/7. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/29/2008 10:16:07 AM | I think its a bit of both. Good looks are a blessing because you will be given a lot of attention and opportunities in life (especially dating/relationships). Having said that I think it can also be a curse because you will never be 100% sure if someone loves you for who you are as a person or just for the way you look.
A woman I was involved with in the past deliberately talked down her looks during the online stages and even sent me a fake first picture (less attractive than her real one) to test me out. While it may have been deceptive, her reasoning behind it was that she wanted me to like her for who she was, not what she looked like. Luckily I don't have these doubts, if someone likes me i'm pretty sure it has little to do with my looks! | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/29/2008 12:32:18 PM | Both
there are advantages and disadvantages. The main disadvantage is that some people are intimidated and will not approach, or they think if you are attractive there isn't any depth to you. The main advantage is that there are psychological perks.. there have been studies that have proven that the more attractive someone is the more opportunities there are in life, even better job ops and such. I saw it on PBS, they did a whole study on it. And it all seems to be subconscious. | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/29/2008 12:40:57 PM | I have a guy friend who is absolutely gorgeous. To HIM, it's a curse. Why? Because he makes it so.
All that time and energy and money, put into his physical appearance. The shots, the plugs,
the supplements, the waxing, the laser treatments, the tanning, the blah blah blah....
Me? I'd rather let Momma Nature take her natural course and when the neighbors start screaming and running away from me when I venture out, THEN I'll head to the plastic surgeon. Til then, I'd rather do without all the trappings that the beautiful people live within.
Nothing better than just being a bit above average.  | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/29/2008 1:07:56 PM | bullie.....
You promised you would not tell anyone or talk about me concerning this...... 
OT........Nothing wrong with seeking what you want.....just becomes easier if you offer what you seek...... 
Just my opinion.........  | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/31/2008 12:49:19 PM | Apparantly i'm good looking (so i've been told). That must be why I never get any messages on this site, or why nobody ever replies to the ones I send.
Bah | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/31/2008 2:02:56 PM |
I have a guy friend who is absolutely gorgeous. To HIM, it's a curse. Why? Because he makes it so.
All that time and energy and money, put into his physical appearance. The shots, the plugs,
the supplements, the waxing, the laser treatments, the tanning, the blah blah blah....
A guy does all that?!? On this note, The Killers' song comes to mind
"Somebody told me that you had a boyfriend who looks like a girlfriend..." | |
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| good looks...........a blessing or a curse ?
Posted: 7/31/2008 2:33:11 PM |
The main advantage is that there are psychological perks.. there have been studies that have proven that the more attractive someone is the more opportunities there are in life, even better job ops and such. I saw it on PBS, they did a whole study on it.
The University of Stating the Blindingly Obvious really do carry out some ground breaking research don’t they.........!! | |
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