| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:37:14 AM | | My wife was eleven years older than me when we met. I just did not give it any thought whatever. To me she was a lovely lady that wanted me and we had a wonderful twenty year marrage, the happiest days of my life. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:49:09 AM | well, i can understand her issue as I have had some of the same challenges. I tend to date men a bit older than me but am certainly not opposed to dating younger...i dont think a 5 year age gap is very large. However, here there is a couple major things that would deter me from dating a younger man. Here they are;
1. I have a child and dont want more....does he want kids and am I willing to go that route?
2. How important is marriage for the 2 people involved?
3. How mature is the man that I am dating? (age absolutely does not denote maturity)
4. Do all other major points of compatibility align?
Those really are the prime factors for me, again, i cannot speak for her. I think that If you are both open communicators and want the same things - 5 years IS NOT A BIG DIFFERENCE.
My mother married a man 6 years younger than her and has been with him for 21 years and my brother married a woman 5 years older than him and they have been together for 16 years. I can say that in my family it has never been a factor!!
Go for it...there are no gaurantees in this life - enjoy what you have found in each other and the rest will just flow naturally.
Good luck!! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:40:37 AM | | IMO 5 yrs is nothing. 10 yrs might not be a big deal either. I think age can be a major factor when the age difference is very large such as 20 yrs. In most cases, people will have different long term goals when the age difference is 20 yrs. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:31:00 AM | I have always dated a woman pretty much older then me. If your into each other age really does not matter. I think when there is an age difference you can share experiences and teach one another things that helps keep the relationship healthy. My brother on the other hand is married to a women 18 years younger then him and they have nothing but issues. To each there own I suppose.  | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:45:39 PM |
she has agreed to leave it to the forum to decide weather the age gap is a problem !!! [/qoute] Oh dear. I would say that the bigger problem is that this person would leave an important decision regarding a personal relationship to a bunch of complete strangers in cyberspace. Don't get me wrong, I think that these types of forum can sometimes offer objective support, so I'm not knocking the opinions of anyone on here. But if what you feel is right, who cares what other people think? I find this a little confusing actually. You agree that you're soulmates? Would true soulmates really be fretting away at a poxy 5 year age gap? Just a thought.....good luck  | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:55:27 PM | | The Eagles sing "In a New York Minute"...he says "if you find somebody to love in this world, you better hang on tooth and nail...the wolf is always at the door"....Don't pass up a good thing, don't worry about the age difference, and don't worry about what anyone else thinks....."but the greatest of these is love". Real love doesn't worry about the small stuff, it just revels in the joy of each other. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:30:39 PM | "My sis in law was 12 years older tham my bro, they were happily married for 13 years."
certainly
I know my grandmother was i belive 13 yrs older than my grandmother.
i'm not sure at waht age variance it can really become an issue, all i know is if both are mature, know what they want, are attracted to each other, love each other; all the power to ya.
personally though if its something like 50 yrs with 20, or 60/30 etc, um, sorry, no thanks! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:47:12 PM | Simon x, the age factor can be an issue. I'm 47. I have dated men as young as eleven years my junior, however the balance of common interests, experiences, values, etc., seem to be savored more with a gent of my age or a bit older. Even so, the dynamics of chemistry have no age limits. If I meet a man who is younger and we mesh, I would be open to that delight. You just never know, Simon--it works for Katie Couric--she's 51, and her love of two years is 34!
Stay safe and enjoy the opportunities that await with the lass that makes you tingle-to-your-toes! ;)
Ciao! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/30/2008 12:47:07 PM | Maybe Age isn't the real hang-up??? But an excuse for another underlying concern of hers?
Or maybe she really likes you and she wants to be reassured before she falls for you completely and hopelessly. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:27:44 PM | | I don't want to deal with someone roughly 12 years younger than me because I've already been through my early 20's and don't want to deal with someone else's. On the other hand I don't want to date anyone more than 10 years older than me because they are in a different stage of their lives than I am. There have been exceptions in my case but rarely. Like the others said 5 years is nothing. However it depends where you both are personally and if your situations, and goals are compatible. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:16:12 PM | | I had the same hang up a while ago when I met someone 10 years younger than me. As it turned out, he was more mature than I was and I learned much more from him than I did any of the older guys that I had dated! Tell her to let it go and go for it! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 7/5/2008 12:28:55 PM | | Don't worry about the 5 yr. difference. I just turned 40 and most of the guys that contact me are 35. I even have ones that are 23, 25, and so on. At that age they may look great, but that is way to young for me; afterall, I am not Linda Hogan..lol | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:39:13 PM | | As adults, five years is not a big age difference. She obviously has a hang up. Is she worried about what others will think? Is she afraid it will look like she's robbing the cradle? You are close in age in the whole scheme of things and you're compatible, so she should get over it and you should be together. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 9:54:36 AM | | Everyone has there own preference in whom they want to date. Mine has always been men 5 to 7 yrs younger than I am, and I am comfortable with that. If your ok with who your with and it works for you. Then don't worry about what other people think as long as your are happy with it. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 2:19:23 PM | | Age doesn't really matter as long as its legal I should say and we are really only talking 5 years here. If you guys get along and you feel like you are soul mates then you should really go for it. A soul mate is hard to find. | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 7:58:06 PM | | Wow! Does it ever seem to everyone like people just go around looking for potential problems? Both people are in their 30s and they are worried about a 5 year age difference!! | |
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| 5 year age gap !!!! loads of feedback please !!!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 9:40:26 PM | Im picky about age, but to me a 5 year difference isn't bad. I am 38 and can say in past if I 've dated guys that are about 5 years younger they are usually still sowing wild oats and that is a concern. Women at 38 are more in settling down mind frame...(okay that's just my opinion)... | |
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