| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/24/2005 10:00:16 AM | hell no im not gonna date someone im not attracted to...there has to be that chemistry... | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/24/2005 10:20:56 AM | The chemistry you speak of, is of the mind, not the body. I think what you actually mean is just the attraction itself.
Secondly, It's enough to see, "I'll never understand (insert sex here)!" all over the place and not realize, that MAYBE we really aren't ment to.
Think about it, we can barely understand ourselves let alone anyone else. The complexity of each individual is so vast and so unique, that a complete understanding would probably cause our heads to explode with too much information.
Why do that? Why overcomplicate things?
Is it really so hard to just live and love?  | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/24/2005 10:57:32 AM | To pink69camaro - what do you base your attraction on? Do you go for the fit muscular guys, for guys who seem to exude confidence or do you look for the cute, if rather shy guy, or something in-between?
Think about what you are looking for.
Also, take your time before you get to sex when you are dating. It may be frustrating for you and them, but if the guy thinks you are worth it he'll stick around and get to know you, not just what you are like in bed. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/24/2005 11:20:27 AM | | ok i love a guy that can make me laugh...and i like a guy thats taller than me...and a guy that can keep up w/ my spunky personality...im not picky...i find all kinds of guys attractive...a great smile...pretty eyes...im not one of those girls that only dates guys that r ripped and gorgeous... | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/25/2005 11:51:43 AM | | If I get another email from some dude who wants an "ENCOUNTER" with me I am going to freak out! I mean, what kind of place are we running here! Whatever became of the "Let's meet for coffee or lunch and get to know each other" and then they go home and you meet again for a movie. Not just sex. Why is it always ALWAYS about sex? Jesus~! | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/25/2005 12:14:19 PM | Hell no! Heres how a guys mind works. If he could sleep with every woman who turns him on. He'd quit his job and jump from sack to sack till he died ,quite happily ! BuT! That's not real life. So we have to play the game!
Now I must be retarted, and I know that I'm leaving myself open, because of this one, from all of the guys out there.
I bekieved and still do believe, even after having two wives cheat on me after 16 ywears. I believe that if you truly love someone and are commited to her,then it should be her and only her for the rest of your lives, period!
JOE
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/25/2005 1:37:14 PM | @Pink69camaro,
According to your Bio you're 19,if you're dating 18-21 year old men then sex is the only thing on their minds....I know I was once 19.Don't get me wrong I still think about sex but I want to get to know the person first. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/25/2005 1:48:51 PM | | There is a very simple reason that guy said that, he is moron and a looser, please tell him I said this. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 5/25/2005 10:19:40 PM | Honestly, I don't even know if I was thinking about sex around 19. That was the time I was looking for a serious relationship.
Seemed the girls I dated just wanted sex. Because I held off for marriage, a lot of them dumped me.
Can't win for losing I tell ya!  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 5:53:32 AM | @dzinger
I feel you on that one. I've been in that situation many times and I just don't get it. It took sometime but I finally realized that you shouldn't give in. If all the want to do is F*** then oh well. No matter how badly you may want them for that or more just tell them NO and let it be. You may feel like an A** for a little while by doing so but in the long run it makes you feel better about yourself because somewhere out there, there is someone for everyone. Of course I personally wish my Prince Charming will hurry up and find me cause I'm tired of kissing toads. (lol) But we all have to be strong and have the will power to say how we truly feel cause if we keep that in not only are we always going to wonder "what if" but the person will never know what is going on. If you want more in a relationship than just sex then tell that person and if they aren't ok with it then let them go. Being honest and upfront about how you feel and what you want isn't a bad thing and yes it may not get response right away but it takes time and I think a lot of us have forgotten that in this "fast food" world we live in. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/6/2005 8:09:03 PM | Some guys have a one track mind, they lack respect for themselves and everyone around them. Some guys just have to make the rest of us look bad. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy making love but if it's just about getting into your pants and if by chance that's the case, it's not the woman that I want to share the rest of my life with. So, if I can make a suggestion, browse around and find a man who wants to share his life, his goals and his dreams with you.
You won't be dissapointed. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:35:43 PM | | hey pink, i'm a guy and can't understand it either. i would much rather take a woman out and get to know her before anything else. i've never understood guys who can have sex and leave em. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:59:19 PM |
i've never understood guys who can have sex and leave em.
Exactly! Live by the golden rule. "Do unto others the way you would have others do unto to you."
Out of all the things in life that I truely treasure. I treasure the love of a woman more than anything in this world | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/6/2005 11:06:43 PM | | Its really not the worlds opinion of what is 'hot/sexy' its how you see the person. Like you said, a taller guy that makes you laugh and can keep up with your personality. Some dude who looked like a model but with the personality of a soup cracker just wouldnt float your boat. And to most guys, its assumed that 'great sex' goes along with 'hot looks' unfortunately that isnt always the case. Hmmmm, good example, big ass fake boobs vs B/C cup real ones. I'll take the real ones any day. You keep looking for the things that matter to you, let the superficial and shallow people stick to just that. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/6/2005 11:21:46 PM | | Depends on the guy, If he is a man that is desired by many women than his option are abundant. Think of it like this a guy who has "hot girls", chasing after him day in and day out,would of course want to exercise his choice to as many women as possible and guess what HAVE SEX WITH YOU, this is because the dude has choices. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/6/2005 11:51:07 PM | To pink69
You are a very sweet and young girl. You still have a lot to learn about men. Basically Everyone comes from different upbringing, different enviroment, and having different dating experiences, so every one has different expectation. If you met someone who has different intention and different expectation from yours, then he is Mr. wrong, no matter how cute, how smart, or how rich he is, simply move on to the next one until you find the right one who is willing to take time to get to know your heart, your dream, your goal and your soul. You want the one who treats you and respects you like a lady instead of using you then trash you. It would save you from a lot of unnecessary heartache, confusion and disappointment. Some men can have sex with anyone whom they merely have physcial attraction with without having any emotional or mental connection with the women. It's the human nature that has never changed since ancient time. Most women can only make love with the special one that they love. And that's the difference. Many people rush into sex without having to open up emotionally, connected mentally to one another is a warning sign of fear of intimacy and fear of commitment. In this case, you really need to stand on your ground, take your time and really need to get to know him very well before you give your body, your mind and your soul to him. You teach people how to treat you. If you have high regard of yourself, don't allow people to treat you otherwise. Sex is easy, love is hard. Love requires romantic gesture, patience, effort, hardwork, communication, trust, openness, honesty and time. If you allow them to have you without having to go through all the troubles, they would do it in a heartbeat. The harder they work to have you, the more they value and love you. The easier they get a woman, the quicker they would trash and lose her. Maintain your precious innocent, increase your dating knowledge by reading books since there are a lot of good dating and relationship books out there that were never accessible for me when I was young. So I have to learn this the hard way. Knowing that you are young, beautiful, and precious and there are a lot of nice, old fasioned, hopelessly romantic guys out there dying to sweep you off your feet, if given time, who will treat you right. Be patience with yourself. In the meantime, I suggest you to equip yourself by reading the book "The Rules" by Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider. You may find an used book in good condition for only 2 or 3 dollars from the internet. New book only costs $6.99 from the book store. It's very easy to read. It will help you gain a lot of knowledge about men, women, dating, realtionship, how to interact with them and what's in their minds. And it will help you gain a lot of wisdom, insight and confidence in how to handle youself and avoid heartache. I wish you the best. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/7/2005 1:36:42 AM | Don't girls ever see a guy that looks awesome and, knowing nothing about him, have an overwhelming desire to have sex with him?
If they don't, then that's the physical difference between girls and guys. Lots of guys, when they see a girl experience the desire to have sex with them - end of story. It doesn't take more than that to trigger that desire. Lots of women, it seems require more.
It's not a mental conscious choice so much as it is a physical reaction - knee jerk reaction that goes straight into what we want.
What a guy does with that desire depends on the guy, but clearly both genders are working with very different emotional backgrounds here by force of nature. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 6/8/2005 8:09:30 PM | I find it amusing that almost all the guys that responded to you try to come off as being all (or almost) noble.
Women are not meant to understand men. Men are not meant to understand women.
I found out a long time ago that it's simply easier to try NOT to understand the opposite sex. Why? Because you won't. No matter what sort of box or mentality you think you got someone pegged as, it matters little because people are unique but one thing we all share is the genetic urges.
Women have them, men have them. Who has more? Hard to say. I've known plenty of women who are "easy" and plenty of men who are "gigalos". Does that make them bad people? No, it just makes them bad relationship material.
Have your fun and move on and find someone worthy of you in a way that truly makes you feel your worth to them. By the sounds of it, you seem to have dealings with men that don't do that.
My two bits. | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 7/6/2005 8:01:24 PM | TO ALL RESPECTABLE FEMALES WHO WANT MORE...
YES, guys do want a BEAUTIFUL woman to go out with/date/bang/everything.
BUT, ask yourself, what guy wants to bang an ugly chick......NONE!!!
So, weather or not a guy is looking for a one night stand or a wife, he's looking for a BEAUTIFUL woman.
Now, if you are a BEAUTIFUL woman, then you make ALL THE RULES!!!! DAMN, i shouldn't be tellin yall this.
If you want a man to see you as more than a SEX TOY, you must make him RESPECT you.
To get his RESPECT, give him EVERYTHING EXCEPT SEX!!!
MAKE HIM respect your mind, MAKE HIM respect you values & morals, & MAKE HIM RESPECT YOUR BODY.
once you give your body, there's nothing left to the imagination. if you take away the "THOUGHT OF GETTIN IT" then you have NOTHING LEFT.......& YOU'RE ALONE & HAVE ONE MORE PERSON ON YOU "ALREADY DONE" list.
now thats insight in bein a man | |
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| i will never understand guys!
Posted: 7/6/2005 9:11:49 PM |
guys say im cute alot but they just wanna have sex...it's so annoying...i'm sexual but i need to know someone and be w/ someone that im gonna be w/ after sex! i guess i've just met the wrong guys...but where can i find the right guy?
As was indicated earlier, young guys are just out conquesting. They have no clue as to what a girl/woman, hot or otherwise, has to offer, other than what is in their pants. Most everyone looks for a mate within their own age group, +/- 5 years, but young women around 18 to 25 expect to find qualities in men of the same age range that usually take maturity and experience to cultivate. Then they are disappointed and hurt when they can't find it there. I am sure this does not bode well for their perception of men in general. Don't get me wrong, not all guys that young are like that, but looking at the big picture, young women become notches on the bedpost.
Generally, a good litmus test for a guy is to just abstain from sex with a new guy for a month or two (don't tell him how long though) and see if he 1) sticks around AND 2) if he actually explores other non-sexual intrests with you. A real man would want to find substance behind the hot girl, a conquistador would move on.
Just my opinion though... | |
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