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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/14/2008 5:39:59 PM | OP, Messege me first and I will be happy to write you back, it happens enough now that I am not as shocked as I once was. I don't get shocked enough in daily life. (( Okay put the power cables back down Heather, I did not mean it that way!!! ))
If they are going to be good conversationalist you mailing them first should not be an issue.
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:49:54 PM | Personally, I almost never contact a woman online first, I wait for them to come to me. Very different from my actions in real life, where I talk to everyone.
If you are interested in someone, you should definitely contact them. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/20/2008 5:57:51 PM | | So, what I'm getting from this, is that men like us to make the first contact. Then WHY am I getting absolutely NO response from any of them? I usually say something about how I like their profile etc. Help me. waaaaaa | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/20/2008 6:39:13 PM | I think we as a gender would welcome that because it takes some pressure off of us.
It's nerve racking always making the first move. So go ahead & bite the bullet, what have you got to lose. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/20/2008 7:34:10 PM |
This is the reason why i wont contact anybody lol, im afraid of having this type of reply [ "thanks for the interest but you're not my type" ]reply
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jurupa
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Joined: 2/12/2008
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:22:04 PM |
So has any guy on here, gotten more messages from women, now that they KNOW we like to be messaged? Nope.
it seems to me, they really dont care about what we are saying in here Since when did women listen to us men? lol
But seriously I don't think its not them not caring what we say, but more the mind set that all they "rule" online dating. One would think with women generally out numbering guys on online dating sites, that they would be contacting the guys, but nope. Instead they out number us and expect us to contact them with a high rate of being "rejected" by them. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/21/2008 10:48:59 AM | I have no problem with it.
Some of the best dates and the closest to "THE ONE" started with her contacting me. I think.
It takes a load of the guy knowing she already has some interest in him.
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/21/2008 2:40:42 PM | | Thats fine! Some men are shy and you getting the ball rolling may be a good thing! Most other dating sites will at least allow you to "wink" of otherwise show an interest. This works well , if someone shows me an interest, I wouldn't hesitate contacting them if I was interested too! | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/22/2008 6:25:21 AM | you want to know WHy men wish women would contact us first? Here is why:::
Hey if you see unread deleted don't be disappointed, some users (.01%) get 100 new emails a day if they have a great picture up. People like that don't have time to read your message even if they wanted to. Check out your entire contact history HERE
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I do not smoke!!! 3/22/2008 5 10 AM Read Deleted
ok 3/22/2008 5 22 AM Unread
The answer is Yes!!!!! 3/22/2008 3 34 AM Unread Deleted
STEWIE!!!! 3/22/2008 2:02:53 AM Unread Deleted
cant read this guy 3/22/2008 1 59 AM Unread Deleted
you asked for a review 3/22/2008 1 19 AM Unread Deleted
italiangirl18 Ive been to italy 3/21/2008 11:04:27 PM Unread Deleted
How do you guys do it??? 3/21/2008 11:03:19 PM Unread Deleted
well 3/21/2008 8 47 PM Read Deleted
hi from the central valley 3/21/2008 829 PM Unread Deleted
hi 3/21/2008 807 PM Read
a comment on your profile 3/21/2008 6 41 PM Read Deleted
Good men 3/21/2008 6 26 PM Unread Deleted
your profile 3/21/2008 6 34 PM Read Deleted
your question 3/21/2008 6 04 PM Unread Deleted
Hello from modesto 3/21/2008 4 17 PM Unread Deleted
pretty people get overlooked too 3/21/2008 4 20 PM Unread Deleted
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:25:07 AM | | I don't mind, but I've yet to receive a message from a woman that I've found the least bit attractive. As cruel as that sounds, when I get a message, I know it's not going to be a supermodel. The most attractive women on this site have likely never clicked on the search button. So I don't mind, but I sort of grimace when I see a new message. Insensitive, but honest. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/22/2008 11:02:13 AM | Dam Mrwrong37, I thought I had it bad when I was looking. They would at least read most of my mail. Though none seemed to like to delete my messages or reply to them. I often wondered why so many girls keep messages in there inbox for soo long.
To answer the OP's question, girls should email guys. Most guys are fed up with girls not reading or ignoring there emails that they may welcome a girl emailing them. And if not, they should be polite enough to say they are not interested. Only one in every 50 girls has thus far sent me an email back stating they are not interested. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:49:44 PM | | Of course we like it when a girl contacts us first. Women like it when men contact them first- we're not that much different from you. I don't even send out messages any more because I don't have time to read 50 women's profiles and message 50 women every day just so I'll get one to respond. If women sent out more first contacts it would make it a lot easier for us guys. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/22/2008 3:31:33 PM | Damn Mrwrong that does suck a lot, though I can't say I didn't have those happen to me as well. Especially when I try to use a clever topic header, I still get the dreaded Unread/Read Deleted message.
So yeah it can be a bit demoralizing sometimes when you get a whole slew of Read/Unread Deleted messages in your inbox when trying to contact women.
But just stay positive, I know I am. | |
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jurupa
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Joined: 2/12/2008
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 3/23/2008 5:29:33 PM |
A lot of women still have the attitude that the man should always be the one to make the first move so I don't think there will be a paradigm shift any time soon. With females out numbering guys population wise, and equality between the sexes gets closer, I bet you will see more and more females making the first move. | |
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