| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 1/12/2008 12:04:03 AM | Amen to your comments about betrayal Tears5... and yes its cheating ... lying ... misleading ... etc etc ... . I am sure alot will agree with what is being said ! I know I do >.. I was the other women . I too was fooled by the same man .. Empty promises .. empty lies in the emails .... false words of encouragement ... false words of meaning what he really wanted in his life ! dont ya just love them ! So yes place a testimonial on ones profile to let them know what you are feeling and you will see if you are being betrayed ! YOU will find out quickly !!!!  | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 1/12/2008 12:13:17 AM | | Yes you definately did the right thing you know what they say once a cheater always a cheater. My common believe is most guys are like that nowadays | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 1/13/2008 5:14:07 PM | | yes u were right dumping him. i did the same thing to my wife, i was online on these sex sites, she set me up 4 a meet after she found details on my emails and i went, dont know why, but i did. i regret it deeply, but the trust has gone, no way back for me now, ive tried. so any guy out there tinking about it, think again, you may have a lot to lose. it is just not worth it, ive found out the hard way. ive lost the woman i love, just for sex, it just isnt worth, it trust me. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 1/13/2008 5:23:07 PM | With today's technology, most people are secretly online chatting to people while they are in relationships. You can't get secure with people you meet, because the minute they get bored with you, there seems to be a few others just waiting to take your place. It's exhausting and discouraging when your mate can find instant gratification by logging on to the internet. I think this alone is a big reason why relationships are becoming more and more rare these days - people don't work on anything because they don't have to anymore... uggh! I'm too the point where I just can't be bothered and prefer to stay single - less stress and no guessing!
So yeah, he was cheating... good to hear that you got rid of him; don't second guess yourself hun. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 1/13/2008 5:26:10 PM | | TOTALLY right for ditching the loser! Don't let the jerk play you for a fool. My ex-husband said the same kind of crap when I caught him messaging girls saying "you're exactly what I'm looking for" and "we should get together some time." He apologized profusely, BEGGED me not to leave him, and BEGGED for a second chance. We weren't married for very long, so I gave him a second chance, only for him to do the same crap again not even a year later. We've been separated for over a year now... I can't wait until the divorce is finalized!!! | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/3/2008 5:55:12 AM | First of all, I am a strong believer in being Honest and Sincere. I have a rule, don't ask a question you can't answer yourself.
I don't think it is cheating until you have met the person face to face and are actually in a comitted relationship. On-line dating is like normal dating. Until the person is willing to commit to the realtionship, then and only then can you say it is cheating.
For your information, I do chat with a lot of ladies, and yes, my wife knows that I do this. Not cheating! | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/3/2008 6:11:05 AM | | you did the right thing. if you guys were in a relatonship there is no way he should be e-mailng other girls and setting up dates with them. I guess he wanted to have a relationship, plus have his fun on the side. he would have meet her and perhaps gone further had you not found out. Be thankful you found out when you did, you did great by dumping him. life goes on. If is so hard to have a relationship these days, because it's hard to find honesty in a mate. take care I wish you well. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:21:31 AM | | you've kicked him into touch, your gut instinct told you to, its time to move on, forget him, you can do without anyone who can do without you, | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/3/2008 9:47:38 AM | | TO EACH HIS OWN, BUT WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE, IS GOT ONLINE AND MET SOME HOT GUYS MYSELF, MAYBE EVEN HOOKED UP WITH ONE OF THEM. GUT THATS JUST ME. I DO THAT SORT OF THING ANYWAY. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/4/2008 9:30:09 PM | | Well my mom doesn't think that chatting with guys when you are in a relationship is good, but I have a wonderful guy and he doesn't mind me chatting with my friends that I meet before him but, but my mom acts like I am a criminal for doing so. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/4/2008 9:44:51 PM | Hi:
My girlfriend just did the same thing this week - thats why I joined the site.
We were dating for 2 years and then a friend told me she was online. So I set up a profile and sent a little e-mail to which she responded that she would love to chat and asked for pisture. I didn't let it go past that - my heart was broke.
When I mentioned I had seen her here she said it was an old profile and wasn't actice - then I told her it was me she responded to.
I ended it but still struggle with it - not as easy for the brain to rule the heart.
I noticed no one here thinks it just for "fun" that does make me feel better | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/5/2008 9:04:45 AM | I think he was having his fun flirting, like he said. He was already going out with you at the time, so then it would be cheating. I think the only thing he was sorry for was that he got caught, so after a year? Let it go. 
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/5/2008 9:05:58 AM | Hmmm...You had your account since 2005 yet met your BF in 2006, kept your account open (for what reason) while you two were dating??
How exactly did you find out about his "cheating"
You also have quite a nice list of interesting relationship posts for someone as young as you are. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 2/5/2008 2:14:29 PM | I agree with this post (57)! All in all this internet media is virtual reality, not in person. Yet it gives temptation to all that have a tendancey to want to cheat. as did the phone!
I do agree if one or the other mate has a reason to doubt their s/o then there should be a candid open honest conversation about what the other expects, remember no one is a mind reader.
There again the reality is meeting the contact in person, the net is only a carrier of what is punched by the person on it.
Innocence or quilty can be proven at anytime thru high technology, many a court case has been proven that way! Think about it.
Whenever and until the "RING" is placed on the others hand you are single , But when married , the rules change unless there is open minded mates without jealously and insecurities within themselves. IMO | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 3/11/2008 2:15:23 AM | | Cheaters are never satisfied....they are always searching for the "greener grass" or get tired of the flowers in their own yards and go pick elsewhere... online dating is still evolving too...I agree with Carpe Diem... What matters is you trust the decision you made about it...The betrayal always hurts....One day you will stop thinking about it or doubting yourself....Is kinda natural to reflect on those things every once in a while...is a part of "growing" and learning.... | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 3/12/2008 7:47:36 AM | | Yes, you probably were as he was yes shopping and probably would of left you or ran around when he found what he was looking for. Had a ex. husband and last boyfriend who felt it was just socialising or fun. But it is cheating and evenutally leads to something and you get hurt. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 3/13/2008 12:22:54 PM | I have read and read about men and women projecting thoughts about the internet sites as a media for cheater and calling their b/f or g/f or s/o hand about being on these sites. I restate my opinion about this being only a media site" for viewing " not connecting --- but it could be for entertainment - although most are seeking a new partner for a friendship- friendship relationship- soulmate - companionship or long term relationship or even a lover status .
There are to many approaches that can be classified to sterero type what one is looking for.
I totally disagree that one is always looking for a significant other- as a cheater from their presaent life style of being single and /or in a relationship status .
Ex. I live out an area where the social activities in town are miles away from my home. I view the sites as entertaining and educational for anyone -some forums you take with a grain of salt as do you take the profiles! The entertaining from the forums comes in all kinds of opinions -answers- and interpretations from people who have experienced life and the problems one faces.
The forums are as innocent as the print- just reading material as is a talk show on T.V-- "THUS-- ENTERTAINING" Everyone to their own as being here!
Yes when one is accused of cheating then it on the other person conscious with insecurities and jealousy and control issues!
There again there are many ways to cheat on your S/O other than blaming theses media site of the internet. Nothing hidden- nothing lost-- yet open honesty in the long run!JMHO | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:04:45 PM | | I believe it is cheating because usually the outcome is your going to meet the person your talking too. I use to talk to a guy almost everyday for two years he was always asking for pics and trying to get me to meet him. come to find out whole time he was talking to me he had a girlfriend he was getting married to in a couple months and he was still trying to arrange a "date" with me, I confronted him about it and emailed his girlfriend to give her a heads up, he denied whole thing to her and the idiot believed him. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:25:22 PM | | Wonderful guy??? Your ad says he's basically a deadbeat and your looking for something else. My gut instinct was right about you. Keep playing and you will get caught. Obviously, you are full of ______( have your local sanitation dept. fill in the blank here!!) | |
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