| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:29:32 AM | | Some people are just clueless and don't know how to delete things or maybe don't even want to be bothered doing it. I have friends that are in my favorites - females and males. Numbers aren't anything and I don't think it is a red flag anyhow. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:46:41 PM | | You're right aprincelyfrog! In your case I added you to my favorites so I could find you after I get a message about an event you are posting. I don't manage my favorites list much...but I'm not one of those people who are on 50 peoples list either. I don't think you can read too much into the favorites list. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/2/2008 9:39:30 AM | It means they have a lot of people who have added them to their favorites lists! JMHO
I just recenty relized I could delete myself from someones list (I've put people on my favorites list and then deleted them if we didn't click) the remove option is in a different position on "You as a favorite " list. So, at that time (couple of days ago) I deleted everyone I've never heard from, everyone who is on a different Continet, State or more than 100 miles away & anyone who does not interest me... that left me with 1... hmmm, I am apparently very popular except in my own town!! Since then if anyone puts me on their favorites list and I'm not interested I just delete them... lot easier bookkeeping now. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/5/2008 10:27:41 PM | I agree with Artistdave,
why would anyone complain about being on someones favorite's list. Isn't the whole idea behind POF to find someone ~ guess what, that means people WILL READ YOUR PROFILE and you should be honored if someone enjoyed it or your pics enough to add you!! IT doesn't mean you have to chat with, talk with or meet that person. THEY ARE PAYING YOU A COMPLIMENT...nothing more, nothing less. Just accept it & move on, there are bigger things to worry about ~ geesh!! lol
So someone reads your profile and likes it and adds you as a favorite ~ is that really going to spoil your day or affect you life negatively? If so, like I've said before, it's time to step away from the keyboard and go enjoy life beyond the realm of the interent.
I'm happy to say I have plenty of people who have added me...either because they've liked what they read, liked my pics or because we've chatted. I even have 2 women and that is the ultimate compliment. It has nothing to do with them making me feel good or validted ~ it is what it is and to them I say "THANK YOU".
Peace, Love & Fat Girl Smooches from a lady who doesn't mind a compliment,
Lisa | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:23:56 PM | This is simple in the case of ladys, gals, womens profile,
the more you show of your cleavage, the more you are named as a favorite.
Go check, see if you can find a higher correlation of being named as a favorite,
to anything other than a little risque photograph. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/8/2008 10:40:06 PM | Hey, Lisa Marie.. I'm not complaining...I'm just trying to say.. it really doesn't mean anything.. espeicially if they've never contacted you ... or they live on another continent... I agree it's a compliment to be added to someone's favorites list, but if they never contact you, it's somewhat of a wasted effort... Plus, I had over 130 people who put me on their favorites's list and if the forums are correct, that's a turnoff... so I started gettitng rid of people that I know I'm not going to contact in the near future..Wouldn't you?
Why stay on a fav/s list when you know you're ot going t talk and it's just a formality?
Viva la remove button | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:13:31 AM | | It just indicates that the person gets something out of the number.....probably an ego boost. I know why some men add women to their favorites list (they have admitted it to me) and I cannot fathom how that could be flattering. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:47:13 PM | I think its also an equivalent to a 'wink'when someone hasn't even emailed you yet puts you on their favorites lists. It's a shy person's way (or coy person's way) of saying "hey I am interested in you". Frankly as a female I think its lame (I want someone to be more assertive than that..call me old-fashioned).
Personally my style?I don't add to favorites unless I sense a repoire (spellcheck that) after communicating. I remove myself from their list if a) we've not communicated yet b) I don't feel I could ever be one they'd be interested in or c) I am not interested in their profile at all because obviously they didn't read mine.
I have no one on my favorites at this time and I am ok with that. If I were to unhide my profile in the future...and someone thinks I must be a loser because I am not anyone's favorites list then he is not the man for me anyway.
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:00:59 PM | Hiya Wambold02...
didn't mean to say anyone was complaining...and I agree, at the end of the day...it doesn't mean much more than someone looked, they liked, they added....no more, no less.
I also agree with who ever said the higher the #, the more cleavage/less clothes...it's so very true.
Now, if I could only decide on what to do....show more cleavage and have my # reach in the hundreds (which I've seen!!) or cover up like a nun and watch people remove me....lol
Peace, Love & Fat Girl Smooches,
Lisa
p.s. if the women are showing more cleavage can the men please show more of their happy trails....lol | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:15:25 PM | This is just my personal opinion, but I dont see how the high numbers on someone's favorites list means anything. I have been on POF a little over a month and I am on 146 peoples favorites. I have no clue who most of them are, they are just people who saw my profile and added me. I have not had contact with them so do not see how that can affect my "datability" as such. I didnt ask to be put on peoples lists, that is done of their own accord.
I think people do not need to read anything into it at all. Its just one of the features that the site offers, for whatever reason, but should have no bearing on who the person is or their profile.
Thanks for listening! | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:16:49 PM | While I don't believe that a high or low number of favorites means anything whatsoever, I do remove myself from anyone's favorites list if they don't have a photo posted. It's just my little protest against profiles without photos. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:39:02 AM | | I understand that people view your profile and either contact you or intend to contact you. If you are in contact with that many people it sends the wrong message to someone that might have really liked your profile but felt there was no room for them in your life when he/she saw how many favorites you have. The site gives you the option to view whos list you are on, and you can remove yourself. If someone is on this site because they see it as a dating site and have hopes of meeting the person they want to share the rest of their life with, you might miss out on having them contact you because some guys just want to add you to their list.. To me its not worth it, If my future is looking for me, I want her to know that my list is empty because I'm only looking for ONE person to want me as their favorite. It would be different if this was like MySpace where you can find FRIENDS, but this is not a friends site... if you made friends with someone, then you most likely have contact with them through emails, phone conversations, or maybe even hang out together...but they are not potential partners, soulmates, or what we all want, OUR BEST FRIEND FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES... so send the message that you are still available, not really interested in everyone that adds you to their favorites, and go remove yourself... let your partner for life find you without feeling like its a competition... Thanks... JESSY | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/26/2008 6:40:35 AM | I don't think the high numbers means a thing either. I use that feature for several reasons.
1. I think they might be a potential (the obvious one)
2. There profile was either funny or poems or other things that touched me and I want to be able to go back and read it again.
3. Someone that made contact with me and I want to continue that if only as friends
4. { Hate to admit this one}... but it could be I found her picture exceptionally beautiful, cute, sexy exotic or erotic. You know....eye candy.
5. Maybe I need to be able to find her when I feel it's the propper time for me to make contact.
6. Maybe when I get up the nerve to at least write and say hello. {Can be shy at times} or maybe no0t sure I am right for her, but think she may be right for me.
so as you can see, there are several reasons to add someone to your favorites list.
Anyone think of more? | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/26/2008 6:46:21 AM | gatorgirl2
i have the same thing for mine. People get me on their list but have not even said hello to me. why is that?
One reason just came to mind. You may have chosen things that will not even allow a person to contact you. Those being age restrictions, gender, no smokers, distance, etc.
Now can you imagine, you put age between say 40 and 50 that will block me or anyone over 50 from contacting you. So the perfect guy for you saw your post and wanted to get to know you....BUT he is 51. Mayeb only by a month or so. Now you lost one potential contact. That is why I do not use any blocks as to who can contact me. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/26/2008 12:12:03 PM | this is my third time signing on to pof. i used to monitor my favorites list and delete. This time around I just ignore it and watch it grow and also watch people disappear. I don't see as an ego boost. There are men and women on my list. If someone wants to add me, that's cool. If someone wants to delete me, that's cool too. It's nice being able to easily find someone when you have something to tell them. This is a dating site, not a commitment or obligation to anyone, until you and only you decide it is. just my two cents.    | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 5/26/2008 2:38:27 PM | I agree 100% with thirdtimearound !!
I too have women that have added me ~ so you see, this has nothing to do with an ego boost because all of the women (including myself) are straight!!
It's definately a way to keep in touch with those you've chatted with before, especially if you are hosting POF parties...I add them, they add me ~ nothing more, nothing less.
Peace, Love & Fat Girl Smooches,
Lisa | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:08:24 PM | Jim had an excellent point about people placing restrictions on who can contact them. I have reported one such profile to POF. This person says they live in my town and want to limit contact to to those within 75 miles. This is OK even if 75 miles is a long commute for a relationship. However, she also lists in the restrictions that the person must live in Costa Rica!!!! Bet she gets NO replies. I know I was unable to send a contact because POF said I did not reside in Costa Rica. She can be a favorite of mine, but there can be no contact.
Then there is possibly the fact that an age restriction can be misleading. There are some 50-year olds who look , think and act more like 80. The reverse can also be true.
I tend to be monogamous and do not ever even want to be dealing with more than one woman at a time. So the favorite list is a way of keeping track of possible future contacts. | |
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