| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:57:18 PM | | I just don't like the simple-mindedness of "either-or" questions. And I find that people who ask them usually have a nefarious agenda of manipulation and mayhem...or mayher. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:26:18 PM | Yes; I'd much rather prefer direct honesty than hinting and expecting me to read their mind.
I mean after all, this isn't junior high anymore. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 6:14:06 AM | "Speak their mind" is quite an ambiguous term. In my mind it can mean either a person who is not afraid to voice their own opinion, or it can mean an obnoxious loudmouth.
If you mean a woman who:
* speaks their political, social or other viewpoints without fear of rejection or reprisal, then yes.
* bad-mouths, insults, white-ants or gossips, then no.
* is able to convey the message tactfully and has respect for those who have opposing views, then yes.
* puts their mouth in gear without engaging their brain, then no.
Ultimately I think it is important for people to not only have enough self confidence and self respect to voice their own opinions, but also respect other people equally. People with no self confidence would be needy whereas people with no respect of others would be obnoxious. My $0.02 | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:02:21 AM | It's not about speaking your mind or being sucessful that turns men off usually. That's the denial line some sucessful women use because "SOME" can't admit their A-holes.
I can think of a couple of attorney's off hand that I never got to the meet and greet stage with because they were both so full of themselves. I could have cared less what they did or how much money they had. My interest was in who they were as women and our personal chemistry.
They were both looking for a doormat and should have been shopping at Home Depot not a dating site. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:05:54 AM | | Yes, absolutely. My x-wife and I where together for 10 years and she spoke her mind quite often, however, she would never tell me how she felt, what was going in her world, and what she wanted of me. Which lead to her leaving, so, you can speak your mind and still cover up the truth, so in general most men love women who will speak "honestly" and in regards to "true feelings". | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:44:13 AM | I am a very open and honest person and have no problem expressing how I feel...good and bad. If I feel joyous and loving, the man will know it. In the same breath, if there is something disturbing me, I will lay all my cards on the table and raise the issue. He may not like it, but he will always know how I feel.
Speaking my mind does not make me an a$$hole, it makes me an honest person who is not afraid to address tough issues. Get to the root of the issue and deal with it with HONESTY!! Good or bad, the man will always know how I am feeling. But one thing I will never be is somebody's 'yes man' or doormat.
If you don't be open and honest when issues come up, little concerns suddenly snowball into huge and dramatic situations...deal with it with honesty and openness right from the start, before it gets out of hand. I don't think that is a bad way to be, actually. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:30:07 AM | You should always speak your mind, its communication that every healthy relationship needs.
Off-topic but I'm still looking for somebody who can wrench on a motorcycle. Two bikes, one garage, an empty highway for us to ride on together... Bliss. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:33:03 AM | I like an honest woman, but not one that tells me every single degrading/f'ed up thought she has going through her mind, too much drama  | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:12:27 PM | Our attraction to you is a balance between how good looking we find you, the right level of perceived availability to us, and if you are fun or at least pleasant to be around. The latter becomes more important with time.
If you speak your mind and inside you are a meglomaniacal ****, we may tolerate you due to the hotness factor and/or the belief it will be worth putting up with you at least for a while to have sex with you a few times. But you are on your way out make no doubt about it.
that guy who said that women who believe men don't like women to speak their minds because they get rejected when they do, hit the nail right on the head. If this is the case then you're probably just an ***hole. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:25:46 PM | Well I dont like to argue and I dont like people that do; I dated one girl that got off on always having conflict and I dont want to fight all day long.
I like someone's point of view but there are some people that think their point of view is the most important, or that it even needs to be heard. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/14/2008 9:31:41 AM | You guys. I don't understand why you think that a woman speaking her mind is arguing.
In my mindset now, you communicate feelings or problems before it becomes an argument. I do agree that there is a limit on both parties about speaking minds especially if they don't have a mind.  Just kidding. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:05:41 PM | | Life is short....these days i want to know where i/we stand on things...i want her to speak her mind....and it doesn't matter to me what words she used as long as she gets her point across and i understand her......and will do the same for her in return... | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:08:08 AM | Guys like women who speak THEIR minds. Unfortunately very few women do.
Most women who THINK that they are speaking their minds are actually just parroting off something that they have heard from the girlfriends or the womens trash rags. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:22:07 AM |
No, I like a women that can keep her mouth shut....  LOL! that's a good one wizard!
I'd have to say that I have no problem with anyone who speaks their mind....providing of course that they DO in fact...have one! (mind) | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 5/24/2008 10:28:01 AM | I've known a lot of people who have been rude, boorish, inconsiderate, and mean, and when called on their horrible behavior have defended themselves with the old canard, "I'm just speaking my mind," or its cousin, "That's just the way I am."
I do like women who speak their minds, but they have to have something interesting to say, too. I enjoy a good, heated debate as much as anyone else (should come as no surprise to people who read my forum posts) but I don't like people who are narrow minded and arrogant.
Some people speak their minds because they have something interesting and unique to say, but some speak their minds to show off to the world how smart and how much better than the common rabble they are. The latter turns me off instantly. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:54:37 AM | I'm so sick of loud over the top women. Its hard to imagine but sometimes your point of view DOESNT' matter. Its not all about you and sometimes its not about you at all.
Your arrogance in this post is amazing. I dont judge success by just money and a house. Success also has to do with character, the type of person you are, and if you make others better by being around them.
I would run from you NOT becuase of what you have, but from what you are. And your post is very arrogant. Almost ripping on guys for not accepting you. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:49:20 PM | There is speaking your mind and there is just being an abusive A$$HOLE.
Communication is great. Let people know what you are thinking, but by all means use tact.
And for God sake , please understand you don't need to broadcast EVERY single thought in your mind. If someone bumps you by accident and they didn't know they bumped you, don't make a public ass of yourself yelling at them (true story of a really bad date). If you see a stranger on the street wearing "a unique style of clothing", don't feel as though you need to comment on their dress sense (another true bad date).
By all means, communicate your thoughts, but do it in a calm, rational and respective way. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:26:17 PM | Somewhere between remaining silent and submissive at one of the spectrum and a loud mouthed, rude arrogant jerk at the other end of the spectrum....is a huge expanse of possible personality types that range from shy and quiet to friendly, to 30 different shades of**** and everything in between. There is no right or wrong answer here and there is someone for everyone. In general, if you are considerate and respectful in your communication, I think the vast majority of people(men and women) will appreciate honesty(ie, speaking your mind). If you are rude, offensive or inconsiderate, then nobody, male, female, lover or friend is going to appreciate it for very long.
If you are hypothetically like that and your friends let you get away with it but your lovers don't, then perhaps its because either you don't fully act that way around your friends, while you take some liberties with your lovers.....or....perhaps you do act like that around your friends and they just make sure not to spend too much time with you to let it get on their nerves. Meanwhile a lover is sorta stuck with spending a lot of time with you....and their tolerance will be lower.
I think everyone is different too, but generally speaking nobody appreciates rudeness. On the other hand, some people may not wish to hear criticisms of any kind very often from their lover, they get enough of that at work or elsewhere. Instead they look to their lover for comfort and companionship. I'd suggest that might not be the right kind of person for you to be with.
By the way, none of this has anything at all to do with GUYS. This is basic common sense in both directions for everyone you encounter in life and intend to keep as a friend. | |
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| Do Guys Like Women Who Speak Their Minds?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:43:25 PM | I for one do like women to speak their minds, after all trying to second guess someone is hard work and often inaccurate. I also like women who are confident and will disagree with me if they think I'm talking rubbish.
But how someone speaks their mind is all important. If delivered with bluntness it can come across as rude and unfeeling, whereas if someone makes a point with humor (very useful if you have something potentially hurtful to say) or if it is delivered clearly, calmly and as part of a conversation then you have a woman and a man who respect each other as equals. | |
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