| New years eve alone this year
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:34:28 PM | I was one of them! I sat around feeling pathetic and sorry for myself...cried myself to sleep (seriously). I am 34 years old, single mom of an 11 year girl who was at the movies and spending the night with my niece.
I had plans with a friend, but, she cancelled...she decided to stay home with her son (which was fine with me, but she cancelled at 8:30 in the evening and I was dressed and ready to party)! She is just about the only friend I have left in this world since everybody else is busy with their husbands or wives or children, etc...
Hope that wasn't too pathetic for you :(
Rachael  | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:37:57 PM | | That is so true! My ex husband walked out on me New Years. We were staying in a place where we didn't know anyone & when the neighbours found out they insisted my little girl & I come in with them for midnight. Bec fell asleep long before & I sat there at 12 in a room of complete strangers feeling like the lonliest person on the planet. These days if I'm single I actually enjoy being alone for NY. I have a nice meal & a drink, watch a movie I've wanted to see for ages & the cat & I curl up in bed & watch the Sydney fireworks on the telly at 12. I've spent xmas alone too a few times. It's all up to you; make it a day where you spoil yourself & enjoy the peace! | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:38:20 PM | Good for you! That's the spirit! Don't let anybody or anything bring you down! I say that today because last night I was crying my eyes out...even my 11 year old daughter had plans 
Oh, well...we have a whole year ahead of us 
Rachael | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:39:16 PM | Nanceq
Ummm you are.... Not because he stood you up to care for a depressed friend, but rather because you haven't learned that being ALONE, is not a bad thing...
Shug, was there myself, had monsters the size of big foot that used to rule my world... Now I enjoy kicking it with myself, I can get out if I want, or stay in, and I never feel ALONE, because I have MYSELF.
However as for OP, I was BY MY SELF, had a burger and fries at the local pub... Was chatting with a particularly odd fellow, but hey people are people..
I am in school for legal studies and that always brings out a long list of can ya help me with...
ANYHOO, the subject of the 6 people that were murdered in Carnation Wa was brought up by this fellow... The bomb was from the bar tender...
He asked us if we wanted to hear something really weird... SURE
His mum was murdered by the Happy face killer... (truck driver that was also serial killer)
Ya know, it put my life in total perspective...
Life isn't bad by myself...
Went home chatted on the phone with friends... Watched TV like I can do any ol time, but my life is pretty complete no matter what day it is... 
Nance, you have to ask yourself, do you want a guy that will run out on you for this gal the last minute when ever?
Sure being a good friend IS important, but all nite long?
You sounds like a third wheel, and I know you know that... there are other , wouldn't it be nicer to feel like you were on the top of his list, than somewhere middle to last????
By yourself is better than feeling ALONE...
By yourself is loving you enough to know when something isn't working... | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:44:16 PM | | I was home sound asleep .I have no problem doing this.My kids had tons of freinds over and they just now left after a huge breakfast earlier today and a pretty nice dinner if i say so myself.I was around people that care about me and thats all that matters to me. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:53:26 PM | There is an old saying that goes "You are only lonely if you don't like the person you are alone with" . I struggled with that after my *encounter with reality* last night but realized that I have always spent New Years Eve with my family so I see it as time to be with people you LOVE and, even nicer, to share a moment (and a kiss) with one special loved one. Up until midnight, last night was a GREAT party. I just tripped over my own perceptions when the ball dropped (smile).
That's OK. I wasn't drinking, so I drove home safely, slept in late, went to Timmy's for lunch and took my dog for a long walk in the forest. Talking to the trees always helps me to get my center back . | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:55:57 PM | I was and was not alone NYE. I went to a singles party first and left to go to a friend's party. The second party was card playing with two married couples and me. I did not feel strange being with them as they are friends.
I am thinking if I want to have someone special in my life some adjustments are in order. This is a new year and the first day of the rest of my life and I plan on making the most of it. Hooking-up and being in a relationship can't be that hard. The social skills may need some re-training but I can learn. The holidays are now over and we who are not happy being single must admit what didn't work and try new ideas or next NYE will be the same. Just my opinion. John | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:58:53 PM | Nanceq, who know's about the smarts part, and his thought process of thinking you would just sit around and be OK, well perhaps in some other life she was his twin????
Point is, who knows, but it is up to you to decide how you want to be treated...
If he is really stupid, then PERHAPS you can educate him... Have a deep heart sit down and say, LOOK, I appreciate your feelings for YOUR FRIEND, BUT we had plans and IT MEANT SOMETHING TO ME... You could have SPLIT you time, if the situation was soooo dire for her... HELL bring her along, let her be the third wheel if she really is that...
I am glad it is just the holiday... For some there are just days we don't like that ALONE time... I hate spending my birthday ALONE... It is coming up, and well I just may be ALONE...
HOWEVER my oldest is 23, and has been very good about make it not so alone...
So we do have those days....
Good luck | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:06:04 PM |
I am thinking if I want to have someone special in my life some adjustments are in order. This is a new year and the first day of the rest of my life and I plan on making the most of it. Hooking-up and being in a relationship can't be that hard. The social skills may need some re-training but I can learn. The holidays are now over and we who are not happy being single must admit what didn't work and try new ideas or next NYE will be the same. Just my opinion. John
Everytime I think about it, I feel like having a smoke......am 25hrs into my New Years Resolution of "Quit Smoking" ........ cold turkey.....I am strong.....I can do it!! I dont even care what disappointments I am facing in some areas of my life......  | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:15:31 PM | | I'm 51 and have spent most New Year Eve's alone. I tend to be a bit of a loner so it never has bothered me. As for going to sleep early? No way. I live too close to the res and there were lots of fireworks going off. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:17:54 PM | | I wasn't alone. I have friends that have a band and we all went where they played. But I felt alone when midnight struck and all couples were kissing and I wasn't in anyone's arms. So what did I do? Salt, tequila, lime....he he. Then I was on the dance floor! | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:30:38 PM | I was not alone, I did go to a party with some friends, but I agree with TishaG when midnight struck and I saw all the couples kissing and hugging I felt more alone than ever.
And at the moment I had another drink. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:33:52 PM | I worked (musician)...it's my social life. . Watching other people HAVE social lives.
It's great! ....yeh, great.  | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:43:00 PM | I went over to my friends' house, but was home before midnight.
I watched the ball drop on TV, but yeah, it was lonely, especially seeing all those people gathered together having fun.
Oh well, such is life...2008 is here, and I hope everyone here has a great year!
Icey | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:47:46 PM | | The only thing I missed was kissing someone at midnite! LOL! Christmas I don't like spending alone, but New Year's has never been that big of a whoop for me. Don't drink, and all that. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 4:11:17 PM | Alone?
Whats alone?
I rode the bike into the city alone. There I joined a few guys my own age on a rooftop where we all urged on the young couple a smooching on in the gardens below.
Great veiw of the fireworks too. We asked aroudn who was sober and who was drunk and the sober among us sought out a booze bus (Police mobile breath testing station) and went round the block for over an hour blowing stone cold sober a dozen times. The cops woke up evenatually and told us to nick off of be charged with puclic nuisance.
Said our goodbyes and went home alone.
I left home alone, I arrived back alone. But I did not spend the new year alone. I never do. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 5:57:13 PM | | And I spent new years alone.. and I'M really glad i did... Something different.. I felt great the next day no hangovers and nothing to regret... lol | |
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Cayt
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/1/2008 6:07:37 PM | | I spent the evening with my son, took him to dinner and spent the rest of the evening at home. Maybe next year................ | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:30:51 AM | | alone. i could have gone out and met friends, but midnight always gets to me. the couples hug and kiss and i feel left out. i stayed home, had a few drinks and cried by myself for about 5 minutes. i hope next year will be different. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:08:32 AM | | OK Folks, should have said....how many attractive women OR men speak NEW YEARS even alone. OR got BLOWN Off by pretty much everyone..... | |
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| New years eve alone this year
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:10:38 AM | | ah SUNNY4meday......I would have LOVED been honered to go dancing with you....feel SO say for you.....makes me cry..... | |
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| New years eve alone this year
Posted: 1/2/2008 5:06:52 AM | | Well this is the 4th one that I have been alone for. My resolution is to have someone to kiss this year. I was hoping Santa would bring me a boyfriend for Xmas but I musta been naughty.lol! I watched Twillight Zones and said happy new year to myself. | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/2/2008 5:17:27 AM | I too, was alone this year for New Years Eve, as well as New Years Day. However, I think it was by my own choosing. I chose to work instead of being at home, and the money I made in just the one day, is equal to that which most people make in an entire 2 weeks, or in my area, a month's worth of salary...
I think even if I was at home, I still would have been alone, maybe with a movie, and some paperwowk, just enjoying the peace and quiet of the evening, safely at home...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| NEWS year eve alone this year 07/08
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:31:23 PM | | I worked until 10pm, then I received a call from my friend who told me to come over. Basically I spent NYE with a bunch of GUYS; yeah... so where the hell where all the so called "lonely" ladies at? You could have taken advantage of all of us! LOL! | |
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