| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:27:49 PM | Totally right.
Either he's lying to you or he's lying to not be bored.
Either way...he's playing a game with someone.
Not ethical nor honest. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:36:17 PM | | It's cheating. I can go you one better. My ex is now married to the woman he was cheating with online. And I am doing just fine. Now that I am single, I have met some wonderful people on line, many that I will never meet in person because of distance, but still special people who have added to my life. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/28/2008 2:45:47 AM | Regardless if he was doing it for "kicks" or an ego trip, the bottom line is that lying is lying.
And lying in a relationship about talking to or meeting someone else on the side is definitely cheating.
Dumping him was the best thing the OP could have done.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/28/2008 2:55:01 AM |
he told me he loved me, would never cheat, and would of never met her even on the day. he said sorry alot and even told his parents what he did.
It still amazes me how some women will believe every word that comes out of a guys mouth. So if he says he's a billionaire then its true? come on.
You were not wrong. its about actions and respect. His actions showed disrespect and emotionally he was cheating on you. Do you think they just exchanged emails? I could imagine their text and chats.
You did the right thing; good for you; don't stand for nonsense; tell him you are not a toy to be played with and love isnt' a game for you. Character is what you do when no one is looking; well he showed his true character; move on and get a real man. good luck. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/28/2008 11:18:53 AM | | this is the way i see if u take ONLINE for personal use then yea its cheating, internet online what ever u want to call it its basis was solely made for entertainment.. many people say i dont think i could fall in love with someone online... when most do. yall rat on guys how were deceitful and cheat when females unlikely are similar as long as human race exists nothing will ever be perfect....i think it should be fun JUST online.. now maybe he was a dumbass for telling her where to meet him everything has its limits so when i becomes personally then who ever gets caught is a cheater.. if yall havent then more power to yall... thats my two cents and **** love.... | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/28/2008 7:56:28 PM | | You did the right thing. Unfortunately there are many guys out there who just can't be faithful. I was with someone for 7 months I met on this sight. Things started going down hill so one day I decided to do a basic search on here- low and behold he had a profile on again! Of course he used the excuse that he joined it "to look me up" yet joining isn't necessary to find someone and anyone with half a brain knows that. SAYONARA and good riddance LIAR! Even your boyfriend never met her, the damage was already done. And even more importantly, 99.9% of women value respect more than anything. That goes out the window when a guy hits "single" and then that submit button. Plenty of fish out there, next time don't settle! | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/28/2008 7:56:50 PM | I met a man who put GOD as an interest posts himself as a Baptist looking for a long term relationship and played on my faith and my vulnerability!!!!!!!!!!! I gave him just a little bit of space to test his honesty. I watched the roses and favorite list activity. had some women here in POF just click his profile. and get this....................
HE SENT this woman that she has great long legs and he wishes that she lived closer
and I have e-mails that from other POF women that he hit on while he developed a relationship with me his staggering sompliments and comments EEWWWWWWWWWWWEEEE and he still has GOD in his profile to lure somemore vulnernerable women into his pant~fly trap because he is a disgusting dog.
TOTAL PLAYER with no honesty who really hurt me. He is actually worse then my ex-husband. And my ex husband sent me pictures of him having sex of with another woman.
So, I consider this man lower then low!!!! And YOUR MAN S U C K S
GO FISHING WITH ME LADY!!!!!
THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT THERE!!!!!!!!!   | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/28/2008 11:51:59 PM | You probably were right, but then again, it depends.
I've always been myself, online and off, but so many I've talked to online have had the attitude of, " don't be so serious, you can be or do anything you want online, so why not do it?" That is not to say that he was or would cheat on you in reality, just that you had evidence that was very convincing and his admission that it was a "game" to him. He might have cheated, or might not, but from what you wrote here it became a mute point after you discovered the messages to another woman. You say he even told his parents what he had done...that (to me) would indicate he never intended any harm and probably did see it as just a fun past time. Unfortunately, it seems others share that view and don't stop to consider that some online and offline seek to meet others with serious intent. They end up getting hurt by those who "play" with no real intent to follow through in mind. Your guy may have seriously only been "killing time" and trying not to feel quite so lonely, but he was very insensitive to you and to the other party by what he did. That is why I said you were probably right to "dump" him, as you put it. | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/29/2008 12:13:19 AM |
he sais it was a game. Its really, really horrid, your perceived beauty of that person is completely drained out. Nothing left. Forget the money, the looks, if someone cannot be straight, that hurts more than anything in the whole world. I feel for you. Damages you for life. Hope you get over it. There seems no level that some will not go too ! | |
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| betrayal online: is this cheating or fun?
Posted: 7/29/2008 12:19:55 AM | | I think he was only playing. If you really loved him, you should have overlooked it. Or did the same thing, turn about is fair play. You should not have said anything to him about it, then on the day he was supposed to meet this girl you could have played decetive and followed him, that way atleast you would know for a fact he was cheating. Sometimes men need an ego boost from another woman. Or you could have always proposed an open relationship, but that life style isnt for everyone. Anyway that is just this peoples opinion. | |
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