| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 2/12/2008 5:29:15 PM | Are you serious? TAKE CHARGE! I don't know how old you are but why should you care if it will freak the guy out. If the guy is interested in you he WILL talk to you regardless if you make the first move or not! So MAKE IT already or be doomed to wonder if you should have forever!!!!!!
ps I know this is an ask GUYs topic. I was just doing some browse through for a similar post to my question.
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 5:46:50 AM | I love it when a woman contacts me first, it shows she has interest and breaks the ice. I suspect most of my liking it is, due to the fact I love a woman who is not afraid to express herself and is intelligent as well as attractive. So YES contact first, go for it!!!
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:01:34 AM |
This is the reason why i wont contact anybody lol, im afraid of having this type of reply [ "thanks for the interest but you're not my type" ]reply
I would rather have that than, Read - Deleted, but then i won't send a message first anymore, so you'd need to contact me | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:11:26 PM | I think this being the 21st centure,the females should make first contack.
And they should at least pay half of the dinner bill. It is call equal rights.
I am probaly going to catch the on this one.
Oh yes i love it when a lady contacks me
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:55:59 PM | | Go for it! If they are freaked out then ask yourself the question are they really are the kind of guy you're looking for...I've only been on this site a week... and yet to get a lady message me first... but if I did it would be flattering regardless of whether I liked their profile or not... it's always nice when someone shows an interest in what you're about... | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 2:48:46 PM | kansasgirl07, Well I obviously can not speak for the guys whose profiles you are looking at, but I can say this, I have stopped making the first contact because there are SO many women who will read an email and delete it without making any kind of response at all. Personally I would rather receive an email from someone that telling me sorry but I am not interested then to just be ignored. I have sent I know 35 or 40 emails out to women just introducing myself and letting them know I am interested if talking to get to know them. I have had maybe 4 return an email at all. I have decided that if a woman is interested in me she will be willing to make the first contact.
So if you like him or think you might like him and want to get to know him then you should email him. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 2:50:58 PM |
"thanks for the interest but you're not my type".
amyfe I can understand your feelings about that but I would reather see that then to just have my email read, deleted and totaly ignored. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:41:55 PM |
What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
I think "No matter how polite & nice you are, this will last about 2 msgs and then she'll dissapear into obscurity"
It IS a dating site after all. Everyone is disposable.
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/8/2008 10:15:04 PM | Ladies, you have something very powerful at your disposal. A tecnique, for meeting men, thats just staggering in its effectiveness. It' as a high percentage of effectiveness, it makes us men green with envy. It's simple, uses no tricks, gimmicks, or lines. it can be used anytime, or place, and on anyone. there is nothing to remember, or forget. It's as close to a 100 percent guarantee as you'll ever find. Best of all, you have something very powerful on your side....THE MALE EGO!!!!!!
Do I have your attention? What's this miracle method? It's simplicity itself. Nothing could be simpler. The secret to getting a man to go out with you is:::
ASK US OUT!!!!
Ladies, all you have to do is ask. Thats right...ASK US!!!! Now don't complain. I told you it was simple. If it's so simple, why don't you do it? I'm sure your eyes are rolling.
Alot of women say, "Right, I'll do the asking" or "Me ask? What if he says no?" How about, " I could never get the courage"
OH YOUR BREAKING MY HEART!!!!
Now, let's define terms. When i say ask him out, I dont neccesarrily mean walk up and say, " Would you like to go out to dinner on Saturday?" If you can do this, great!! It'll more than likely work, everytime. If you can't, that's fine, too. I just mean make a very clear indication that you have interest in him. Ask the guy to work out with you, go jogging, ETC. You know what I'm talking about, don't you? Just do it!!! It works. Why?
That's where the male ego comes in.
Men have interesting egos. Want to know a secret? the male ego finds it very difficult to say no to ANY WOMAN who asks him out. Here's why:
From day one, guys have always done the asking. It's very nerve wracking.
You think we don't have a fear of rejection? Of course we do!!! But, if we want to be with you, we have no choice, so we do it. Men would be thrilled to get a break from this one way street. They would love to have the tables turned.
How many times do you think the average man gets asked out? Not very often is right. So, when YOu do the asking, ladies, you standout from the crowd. You always tell us NOT to lump you all into one category right? Well, show us that you are different!!! Be as subtle as you want, or as direct as you want. Don't believe me? Ask your male friends, how they'd feel if a woman asked them out. Then ask them how they'd feel if a woman asked them out, AND offered to pay.
Now for some negative thoughts on this idea. I've heard them all, and they are ridiculous. The first one is, he will think you are easy. Oh please!!! Doesn't she have a mind of her own? Can't she make it clear right from the beginning that she's not easy? Can't she control her own life? Are all men deranges rapists, on the prowl? (If you answer yes to this, log off and seek professional help!!) And , any guy that DOEs think it makes her easy,well then, GOOD!!! You want to know how to tell if hes not good enugh to date? Well, he has done that for you already
The next objection is that women should never do the asking. This has got to be the most ridiculo9us thing I've ever heard., even though you may very well feel this way. But, if you want a cab, do you just wait on the corner for one to come to you, or do you hail it yourself? I know which one makes more sense.
Many women say they do enough already. I guess just sitting there looking pretty is enough? They claim they make it obvious when theya re interested in a man. If that's obvious, I'd hate to see subtle. It would take the CIA to crack that code of "obvious" interest.
here is my favorite objection: " What if he say's no?" Oh, waaaahhhhh!!! Welcome to our world. Men have to put up with this, all the time.
They get more no's than yes's. So, what if he say's no? big deal!!! Will you melt? Will he run a headling in the paper, announcing he rejected you? Will he stand in a crowded room ,and say, " Excuse me, everyone listen. I'm going to turn this lady down!" Don't be ridiculous!!!
You're afraid, and don't want to admit it. You blow these smokescreen excuses, and think webut it. Well, we don't. So you're not off the hook.
OOOOHHH!!!! That got some of you mad. Good!!! Prove me wrong!!! You get the point, right?
If you never ask, and just keep wondering if he would've said yes, you've just given up total control to a perfect stranger. Shame on you!!!
Another flimsy excuse is that a man will feel intimidated if she asks him out. You have got to be kidding me!!! Again, ask your male friends. Aside from a few phony macho jerks, who you really don't want anyway, most men would love it if a woman approached him. It just doesn't happen often enough. Stop the excuses, just do it!!!! | |
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