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Posted: 5/24/2005 5:32:42 PM | | Hi Raven..and good luck to you..I haven't actually ever travelled to meet anyone before. But in July I am planning on flying out to meet the man I've been talking to every night since January..will it work?..will it last?..don't know..hope so though. All I really know right now is that in my opinion I feel closer to him because we've had to share stuff with each other that you'd never find out on first or second dates..but online or on the phone you either talk..or u don't talk. Seems to me communication is all we have right now..but in my book it's alot better to start out with that. I know not all the time people are honest about what they tell you..but I am willing to take that chance..and he is too. So,..good luck to you both!!..Kimberly | |
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Posted: 5/24/2005 6:14:59 PM | Thank you....and best of luck to you as well Implusiveiam.....there are no guarantees all you can do is be brave enough to "try" and see what happens...nothing ventured, nothing gained....people can be deceitful but that happens regardless of it being online or in real time. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt and trust they are presenting their true selves. I hope you have a GREAT visit come July.....I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
I rather like that we have had so much time chatting prior to meeting.....I feel I have a better sense of Bizie because of it. I have chatted short term with people from my area, went out rather quickly and had nothing come of it.....Bizie and I have spoken to each other for hours every day at least once per day and we have never run out of things to say and yet we are always learning more about one another. The comfort is amazing and I can't wait to take that real time.
To all of you sitting on the fence about meeting someone from a distance.....take a risk.....it could be the best thing you have ever done in your life.....and one less "what if" to ponder when the time has passed. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2005 6:16:38 PM | Yes, it can work. I am dating someone who lives 2 hours from me. Not really far, but far. It is working well...... | |
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Posted: 5/24/2005 6:18:31 PM | Raven & Bizie.. don't have the 'what ifs' - meet! And you both sound like really good people.. take it slow and enjoy every moment spent together. Be real and honest with one another. All will be revealed in time.. but don't ever have any "what ifs" - it's worth the trip!
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Posted: 5/24/2005 6:24:43 PM | I absolutely believe that it is workable. You simply both have to be open to different ways to express your intimacy.
Good ol' fashioned mail (not e-mail...US Post). Love notes left in each others suitcases. Frequent phone-calls, whispering to each other. Buy a cam and visit with each other online.
I'm fortunate in that I travel the country rather frequently so visits are fairly easy. But if you aren't so lucky, start buying everything on a airline credit card and then cash in those miles!
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Posted: 5/24/2005 6:27:50 PM | Yes.. it's hard to be so far away from the one you love..
It's even harder if you don't know what you are walking into ahead of time.
But with a little love and paitence any relationship can work..
online/long distance included
Fern and her man as well as myself and mine are living proof
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Posted: 5/24/2005 6:36:06 PM | Hey bucs girl,
As Shirley Temple says>>>>>>>> Be optimistic, don't you be a grumpy...... I have had a couple long distance dating experiences, they lasted quite a while, but eventually died out, although not because of the distance. It is possible they can work out, but definately not with a negative attitude. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 12:29:03 AM | I found this quote years ago....and it still makes a lot of sense to me
"First, the endurance of a long distance relationship is proportionate to the patience of the lovers multiplied by the depth of their pockets, divided by the distance between their abodes. Secondly, nobody has that deep a pocket nor that much patience." | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 2:20:41 AM | Im in Ohio and he was in California.....Ill never regret being in that relationship.It was the most amazing one I ever had.Life is about taking chances and if you fall in love there will be no distance between your hearts.Im a hopeless romantic.Pass the tissues please..lol   | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 4:29:27 AM | It is possible, anything is possible when you put your mind in it. Distance
does not mean anything. I do have on-line friendship also with two guys
from the U.K. and two from States, one from Canada, and four from the
Netherlands. I'm sure, I'll work one at least from this group out.  | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 5:43:50 AM | AWWWWWWWWWWW.... Raven you're gonna make me cry.
Yes I am very happy with my fishie. Thanx for your words of well wishing as well. Yes you both have to keep us posted after you meet to let us know how all went... well ok NOT to the very last detail.... 
Here's to the future for both of you. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 5:47:31 AM | I do believe that long distance relationship do work, you just have to really want it to and commit yourself to making it work, just like anything else in this life.
I had a relationship with a man whom I met online who lived in northern england (I am in Illinois), He flew me over there, I spent two wonderful weeks, and even though we did decide that out differences outweighed out similarities, we had so much fun and I will never forget it. It was an experience of a lifetime. Hey, you only live once, if your heart tells you something is right, I say, go for it! | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 6:17:50 AM | interesting thread-
i tried internet dating in large part because i relocated to care for a family member who was dying of cancer, and am now stuck for awhile in a place i have no interest in spending more time in (mom passed, but now i have a lease...)
i already travel a lot and there are a number of areas i could see myself living in. Though i would be hesitant to move right into a guys place (works best for me if we find OUR place if things work out), as long as a man were living somewhere i could enjoy and earn a living i can relocate physically as soon as i decide to.
but, on the sites i have tried the vast majority of interest comes from w/i the immediate area.
this is natural i suppose as most are probably only `searching' their own area, but does anyone know how i could do a better job of overcoming this??
peace
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Posted: 5/25/2005 7:00:23 AM | I wish Bizzie and Raven all the luck...isn't that why most of are here? However, I have had several long distance experiences, and they didn't work. If there are children involved, you have to think about that at some point. Are you willing to move you children? Will your ex allow it? I think I take the cake by going to Australia to meet someone....the experince was great, but it didn't work, there were too many complications. I need somebody that I can drive less than an hour to see.
But....it does happen....don't want to be negative....and keep us up to date on what happens. I always like to hear sucsess stories. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 7:51:12 AM | Just what is long distance when you are in love?
Love is love no matter where you are. If it is meant to be then heck, go for it, do whatever it takes to be closer to each other. Take that leap. Make it happen. If it doesnt work out then at least you loved and lost rather than never have loved at all.
We are too old for this crap. True Love doesnt come along every day people. When you feel it deep inside your very soul then you will know that you made the right 'move'
Hmmmm...Or live your life forever with the "WHAT IF'S"
BTW...I have been there, both the long distance love and moved to be with him (Texas) and now going through the "what if's" with another
Either way you will also experience the heartache that goes along with LOVE
Ok now Im being a babbling idiot...
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Posted: 5/25/2005 5:23:07 PM | | Just within the state. However, my first wife and I were seperated for the first 10 months of our marriage due to be stationed on opposite sides of the world. She was still in Guam where I met her, and I was in Ohio until she came there after her assignment in Guam was up. Long distance stuff is hard and takes a lot of commitment and patience. That was the hardest 10 months of my life hands down. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 6:00:01 AM | Thanks again Diggy.....we'll keep you all as informed as possible but I am sure that somethings will be a little to private to broadcast.....lol
Reynado....perhaps one way to overcome people just from the area contacting is to initiate the contacting yourself.....you know which geographical areas you would be comfy in going to should something happen and you know best what suits you as far as partners.....and ladies men do like to be pursued as much as they like chasing.....there is nothing wrong with taking a handle on your destiny and giving it a little push. lol They can be as shy as we are.....and as afraid of rejection as we are.....but take a chance and don't allow fear to ruin something that has the potential to be wonderful.
Hi right back at you Salamander.
I must say I am overwhelmed with all the feedback here.....we have all had positive and negative experiences......in life not just in long distance relationships the gift is to not allow it to deter us from going after whatever it is we want.
I am excited for the next part of Bizie and my journey and all those miles aren't going to stop me from seeing where we end up.
Take care and thanks again,
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Posted: 5/26/2005 8:15:00 PM | ha ha- thanks raven!
on occasion i can fail to obtain a firm grasp of the obvious. i realized that at some level and have been trying to do a better job of that.
i confess for good or ill (mostly ill in retrospect) i never learned not only how to approach men, but even that i should! duh!
so far i have had some great friendships develop and have met a few guys.
thanks again, thanks for the thread, everyones comments are interesting
peace
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Posted: 5/26/2005 10:18:46 PM | | ever watch a show called e-love it explains long distance realtionships and congrats. hellboy699 from alberta. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 11:06:50 PM | @Salamander, Thanks! Your cool!
@ Raven, just got off the phone with you! I miss you, I miss you I really want to kiss you! | |
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