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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:51:04 PM | IF I thought that revealing that I met the guy on the internet would cause people to be suspicious/alarmed( and I have some very conservative friends and family)about him, I would fib. If it's somebody more progressive that I'm talking to, I'd have no problem saying that we met on the internet. It's not about my embarassment, it's about having the guy be devalued...
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:56:07 PM | | I am embarrased and I doubt that it will change anytime soon ... my closest friends will know but I have no intentions on telling anyone else Im on a dating site. | |
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:58:25 PM |
Excellent example parry 10
I thought so too Jessie.....
Note to you:
I love your pics on your profile.......you look like such a positive and fun loving girl.....guys should line up to get a chance to hang out with you!.....I'd drag you out for some fun on the town any day!
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:50:15 PM | My dad met my stepmonster online. :)
My mother met the guy she cheated on my dad with in a Sears
Honestly... I think my mother is weirder | |
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:03:37 PM | if you feel uncomfortable telling the truth,
than the way to handle it as in any other embarrasment situation. kill the question with a joke or good response - depending on the audience. like say: she was a gift from Santa Claus in your life
anything will do actually.
for those who ask it a second time, maybe answer "we met and we love each other now"
if the person is rude enough to press and ask a third time...ask back.....why you ask?....attack back to the questioner!
Intelligent people understand that for some reason you don't say it, and they don't ask it many times....  | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 3:26:35 PM | Since you care what others think, I would like to add my two cents.
The answer to your embarassment is:
"BE PROUD"
Be proud of your life and those you choose to share it with, no matter where you may have met.!
Hope this helps
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Posted: 1/5/2008 3:43:56 PM | I think that I'd rather have the stigma of having met someone to date online, than to have appeared on the Jerry Springer Show! 
You have a valid point. Life is way to busy to keep going and doing... Unless you've a huge group of people that are single in your life to choose from. Having a limited dating pool, time and patience, I think that more people are comfortable at home, spending an hour chatting with a stranger online that lives a mile down the road than in meeting them at the local bar. That said, it will always be the personal experience which dictates how you utilize current technology... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 12:50:00 AM | | Look...life is a crap shoot.....take everything that comes into your life as the next best thing....it may or may not work out...If you are afraid of telling anyone that you have met your SO online....well....you lose....it does't matter how you have met your mate...all that matters is that you have found each other.......... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:56:26 AM | | a good response is a question, why would you have contempt for something prior to a full investigation, most are guilty of that offence, also you will worry less about what people think of you when you realize how little they do. lol. good luck, you look like a fine young man. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 9:37:14 PM |
I am embarrased and I doubt that it will change anytime soon ... my closest friends will know but I have no intentions on telling anyone else Im on a dating site.
I hear ya.
Someone that is on the same page as me.
Who else is embarassed? Come on, don't be shy. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 10:10:27 PM | If you met the love of your life, I doubt you would give a ratz crahapper who thunk dunked yah anything.. "They" your skeptical friends or acquaintences would be totally remotely secondary or non existent ,likely never reaching a thought process of any part of your existence , if she was the molecular energy bond you regaled as " your one". For when this happens you will know that what I wrote hear sounds like bunk'em will be what it is, as all of your energy will be directed towards you being the best guy you can be for you to her and vice versa..... where you met will not even enter the equation for your heart will believe that you never ever deserved what finally happens to you ............. it.............."LOVE" can never share space with how it happens or who it becomes it just is what it is and without it we live meaningless empty and unhealthy existences.
So when you meet her this question you ask will never harbor an ounce of space in your male mind you will know the most valuable purpose of a life of greater achievement is to act of love to honor that phenomenal universal and undescribable energy with whom you have luckily bonded with. Real love can never be trivialized however you mert for whatever the medium, because as you look into each others eyes all around you will not matter ............. or you would not be here ... | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 10:31:20 PM | I'm not embarassed at all. I freely discuss my experiences with my friends and family.
Most of them just say "be careful". | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 10:52:47 PM | | I liken this (and other sites) to going to a party. You meet a few people, some you chat with a bit.. some longer. Some you know you don't want to spend more time with and there are a few who are just plain weird. Yet there may be a few you make a connection with and find more to talk about.. and from them, maybe a couple that you wouldn't mind meeting sometime to get better acquainted. It's just another way for people to meet and welcome to a new world. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 6:46:24 AM | | I've felt this way before and I go in and out of hiding my profile based on how I feel. Sometimes I think it's appropriate to have a profile and other times I think it's inappropriate to promote that I'm unattached. The real deal is that I am a legit single, unattached, eligible bachelorette and that I'm enthusiastic about my status and the opportunity to meet people. It's truly not embarassing and the only impression you can make on a person that really matters is the one that takes an interest in getting to know you offline. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 8:55:29 AM | | Most of my friends turn to the internet as well as a means for meeting new people, so they wouldn't judge me on it. Though I know others are not as understanding in that respect. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 10:40:12 AM | The trouble with the internet is it is worldwide so the possibiliy of meeting someone local is pretty remote.
Them of thos ethat are there actually fancying someone and then getting on with them is even more remote.
There is a lot of luck involved with internet dating. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 8:39:41 AM | | The stigma of online dating seems to be waning a lot these days and personally I have no problem telling a friend that I have a date from a guy I met on a dating site. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 8:50:03 AM | Me Me Me me -
Seriously, if you get a chance, google or even BUY the book "Unhooked Generation" it explains how these "Distancing Technologies" are ruining socializing. (among other things.)
An excerpt of a summary:
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A new book tackles the 18-to-35-year-old generation's problems--those they face and those they create.Straus' enlightening book focuses on the generation's inability to form lasting romantic relationships. People are marrying later than ever, and many can't seem to find the person they're looking for. Straus outlines seven problems hampering the unhooked generation, including a focus on self and an expectation that love should not involve work or suffering; how the Internet and speed-dating parties have introduced a plethora of ways to meet people, causing many singles to always be looking, even while in a stable relationship; the glossy glamour and unreality of celebrity relationships that lead people to have UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS; and so many people putting off marriage that they become less willing to compromise. Straus offers hope by interviewing several happy couples who have forged strong relationships based on love, compromise, and realistic expectations.
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I CAPPED the Unrealistic Expectations part....funny how what we've posted here in the forums are now published in a book lol | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 3:34:35 PM | I tell people all the time that I get dates on the internet.
Theoretically, online dating should be a superior system for meeting people. But when it comes to application, the chemistry is more of a real time, in the flesh experience. God, I sound like such a dork. But I don't care. | |
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:10:51 PM |
10 years ago it would've been embarassing.
Ten years ago I met a man through an AOL chatroom (no! It wasn't one of "those" chat rooms! It was "Metaphysics" and we clicked when discussing dream interpretation.) After meeting in real life after several months of IM's, emails and phone calls, we fell in love. Most of my friends and my family were wigged out about that. Then about a year after we got together, we went to visit some friends of his. His friend's wife asked that dreaded question "how did you two meet?" Since we lived in cities 300 miles apart, we got that question a lot. I hesitated on the answer, and then he just told her. She laughed and said, "don't be embarrassed! I met Jim when I answered his personal ad in the newspaper!"
these days....there really is NO stigma attached to it. Really! | |
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:28:30 PM | I was introduced to online dating a couple years ago by a friend of mine,and he had that experience a lot.If he mentioned this to the guys at work,they thought it was the funniest thing they ever heard.I haven't really had much negative feedback about doing this,but thats probably because most of the people that know me know to expect the unexpected.Besides,I don't have any reason to be uncomfortable about using the internet to connect with people,thats what it was made for,isn't it?
There used to be a stigma about people on computers,they're all social misfits,pervs,fat,etc.But that stigma is diminishing as more people now accept computers as normal,like microwave ovens or dishwashers.I also think it has a lot to do with you're age group,I never had computers growing up.In fact,I only got my first one 4 years ago.Most people in their 30's and younger just see this as normal.
Another important point is to not rely solely on internet for meeting people,go out and socialize as much as you can.Just look at this as a way of talking to people you wouldn't normally meet in you're regular travels. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 11:42:12 PM | man your whole post is so much true.as much as internet dating and meeting online and stuff is more popular than ever and its become such a common thing theses days people still judge people who do. there is a stereotypical judgment on people who seek to meet people for dating by using the internet.i think the most common judgment is that people think its a sign of desperation.they think only desperate people uses the internet for dating.the major proof of the fear of being judge that way can be seen on most people's profiles on here.most people say stuff like 'hum i really dont know what im doing here but...: " or " i usually dont do things like that but my friends said i should give it a shot" e.ct..... so many profiles that shows people being afraid to admit that they are here cause they want to be and werent forced to put up a profile.
personally i find theres nothing to be embarassed about.internet is the new modern way of meeting,mingling,cruising,dating and possibly finding love for thoses who are tired of the 'all-about- the looks superficial bar scene'.in bars and clubs its just about sex,drinking and having fun.no one really wants to get to know u in bar other than get to know u in theyre bed lets be frank.yes online and in sites like theses u also meet lots of people looking for just sex but at least u also have people who are genuinly interested in meeting a good person and who give a darn about personality and values and that are not all just about looks.try finding that in a bar.no wonder online dating is getting more popular. | |
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| The embarassment that is the Internet
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:55:55 AM |
Seriously, if you get a chance, google or even BUY the book "Unhooked Generation" it explains how these "Distancing Technologies" are ruining socializing. (among other things.)
Thanks for the heads up Okeedoakee. I think I'm going to check that out. | |
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