| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/16/2008 8:26:21 PM | | Simply Put when I hear "Christian woman", what I really hear is "I'm a self righteous close minded prejudiced, pandered, pratt." (How's that for an aliteration) Though I myself am christian, most Christians arn't what they used to be. Now, many so called christians, especially those who go around shouting to the world their religious orientations, have lost what being christain means. So when I encounter one of such nature, They insantly become devalued to me. When a woman takes the approach of "Hi I'm Maggie, and I'm a christian," What I hear is the afore mentioned. " What ever happend to "Hi. Let's try." | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/16/2008 9:35:24 PM | I have no problems with a christian lady, heck i prefer it actually.
I looked at your profile though, and the sweats your wearing, and the non-energetic lifestyle would turn me off.
Take up about at least 5 sports, dress nicer, and ask the guy to go on a first date of say jogging, or a hike up a mountain.
Learn about cars, especially fast one, and football to.
Lose the parts where you wrote about cats, and attacking guys....both HUGE turn offs to 99% of men.
I think you really just need a new profile, and a new pic, far more than anything to do with your being a christian in my opinion.
Challenge us guys, do not hope you can just bore us into a coma, and then keep us because we cannot run away. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:29:19 PM | | Just so you don't get the wrong idea, Christian women are great. As long as they are still open minded, and non-judgmental. In other words, if I ever were to hear you mention that somebody should go to hell because of some action or appearance, I'd probably give you the finger for them/ and for God whose job you would have just stolen. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:59:12 PM | | You have a whole CHURCH of men to choose from who follow your path. Why do you need to come to POF? It makes no sense at all. You have activity groups and clubs and networks at your CHURCH. Any one of these resources can have you married to a Bible thumper in matter of days. Why are you on POF? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:14:54 AM |
So why is it when the conversation turns to religion I get silence or no response when I reply that I'm a christian?
Well... if they're not Christians themselves, it's likely you're not going to want to hear what they have to say. So they either speak and piss you off, or they remain silent and piss you off. In some countries, speaking out against Christianity gets a squadron of F-16's sent out to fire missles at you and your family. Perhaps that's what they're hoping to avoid. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 5:03:44 AM | In respnse to WackMC^^^message #105: I am on this site because I enjoy the forums, and because I have met several wonderful people through the local coffee nights and dances.
Why am I not on a Christian dating site....because many of the men whose profiles I've seen here, who list themselves here as either non-religious or Other Religion, are on those sites professing to be Christian. Plus, the majority of Christian dating sites are not free.
As I state in my profile, I am looking for much more than someone who thinks it is enough to warm a pew on Sunday. He needs to live by his Christian beliefs each and every day.
Here in this thread are examples of why I prefer not to date nonChristians. Many, though not all, of the men who have posted here indicate that they wouldn't date someone as judgmental and self-righteous as the Christians they have encountered. Yet by stating that "fact" they themselves are being judgmental!!
While I am not trying to speak for mobilchick, I am defending my right to be on this site. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:00:44 AM | | I have a question...Why ru bringing up heavy subjects like religion on a date? If I want a fun enjoyable date I sure don't bring up politics, my ex, all the "skeletons in my closet" and definitely not religion. Everything should be light and fun and about getting to know each other. That may be your problem already, starting an argument or jumping into subjects like religion never made me interested in someone. Maybe ur wired diff but think about if that would make you attracted to another person. I'm not saying you shouldn't be proud of your religion as its a big part of you but its not something to be showcased on a first date. Honestly many people nowadays are not extremely religious, including myself, and although we all try to accept everyones beliefs nobody wants to be stacked against another persons morals. Stereotypically christians are quite hipocritical, not to say thats a fair stereotype for a whole group but it is what it is and you gotta deal with it just like everyone else who has to deal with an unfair stereotype so you won't see me crying you a river there. Most guys have their own "moral code" they put on themselves which is enough to handle without adding someone else's to the mix and having the pressure to accept more then what you already put on yourself. So IMO I suggest you take my advice and drop religion discussion from your first couple dates and see how things go from there. Maybe it was the religion talk or maybe it was just you, either way you should get better results if you stay away from those topics at first. Nobody would talk about buying a wedding ring the first date so don't bring up something just as potentially as heavy as religion either. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:06:55 AM | I think it all depends on the person...  Yes, I believe there are alot of men that you so call "run" but not because of your specific religion. I think being Christian is enough said, other than that as I tell my children, as long as God is in the picture it doesn't matter what religion you are. Maybe you have certain blocks set up in your mail settings that deter certain people away  Other than that, I would say you are better off without the people that have no Christian morals that you value anyway. So really now, isn't that why you are here is to look around and see what is out there? 
Keep an open mind and a caring heart, but no one likes to be preached at, I'm sure there is a different site for that. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:22:53 AM | | Well, first off... I'd rather not date a woman who thinks her vagina is a clown car. Secondly, I just can't keep that much complete and utter BULLSHIT in my head at one time. Thirdly, you people keep trying to put aggressively stupid, empty-headed morons into the White House. Fourthly, the backlash is long overdue. Fifthly, I think gay people are just fine. Sixthly, I think a woman's role in life is anything she damn pleases and not necessarily a baby-making machine for Jesus. Seventhly, you all supported and believed Bush's lies about Iraq and got us into a war. Eighthly, you put him into office for a 2nd term 'cause there was anti-gay legislation on the ballot - and that got you to the polls. Ninethly, your leaders said that gays and feminists caused 9/11. Tenthly, **** YOU! | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:33:42 AM | * Starts passing out copies of the Conversations with God Books 1, 2, and 3. LOL*
I think people ,even good Christians should really read these books. It will open your eyes to alot of stuff that might just be good for all of us to hear and understand. And no, it doesn't pound religion into your brain,either. It gets a person think outside of the box, as it were. Very good, but also very deep for those that really can comprehend such thinking. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 8:16:27 AM |
Other than that, I would say you are better off without the people that have no Christian morals that you value anyway.
This is precisely why I tend to avoid Christian women. Far too many Christians seem to believe they are the only ones with morals. I tend to live my life by a higher standard of morals than many of the Christians I know, but becuase I choose to conduct myself that way of my own free will as opposed to out of fear of the wrath of God, I am a lesser person. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 9:32:24 AM |
You have a whole CHURCH of men to choose from who follow your path. Why do you need to come to POF? It makes no sense at all. You have activity groups and clubs and networks at your CHURCH. Any one of these resources can have you married to a Bible thumper in matter of days. Why are you on POF?
I've had a few IM sessions with these "self proclaimed" christian women in here. It's amazing how dirty their minds are by being suggestive (seductresses).
Otherwise, they can't get away with that hanging around church, as the Ned Flanders types would be easily offended. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 9:05:14 PM |
In respnse to WackMC^^^message #105: I am on this site because I enjoy the forums, and because I have met several wonderful people through the local coffee nights and dances.
CB, I give you props for stating your intentions and your findings in plain terms without wrapping them in proselytizing prose. Its shows you came here with eyes wide open and know how to find what you seek.
This the kind of answer I think a lot of use would like to see from the OP --- If she thinks everyone here is going to change just to suit her, she needs to wake up. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/14/2008 11:22:24 PM | OK, OP...
My two cents on this:
Christianity, like many of the other major faiths, has had it's up and down cycles throughout history. Right now, Christianity is having another rough patch. Whether it's because of recent scandals, ethics problems, extreme fundamentalism or problems with members and leaders being caught in embarrassingly hypocrital situations, many people are turned off by the movement lately.
Nothing to do except hold your head high, do the right thing and hang in there.
Eventually, the right people will come into your life and they will realize that you are not a fundamentalist nut.
Keep the faith,
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/15/2008 5:27:08 AM | My thanks to WackMC for his acknowledgement re my very clearly stated reason for being on this site, and to bengalblue for his well thought out response to mobilchick.
By the way, for those who assume that all Christian women are frigid virgins, that again is a case of stereotyping. While we may have high moral standards...note that I didn't say "higher"...some of us are very affectionate within the bounds of a relationship. Whether or not we choose to take that affection into the bedroom is something that we will have to face the consequences for when we leave this earthly soil. It is not the judgment of our earthly acquaintances that matters in the end. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/15/2008 9:58:24 AM | | I think I told you this before. When you wear your Christianity like a crown of thorns and then say "accept me as I am" you drive most anybody away. Try a different approach. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/15/2008 10:57:47 AM | OP could stand to lose some weight too.
Deeply religious guys are still guys. Something that doesn't change between Christians, atheists, Buddhists or vegan Zoroastrians is that ol' bust-waist-hip ratio. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/15/2008 3:18:02 PM | | I don't think so. Only judgmental christian woman. Also, a christian man would be somewhat more compatible with a christian woman. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/15/2008 10:21:26 PM |
Why do some men run when I tell them I'm a christian. I have christian morals and values and I love Jesus. I enjoy attending church on Sundays. I also like listening to christian music, but it's not all I listen to. I don't sit home all night and read my bible if that's what they think I do. I am not a pushy christian and would never try to change someone else's beliefs. So why is it when the conversation turns to religion I get silence or no response when I reply that I'm a christian?
Because there are too many people out there that say "I'm a Christian" when they really mean "I'm one of the evangelical nutjobs that feel it is their duty to force their religion on everyone, in all facets of life." The moment I see someone say in their profile that they're looking for a "God-fearing" man, I hit the back button so hard I wind up on an aaa address instead of www.
Likewise, if I'm in real life, and someone comes up to me and asks me if I've been saved, I run the other way. If I can't escape, I go into defense mode, doing whatever I think will be the best way to get them to leave me alone. The simple fact is that while the majority of religious people are fine, there are too many of them that make me want to go back in time and throttle whoever came up with the idea, and since I don't have the time or inclination to sort them out one by one, someone who goes broadcasting their faith sends up a half dozen red flags. All stop, full reverse, run for your lives, OH NO WE'RE ALL GONNA DIE! | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/15/2008 10:25:48 PM | Why on earth revive a thread that died 8 months ago?
To answer the question, though... I don't date outwardly devout Christians because, simply put, I'm not Christian. I've read a lot of profiles that say that they have morals and values because they were "raised Christian". I take that as an insult. So I have no morals and values because I'm not Christian? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:55:29 AM | Christianity is to spirituality as
marriage is to a healthy relationship.
(They sometimes accompany each other but it is not necessarily a cause and effect relationship)
1. There is no shortage of people on POF to inform you that having a paper on file in the local courthouse is no guarantee of having a healthy relationship.
2. Christianity does not appear to have room for a loving sexually intimate relationship that does not involve a paper on file in the local courthouse.
For two people to define their relationship in such a way that both of them benefit from it without any regrets is complicated enough without dragging in an additional set of rules that need to be complied with... | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:18:34 AM |
No offence to you but I've found people who go to church every Sunday and call themselves "christian" to be hypocritical and judgemental.
Wow, all in one breath... | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 9/16/2008 11:58:58 AM | My take on it might be slanted because I'm not afraid of them. The Christian women I know are bright, and have a strong relationship with their devotion. I feel the sterotype of trying to convert others or win a debate originates from their passion and desire to share themselves and what they have come to understand because of their faith. Some times these are so strong that their knowing becomes seeing everything as devine, which is wonderful really. It's only when condemnation comes into play that I get concerned; the notion of this, that, or the other being outside of God, seperate some how, then were in an antithetical notion contrary to basic Christian values.
Or, mabey the guys ego can't shine under such an intense light. | |
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