| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:12:42 PM | | yea im really using him..i pay all the bills and the rent...i dont think so mister...and as far as the drug test thing goes..i work in a testing laboratory i KNOW how long something stays in your system...however i woke up almost 16 hours later...now...although i didnt go to the doctor to find out what happened...im almost positive thatsomething did...im NOT an alcoholic..i CAN hold my liquer and i DO NOT use people...im NOT a violent person nor am i a psychotic mental patient...i DO NOT have a problem with drugs and i have NO problem admitting that i have issues..most people do..i dont appreciate being attacked on here...i simply came on here for some friendly insight and all ive gotten is people that want to belittle me and make me feel as though i did something wrong when in fact i didnt...im not angry im just really disappointed | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:36:15 AM | | yeah.... im sure.... here's a few examples... marijuana stays in your system for a month if smoked once... you don't have the effects for that long but the drug does stay in the system... the only thing that clears out of your system in an extreem short amount of time is alcohol..... i think your a very angry person who needs help..... no wonder the guy doesn't want to stick around | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:13:55 AM |
I have been living with my boyfriend since august. We broke up around thanksgiving due to the fact that i handled myself really horribly as far as picking fights for no reason, being mean etc...i had a really rough relationship before him for 10 years and it was all bad habits...but when he left i realized what i had been doing..changed some things and he moved back home and we were so happy..well...one night we went out...and after like 4 beers...something happened...we went home..and i remember sitting down at teh table to eat..and all of a sudden i wake up and im on the bedroom floor...dont remember a thing...and hes gone...apparently i had started taking swings at him cursing at him throwing things..going completely psychotic...i had no idea...he left..which i cant blame him..we are working on getting things back on track...everybody that knows me thinks that i was slipped something..because i do not react to alcohol that way...ever...however...hes now giving me signs of coming back...i mean obvious ones. IE: my dog had puppies and i was going to keep one and he said no...that he was bringing his dog back here....he told his kids that they could leave their stuff at my house bc they were coming back, he said i need a new car and he started looking at suv's with a 3rd row seat ...for his kids too...im so confused..bc i asked him if he was coming back and he said..he didnt know...if anybody could give me some insight id greatly appreciate it...we are together almost every day after work...and its not like he is seeing someone else so i dont know waht is going on
YOU BOTH need counseling ASAP for anger issues...commitment issues...alcohol issues...
The sooner,the better....
If this is a SERIOUS post and a not a TROLL POST then you two should NOT see one another until you've both seen a counselor and decided what you need to do w/ your lives | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:38:06 AM | | Your just looking for us to say yes of course hes going to come back. The only way you will know this is, if you sit down and have an open and frank discussion. Personally i think you would be better off if he didnt come back youve damaged the relationship and it would be better to move on you both see it as a saftey net and it will never work. | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/3/2008 2:10:39 PM | | actually i had a talk with him last night adn hes back :)..we get along great..there was ONE incident...and all of a sudden im this anger enraged alcoholic drug addict who puts her children in danger.. all i was looking for was some friendly advice...didnt come on here to get bashed adn bruised up...im glad you are all perfect..i didnt comeon here to have people tell me he was coming back..i came on here to ask that if the words he was using were just his way of stringing me along..but i dont have to worry about that anymore... | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/3/2008 2:16:56 PM | ^^^^^^
Another winner looking for validation and not advice.
Hopefully the guy has enough to stay Faaaar away from you.
And consider a restraining order. | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/3/2008 3:30:20 PM | until the next time.....sighhhhhh
guys are suckers for repeated abuse just as women are......and they keep going back..it becomes a bad habit
Hopefully he gets some support to leave for good. Your anger and intimidation shines through on almost every post you've made.......heaven help him | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:21:50 PM | | it was NOT the alcohol that got me...WHY is nobody gettting that..i had FOUR freaking beers! im a country girl i grew up on beer..been drinking over the last 20 years and NEVER has this EVER happened....it was NOT the alcohol geez | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/4/2008 4:20:15 PM | Humm................
I would say that you need some professional help. Denial is never a good thing. There is no other way to translate the situation other than what you have posted yourself. There can not be any omissions about the emotional outburst, because you mentioned it yourself.
I would not even consider a relationship at this point until you know for sure what is causing these episodes.
And yes, you are very much in denial. Sorry Hun but your profile reeks of some one who is moody, narcissistic, and extremely unstable.
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/4/2008 4:38:09 PM | he is probably scared half to death and is giving you all this hope to keep you calmed down. i've been married 6 times, my first wife was like you.
you know you are probably a very good person and just scared you are going to lose this guy and don't know how to hold on to him. what you are doing ain't going to keep him hanging on.
he probably didn't slip you something. mabe you should have an MRI done on you brain. mabe the guy before caused some damage. ever thought about that?
10 years in a bad relationship? you will keep looking for this type relationship or try and make any relationship you have this way because it is what you enjoy. fight, fight, and then make-up, make-up. sound familiar? | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:45:16 PM | | Vomitous drunken brawls. How many guys want this from a GF? Not too many I suspect. If you can lure this guy back hang on, it probably won't get any better than this one. | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:54:28 PM | | You should be far more concerned with figuring out why this happened to you than you are about the state of your relationship. All you want to do is hold on to him and ignore the possibility something is seriously wrong? It it was me, I would be more worried about my mental state and doing whatever I could to help myself. Really, I don't think you actually believe someone slipped you something. | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:14:44 AM | What a jerk that guy is!
Totally using you ...he was, i can't imagine anyone not enjoying a post Alcoholic Beating while lying in peacefull rest.
Imagine his falling on the hard bedroom floor, in the middle of the night, to the screaming rage of his delusional girlfriend.
BINGO...He's totally leading you on...THAT JERK...Drop him like a bad habit! | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:49:52 AM | If you truly believe someone slipped something in your drink,(and I'm NOT discounting that possibility) I guess MY question would be who and why? i understand that at this time you and he are back together and everything is fine...but why in the world would somebody spike your drink?
Cindy O | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:00:55 PM | | there was a brother sister couple that i was playing pool with there that i had just met..the sister kept trying to get me to come home with them..and i kinda blew it off at first and yes i was stupid and left my drink unattended...they were very adamant..and my bf kept telling me that he didnt want me playing pool with them and i said its fine tim they are nice! well..the guy got pissed when i introduced him to tim as my bf..and i didnt know that they had a history of trying to take girls home with them...so who knows what happened.... | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:53:03 PM |
there was a brother sister couple that i was playing pool with there that i had just met..the sister kept trying to get me to come home with them..and i kinda blew it off at first and yes i was stupid and left my drink unattended...they were very adamant..and my bf kept telling me that he didnt want me playing pool with them and i said its fine tim they are nice! well..the guy got pissed when i introduced him to tim as my bf..and i didnt know that they had a history of trying to take girls home with them...so who knows what happened....
You should've went home with them. Who knows, ya could've had some fun...:-0)
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:10:06 PM | | If you don't recall anything for a period of time then you ARE headed for and already in BIG trouble. Sometimes it doesn't matter if you only consume a small amount of alcohol over a period of time, the blackout can occur due to a buildup or consistent use of alcohol over a period of time. Whatever is happening, it sounds like a dangerous situation for all involved, especially the children. Good luck. | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:12:48 PM | Oh Boy Lotsa DRAMA!!!
Moving in and out and back again in a three month period - nice that you two are dragging children behind in your volatile wake.
Geez!! Sort yourselves out for goodness sake and do the world a favor and stop breeding - both your genes are defective or at the very least your parenting skills are crap. | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:57:57 PM | well....i ended it tonight...
not that anybody really cares ...but i made that choice... he grabbed my daughters arm and after all the re-evaluating i did and all the changes i made that is one thing i refuse to put up with...police were called...and he is now sitting in a jail cell...the feelings i had for him just "poof" disappeared...i dont know how or why..but my children mean the world to me....the side of her arm is black and blue...i feel total relief now...its strange how something can happen to you and you deal with it and maybe even accept it ..but when it happens to your child...there is NO excuse and NO forgiving...ever...it was not in playing or in fun...it was because he got angry...what happened between him and i was between him and i...and although it wasnt right...it has helped me learn a lot of things...the child is only 6 years old...good riddance to him...id rather be alone and lonley...than to have to put my child thru that EVER...
so no more posts please unless its positive...
a lot of you may think that good he got rid of me..but no...its good for my girls that i got rid of HIM...thats all that matters :)...but i tell you what...my next relationship..will be calm..and loving...and meaningful...no more crap | |
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| Stringing me along or just plain confused
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:13:40 AM | Glad to see that you're on your own and you took care of your daughter.
I was pretty harsh on you earlier because it always makes me mad when adults run amok and drag their children along for the ride.
You say you've been working on dealing with the issues from your past relationships - that's really great - I'd advise you to view this as a long term project - most people think they're done as soon as they get some fresh insight, but in fact it takes a very long time to change ideas and behaviours that you've had for years.
If my interpretation of your timeline in this last relationship is correct then I would recommend going a lot slower the next time. I know it's easy to get caught up in the excitement and high hopes of a new romance (been there myself), but if you act on those early feelings by moving in together then you have to go through the process of really getting to know one another while living under the same roof which is really just too much stress especially when you have kids to deal with too.
Best of Luck!! | |
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