| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:04:06 AM | | Great post, ztakeo. Now, if you could only convince all the atheists and agnostics who I've met, who keep telling me that religion is a crutch, and that I'm insane and delusional for even considering believing in it, I think that atheists and agnostics would be the most reasonable people I could meet. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:39:37 AM | | I am an atheist so that would be my reason. Why date someone or have a relationship when you have so little common ground. I'll date a christian (I kind of have to given how my people are a minority in America) but I avoid the conspicuously devout. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:47:47 AM |
Now, if you could only convince all the atheists and agnostics who I've met, who keep telling me that religion is a crutch, and that I'm insane and delusional for even considering believing in it, I think that atheists and agnostics would be the most reasonable people I could meet.
I think you're mistakenly lumping agnostics, and atheists into the same group. Agnosticism by definition implies an equally open mind toward all faiths, neither necessarily believing, or disbelieving anyone's faith. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:40:37 AM |
I think you're mistakenly lumping agnostics, and atheists into the same group. Agnosticism by definition implies an equally open mind toward all faiths, neither necessarily believing, or disbelieving anyone's faith. Fair enough. I've met enough spiritual people who didn't belong to any one religion, and their partners who weren't even that, who really really great people. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:29:29 PM | | It is rare for the "Born Again" Christians or others of a fanatical persuasion to have gotten along with anyone outside their faith. Perhaps it's better to find someone in your own church and eliminate these differences of opinion you have with others. Good luck to ya. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:38:30 PM | | Although I'm not one to shove my religion down anyone's throat, personally I feel like I could probably get along with dating someone who is open-minded about God, even if not Christian, but probably would have trouble with someone who has already made up their mind to reject the idea of God. That would cause too much tension. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:44:51 PM | Some people may believe that you lead a lifestyle where religion is at the front of your mind. Many people don't want religion actively in their lives, as in saying Grace before dinner. You may think that you don't talk about it much but once a day could be more than what some people who attend weekly services are prepared for.
You do mention it in your profile, so ...
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:21:41 PM | | If I see a woman's profile that says that she is a "CHRISTIAN". I am VERY leery....I have noticed lately that alot of PEOPLE use this word "christian" to misslead others. They are NOT!!!! CHRIST like in any manner of the word. I have been in and out of Church for over 30+ years and I have my opinions about relegion and things. I don't try to pretend to be better than anyone else. But I have noticed alot of women cause I don't look at guys profiles. That say I'm a christan woman looking for a good guy. But then they are half naked in their pictures, smoke and drink. I don't think CHRIST ever did any of these things! Sorry if I come across the wrong way. Heaven (no pun intended) knows that I have MY OWN BACK YARD TO CLEAN. I'm not trying to throw any rocks at anyone's glass house. I'm just giving MOP that's all. I do want someone thats believes in GOD, JESSUS and THE HOLY GOHST! Not a BIBLE thumper just a believer. Thanks SHYGUY | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:34:14 PM |
If they took the time to accually get to know me, they would know that i'm the least judgemental person you would ever meet. People decide not to date another based on all sorts of things. Weight, looks, height, occupation, religion, education, income, etc. There's no use in pursuing one that doesn't want one of those traits in their lives.
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:38:00 PM | Another dating site has "spiritual, but not relgious" as one of their faith options. I actually would prefer seeing this to seeing "Christian other" in a man's profile, only to find out in conversation that he "believes in a higher power, but has never read the Bible or attended a church." In making the above statement I am not declaring that one cannot have some sort of faith without going to church. Church attendance/involvement is important to me, and probably always will be.
I was an agnostic for most of my life and, therefore, can understand both sides of the belief/nonbelief spectrum.
I am comfortable chatting with non-religious men as long as they are aware that my faith is an important part of who I am. I will no more give up my faith for someone else than I would expect them to change for me. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:52:07 PM | Even if this is a redundant topic I haven't been around here long enough to read the older threads yet. You (OP) have gotten lots of thoughtful replies already and I'm not sure that I have much more to add but I'll share my experience.
I don't consider myself a Christian but I am respectful of others beliefs so long as I don't find them hurtful to others. On several occasions I have met women that identified themselves as Christians that were clear that for a long-term relationship to develop their partner would need to share their beliefs. Thus I have shied away from women that identify themselves as Christian because of these experiences even though I do not feel my partner needs to share my beliefs as long as we share many of the same core values. In fact, some of the Christian women that I have met have been so intelligent, witty, kind, and fun to be around that converting definitely crossed my mind ). | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:29:30 PM | In your statement "so your saying that I'm judgemental cuz I'm christian. Are you judeging me cuz I have morals?", you answer the question why there are many people that want to avoid your profile.... Christianity does not equal morality. George Bush &****Cheney are practicing Christians. Do you consider them moral?? By the way if your answer is yes, then that is another reason that people may avoid you :-)
Anyway, believe it or not, there are Christians with poor morals & people with morals that are not Christians.
That said, would you really want to date someone that is not Christian? If you spend a fare amount of your time with church related activities, wouldn’t you want someone who wants to do the same things & you need to convince to go with you? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:09:48 PM |
If I say I worship Orange Leprechauns, and you say there's no such thing as orange leprechauns, that doesn't make you part of the "not believing in orange leprechauns" religion. That doesn't change whether 1 or 1 billion people worship the leprechauns.
Isn't the modern day Jehovah's Witnesses an off-shoot of the Orange Leprechaun sect? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/6/2008 4:55:15 AM | Unfortunately, people get confused about: Religion and Christianity. Religion is a ritual done in church etc. Christianity is a relationship with Our Lord. I was raised in a strict catholic home and I was made to follow the Catholic beliefs and there were many. I feared Our Lord because I was always told that I'm a sinner and He would cast me out, so I had to confess to a middle man (priest) and he forgave me...On the contrary, with Christianity I have a direct link to Our Lord. I learned that I could talk straight to Him and that He hears and knows me. I gave myself to Our Lord and I ask that he dwell inside my heart, soul and mind. I am happier now. I am not a fanatic. I still have my weaknesses, but now I can be free. I am learning the Bible as a scripture and live by it.
I am not arguing for God. There is no need. God let's us know that He is God!! | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:21:39 AM | Hi Mobilchic,
I'm a church going Christian too!
Don't you really want to meet a Christian Man who has the same/similiar beliefs as you so that things have a chance to run smoothly? I will only date church going guys. Be grateful when a guy runs away....he will proabably never see things your way....and he is not really interested in God.... he will try to compromise your faith which you won't want to compromise .he will not respect your faith..or probably not YOU!
And when you have kids..wouldn't you rather have a Christian father for them...who will influence them in Christian ways rather than worldly ways?
You cannot 99% of the time change a non Christian man to a Christian man. I wasted time in my twenties thinking I could. It is a real shame some men will never value God...because they see a bad Christian and then seem to think that the whole Christian race and even God are bad!
My best dates were with men who also had faith in God. I've dated quite a lot of men on plenty of fish who are also Christians.
I think its great you are a Christian and you deserve a wonderful guy who also loves God. God Bless.
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:44:58 AM | Aren't Christians supposed to remain celibate until marriage?
Most Christians nowadays see their religion as a restaurant menu. They pick what they want, discard the rest. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/6/2008 10:09:12 AM | That's an intresting question Rock Hunter. The Torah, or old Testament which contains the commandments in both Exodus and Deuteronomy writes adultery is a sin. The common misconseption among Christian's is that means sex, is a sin. Actually adultery is still adultery, and the requires you are in a commited relationship, and sleep with someone outside of that relation to have commited the sin. Or as Jesus puts it in the Gospel, think about sleeping with some one other than who you are in a relationship with. I think the modern day Christian puts to much emphasis on Charlton Heston in the "10 commandments" and what Paul writes.
Of course if you take what Paul writes to heart, you believe women with short hair have commited a sin, and subsequently, so have men with long hair...
"1 Corinthians 11-14/15" Does not even nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a dishonor to him? But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for covering.
And of course when was the last time you saw an artist's rendition of Jesus without long hair. Oh, and let's not forget how Jesus fufilled God's law (commandments) and therefore it is no longer valid... At least these are the perceptions of modern day Christians... very conflicted :)
P.S. Lude acts are still a sin. If you are conflicted I suggest some good bedtime reading Exodus 20, where the commandments start on through 35 where the commandments end. (There are more than 10 commandments a Jew would know them better than I do)
P.S.S. scorpiomover, I don't know who you've been discussing sex with, but, I 've never had an arguement about it yet :)
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:49:36 PM | Perhaps if you are honestly as passive as you claim to be(which would be as a true Christian should be, for those who have actually read the book), then I don't see why any sane person should care.
However, if you are pushy, or react to criticism of your beliefs with irrationality, or resent someone for not wanting to join you in church, etc... Then that could be more than likely the true reason.
I know speaking from my own experiences that I do not care what religion another person has, so long as they do not proselytize. I would gladly debate with them and share my point of view.... However, it's these "MY GUY MUST BE A CHRISTIAN, ETC." profiles that just make me shake my head. It's hilarious how UNchrist-like most "Christians" are, and even more hilarious that many of them think that morals must be derived from a God rather than simple behavioral theories. I'm not understanding how my agnosticism/atheism says anything at all about my morals. But, such is the hypocrisy of most people who judge based on their religion.... which is pretty much based on leaving ALL judgment to a supreme God.
And to a post that I read later in the thread: There's nothing hypocritical about a non-Christian judging a Christian based on their judgmental tendencies. Why? because the non-Christian doesn't have to adhere to any guidelines that say to leave judgments to God and God alone. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/6/2008 1:04:43 PM |
And when you have kids..wouldn't you rather have a Christian father for them...who will influence them in Christian ways rather than worldly ways?
now theres a scary thought, close minded people breeding! what exactly do you consider "Worldly ways"? i bet your kids are going to be home schooled in the fear that they might learn a swear word or hear about the birds and the bees before they're 26 and you want to tell them about it. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/16/2008 7:13:34 PM | | Maybe you are looking for the wrong kind of man. Have you tried finding a Christian man that has the same values as you? | |
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