| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/3/2008 1:45:51 PM | | My rule is if he isn't older than my dad....which would be 20 years...then he's fair game. As far as younger goes....I'm 34 so I think 28 would be the youngest I'd go. Depends on maturity and if you really connect. If you connect then don't let the age bother you. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:38:28 PM | Nomster, I've just turned 41 and most of the men who have contacted me on here have been at least several years younger than me. The one that I really "clicked" with has just turned 36 and he definitely doesn't have a problem with the 5 year age gap so why should I? 5 years is nothing. it's how old you feel that matters . Just go with the flow and enjoy each other....Age is just a number  | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:35:31 AM | You are both in your 30's, as a result 5 years is nothing. You are both adults. If she was 18, and you were 13, then it would matter. It isn't just about age, it is also about stage of life. You should both be at about the same stage of life.
Yes, I think she should give you a fair chance. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:02:26 PM | I've dated 8-9 years younger and 8 years older and for the most part, I'd say 5 would seem like nothing in comparison. Those relationships on the extreme age differences were the longest lasting of ones I've been in. Then again, I'd also argue that the differences in where we were at in our lives (not age itself) were hidden factors in all the breakups. The younger ones were no where near as ready for a serious, long term commitment as I was; and the older woman was ready to settle down and pop out a family ASAP (she was 38 at the time).
So, I don't know, maybe the real question is WHY does she see the age difference as such a big deal? Maybe it's not the number "5" itself, but something more complex. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:39:37 PM | i see no problem dating a man who is 5 years younger or older...
I married younger ... now dating older....
there can be so many things that both of you can enjoy together.
companionship,honesty,and respect from a real man makes for a  relationship...
now, if that man chooses to act like a boy   or even worse like your father 
re think about the man and his vaules !!! not the age it is just a # | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:40:48 PM | ask the forum is weather she should give us a fair try !!!
leave it to the forum to decide weather the age gap is a problem !!!
Perhaps she's more concerned about your ability to spell!!! Weather?? What kind of weather is she waiting for, stormy, sunny??..LOL!!!
Seriously though, 5 years is not enough of an age gap to be of concern...if there is chemistry then why deny yourselves a chance at happiness... | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:57:53 PM | Don't know do you want kids?
Also its been proven that relationships where the man is at least 5 years older then the women have the greatest chance of lasting.
Women are typically into non physical traits that usually men older then them usually have confidence, know how, wisdom, money etc... | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:18:45 PM | I really do not see 5 years as an age gap(as others here have pointed out it is nothing). however, If either of you wont to reproduce, being a mature mother (over35 ) comes with certain risks, Which need to be considered. It is my understanding that with proper medical support these considerations never have to become issues.Having said that I would like to add that it sounds like you share is unique and beautiful. I can tell you that what you describe is VERY VERY rare if it was me I would hang on with both hands and enjoy the ride.wishing you both the best...and the good sence to recognize it when the BEST bites you in the butt. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:15:06 AM | | I think a 5 yr age difference could be a factor if a woman usually dates younger men and the man is older or vice versa. Some women are generally more compatible with older or younger men. I know a 42 yr old woman. She usually dates men who are 5-15 yrs younger ( 27-37 yrs old ) than she is. She might date a 39 yr old man or a 25 yr old man. But she probably wouldn't date a 47 yr old man because he is well outside her ideal age range. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:35:56 PM |
If either of you wont to reproduce, being a mature mother (over35 ) comes with certain risks
Why do people on this site perpetuate this myth? There is nothing special about the age of "35" for motherhood. Other lifestyle factors are a bigger "risk". Yes, risks increase with age. By the emphasis of age and a specific ages by some on this site, you may as well pop them all out when you're 18-21, since the risk is probably lowest. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:24:12 PM | I wish everyone would get off the age diff thing. It's ok now for a woman to be older.
Matter of fact you men actually are yrs behind in maturity and medical science recommends an older woman and younger man. I myself? Date younger men. I prefer it. It works and my ex hubby is 14 yrs younger then I. NOOOOO we broke up cuz of his family. I am not predjudice and his are. LOL
Caused a prob. Let family deal with theirs but, keep them out of yours.
Draw a line. AGE SHOULD MEAN NOTHING!!!! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 8:56:54 PM |
Matter of fact you men actually are yrs behind in maturity and medical science recommends an older woman and younger man. I myself? Date younger men. I prefer it.
Hypothetically if takes men longer to mature, then it would make more sense for a woman to be with an older man. Since a woman would be more mature than most men around her age. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:34:38 PM | The ole' double-standard. :) I often wonder why it's cool for a guy to date a younger woman but uncool for him to date an older one.
Things are no longer like they used to be. Nowadays both women as well as men want younger partners. Be a rebel - go for it! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:43:42 PM | It always worries me when a person has to ask others for an opinion on something.
Why cant you decide for yourself ?
Are you going to abandon the relationship the first time an outsider says something untoward about your partner ? | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/11/2008 6:38:54 AM | | You should have lied about your age dude or not said anything about it. Age is the deal breaker with her. All you had to do was lie, then after it's too late, tell her the truth if you want. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/11/2008 5:27:55 PM | OH PLEASE! Give me a break! LMAO
My father-- who sadly passed away a few months ago was 11 years younger than my mother-- my mother is still alive and they enjoyed 45 years of marital bliss.
So dont even post that one! LOL
Good luck and have fun and remember if you love each other thats ALL that matters. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:20:54 PM | is just if shes 5 years older and i look 5 years younger !!! what shes saying in round terms is that in her eyes there ten years difference even if only in apperence !!!
I don't know why you two even consider 5 years an age "gap" . And on top of that I don't know why you think an age gap is even an issue. It's not a small issue, in my opinion, it's not even an issue at all. But then I read your comment I quoted above and I thought this is ridiculous. There is not ten years of difference! That is one of the most absurd comments I've heard in a long time. As a joke it's funny, but you seem to be serious about it, so I just had to emphasize my opinion on that.
I guess everyone has some hangups about what society says we should and shouldn't do, and it takes time for everyone to work through those and think for themselves. What is strange though about your case is that its not even an issue. 5 years is, according to our society, not even a gap. So where is the problem coming from? | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:02:30 AM | Give it a try!!!
If she has always dated older guys and it has not been any luck to her maybe trying something new will be a positive thing.
Hope everything works out for you both!!! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:00:21 PM | I am 47 and I can honestly say that a 36 yr old I dated last year was more mature than most of the 50 plus year olds I have dated.
It is all about each individual person and not how old the calendar makes them. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:22:45 PM | 5 years? That's nothing! I don't think age really matters until it becomes more than a 10 year age gap. Even then it's probablly more a question of maturity & finding things you have in common. Maybe women just have more of a problem with dating someone younger than men do. My ex was about a 1 1/2 years older than me & it did seem to bother her.
Well there's my 2 cents, & you get it for free! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:32:04 AM | hi, age is nothing to do with it, i am 35 my ex wife was or will be 39, my other ex would be 47 and my last ex is 45, i have always prefered my older women and age should never be an issue, if you both get on and like each go for it. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:37:28 AM | I find it funny that in our society we are against shallow reasons for not dating someone.
For example, a white woman not dating a black man simply because of his race is shallow. Neither can do anything about their race.
Not dating someone because of a 5 year age gap? Shallow. Neither can do anything about their age.
I can see a 50 year age gap being a big deal, but five years? Nah. Fifty years is a big deal for practical reasons. Five years is nothing.
That said, I have nothing against someone not dating due to shallow reasons. Just realize they are shallow. | |
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