| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:48:33 AM | To the OP,
I dont know what size you are (and dont want to know either), but maybe your trying to wrap a sandwhich bag around a log! Because we rely on blood flowing into the shaft to stay erect you dont want a "hat" thats squeezing it back out.
Step up to the Magnum XL and leave those little hats alone.
Also.... As others on here have posted, You may want to:
1. paractice with it on your own before attempting round 3.
2. rip the wrapper and have it on the nite stand or under the pillow prior to getting into it.
3. Really decide if this chic is the one,............ someone in her position should be trying to please you as much as she could in order to ge4t things going. If she's selfish as she appears to be to almost everyone on this board she will **** complain and tread on your self esteem cause she couldnt get hers.
If thats the case DUMP DAT AZZ, and find a real woman with some understanding and compassion. | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:09:40 AM | I have heard of this from some of my friends, some are even allergic to condoms.
I would have to agree with MeloFelo, you need to talk to your Dr to see what will work for you. As for my other friends, the little blue pill usually solves this problem.
You don't have to have ED to take the pill. Now days it is considered a recreational drug at parties and even some women take it to enlarge the clitoris increasing sensitivity. Cialis is also good but your partner better have the time to spend as it last up to 3 days. After having sex and once the woman has had all she can take, and not wanting to waste a perfectly good erection you can then use it to smash up empty beer cans for recycling!
But then again check with your Dr to find what your options are and which pill is right for you.
BadBoy~ | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:22:34 AM | OP, I'll confirm what Jacskson (#25) said about Viagra. Whether it's ED or just simply in your head Viagra will do wonders. I started having ED problems when I was 35 and that little blue pill does wonders. My erection is harder and lasts longer than it did when I was 20.
Not only that but my last gf loved it and liked how much stamina it gave me. I found it takes me longer to achieve orgasm which is great and gives us more time for foreplay. More time to focus on her. Another plus is if we want to relax for a bit or take a break I can step out of the 'batter's box' and still get myself ready for the next pitch.
If she takes it personally and is insulted that you use Viagra it's her loss. A lot of men just need it when they reach their 40s. | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 12:25:52 PM | I wear a condom when having sex with my girl, as she does not want any more kids, but I don't loose my erection !!! in fact, if anything, I gain an even more of an erection and can last that she also loves the flavoured ones too, as for you getting anxious i can understand about that, as I was similer to your predicament, howz about when you get an erection putting the condom on, and hopefully you will keep your erection when you actually start to have sex with your girl ?
Best Wishes
Tim | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 12:38:42 PM | Wow... so many opinions, so many errors. oh well.. My FAVORITE is the "little spray bottle" that "freezes your tip" and keeps you hard. Waaaaa????
Condoms are just a part of life these days... here are few suggestions:
- have the condom READY to go, out of it's wrapper, on the nightstand (or dashboard) before foreplay begins.
- let her put it on and turn it into a sexual game
- masterbate alone, and make the condom part of your self-play (they don't cost THAT much, 'waste' a few, okay?
- if your condom is tight or hurts to put on or take off, go with a larger size... there are about 6 different sized now, and even different brands are NOT the same size... don't instantly go for Giganto-Enormous size, chances are, it'll just fall off (but if it doesn't, let me know and I can set you up with this cute chick I know. 
Frankie | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 12:52:27 PM | Another suggestion I forgot to mention. I am not huge in the pants but I found that the regular run of the mill condoms were tight and constricting, as I'm sure everyone experienced. I found myself going almost number after minutes of penetration while using them, and while I could still peak I wouldn't feel much before it. But after I switched to Durex ultra-thins (I've tried a few thin varieties and the grew box is the best by far) it was ALMOST like not wearing one and no numbing sensation. Even after a couple hours of solid sex without breaks I don't get any numbness.
Another idea is maybe suggest she put the condom on with her mouth. It's uber-exciting to watch and feels great and maybe it'd get you JUST over that edge of wanting to go soft. But I really got to reiterate here that if she's getting THAT mad at you about non-performance after two mishaps I'd be considering my options with her very carefully. You want people who are supportive in your life and that to me doesn't scream "I support you honey, regardless of your setbacks". And remember, this stuff happens to a good chunk of men! I know it's hard to swallow but it shouldn't be an embarrassing thing. But I think if I were in those shoes I'd likely be embarrassed about it too.
Oh and unless you are GIGANTO-ENORMOUS it's not a good idea to go to that size of condom, as Frank suggested! I've had a condom come off when she tensed up and didnt' notice it until afterwards when I rolled over and my stomach was all wet and not from sweat! LOL Bad scene, and quite the scare. I'm done bearing children, or at least I hope until my vasectomy appointment comes and goes! | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 1:56:50 PM | | It's all in your head (of body, not penis). One thing to consider--because a lot of men lose some sensitivity while using a condom, it takes them longer to cum, which is actually better in many women's opinins! Hm, maybe God created the condom for a reason. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 1:57:48 PM | IF I live to be 1,000, I will never understand how pregnancy is a 'risk'.
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If you live to be 1000 as a man, of course you will never understand the "risk". Try being a woman for 40 years, then you'll get it. | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 2:17:54 PM |
IF I live to be 1,000, I will never understand how pregnancy is a 'risk'.
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If you live to be 1000 as a man, of course you will never understand the "risk". Try being a woman for 40 years, then you'll get it. This is hilarious! I'm not sure how you DON'T understand the risk of pregnancy?! Unless you are in a serious relationship and then if you are I question why you are on a dating site. But I haven't checked your profile so I can't comment buddy. No one wants illegitimate children! I don't know...perhaps you have a few and aren't concerned? Just seems like a weird comment, that's all. | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:58:39 PM | i can just about lose anything , never mind losing an erection.
losing an erection is the last thing on my mind.
now then, just where did i put that erection.............lol | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:05:47 PM | | May be if you put a reminder post it on your penis you won't lose the erection. Maybe that will help. | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:40:21 PM | | it does not matter if you lost your wood bro, just do what needs to be done to get it hard again and git er' done!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 10:42:21 PM |
IF I live to be 1,000, I will never understand how pregnancy is a 'risk'.
How did you get to be 42 without understanding that simple idea? Here...
It's a RISK to get pregnant when you have no money or job.
It's a RISK if you're going to school and and have to STOP for a baby.
It's a RISK if you have to quit your job for a baby.
It's a RISK if you don't want one and it will emotionally hurt you.
It's a RISK if you aren't mature enough to take care of another life.
It's a RISK to get pregnanat when you are alone without a relationship.
It's a RISK if a doctor has told you you could have problems in child birth.
It's a RISK just giving birth, to the mother and child.
And that is stream of consciousness writing... If I THOUGHT about it, I'm sure there are many more and much better risks to add to that list. Why would you even tell everyone you don't understand the risks?? It doesn't bode well for you.
Frankie. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 10:59:13 PM | Yes, I have definitely had a problem with condoms and erections. Usually in one night stands. Must be psychological. Never had the problem when I have been seeing someone for a while.
But I absolutely love it when I'm in a committed relationship and don't use them. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:30:40 PM | the only way to insure that you wont lose your hard-on is if you were ME.
But we all know you AINT, so
do what you can and dont ever let it get you down bro! | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:48:25 PM |
It's all in your head (of body, not penis). One thing to consider--because a lot of men lose some sensitivity while using a condom, it takes them longer to cum, which is actually better in many women's opinins! Hm, maybe God created the condom for a reason.
Eh with all due respect, that is a load of bullcrap, you aren't the one with the penis, you don't understand how it works. And if the man can't "cum", it will not be pleasurable for you either when the "well dries up". | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 1:20:59 AM | | Well i will go off on a different direction...and perhaps your using the wrong size condoms? I know there are sites in which you can get "custom" fit condoms..and are reasonably priced.....personally for me...I can't use the majority of "generic" off the shelf condoms..b/c I had the same thing happend to me...but now...I tried different sizes and have found some that work for me....key thing is keep trying...don't give up! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 4:38:31 AM | Thats why it is better to be in a stable relationship when you don't need em (both get tested for diseases first of course).
It would definately be psychological if you can get it up no problem when she isn't around, many women demand their lover to perform like porn stars, which results in anxiety for the poor guy. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 6:14:02 AM | Wow ... lots of 'psychological issue' sorts of feedback.
Just another, simpler, take.
In general, and far beyond just bedroom behavior, I tend to over-think and over-analyze -LOTS- of different things. In point of fact, it helps with work considerably, and it's not a personality trait I'm looking to curb any time soon. I don't think that becomes a hangup in this situation.
Aside from the obvious things that make fooling around fun, the simple fact that my brain is purely in 'oh, wow, this feels good!' mode and not in 'analyze' mode sure helps.
I would guess ... maybe 1 in 5 times ... that when it's time for my little soldier to put on the helmet, through the course of changing into his fatigues, he moves from attention to parade rest. (I'm not ashamed to say I lose my erection while putting on the condom sometimes, but that whole euphemism was just too much fun to pass up).
It's not fear that having heterosexual sex might result in pregnancy (Egad! When did THIS start happening ... call your congressman!), or that my little guy has a bag over his head and can't breathe (Wha? Oh, c'mon Studleydorightly... there's anthropomorphizing (points to the soldier thing) and then there's just EXCESS, man! ) .
Simply put, the rhythm of the foreplay got broken by pausing to put on the condom.
Example of the thought process:
Foreplay-to-sex sans condom:
This feels nice
this feels nice
this feels nice
OH! I didn't know she could do THAT!
mmmm
Right! Time for the pants to come off!
Sex commences
Foreplay-to-sex with condom application:
This feels nice
this feels nice
this feels nice
OH! I didn't know she could do THAT!
mmmm
Right! Time for the pants to come off!
Ok ... and now the condom.
Oh ... that's two folded together ... here, let me make sure I'm just opening one ... there we go.
I didn't just tear it did I? Ok good ...
Ok ... it's out now ... am I ... oh ... heck, let me turn it over so it unrolls the right way.
There we go ... wait ... is it sticking to itself or was I right the first time and it's upside down now? GOD! seems like I do that with my contacts every time too ... I should turn on a light. Oh ... no ... there we go ... just a little stuck.
Did I leave enough room at the end? (Adjust adjust adjust)
OK! Away we go!
Sex commences.
The point being ... even with successful application ... there's a minute there where my mindset has to change while I pay attention to adorning my digit rather than just enjoying the ride, and sometimes there's just not a seamless transition back into 'enjoy' mode.
The solution? Have her help.
Even if the adornment itself is still ... in your hands ...
Put the condoms in her nightstand ... I guarantee the implied 'take me now' when she hands it to you is about a million times sexier than the 'time to pull on my schwantz-sock' of fetching it yourself.
Both of you do the sexy things you like while you're putting it on: whispers in the ear, kissing on the neck, pausing to do some touching ... make the application more of a ritualized foreplay rather than a transitory chore ... i.e. keep it foreplay --> sex rather than foreplay --> pause for condom --> sex.
In the event you still fumble:
REMOVE AND DISCARD the improperly applied condom ... Nothing ... NOTHING guarantees you're not getting laid like the visual of 3 inches of flapping latex off the end of your flaccid hoo-ha ... you don't want to see it, she doesn't want to see it.
Don't kill the foreplay mood by cursing and getting irritable over fumbling the application. Move smoothly (and if not smoothly, at least quickly) back to -enjoying one another- with the foreplay and you'll get another shot at the application in 5-10 minutes. I promise. The downside ... you've just made out for 10 minutes ... there is no downside ... don't be assy.
If she wonders if something's wrong, or otherwise wants an explanation -in the moment-, be brief, be honest, make sure you're clear it was a product of the transition not being smooth, not the company. Get back to enjoying your partner.
If she doesn't want an explanation in the moment ... reassure her -after- or in the morning so that she knows it was just the transition. If you're really smooth, this becomes an opening for 'round 2' and/or morning nookie. Never -NEVER- pass up an opportunity to compliment the partner's prowess at making you feel good and at having great sex. Maybe at church ... and in front of your grandma at Thanksgiving dinner ... but ASIDE from then, don't miss the chance. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 6:27:11 AM | | The pausing to put the condom on should be no excuse to go limp. An erection doesn't die that quickly. I think there's much more at work there. Like the above poster said you should try making that part of the sex a PART of the sex. I love watching a woman turn onto her knees and reach for the condom. I usually lean in for a quick nibble while she's rustling for it. =) If you aren't skilled enough to rip it open and slip it on in mere seconds then either start practicing at home when you masturbate, have some more sex, or get her involved. I love it when a girl wants to put it on, ESPECIALLY if she can or will use her mouth. If you meet one of these, she's DEFINITELY a keeper. I've found mine. The whole process with her getting it and me making her pause for a second, and then her putting it on me only takes a minute, if that. I can safely say that to grab it off the nightstand myself, rip it open, and put it on takes 10 seconds flat. In the dark. It's not rocket science. This sh!t was made for our junk. Why can we not pull the sheath on?! | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 3/5/2008 7:13:34 AM | Just a quick comment on the 'wear a bigger condom' take ...
1) Nicely played. I -SO- want to post in public that my johnson is freaking HUGE. Why am I posting on the other side of that issue then? What was I saying? Man, I'm dumb.
Seriously, though ... the equipment that the manufacturers use to 'test' the condoms (and to roll them for the packaging) is sufficiently large in both length and breadth that I think it's safe to assume that moving up to a larger size probably isn't guesswork. It's probably apparent.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_v968POEE8
2) For a condom to work the right way, it's intent is to be a fluid barrier. As such you want the thing to be tight-fitting ... if its diameter is as big or bigger than you, eventually either fluid from her is going to leak into the same opening you use to apply the thing, (which foils the whole point of disease vector barrier) or fluid from you leaks out the opening into her (which foils both disease vector and contraception)
If you want them to work as intended, they're supposed to be pretty close to skintight with enough room at the end to accommodate the gentleman's bodily fluids without the condom being strained by volume of said fluid, air bubbles from application, and the general motion of the act you're using it for. (i.e. minimize both the odds of fluid leaking out the existing opening -and- minimize the chance of a burst)
If there's a hangup because sex with a condom feels like ... you're wearing a condom. Um, that's not a -problem-.
If there really is some sort of circulatory issue ... go see a doctor ... now (well, close this window if you're reading it at work FIRST, then leave for the doctor).
As far as preference and sensation go ... I'm a fan of the Durex brand polyurethane condoms. Eliminates the latex allergy factor, and the polyurethane -seems- to transfer heat better than latex, but that could be mental. They're available at most every drug store chain I've happened to be in and shopping for condoms (though I've yet to see them in quantities larger than 6). I've also tried the Trojan version of the polyurethane condom, but they seem to have limited availability, and I have had one of them burst. | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:41:54 AM | Did it ever cross your mind that because of the fact she gets "pissed" about this, you're putting too much pressure on yourself and as a result can't perform? The fact she is getting "pissed" is an issue in itself....Woman need to be more understanding as we've all had experiences as such and there are MANY different reasons why this happens and not because a man isn't turned on like alot of women may think...
Stress/anxiety alone is a MAJOR cause, let alone RX/over counter drugs, illegal drugs, alcohol and the list goes on... | |
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| losing erection with a condom
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:49:53 AM | | i used to think that the pressure of a condom helps to get an erection, for veins are full of blood and the pressure at the bottom do not let blood return. | |
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