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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:04:28 PM | DoctorG2003 wrote:
I certainly have no interest in the old and overweight women who appear in my "viewed me" page.
What! What! WHAT! I thought that was just me. I am sure they are all nice ladies, but I am sure that many of them could not make it up the Great Wall either or the stairs to the 10th floor. Sorry, but I have put in the time, work, and effort to help keep myself in shape and healthy, and looking younger than my years so I don't see why I would have any obligation to choose any woman who less than that no matter what age she may be.
Women have exactly the same right. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:04:35 PM | I'm over 50 and optimally seek those who are young looking in appearence, attitude and physical ability simply because I myself look, act and feel younger . I don't believe age is the issue more so the aforesaid. I have dated both younger and older women and would not limit myself based upon age. I have good genes and expect to be around a long time and would only hope my mate be at my side as long as possible.  | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:27:48 PM | Everybody who is seeking/wants to get into a LTR with someone who is 20 years their junior...think and be realistic.... will that person still be with you when you are 60 and they are 40 or you are 70-80 and they are 50-60.
With the onslaught of these online dating sites, the odds are they will be on here seeking another who is closer to their age at that time.
There will be those who stick around while the money is plentiful...but, really, don't fool yourself thinking they will remain loyal. A rare...rare...few will...that is true...but, the majority will leave you in a NY minute. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:29:29 PM | | I'm on the same page as krimeariver... I stay in good shape and look a bit younger than my years, am very active and healthy. Age doesn't matter (not at my age,55)... it's more about compatibility physically as well as anything else. On the surface I'd take a lady with no children or no children at home... my preference is to date one who could move into my home. But, all of that is asking a lot of someone who is settled and has vested interests at home... so, pretty much, if I meet a lady I'm truly interested in she will be quite rare indeed and probably local. I love kids but wouldn't want to raise them. Too, not many are as trained as my children were and it is very frustrating for me to deal with ill mannered children....so, although I can appreciate the lithe & nubile bodies... I'm chasing me some fine grand ma's...as far as some silly 5 year rule...nah, throw the rule book away... I'm too old to not get some kind of slack for my dementia. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:38:19 PM | It's just overwhelming for me to try to plan where I"ll be in 5 years, let along 15. I thought my marriage would last til I was dead. Assuming the divorce gets finalize soon...that won't be true.
So I guess coming fresh off of that my perspective is to live and be happy and don't worry too much about age or where we'll be in X number of years.
To me...a ltr will happen when I look back and realize we are still soppy wet happy after a couple of years. In other words, I don't plan on planning a ltr, but I'll be thrilled if I end up in one...eventually.
I'm in no hurry, that's for sure. I would have a hard time, being in my 30's, dating someone under 30. But I'm pretty open to dating older than myself. Being attracted to the person and having good chemistry matters more to me than the age. Maybe that makes me a hypocrite to go up in age but not down...but then again, I do have a history of dating older men or men my age, so go figure.
I think my biggest no-no is that I don't want to date a man who is looking to hurry up and get married and have a bunch of babies. That alone makes me tend to look to men older than 40. I don't want to remarry til my kids are mostly grown and I don't want to have any more kids. Well, biologically, I probably can't. But I am done with that part of my life and I'd hate to fall in love w/someone who was hoping to do that soon. So I guess that makes me find older men attractive. Of course, they don't want someone my age because I have kids. So I'm screwed either way? LOL I think there's some middle ground to be found.
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:47:19 PM | When my Dad stops by tomorrow, I will show him this thread.
He will be 70 in March and dates more than either of my brothers.
I have yet to see him with any lady older than 55.
No, he aint rich, but he's a load of fun and in great health.
I'd be willing to bet he can out dance just about anyone on this thread. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:47:33 PM | Doctorg,
I would agree with you if the timeframe was back prior to the household use of computers. Honestly I believe a lot of society's acceptance (older men with younger women) offer up the opportunity to explore better avenues. Prior to the internet, many women felt trapped at home ... be it younger wives or same age.
Not saying it is a good thing...this fairly new widespread avenue of the internet...simply stating it is force to be reckoned with. The incidence of older women with younger men was not near as abundant as the older man/younger woman and the playing field is becoming more and more level in that regard.
It's not something men will be willing to accept easily..unfortunately, it is a sign of the times.
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Hunter (aka.. my bubba),
Just saw your post after I posted mine. You and your dad are the exception to the rule. Because you two are such dynamite men! Wabbit will atest to that on both of you.
Hugs.... from yer sissy (aka Gossip Girl) | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:02:38 PM | GG you bring up some really good points... Our world as we know it is changing so quickly. Esp w/the baby boomers getting older.
My grandparents generation is almost gone...they were the little white haired and grey headed grammas and grandpas who were happy to go to bingo and then go home and watch soaps. No...not all of them. A lot of my Granny's friends partied and danced their way thru old age. and continued to date/marry until elderly. But come on...not all that many of them.
My parents are starting in their 60's and they aren't planning on retiring any time soon. In fact, after they do retire, I expect they'll start new careers. They have a much m ore active life than I do - since they don't have kids to pay for or raise.
I think singles their age have much better health overall than the previous generation did and a lot more opportunities to date. The internet is one, but also I think our expectations have really changed about when someone is "old". I know my mil got divorced in her 50's and to my knowledge she never even considered dating. OTOH, my aunt has been divorced for awhile and she is in her 50's and she dates like mad and enjoys all that comes with dating men. She is in the prime of her life! (lol I actually did a search to see if she was part of POF but couldn't find her)
I think that with improved health into the 80's, we can expect that the age range of what's appropriate will change and become more and more flexible.
Will be interesting to revisit this topic in 10 years or so!
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:21:39 PM |
Melo I can relate exactly to what you wrote. I am 59 and recently (last year) came out of a 5 year relationship with a very attractive and intelligent lady, who just happened to be 22 years my junior.
I certainly have no interest in the old and overweight women who appear in my "viewed me" page. I am currently seeing someone who is 12 years younger than me, so I am getting better
DoctorG, I have no need to dis women my age, nor unnecessarily hurt the feelings of women, who are overweight.
Other than that, though, it's ironic, that after my relationship with a woman 25 years younger, I ended up in a relationship with a woman, who is 12 years younger. It feels, comparatively speaking, as if this were a "peer to peer" relationship. Maybe a 1/2 way thing. Regardless, a 45 year old woman is a "grown up" in a way that my ex gf wasn't, when we met, at the age of 27. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:25:01 PM | "I certainly have no interest in the old and overweight women who appear in my "viewed me" page."
Let me clear this up for you. They don't always view you with interest. I do it because they may have been on the forums, and also because the picture is so small I have to blow it up. Sometimes I do it a couple of times, because the picture was so small I didn't remember looking at it the first time. Unless you get an email, ignore who viewed you, it probably means nothing. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:32:23 PM | A friend introduced me and I dated a woman for a month... she routinely kept me out till 3, 4, 5 in the morning. When I found out she was 65 I dropped her like a rock.
In 15 years I would be her age... in 15 years I would most likely be burring her!!!
Now I'm all about better/worse etc. but I am not willingly going to stack the odds against me.
Give me someone near enough my age in my same physical condidtion and I'll take my chances.
Oh and BTW, on the same hand, I would not burden someone significantly younger than me either. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:39:08 PM | I only date younger men. You are correct about the sex drive. Men my age are only interested in you cooking, c leaning, and taking care of them while they sleep in the recliner.
BTW Dave, I am 63 and have no wrinkles, will you be able to be the same when you are 63, and can you still get it up without Viagara???? | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:42:23 PM | I’ve referenced the actuarial tables and I should already be dead. So much for that theory (but I still can’t get life insurance…)
I believe I actually DID die when I turned 30, but continue on in some form of “alternative lifestyle” that includes an odd predilection toward wanting to eat brains.
Media and the single, over-40/50, etc. male and, apparently, female: “they” would have us all believe that the absence of Viagra, Cialis, name-brand/generic/homeopathic versions of same in our lives means we’re ABNORMAL if not imbibing! An erroneous conclusion, to be sure! To coin a phrase, “there may be snow on the roof, but there’s still fire in the furnace!” dammit!
Regarding Anna Nicole Smith: anything that would keep her in the public eye for just one more minute! was acceptable! Ultimate irony: I thought after she died, they were going to nominate her for sainthood! Kind of like a drunken guy said to me after finding out Elvis had passed on, “Good career move (belch…)”
Agree with “Doc:” good post Krim and, pursuant, good post Doc. I have little interest in dating recently-exhumed corpses (mostly, though, because their brains have already been eaten!)
In short, age is growing increasingly immaterial. I’ve known 60 year olds who looked far better and were in better physical shape than many 40-somethings (I’m not going anywhere NEAR “below 40,” though. Not right now anyway!) Only a few of those had availed themselves of cosmetic surgery (that was a joke, kids!)
And, by the way, HAPPY NEW YEAR! (why am I pounding away on this thing when I could be out looking for that 20-something, high fashion model that doesn't happen to resemble a heroin addict, has millions of dollars, and who has a Ph.D. in something like neuroscience? I'm sorry, but someone said something about, "delusional," I believe? | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:44:10 PM | Men my age are only interested in you cooking, c leaning, and taking care of them while they sleep in the recliner.
OMG...you must have been dating my stbx!!! LOL He's only 46 though. I guess he's just precoscious (sp???). Ahead of his time???
I call him "the lump"...as in, comes home from work, and puts his arse in the recliner and stays there like a big lump.
Good riddance! See ya! Can't wait til the divorce is final!
oops, edited to add...you didn't mention randomly pick really stupid fights. Guess it wasn't him after all.
Kaylie
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:45:21 PM | I certainly have no interest in the old and overweight women who appear in my "viewed me" page.
Just because she looked does not mean she is interested.
I realize that there are women out there my age who are fitter than me, but they are a rare animal, elusive, and they are looking for guys 20 years younger than them
I have taught dancing on Thursday night, worked all day on Friday, done a play on Friday night getting home about 1am. Left home for hike by 9am Saturday for 10 miles, back home to shower before going to a dance. Dancing until midnight, going out to breakfast and up in time for early church. Trust me there was still time and energy left if the right man had been available and I would not have been concerned about age if he had kept up with the rest of my schedule.. But I would like conversation with commonality. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:45:27 PM | | I think that Op are asking a question that is impossible to answer unless you are not over 50 and just got married...If I should guess,I would say a ten year younger than me,but who knows where love will take me when that time comes. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:14:43 PM | LET ME HELP ALL OF YOU...
Hi. Let me help you all. First....women never give up on sex, They never decide they have "out grown" sex or believe men will just not want it never again. Women who never liked sex believe that sex is not important,,,men will "out grow it" and don't believe that sex is important in a man woman relationship.But sex will always be important to a woman who loves sex.
My proof? I'm 53 and I'm always being hit on by women as old as seventy. So if your woman say's "she's just not into sex anymore",,,,it's that she's just not into sex with YOU!
I don't want a woman younger than I am because a mature woman is a better lover than a young one. Just ask,,,,is Sophia Loren not attractive at 50? Then understand that what a twenty five year old thinks is "yuckkie" is why the woman at fifty brought her own batteries...lol.
I do think it is important to mention that American Women , for most part, have way to much a value of their love. I'm not trying to sound racial, but, I'm sorry to you if you think everyone is wonderful and there are no whores anywhere on the planet. But Asian and Hispanic women understand the value of an older man. They want to love him and enjoy his love,,,,but understand....after he dies, he will thank me for my love by leaving me everything he owns. Anglows seem to think four years,,,a single child,,,and it's time to "make a change" and take half and move on. So you don't think this relates to our subject? You aren't thinking.
The issure of "Should a Man Marry a Younger Woman?" Yes he should, Men need the passion of sex all their lives. Until a medical condition stops me,,,,,I want sex. I've learned to think like a woman,,,(God forgive me..lol). I've asked woman who were older, whom I wanted to set up with a man. Three times in a row they just spealed out their conditions.....He must own his own home, not have a medical problem, must not have children and must still be sexually active.. So it's alright for a man to ask...."how is your back, neck and knees"...lol.
I like women my own age, But if you think men will "grow out of sex",,,,forget it. | |
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