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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 1:51:13 PM | Broward, that is absolutely hilarious!!! I DEFINITELY don't fall into the megawhore category! LOL I'm not a wishful thinker either. I just know it may happen and history has proven that it there's a good chance, so I like to be sure I'm safe.
Eastsideeddie, I posted this to see if my friends are just a little on the judgemental side or if this is how all people think. I see no wrong in what I do with my personal life. I'm clean, careful, respectful of myself and others, and I hold my head high. No regrets. I think everything through before doing it so I rarely make a decision only to feel bad about it later.
DDay, I don't justify it at all dude. If me being prepared means I can help a friend out I'm good with that. I don't pack an extra one or two when we go to the bar in case they run out. If I give one away and it was the only one I had I will go to the bathroom and buy one if I think I may end up somewhere. But generally speaking I just let it go bc I don't do the hookup scene really, aside from a couple times as mentioned previously.
This talk about giving your kids condoms....while I don't condone sex among young teens I think we need to face the reality that they will do it whether we like it or not. We can educate them and prepare them and try and set positive role models for them but ultimately they will make that decision for themselves. When my son gets to that age I will likely make condoms accessible to him. As Jayderaven said, it's better for him to be safe than sorry. You hope they'll make the right decision based on the guidance you provided but you never know. And I'm SURE someone is going to make a comment at me about how I don't provide a good role model because I have sex with more than one person or am comfortable with casual sex. My personal life is so private from my kids. I never have people at my house when the kids are home. I don't believe in my kids meeting someone I'm dating unless I'm certain it's going to be a long term thing.
KFGuy, I sense a little sarcasm on your point. I'm hoping it is at least! There's nothing wrong with being safe. Nothing. My personal life won't change whether I have condoms on me or not. All that will change is that I would be walkng away from possible sexual engagements more often, and why would anyone want to do that?! We're carnal beings!
Nocalsingledad, very well put my friend! | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:02:47 PM | Deuce man I was with you there til you went & said you don't care for anyone else's opinion... then why are you asking for people's opinion?
Now if your seeking only agreement with your philosophy of keep protection handy, I say you are right on, I agree... IMO, it is far better to protect yourself than run the risk of a lifetime of problems or worse...
But now to give you my opinion, no I don't think keeping protection handy makes you anything but one making an intelligent decision...
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:09:43 PM | Ok for all the people attacking abotu the 14 year old with a condom, shove your biased opinions aside. Abstinence only programs do not work and never have. teaching kids about condoms and safe sex has lowered the teen pregnancy rates up until the last year. You can call me and others liberal all you want, but what we are doing is proven the best method for our children. Carrying a condom is no different than putting a girl on birth control.
Which brings up my point for the OP...if i take a birth control pill everyday am I a whore? No its being safe...whether I am in a relationship or not. And I think what you are doing is the same thing. I dont think it makes you a whore or easy or any of that, and in fact I wish more guys where that careful, would save me having to buy condoms to keep when they dont have them. I know bcp is effective, but not against STDs. | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:22:13 PM | Seems that you're a wanna-be man whore. You say you're no so fine... but, always making sure you have one realllly makes it sound as if you'd like to be one. I dunno, to me it sounds a little desperate or maybe you lack self-control. I mean really, does it happen so little for you that you've become obsessed with making sure you're prepared if someone offers themself up?
I've been known to carry one BUT that's when I am in a relationship. I don't do random hook-ups. Carrying a condom on you at ALL times really spells out that you're looking for random encounters. | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:24:30 PM | Catabrie, I don't know where I said I didn't care for anyone's opinion but if I did I apologize for the mixup bc that is not how I meant to come across. I don't care what people think of me. It doesn't hurt if someone calls me an a$$hole or in this case a whore because I know who I am and what I am about and I am happy with myself as a person. I do recall saying I don't give a shit what people think of me. I'm not sure if you misinterpreted that or if I actually said what you said! LOL Can't find it. Moving on!
Boyzni3, I don't think women are whores bc they take birth control or carry a condom. I actually find it a little weird when women DON'T have condoms in their pursue. I think everyone should carry them! What if. You wouldn't drive your car without a spare in the trunk on a long road trip, let alone around the city, would you? Well, some might but the majority are safe to ensure they have blankets and booster cables in the trunk in the winter up north here, and a tire and jack where it should be. Just covering all your bases. People carry tylenol in their purse or pockets in case they get a headache. Doesn't make them a pill junkie. The humerous idea of carrying whisky in every pocket would make you an alcoholic I think or at least someone with a severe problem though!
Marilyn Merlot, my buddies don't know about my "stash", if you'd call the single condom in my jacket or car a stash, because I talk about it or make it public. If the topic comes up in conversation about carrying protection I have no qualms about stating I carry one in my pocket or wallet all the time. My friends know bc my ex found one in my wallet when she went to get her debit card from my jacket. I guess she saw the wrapper when she opened teh wallet and pulled it out. I told her I keep one in my jacket and wallet for safety. She took it upon herself to tell all her friends, who are my friends coincidentally. I don't think she actually thinks I'm a whore because of it. She probably is uneasy with the idea bc she has a boyfriend, who she's been seeing since the day we split up actually, and I don't have a steady girlfriend because I'm not wanting to jump back into a relationshp just yet. Lived the shackled life for 10 years....I'm really liking being free to do what I please for a change for a bit! | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:35:00 PM | This thread reminds me of a bit of perceived wisdom from an older man I once new. He suggested that when I'm going on a date, to stop at a drug store after I had picked up my date for the evening. At the drug store, say," I'll be right back, I have to go in an purchase some condoms". Get out of the car with out saying another thing and enter the store, purchase condoms, and go back to the car. He suggested that if the date was still there, the outlook for sex was pretty good, if not, you saved a bunch of money. LOL.
I never tried that, but I it did seem to suggest a semblance of truth.
Happy New Year!
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:35:35 PM | No. If I wanted to be a manwhore I would be a manwhore. It's not like I have random sexual encounters. I don't go to the grocery store and get it on in the bathroom with someoen I just met. But I've met people in the stores or malls and gone for coffee or lunch afterward and had things happen following that. It's not a common occurrence, but I like to be safe if it does happen. I am not a serial dater. I am not a stud by any means or definition of the word. I'm not the best looking guy on the block, nor do I have a body like Adonis. I'm an average Joe with a great personality and wild sense of humour. I'm a great communicator and if I am talking to a woman in public and I see an opening I will ask her to grab a coffee and chat a bit. Many times it ends there. Many times it goes a couple dates. I'm being very picky in my dating because I came out of a relatoinship that really held me back in life. I did not get hardly any of the things I required as a spouse in return for all the things I provided or gave up. Now that I'm single I want to ensure I find someone that fulfills all my wants and needs emotionally, socially, and physically. I'm self-sufficient, but everyone has wants and requirements in life. I am NOT a player and am very respectful of women. I'll admit I'm a benelovent sexist...I place women on a pedastal and I don't care if people say that's wrong of me. I think women are beautiful in every facet of the word. But I don't just hand out my junk if someone asks. I have a lot of self-control. I have a lot of rules I set for myself and I rarely waver on them. But I don't pressure people into sex or bring up the idea generally. If it happens it happens. I'm not the type that if after a set number of dates I haven't "scored" I move on, or run as soon as I do. I dated a girl this summer that I went on 7 dates with and never got more than a kiss. She didn't seem interested in sex without meaning and I was fine with that. I get enough to satisfy my needs that I don't need to go looking for it, and i don't say that to pad myself or put myself on that pedastal. Just defending myself against your attacks Metalvxxn! ;-)
dunrunnin2, very nice! I guess you are sort of screwed then aren't you?! K, I apologize, that was sort of cheesy but it screamed to be said! | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 6:00:40 PM | You know, I find it VERY interesting that a MAN is being bashed for being a "whore"...in the majority of the threads here, it's the women who get fired upon from all sides! Either our society is even more puritanical than I previously believed, or else we are moving closer to equality. I tend to think, however, that it's sadly the former.
OP, just ignore anyone who tries to make your sex life their business. That ex of yours had no right to blab around- if anything, you should be mad at her for being so judgmental! She knows you...she should know you are a good guy; so it shouldn't matter to anyone else who you sleep with, when or where, or how often!
Keep those condoms....ignore the naysayers who think you owe them an explanation for your own personal choices....you will be very glad that you did.  | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 6:11:14 PM | OP: Unless you're charging for it, you're not a whore. Maybe a bit optimistic, and commendably careful, but not a whore.
As several responders have mentioned, remember to change them from time to time. They don't do a lot of good with those big holes in the side!  | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 6:52:02 PM | Msg 8 deuce... in msg 8 you said: "I don't give a shit what other's think! I'm confident and have high self-esteem. I wouldn't say I have random sex. " This came after several people started giving you their opinion & that's how it came across to me & obviously others as well... no problem really, just typical of the miscommunication in this medium...
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:13:22 PM |
Apparently it makes me a whore for trying to protect myself
I checked The Rule Book. OP, you do not qualify as a "whore" until you WEAR one
24/7.
By the way, i seldom tell folks what is in my pockets, car, jackets etc etc.
Why tell your EX, friends, and all of the folks on POF? | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:21:42 PM | OP
I think what you do is extremely responsible. You obviously are not wanting to have children or catch something ajax can't scrub off with a brillo pad. You are a good man, one who other men should take a note or two from.
Most men aren't male whores. On the rare occasion that they do hook up with a woman at a club they aren't prepared. This usually means that they get pissed because she doesn't have any. (Which is why I keep a condom in each of my purses right along with feminine products) You don't know how drunk you'll get, you don't know if you're going to meet someone you want to have sex with.
Since the OP has openly admitted being in a relationship, he obviously keeps them around in case he and his girl get frisky.
Its about being a whore, it's about being a responsible adult. | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:22:10 PM | I'm being likened to Seinfeld episodes. My life is officially complete! LOL Love both those episodes, what I remember of them at least!
Esad, I dont announce it to the world. These forums are meant to answer questions, such as these. Where else would I pose this question?! And really what does it matter what's in my pockets? They are my private domain but I've got nothing to hide in them. Condoms aren't taboo, or at least they shouldn't be. I keep very little in my pockets.....gum, mints, condom, wallet, couple coins. Why hide any of that? And if you'd read all the posts you'd have seen that I didn't tell all my friends what were in my pockets....my ex found the condom and told her friends. I just explained myself and i KNOW I don't need to justify it to them but why do I need to hide it? I'm responsible, that's all that should matter. F**k the rest. | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:23:23 PM | I was kinda having this conversation with a friend just the other day. I as well carry one condom in every purse I have and in the car. I think its just flat out responsible. Not a big deal.
*Unfortunately I seem to hand them out for friends to use more than I do :P | |
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| Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?!
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:33:55 PM | Sorry OP, but I agree with you. My sarcasm may have hidden it, but my point is
that what you carry is no ones business but your own. If "they" think you are a "whore" ,
i see no reason to loose any sleep over it . The “they” includes the folks
who disagree with you here also. I see no upside to sitting in a hospice center
5 years from now with HIV thinking: “ Well, i stopped carrying condoms,
but at least my EX and those folks on POF didn’t think i was a whore !”
F**k the rest.
Well, sure. But only if you have a spare condom. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:34:03 PM | | Aurora I didn't say I was in a relationship anywhere here actually. I'm dating but no one seriously. I don't juggle multiple women at once though, with maybe the exception of a little overlap the odd time. But thanks for the vote of confidence. Glad to have my actions validated by others. My friends aren't prudes but I think they tell my ex what she wants to hear and say it to me in front of her. Nothing hateful or mean, just mainly agreeing with her fun but somewhat harsh comment about me being a whore because of it. | |
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