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Posted: 1/23/2008 8:06:37 PM | Ive never really paid any attention to the gifts...hahaha and I agree with a lot of the responses here. I think it basically depends on who your talking to and if they are a man or woman. I think someone here said something about needing gifts geared more towards men, I would have to agree with that also. Using them to uplift someone who is down I think is the only reason I might use one. So if I were to send one to a gentlemen I was talking to, I dont see any that I would want to send really.
I adore these lil smilies tho!!! hahaha
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Posted: 2/22/2008 10:36:08 AM | I sent a rose last night to someone I recently found here and enjoyed talking with, very much. But we've never talked outside of POF messaging system. Then, this morning I'm browsing the forums and I come across this thread...
I tried to go and delete the sent mail as it's not been read yet, but didn't find a function to pull the sent email. Is that even possible?
I read this thread and now am worried the lady is going to stop writing me because I sent the rose. I had no idea there was any etiquette about the roses and now feel silly for having sent it due to the comments and feedback from some of your posts.
Oh well, I'm new to the site, can I use that as an excuse? "I didn't know what the roses meant" . And to think girls aren't going to contact me or reply to me because I have only 1 rose to send now? I may as well log out and not come back for 29 more days. That's just not going to happen. This is crazy. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 12:41:06 PM | Had a guy send me "flowers" with an introductory letter on POF...
It was awkward, like "when a man you've never met before suddenly gives you flowers."
That was a good commercial back in the 80's, but it is the same as IRL... it's a bit creepy/needy --like he was trying to make up for poor written/verbal skills, or something.
On the other hand, nice to get if you have been chatting for a bit. It's the good kind of cheesy after you have already "met."
It gives you a smile for thoughtfulness, and another for the absurdity of the whole thing
As far as the 2x a month "special" variety goes...
Only if it really is a thoughtful gift. Like a reminder of the real ones from the night before. It wouldn't seem right to make a pedestal moment out of a virtual gift from someone you haven't met anyway.
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Posted: 2/22/2008 2:58:23 PM | | as it turned out. She loved the rose and it apparently was received very well as she was having an off day it seemed. I'm glad it made her day as she's a very nice person to talk with. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 11:01:13 AM | | I agree roses should only be sent to someone you're interested in or involved with. I do bypass profiles if they are missing roses, because that is how I view it. Perhaps I am bypassing profiles I shouldn't be. How does one really know how each one views "the rose"? | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 11:48:34 AM | To send a Rose or not send a Rose. I can not decide?
Maybe she would settle for a virtual gift?
Should I include these moving icons in all my notes to her?
I am sure everyone takes these aviators to mean what they want it to mean.
Hey I wonder how many boxes of chocolates was sent on Valentines day?
Bet they where all sold out
Do men like them she asked?
Hey how can you not like the added pizazz in a note while chatting on line!
Oh I am guilty of using up my Roses one month to just respond to them being they where sent to me.
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Posted: 2/23/2008 1:09:31 PM | Ok, if you accidentally sent a rose and did not mean it, what do you do?
I have received many virtual gifts and the most fun was getting the wine and a lot during the New Year's celebration and then, the I love you teddy bear for Valentine's.
However, when I was new here, I accidentally clicked something and discovered that I had sent my very first Be Mine rose to someone who, although I was on his fav list, I really did not know from Adam. In thanking him for a gift, I must have inadvertently sent the rose and it did trigger some comments from some guys wondering who received that rose . Some with jealous tinge that required me to explain with embarrassement.
Virtual or not, sending and receiving a rose has some meaning to it, thus I was flabbergasted and could hardly wait until I could get back my 2 roses again. I have vowed never to part with even one of them. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 12:22:12 PM | | I havent sent any roses...But have sent the occasional gift to friends to say thanks or cheer them up..I have received a rose or two but kind of wondered if they werent sent to be a little pushy to take things further...Its funny one of the things I look at on someones profile is how many roses they have...0 roses means too involved, possibly...Just my opinion... | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 11:54:57 AM | A player??????? How does sending a rose make you a player?.......
I have received many roses over the time since they have been introduced here on POF. Most of the roses have come from friends, especially those that I banter with here in the forums. None of this makes any of them "players", but more of kind friends and yes, some lovers, that want me to know that they are thinking about me in some way, shape and/or form....
There have been some on here that have been very sick, or lost their significant other, or just out of a long term relationship, and they deserve a rose to know that they are thought about and cared for. There are many ways to send gifts on POF, and the rose is just one of them, and unfortunately for many, since they can be seen, they are misunderstood for why they might be sent or missing.
I would prefer POF to either eliminate the rose, or put in where the other gifts are located and not for all to see; or to have each and every gift shown when sent, so that all would see them and maybe understand who the real players are and who are not. Maybe POF could find one specific gift that is given for only one reason, and one reason only, and that is your desire to know that person alone, and up close and personal....... 
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Posted: 2/25/2008 12:25:46 PM | | well I think men should send the flower not the other way around Guess I am old fashioned.............. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 1:11:48 PM | Me thinks you just might be and many of us want equality from our significant other and women in general.....in all ways and in all things...... 
Making a statement like that is like me saying that I think women should cook and clean for me and not the other way around.....guess I am old fashioned..... 
OT........I always enjoy receiving gifts from my friends and dates, no matter the gender, and no matter the kind. I try to reciprocate as well, by being creative with gifts, cards, adventures, thoughts and activities. There are no specific gender roles other than I hope that you are not taller than I am, nor weigh more........
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Posted: 2/25/2008 4:16:53 PM | | Yeah I read your profile I see your an athleltic person I would be almost certain that you probably dont' eat cookies in bed or let your dog sleep with you either......and I am also certain you are a neat freak....... am I close? | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 7:56:44 PM |
Yeah it kind of lets you know who is a player
Or maybe one who is just decent and a little playful. Since I don't have a local romantic interest on POF for valentines day I figured I'd send my roses out to two of my favs.
If some one seems a little down I send them a gift. I think the white ceramic one of the two figurines is funny/cute. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 3:33:54 AM | I was a bit freaked out when I received one, as they say, "Be Mine." I don't mind getting them, but I don't send them.
All that I can think about is: How does one put a creepy electronic rose in water without being electrocuted? Huh? Now there's a thought. The other stuff is okay, though. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 9:10:20 AM | | well i think a rose for a guys a bit girly,not that it doesnt think the sender special.especially if the feelings mutual.women prefer flowers to men,a bvitual pints good,but then youll think we drink too much lol | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 8:05:05 AM | A little off-topic:
I think it is even better when someone picks you flowers...
"Hey, I saw this/these on the side of the road and I thought of you!"
WOW! That's even better than the biggest store-bought bouquet. | |
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| When Do You Send a Rose.....
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:08:05 AM | Used to do that for a few of my exes ... there is a roadside flower cabin near where I used to live .. just now and again I'd pull over and buy a bouquet .. it was always worth it ..
On here I send gifts to friends .. I've never intentionally sent a Be Mine Rose though ... | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 11:18:06 AM |
Its funny one of the things I look at on someones profile is how many roses they have...0 roses means too involved ... B I N G O ... right on the money.
That's what was intended with the introduction of the roses. It's meant to be an indicator as to how available a person is.
0 roses means that person is:
**very involved with someone ...
**off the market ...
**emotionally unavailable ...
**already taken ...
**has a significant other.
Others can come in here and tell us how they use the rose or what their interpretation of the rose is, but the idea is to be an indication to all who look at a profile as to how available a person is. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 2:03:31 AM | That's your intrepretation, not every ones. Just like there are at least a dozen reason one could be on some one's favorite's lists.
I was a bit freaked out when I received one, as they say, "Be Mine." I don't mind getting them, but I don't send them.
You were worried you'd end up in a pit somewhere being lowered a bucket of lotion?
So if I send one to a friend I just say I mean it out of the highest sense of admiration. Or to the other I sent I said something that I may have coined a new word for "The most desirable & impressive in my elife." and she liked it and sent me one back, too! | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 7:38:39 PM | I've sent one rose ever....and that was to a moderator after he unbanned me from the forums. He'd banned me for a lifetime (...or was it 32 months?) over what I felt was an unjust situation! He allowed me to explain myself and let me off with a stern warning instead lol.
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Posted: 3/11/2008 10:03:24 PM | I do not use that feature. It also deters me from responding to someone that has sent one out. I figure they must be dating or seeing someone that they really like if one is used. :)
If I were to receive flowers or anything for that matter I prefer it in real life and from someone that I actually am really interested in. It does not mean anything to receive a virtual gift from a stranger ie: from someone that one has not even talked to on here or met.....
Although the person that sent it was meaning to be nice, it feels a bit ackwardto me. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 3:02:48 PM | I like this meaning RosesforYou but how about
I sent a rose to a guy and he didn't send me one back-- but one of his is gone.
I sure hope he was trying to cheer someone up LOL | |
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