| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:37:48 PM | I agree. I don't contact someone if they have a count over 100. I had in the past and found that they are usually just here not looking for anything serious.
I do know people add you as a favorite and you don't even know too. I met someone not long ago that had well over 100 favorites and she only had talked to two. And I was one of the lucky two.
I know that some have told me that they don't know how to manage the favorites list too.  | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 6/21/2008 11:30:53 AM | | I didn't notice that list the first few months and when I did it was up to 70 and I had never spoke to any of them. I spent 20 minutes deleting and then it just increased again. I don't make these sites a way of life and don't have the time to delete people because of what others may assume. Most of us know that the "favorites" never contact us but I believe some think that is a way of getting our attention. Out of 250 I may have spoke to 2. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 7/23/2008 8:32:53 AM | ZERO. It simply means that that many folks liked SOMETHING in their profile. [ be it pics or something written in the profile, or both] OR the person likes to read their postings. And "marked" them to be able to "check on them again" easily.
I saw a lady the other day with 804! [NOT a typo] That simply means to me she does not go through [on a regular basis] deleting folks off her list, so probably does not care how big her list is. A Forum regular [guy] has 406. Again IRRELEVANT.
How many of the XX that have YOU listed have you ever had ANY contact with? I am sure you realize that some women will use YOUR # as an excuse NOT to contact you.
Sadly, I suspect that if Big Fish would simply change the name of it to "Small Pile" or something else instead of "Favorites", there would be far fewer people who would use it as an EXCUSE NOT to contact someone. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 8/12/2008 7:19:46 PM | Another Reason: An exceptionally high number of favorites just means one thing.....Maybe, just maybe.... your WAY too picky and your perfect man / woman just does not exist long , and thus you've been on this damn site WAY too long..............! 
An exceptionally high number of favorites just means one thing.....You've been on this damn site waaaaaaay too long........LOL......../quote] | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 8/16/2008 5:40:46 AM | I was on POF for about 4 months before I even knew what the favorites list was or what it could be used for. I get it now.....
I go through mine and delete anyone without a photo and of course those that keep putting me back on their list.......WHY DO THEY DO THAT? Well, we know why don't we? So that these dates gone bad can watch and see when you are online.
I only put men in my favorites when I am interested in them, have gone out with them and hope to again. I try to keep the men in my favorites list low as it gets too confusing to keep track of more than about 5 men. 
So back to the question at hand - I think it makes no difference how high the number is. It could be an indicator for how long a person has been on POF but then again maybe not. I have emails asking me why my number is so high and I just tell them that men like to click the ADD TO FAVORITE button....who knows  | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:53:05 AM | I started getting active recently on POF and suddenly I'm being added as a Favorite quite often by people I know nothing about, most of whom live far from me, etc. So I've decided it's meaningless and am surprised by the variety of opinions about what it does and doesn't mean - positive, negative, important, unimportant, etc., etc. Actually what I've noticed about most of the messages I've been glancing through - every opinion possible about every issue is expressed. So my mantra or motto or whatever - THERE IS NO IS - holds true here. There is only your perception and your opinion about things that are not factual. Those who present their opinion as THE WAY IT IS have left me behind. I respect their right to have that opinion but wish they could see it as ONLY THEIR OPINION  | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 8/22/2008 8:03:14 AM | Hey Kenftl,
Got be honest and I to may get slammed by a woman for saying this. But lets face it, probably 99 % of us open someone's profile because the pic may appeal to us. Starting with that I read the profile, obviously am looking for indications that we may have things in common, God , first and lots of fun and humor and of course someone who seems to be emotionally whole from their writings.
When I get to the amount of favorites they have, it always seems to correspond to either their natural beauty, or possibly (this is where I will get slammed) how they pose themselves in their pics. I find that , I may struggle with the feeling of intimidation if their favorites list is very high, or be repulsed by it, if I judge in my own mind that the are being a little to slizzzy.
Now girls before you trash me, just remember I am being transparent here and letting you know how a lot of guys think. So please take what I say with a grain of salt if you don't like. I may be taking one for the team so to speak, but that's okay. I just feel less is more...
Daryl | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:03:58 PM | | it really means nothing... I go online in my iPhone all d time when I get bored at work and I saw my profile browsed by many guys and added as well, eventhough I haven't talked to them. Now i noticed that the more you go online the more people see your picture on top the more theyll add you. And sometimes i hide ny profile just because of that. I sometimes delete some but then the next day its there again. I think its okay they probably just amused, or just like what your profile says and got no time to email for now coz sometimes I come across a profile that's interesting I would add them first then email later. FYI don't judge the numbers I for one just met 2 guys out of those numbers and talked to chosen few. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 8/23/2008 5:52:42 PM | | It doesn't mean anything. In my case I was pushing 100 until y'all freaked me out with this subject and I deleted a bunch. I haven't been here even a month yet. It means nothing other than that OTHER people have favorited someone. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:48:28 PM | The reason I add someone as my favorite is because I looked at their profile and saw they met the criteria of "no smoking" and "no drinking" and possibly might be someone I would have some common interests with. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack. This way if I feel like it later I can always email them later.
Another reason I might add someone to my favorites is there is something interesting or unique about their profile that I might want to go back to later. Or I might want to ask them about something or just comment on later.
So I guess in these cases there isn't a whole lot to it. Maybe some people just have interesting profiles or really good pics. Some maybe post in the forums and have made friends from here or are of interest to the person because of their forum posts being so good or interesting.
Maybe some people don't realize they can delete themselves from someones favorites. Or they think it's impressive to have higher favorites numbers or possibly even don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by deleting them. All kinds of possibilities. You could always ask them why they are so popular. What's that saying about going straight to the horses mouth (source) for the truth or something like that. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 9/11/2008 5:48:24 PM | | Well I myself keep them there til I have truely thought out who I want to contact. The last thing I think we all should not do is send out several invites, just to see which one you get lucky with. I don't want lucky - I want LTR hopefully with my soul mate. Maybe there is an event in ones life that needs to be cleared up - no since in bringing drama to the table. I want there to be only one and if I get truned away then of course I know I need to move on re-think out and start the search over. The favorites help me to have to go thru entire list again. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 10/6/2008 6:59:49 PM | Hmmm, the “Favorites” list. I can’t believe people are even thinking about it, let alone posting about it.
I use the ability to add people to my favorites list for multiple reasons.
1. I liked his profile, emailed him and if I catch him on line later, I might IM him.
2. I liked his profile, didn’t email him because I had reservations, but didn’t want to loose him back in the sea of profiles.
3. His pictures were H-O-T, and I want to look again later for eye candy, but would never bother to email him.
4. I added him to my favorites even though I thought he might not be interested because of age differences/ he wants children, I don’t / religious differences whatever, but gives him a chance to notice me and decide for himself.
5. Some of them are friends I have made. Some I want to stay friends, some I wouldn’t mind knowing better.
6. Some of them are forum/email friends. A lot of them are guys that are way to far away for dating, but talk to me for advice/help when dating or vice versa.
I am on 50 or so favorites list for the same reasons I am sure. The favorites lists on both sides give me a variety of men to engage in conversation with, because I can see that they are online and I can IM them. There is always someone on line when I am in the mood to converse and I can find out if there is enough there that makes it worth meeting for coffee.
Don’t take it to seriously. What does disturb me is when I see a picture of a pretty woman or a hot guy with NOTHING, and I mean nothing on their profile and they are on the favorites list of more than 100 people….. Either they are really good in IM or the people who have chosen them, well, let’s just say I hope they aren’t on my favorites list nor have they chosen me for theirs. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 10/6/2008 7:53:06 PM | I agree with you Banshee57.
Have had the same experience, have been put on the fav list but never contacted with me, so after a while if there is no contact I just delete it.
Yep feel good factor though its only a number. thee thee | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 11/11/2008 2:36:44 PM | After creating my profile, I noticed this bazaar counter. Having no idea what it meant (big picture), I addressed this concern within my profile.. and also indicated that I thought it was "creepy". Immediately following that "huh" moment, I purged these odd and unfamiliar numbers. Within days, the counter grew - AGAIN. It was like having pesky weeds in a garden - they wouldn't stay away. 
Giving much thought to this site (comparably speaking), I concluded the same. So, I changed my "What I'm looking for" and CLEARLY indicated my intent for being here. The counter now grows with meaningful and manageable numbers. On occasion, a tweak here and there but for the most part ... a non-issue anymore. | |
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| What do high number in favorite lists indicate if anything?
Posted: 11/11/2008 3:42:35 PM | I'm thinking that one of the purposes of the 'favorites lists' is to give a person a vehicle to indicate to you that they are somewhat 'interested' without making a commitment of actually writing you an e-mail and running the risk of being 'shot down'!
If you see that someone has added you to their 'favorite's list' and you take the time to read the profile and you ALSO find that you are potentially interested................well then........maybe the 'list' has served a purpose! Just a thought! | |
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