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Posted: 1/24/2007 11:30:57 PM | Only your heart can make that choice... I wouldn't listen to anything here... this is a huge decision that effects others. Your heart will tell you. I don't think its about is it worth it, matters of the heart can't be equated by weighing things.
If your heart won't stand you being apart from him then you will know.
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Posted: 1/24/2007 11:59:57 PM | | thank you for the advice. i guess i will better know in a couple of weeks where this might lead. found out that his crew is coming to Toronto for a job for 2 months so he has asked to come and spend the weekends here. That should allow a chance to see if there is compatability. i guess we will just have to wait and see and then go from there. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2007 12:15:02 AM | i met someone online in a chat room, she lived in WA, me in OR. we live 230 miles from each other. we chatted and sent each other messages of love and how long we would kiss, hell i even planned on marrying her since we knew eachother for half a year, we rarely ever had a day where we didnt chat with each other. when i finally moved down there, she didnt act the way she sounded when we were chatting, i showed her more love than any guy she had met in the past, but she barely showed me any :(
after a week i had to head back home cuz i couldnt find a job.
couple days after i got back, she told me she wanted to break up. i asked why but didnt get an honest answer. its been nearly a year now, and i still miss her, a couple times i went out on random walks and fall apart.
i hope that you have much better than me.
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Posted: 1/25/2007 12:21:01 AM | So far, across town.
Have plans to have somone fly out here in the summer from Manitoba tho... Does that count as it hasnt happened yet?
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Posted: 4/20/2007 7:09:00 PM | I have tried the long distance relationship afew times and it failed each time....
And once again I am doing it all over again as recently my boyfriend was offered a job 16 hours away that will be for 4 years but he will be home in the winters and on some weekends I will either fly out to see him or he will fly home. It crushed me to find out that he will be leaving in less then a week. So I basically have less then a week to prepare myself for once lonely nights and tearful days. But in the end it's all worth it because he has brought so much happiness into my life.. so he is worth the wait. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 7:49:54 PM | I used to have a gravitation towards distant relationships....usually involving other countries but same continent....none of them worked out to a "happily ever after" but I do know of a few that did for other people. At least the two of you are in the same country so less complications. Really BC to Ontario is not that far but just remember that distance does add another factor to the equation.
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Posted: 4/20/2007 11:07:46 PM | To me, it seems that a lot of the "appeal" of a long distance relationship is that you can share ideas on the telephone, in letters, and e mails, but you don't really get to "know" the person IN PERSON. The little things about them that might irritate the crap out of you in person, are unseen. Everyone is always on their "best behavior" on the phone and you end up building up this person in your imagination that really doesn't exist.
I had a long distance relationship in real life with my late husband for 3 years before I could move closer to him, BUT--I knew him in real life, and had known him for 20 yrs prior to our "getting together as a couple"--it was very difficult, costly and at times sad, I am glad I did it, because we had 20 great years together before his death. A long distance relationship (1,000s of miles) with anyone that you don't previously know would be very difficult indeed. One person would have to move--since that can't be me--it would have to be someone willing to relocate near me. If he/we were 20-25, no kids, etc. that might be much easier, but with all the "baggage" (not meaning bad stuff, just the things in life) houses, careers, etc. it would be difficult for anyone.
My oldest son met his wife in NY state, on line, and she moved here with her two children. They had only seen each other a couple of times for a week or so before she moved. They have been married nearly 7 years and it has sort of worked out, and is actually getting better the last couple of years. She has never really bonded to our family, though, so even though we live close, she is still somewhat of an outsider and though we treat her with utmost courtesy, she is very "stand-off-ish" where family is concerned. She also doesn't share some of our community and family values which makes it difficult to become closer to her. I think if they had not gotten married so soon, and if my son was not so determined to "NOT" get a divorce no matter what, that they would have broken up before they did get married if they had known each other longer.
A male friend of mine met a woman from Texas (we live in Arkansas) and married her after only a few visits and much telephone conversation, but after the wedding she refused to move "until he remodeled his house"--but she was interested in taking the new vehicle he had purchased for her back to Texas with her when she left. There was an instant filing for divorce on his part.
After my husband died I dated a man for a few months who lived 5 hours from me, I had very casually known him for about 10 years before I dated him. We were both retired, so that made travel easier for us both, but it did make really getting to know each other much more difficult. It turned out that he was an abusive person hiding behind a "mask" of "Mr. Nice Guy"--if I hadn't been able to spend considerable TIME with him in many different situations there was no way I would have found this out about him until "too late"--so, to me, spending TIME with people--in person--is the only way to "be sure"--well, as "sure" as anyone can be. If I did have a relationshiip with someone from a distance, I would not want to "put all of my eggs in one basket" and marry them before I really had gotten to know them. I do not co-habit with anyone I am not married to, so it isn't that they'd have to move here and move in with me, they'd have to move here, get a place to live near me, and us get to know each other WELL and see where it went from there. So it isn't likely that I would become involved in a long distance relationship, but for me, that owuld be the only way to handle it...slowly, and carefully. Give it TIME, just like you would any other relationship. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 12:05:46 AM | Wow! Blasts from the past!
HB2... HAHANOW... Bizie....Raven.
I know I was gone from here for quite some time...to be care-giver to parents who are now passed... plus a relationship with a guy who is now a good friend...then, missed the forums and returned to PoF this year.
To see those Usernames brings sentimental (in a good way) to me.
Come back I say... come back!  | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 1:44:40 AM | I used to fly from Bangkok-Thailand to meet my (ex)boyfriend in San Francisco CA. And then we fall in love.......... very wonderful time...  | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 1:07:01 PM | well there are two, one lady i travelled from newzealand to south africa, and the other from canada to russia, but now russia coming to me, so when she arrives i will not need my pc anymore except for wedding invites lol.  | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 1:13:14 PM |
We all know that with the birth of the internet the whole world has been opened to us which is wonderful BUT at the same time it opens us up to some amazing folks that are at a great distance to us which can be problematic at times for different reasons.
With that said Bizie and I plan on meeting......hopefully within the next 5 weeks if all works out.....he is in BC and I am in Ontario so there is a distance issue.
Sooooooo my question is this of the people you have met what is the furthest you have travelled to meet someone online??
I'm in a LDR as well. She's out in Ontario, and I'm in Alberta. We knew each other years ago, so this isn't gonna be a first meet kinda thing. Still, after all the time that's passed, it will be a shade of first meet in its own way. When we first knew each other, she lived less than an hour away. So I guess, the longest distance I have travelled would be 65KM or so.
As far as the situation goes today, there are no confirmed plans to see each other, but several talks about it (among other things). I'm eager to see it happen, but all good things come in time.
For the right person, distance is just another word in the Dictionary. 
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Posted: 9/8/2008 1:26:28 PM | | I've done this a few times over the years and in my mind even if its 100 miles or 2000 miles it's just not realistic (it's all fun and vacation when you do see each other and not day to day real life). nowadays if you're not within $4 worth of gas of me you're too far or I'm too far. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 3:15:43 PM | This is fun..
My first Long Distance Romance was from Edzell Scotland to Michigan USA. (Military)
After that it was from Scotland to Italy.
And finally from the US to Italy.
About 10 really long trips for a date. One ending many years later.
Last in country LDR was only about 1800 miles and didn't work out.
Then a few less than 600 miles.
All in all I don't think I'll ever regret buying new tires each year for the car to get me to my next date.
And you never know when you'll find the perfect person in the perfect place.
Even if it might be 3,000+ miles away!!!
I think it's best said: "Don't let the miles scare you, but don't wait years to shift into overdrive!" | |
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