| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 5:46:36 AM | | Yes we do exist but I think in the modern age it's not something generally appreciated, is something some people may feel makes a man appear to be weak and since I think we live in a very materialistic society where outward appearance seems to be the most important thing, the fact that I can compose a sonnet (which I have done) matters little if I look like a hobbit. While my female friends think it's very nice, it doesn't make any of them the least attracted to me. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:03:23 AM | Yes, gentlemen still exist.
They are all single and have been for years.
Men still plan wonderful dates - for women who don't like them.
Men still send flowers and write poems - and bomb every single time.
The tides haven't turned, there's just a lot more drownings. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:38:28 AM | OP
Gentlemen definately still exist. The only thing is, the only way men can truly be gentlemen is if there is a lady present and to be honest it seems there is a shortage of true ladies in the world. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:56:37 AM |
men who did sweet gestures and were all around gentlemen usually end up getting screwed in the end.
Well then they were doing it backwards? And getting screwed, well - ahem -
I agree with this post, and I feel it is better read as:
Gentlemen who do sweet gestures and are all around "men" usually don't end up getting screwed in the end, they have too damn much fun.
Do a search for 'Double your Dating' by David D something or other and you may find an interesting read on the subject, besides, he's funny than hell....lol
Keep up the struggle guys, there can be good  if you always keep working on your game! | |
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Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 58 | |
| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:13:49 AM | Why bother when your reward is being accused of doing something wrong? Not every man who is thoughtful and considerate is a wimp.
My experience:
Affectionate: Needy.
Polite: Push over.
Considerate: Too anxious to please.
Romantic: Sissy
Flowers: Screwed you over
Jewelry: Really screwed you over or trying to buy your love.
Cooks for you: Gay
It's so nice to be appreciated for the little things! | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:26:57 AM | | ^^^ poor guy,lol. glad u r there to help him out. i am a sensitive and giving person to those i am with. i don't usually make a big deal out things, such as a dozen roses or 50 pounds of super fattening chocolates; but i do lots of little things like making their coffee just the way they like it and carry it to them, help with their housework, clean up their car, etc. small simple gestures that are beyond what is necessary but a little thing to be happy about none the less. i've also been blessed with gfs and an ex wife that did some of these for me as well and some that were takers and users. reckon i'm just a normal george that doesn't have a lot of money to waste on useless gestures. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:53:01 AM | There are plenty of gentlemen out here, and lots of us like doing nice things for the women we love. Trouble is, we wind up getting classified as 'wussy' and then get ditched, often in favor of a guy who treats that same women poorly. But I learned the hard way that women tend to stick with men who treat them lousy, and just go about their lives complaining about it to their girlfriends. But they still stick with that same guy. It's some sort of attraction to dominance, the trait that a guy shows disdain and indifference to the concerns of others, that seems to draw women like flies to, well you know.
So next time you feel like all the nice guys are gone, turn around and look. We're here. And you're ignoring us, as usual, while drooling over the fast talking player at the other end of the bar. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:31:48 PM | Being a gentleman and being romantic are two fairly different aspects of someone's personality.
I've known people who treat everyone with the kind of well-mannered respect you'd expect from a gentleman, the opening of doors and pulling out of seats, the thank-yous and thank-you-cards, and all the rest. At the same time I've known people who seem to lack much of that surface sheen and actually do the sort of romantic things many people have been talking about previously in the thread, from little things (like making dinners or buying flowers) up to big things (surprise holidays arranged with time off work, writing songs and poetry, or making gifts - I count creative stuff as a big thing myself, because I've written songs and poems for special ladies in my past). I can't think of many people in whom both of these qualities have been present to an equally large extent, it's usually a blend.
Personally, I try and act like a gentleman to everyone - male or female, romantic prospect or complete stranger. I'm not always successful of course, but we all have our off days! 
When it comes to the romantic gesture, things get problematic - if someone tries to start a relationship with a romantic approach, there's a risk it'll cause things to crash and burn before you've even got started. That's happened to me, in very public circumstances, and it's not pleasant. Certainly it makes one more wary of trying something similar with someone else! It gets easier the further into a developing relationship you get, as long as you're paying enough attention to work out what people like and dislike.
But at the same time, not everyone *is* that given to that kind of romantic display, even the small ones. I guess each individual has to decide whether the mix of qualities in the person they're with is one they can be happy with. Me, I'm still happily trundling along looking for someone to write more things for in the future!  | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:14:19 PM | Oh my gosh do they exist!
I am home with a kidney infection that should heal up in a few days...but today is very painful.
My boyfriend came over and watched the kids, made dinner AND brought me a package of conversation heart candy
"Take two every four hours as needed" he said as he handed them to me
He's brought me flowers before
Texts me w/ "I love you" randomly throughout the day
My fave random text was
Him: "Do you know what I appreciate?"
Me: "No...what"
Him: "You" | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:22:52 PM | Yes ladies gentlemen do still exist. But many times are not given a chance to show how giving they are with out expectation.
Old school here, flowers, candy, cologne, jewelry, no special occasions needed. | |
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Joined: 10/28/2006
Msg: 64 | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:38:50 PM | My partner is the ultimate gentleman. His mother taught him how to treat women, and he says she would turn in her grave if he did not behave in a gentlemanly manner.
He opens the car door for me; he helps me on with my coat; he pulls out the chair for me at a restaurant. He brings me roses for no reason, including leaving one red rose on my pillow.
He has sent me many romantic cards, and left many touching voice mail and email messages. Today he left a message on my voice mail at work, singing along to "our song" when it was playing on the radio.
I could go on and on, but readers would begin to roll their eyes. 
Yes, gentlemen who make sweet gestures still exist. Thank God my partner is one of them.
I also make sweet, romantic gestures for him. He deserves every single one of them. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:55:04 PM | I have to say they are out there and I was lucky enough to have one find me.
Perfect example of it today. He sent me 12 different colored roses, at work, to tell me he was thinking about me.
First time I have ever gotten fowers just because. Made me cry a bit but in a good way.
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:55:16 PM | No, they were all exterminated.
My ex used to own a flower shop. Men still buy flowers, trust me on this. FWIW I've always been a big flower buyer and like Alstromeria and Calla's the best. And shell ginger. And anthuriums. And orchids. And Ecuadoran roses. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:51:55 PM | | gentlemen are molded and unmolded. society is unmolding them, extinction is inevitable. there will be a new breed, hardier and more noble than before, just you wait, but until then, say hello to HOMER. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:25:43 PM | I have to say they are out there and I was lucky enough to have one find me.
Perfect example of it today. He sent me 12 different colored roses, at work, to tell me he was thinking about me.
First time I have ever gotten fowers just because. Made me cry a bit but in a good way.
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KKLuv
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Joined: 9/7/2007
Msg: 71 | |
| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/3/2008 7:46:33 AM | Yes they do! I have found one here on POF. He opens every door for me, carries bags of groceries for me, fixes my plate of food and brings it to me(I do the same for him) and insists on paying for everything when we're together. He says he's always been that way and I had to get used to it.
He's a true gentleman and I love him for it and more. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:04:11 AM | | I hate to join the whining, but I gotta agree with people 100% when I say we do exist, but the actions are completely overlooked or completely under-appreciated. I still do what I do because it's just my nature, but I rarely even have women thank me for holding doors open them anymore. In fact, when you do something nice like that for a stranger, they actually go out of their way to completely ignore me a lot of times. And that's just a tiny thing. It's very discouraging. | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:03:16 PM | The world went to hell when womens lib came about you asked for it you got it now live with it
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OH MY GOD!! Do you even know what women's lib is? It's about equal pay, equal rights, getting jobs we are qualified for, in the work force. The right to work outside of the home, other than being a waitress, or a stripper. It doesn't have anything to do with women wanting to be treated like women, because we still are women. Women who still appreciate a good man. The operative word there is good, not jerk, or dumbass! | |
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| Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:10:49 PM | LOL
Whiny overweight men bashing POF bc all they have to offer is a square meal. Maybe you should walk with her in the park and you'd lose those "few extra pounds"?
Cheese...............(to go with your whine)....................................... | |
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