| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 11:42:33 AM | I always look for the "oldest" woman I can find and hope that she can afford me......wait.......I meant the "youngest" woman that I can find, and hope that I can afford her.......  
OT.......Who gives a flying F___ what your age is as long as you both are attracted to each other, can give and receive similar things the same way, enjoy each other in and out of bed, and have the chemistry to make it all happen????......
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 3:08:14 PM | c_deacon wrote:
OT.......Who gives a flying F___ what your age is as long as you both are attracted to each other, can give and receive similar things the same way, enjoy each other in and out of bed, and have the chemistry to make it all happen????
Well, that about says it all. Age is only the business and concern of the 2 people involved and if they are fine with it, then everybody else can take a flying leap. Love is rare enough without putting arbitrary limitations on it. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:31:39 PM | Hi Kaylie:
This is a subject I've thought about over the years. I have several friends who have successful relationships with significant age differences. One day when I commented to my friend "C" about not ever being attracted to older men, she told me: "I didn't fall in love with an "older" man, I fell in love with "J"."
I'd really like to think a relationship is more about love, commonalities, friendship, trust & not about age. I prefer people who are "young" as far as attitude, activity level, open mindedness & I have friends of many different ages. Our society is very "ageist", especially when it comes to "older" women with younger men. I think we sometimes devalue wisdom & experience. Why is it okay for old men to marry younger women? Have "trophy" wives? But if women marry/date younger men they are "weird"?
My main concern if I dated a much younger man...say 10-15 years difference in age, is that eventually "age" would catch up to me & I would become a "burden". I've mostly dated men my age or a few years younger. I know this is "cliche", but most people don't believe me when I reveal my age. Yes, some things have changed as I've gotten older, but getting older doesn't need to be an "excuse" for anything.
Thanks for your questions & insights. I've known some people who are born old & some who are ageless. Ideally, age shouldn't matter. (Unless of course we are talking about people who want children...then that comes into the "equation" & men have the advantage there...not that I would personally want kids late in life. Not me, I'm glad my kids are adults & I have the freedom to make a "new" life.)
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:10:14 PM | I hunt cuz i can
Your father is the example of the answer. We have a physical age and a mental age and a social age.
Some people are broken down at 40, and cannot keep a 40 year old happy. Some people are in great shape at 70 and can out dance 20 year olds.
Some people act childish at 70 and have a great time with 20 years olds. Some people are very serious at 20 and have to find a 60 year old.
Then we have the problem of social age. I am in China, here the rule of thun is to marry a woman half your age plus 7 years. You are 20 you marry a 17 year old. You are 50 you marry a 32 year old. Society accepts it. I am 52, if I marry a 33 year old it is accepted here. I have children who ate 32 and wold think I am nuts.
So the bottom line is forget about society and be with someone you like. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:50:25 PM | I can't answer that question really...my life has always been such a contraction, that if I dare say out loud that I would (perhaps) prefer a younger man, the gods of the universe will hear me and they'll send me an older man who will rock my world just to prove me wrong...lol!
To be perfectly honest, age is of little importance to me. I realize that there are many issues with a large age difference, but I've always been a realistic person. If I should go with a much younger man than myself, I would be going with both eyes wide open.
I might be old, but I ain't stupid or naive....not by a long shot. In my world, there are no guarantees and nothing last forever anyway... this would no different.
I also know that I'm near my "expiry" date, and that this old house is quickly losing it's "market value" (I'll NEVER get over that fukin thread), but I also know that there will always be some buyers who are interested in old houses with character;)
So I guess the bottom line for me is that I just don't give a damn how old or how young my partner should be...as long as I don't have to change his diapers either way, it's all good:)
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:57:33 PM | I'm not so much concerned with the age aspect . .
..{I'm fairly open to Anyone}..
as much as several other topics discussed elsewhere in these forums . . along with . .
the Chemistry and ability to express Affection Openly . . !! | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/3/2008 10:25:25 PM | I would much rather marry someone born in the same decade as me. If the chemistry is there, the conversation and affection flowing, then we have something worth pursuing.... I don't even mind them a few months younger than me, tee hee!!!    | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:36:16 PM | I'm neither married, nor age 50...yet...
I really don't want to marry anyone regardless of age, but I sure couldn't be with someone drastically younger...too much of a physical, emotional, and cultural gap that I haven't the finances, strength, nor emotional stamina to bridge...I went through that time already...I don't want to do it again...
An older woman...I don't know...I'm not too interested in venturing in that direction either...I'm going to get there soon enough myself as it is...Why rush it? | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/4/2008 5:24:40 PM | Oh, come on!
Someone who is aged has had ' the opportunity' to grow from experience, and can 'act' what they have experienced.
A young person is at the threshold of life to begin experiences.
The depth of a person is indictive by not age: but intellect, compassion, desire and soul. Some people grow from life's experience, and some do not.
Regardless: an age gap widens with time. If a person were 16, it is unconceivable to date a 1 year old...if a persom were 30, 45 appears aceptable....what about 50 versus 65? Or 65 versus 80?
Personally, I love to dance and 'be young': but personal narcissm is not so great that I would sacrifice immediate pleasures on the alter of long term unfullfillment, for that younger person. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:33:57 AM | Darling, What makes you think older women do not like sex? Or that we can't be as hot? And what makes you think older men are like that.
We are just as into it. We have wisdom to go with it. And we are not silly enough to buy the bullshyte. And we fully understand the saying.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:55:11 AM | I am fifty.
I don't know that I'll get married again. My preference seems to be for men my age down to about forty. I would neither marry someone much younger (just not enough common memories, experiences)..or someone older (just not compatible with most I know)..
But...the age wouldn't matter if I truly loved someone... | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:10:07 AM | Let me think? If 50 is the new 30.......... but as one poster pointed out 30s may not know who Rocky is. Or what a fizzie is, Tom T Terrific, Crabby Appleton, Mr. Greenjeans, Circus Boy(before he was a Monkey), sock hops or a prom in the gym in a borrowed or used dress or a white sports coat or your Sunday Suit (before parents lost their minds and wallets) or first dates at the Malt Shop or burger joint or drive-in where there were "carhops"--two straws for a milkshake or soda if they were good looking and he did not have much money--because he was cute and so was she and he worked at the gas station and borrowed the family car to take her out. She did not care how much money he spent because she was more interested in him than what he had. I guess there is still some of that 16 year old girl living in this over 50 body, she is just a lot smarter so I am guessing upper forties to early sixties for this girl. 
To the post below mine----bet lots of women on here could out hike, out dance, out love lots of much younger men. Now that we aren't running after children, keeping a house for other people, we take better care of ourselves............... | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:17:03 AM | []But that depends if a younger guy wants to be with an older woman who he will have to cart around in a wheelchair not to mention she will be all wrinkly and grey. []
And you are......................... Getting there yourself Dave | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 1/6/2008 9:42:49 AM | I married a man 19 years my senior.. we were actually together for 30 years... and I had trouble keeping up with him for about 20 of those including sex drive. Unfortunately he passed away.. @72 so I can't tell you what over 75 would be like... but believe me... up to 72 can be great.
Actually I now prefer someone my age to + or - 5 years.. one of the other posters said it... having more in common which I think becomes more important as we get older. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 2/5/2008 6:38:20 AM |
Actually I now prefer someone my age to + or - 5 years.. one of the other posters said it... having more in common which I think becomes more important as we get older.
Hello.
I guess this is kind of a strange way to make a contact, but I am over the 66 you specify as the cutoff age for messages. I am also a bit over the +5 years you specify in the message above.
I just wanted you to know that I voted you a  10. I loved your photos and thouroughly enjoyed reading your profile. | |
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| If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 2/5/2008 6:48:04 AM | Age has never been all that important to me. I have dated women 20 years older and 20 years younger. My friends range in age from 23 to 67. The older I get, the more I notice that life experience, upbringing, education and attitude have more to do with compatability than age.
The advantage to falling in love with someone closer to my own age is that when I retire in nine years, I'll be with someone that's free to pack up and join me on the next chapter in our lives. | |
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| I already rasied my kids...I don't need no mo!
Posted: 2/5/2008 9:13:11 AM | I prefer a man who is a man, and who I can be compatible with. Younger men are just that, younger. I do not want to have to "teach" anyone anything.
And it is AMAZING how many younger men contact me! I don't get it. Like, who wants to date their Mom?
I would just like to share my life with someone who is willing to share his with me. None of the bullshit. And sweety, kill the statements of men or women with no sex drive. There is no reason for that in today's world. Most would have a difficult time keeping up with me!
I don't get why people cannot just be who they are instead of who they think others want them to be. I refuse to "compete" with younger women...if that is what a guy wants...so be it. It is his pension....ROFLMAO not mine! | |
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