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Now lets not be hasty, Dad never said that. Dad just wants to complain, its not like he really wants the kids. He just wants to complain about the cost of them. Whew that was a close one for Dad...

Dad just wants to complain, its not like he really wants the kids.

95% of custody cases are decided in favour of the mother even if they dont have the financial means. I believe this man is well off because he picks and chooses his battle well.
The dad here is not complaining. He seeks fairness and justice. 99% of dads want their kids. They just dont want the B/S and greed from the ex that comes with it.

Exactly he's already complaining and he doesn't even have kids.

As far as men in general, I live in Texas and their not complaining, so I don't have to think again.

The poster above you is female and gay so ah probably not gonna have kids.

$800! I don't know where you all get your figures and where you see all these "single moms living off their child support!" I couldn't even pay a house payment with mine.

some dads are excellent...but i find most aren't and that's speaking from experience not heresay

,...you haven't even had any children

I don't have to be a soldier to know there's a war going on in Afghanistan.

In the United States, 10 states (Colorado, Delaware, Florida, Indiana, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, Oklahoma, Oregon, and Washington) allow courts to demand an accounting on expenses and spending from custodial parents. Additionally, Alabama courts have authorized such accounting under certain specific circumstances.

1. The objectives of these Guidelines are
(a) to establish a fair standard of support for children that ensures that they continue to benefit from the financial means of both spouses after separation;
(b) to reduce conflict and tension between spouses by making the calculation of child support orders more objective;
(c) to improve the efficiency of the legal process by giving courts and spouses guidance in setting the levels of child support orders and encouraging settlement; and
(d) to ensure consistent treatment of spouses and children who are in similar circumstances.

Reducing Conflict Over Child Support
Reduce the Hostility over Money
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Understand that the residential parent has some base costs for housing, electricity, etc., that must be paid even if the child spends time with the non-residential parent.
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If you are on the receiving end of the payments, it is helpful to provide a simple accounting of how the support money is spent on a quarterly basis. This is not to say that you need to submit a detailed down to the last penny accounting of the support payment, but you can do a lot to demonstrate to the paying parent that the money is being used for the child or children rather than for yourself.
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If the support check does not arrive, don't use this as an excuse to deny visitation. Your anger and resentment are understandable, but using your child as a tool to punish the other parent is also unacceptable. Denying visitation punishes the child more than the other parent, and can bring about further court action.
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Share money limitations with your children but not your anxiety and worry. Kids need to understand why they can't eat out as often, but they don't need to share your stress.
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Don't try to assuage guilt by spending money, buying presents, and otherwise indulging your child to make up for the divorce or the time you are away from each other. Also, don't give your child things that you know the other parent can't afford. Playing the part of a "Disneyland Dad" or a "Merry Mom" not only encourages a child to build unrealistic expectations, but also can lead to manipulative behavior. Playing one parent off against the other is not a positive situation for the parents or the child. If there is something special that your child would like to have, plan with your co-parent about how or whether that particular purchase can be made. Sometimes proportional sharing of the costs is a fair way to provide for special needs or wants.
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The paying parent may want to pay for some expenses directly rather than pass the money through the other parent. This sometimes helps remove some of the distrust about money and helps overcome the feeling that the money is being used by the other parent for his or her personal benefit. Make sure that the other parent is agreeable to this and that he or she understands and agrees with any such change in normal child support procedures in writing.

7. (1) In a child support order the court may, on either spouse’s request, provide for an amount to cover all or any portion of the following expenses, which expenses may be estimated, taking into account the necessity of the expense in relation to the child’s best interests and the reasonableness of the expense in relation to the means of the spouses and those of the child and to the family’s spending pattern prior to the separation:
(3) In determining the amount of an expense referred to in subsection (1), the court must take into account any subsidies, benefits or income tax deductions or credits relating to the expense, and any eligibility to claim a subsidy, benefit or income tax deduction or credit relating to the expense.
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13. A child support order must include the following information:
(e) the particulars of any expense described in subsection 7(1), the child to whom the expense relates, and the amount of the expense or, where that amount cannot be determined, the proportion to be paid in relation to the expense; and
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19. (1) The court may impute such amount of income to a spouse as it considers appropriate in the circumstances, which circumstances include the following:
(a) the spouse is intentionally under-employed or unemployed, other than where the under-employment or unemployment is required by the needs of a child of the marriage or any child under the age of majority or by the reasonable educational or health needs of the spouse;

It seems to me that Canadian Law has left enough loopholes open for a good lawyer to make sure that all of the money goes on the kids, that she only spends a reasonable amount of money on them, and that the rest goes for schools, and for a trust fund for college.

If the Pre-Nup determines that he will remain primary caregiver of the children, the whole concern of him being bent over backwards for child support will no longer be an issue.

I told him that in North America (unlike United Kingdom), there is no maximum child support hence people pay as much as $5000/month for one child depending on their income.
Anyway does this make any sense? What normal child needs $5000/month? I read of a dad who paid such ridiculous amounts (average of $6250) for 13 years and therefore felt justified not leaving anything for this kid in his will. He had 3 other kids, btw!

What a load of B/S. Honey, its the other way round. Most dads are excellent. Its most of us women that are just plain spiteful and revengeful (including you and me)! Speaking from experience!!! Hun..how many men have you married to "get this experience

So, Star.....where do you get your stats anyway???????