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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:10:56 AM | if u think u just made love ? ask urself these questions ,, should tell whether u did or not ...
1. was your hair pulled?
2. was your azs smacked and beat red raw ?
3. was the term , u ever go asz to mouth ?
4, if ur asked whats ur name again ? cause i really like u stacy i mean , jennifer !! a lot
four signs its not lovemaking
1. if ur lover looks deep into ur eyes as u kiss and traces the contours of ur luscious body.
2. champagne , roses, and soft tranquil music plays as u interact w/ ur partner
3. you man wants to cuddle , ' just because ' ** THIS ONE MAKES ME THROW UP A LIL
three signs ur making love | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:21:52 AM | Hi OP,
There have been times I would probably say I have been able to tell, but also times when I've been duped, so maybe there was more chance involved than I think during the times I was right.
I agree that it can feel like someone is making love to you when they're not, but it isn't always about them being deceitful.
It can be that we see what we want see and it isn't their fault at all, it can be that at that moment, they feel the intimacy they're showing you but it doesn't mean they cant achieve that with pretty much any girl, some just find it easy.
I think it is better at telling you if YOU are in love, than whether a man is in love with you.
Although, remember love is something that happens over time, so if you find yourself thinking how much the focus has shifted from physical to emotional fulfilment, I would say that is a clue and it takes into account the other person's own 'style'. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:46:04 AM | weezy, it's easy to tell the differernce. When you sit there with your lover as he drinks a beer, eats his Fritos and watches a porn movie while you perform oral sex on him in your "special outfit", as he grabs you by the hair when he is ready to orgasm....if he shoves it down your throat and holds your head down as he orgasms and you gulp it all down, it's "love"... but if he pulls your head back and does it in your face, then rubs it all over your face, then it's "just sex" for him, see?
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 12:19:35 PM | | Getting back to basics.....by todays definitions (w/ a Hollywood influence) making love and having sex is one and the same. When there is no commitment (presence of true love) then there is no foundation and where there is no foundation the building will crumble. Love requires sacrifice, work, caring and in a succesful relationship it is mandatory. Having intimacy with the one you love has depth and is fulfilling for it is all about giving....having sex to satisfy lust is strictly taking and satisfies the lust that dominates the person. Get to know the person your with...shoe fitting is easy, buying the shoe has a cost associated with it. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 4:31:54 PM | Dear WeezyGirl,
It's definitely possible. For many men, sex is purely a physical act. What is important is how they treat you afterwards, the next day, the next week, etc.
It's tough to know when is the Right time.... | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 4:43:17 PM | not really because if u are a spontaneous person in bed then it can be combined all into one First we can have sex then rotate and make love. sex then love , love then sex  thats wats up.  | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 5:37:19 PM | | How old are you????? Making love is definately different from having sex. You can't "make love" to somebody you don't love....but you can definately have "sex" with someone you don't love. Don't confuse the two sweetheart. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 5:38:21 PM | | How old are you????? Making love is definately different from having sex. You can't "make love" to somebody you don't love....but you can definately have "sex" with someone you don't love. Don't confuse the two sweetheart. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 5:51:20 PM | Weezy-
I've met men who claim all they do is make love because they hate the term f*cking because it devalues sex. I can certainly tell the difference FOR ME when I'm making love to a person or simply having sex for the sake of sex. Some men and woman just seem to view sex like a recreational sport-even in the long term. If I have a serious emotional connection to a person, I feel it every time we are intimate, but again, I'm only speaking in terms of what it means to me-I can't speak for the man in question. That being said-just because I care about the person doesn't necessarily mean if we are intimate we are making love-because generally speaking it's sex-great sex for sure, but it's still just sex. The difference to me is what happens AFTER we've had sexual intercourse. Does he hold me-kiss me-want to talk to me before we drift off to sleep?
I think it's quite possible to confuse sex with making love or love in general. Some people are raised to believe if a person wants to have sex with you that somehow equates to them loving you-and that's not necessarily the case either. I would certainly feel shitty if the manfriend said to me all we have is sex and nothing more and that he's never made love to me-but I know we have. Does that special sexual interlude happen each time we decide to get naked and bump uglies-hardly, but when he has made love to me it feels even better than just a quick hop in the hay.
I know its sounds mighty redundant, but unless you talk openly and candidly about your relationship-especially how each party views it, when the truth finally comes out someone ends up being hurt. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:02:39 PM | | well if you have sex with someone before there is an emotional connection then yes women do it all the time...they are attracted to a man..and lets face it as men if we like the woman and are spending time with them...and they choose to have sex with us maybe to them it is making love but men dont see it that way....some men are passionate in bed and this can be misleading to the woman but just because he doesnt tie you up and prop you in a sex swing...doesnt mean he is making love you have to know there is more than physical attraction before you jump in bed if you are looking to make "love" | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 7:18:26 PM | | Yes, it is definitely possible. I have had this happen to me. The guy claimed all sorts of feelings he never had. He just cut me off without a thought when I started to want to meet his friends (which would have found him out as a player). I was convinced. He was very convincing and loving. In fact, despite everything, I have a lot of happy memories of intimate moments. But I now know that you cannot assume that a man means anything of what he says, even if he is behaving in what seems to be a truly loving way. Sad, but true. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/30/2008 8:00:27 PM | There should be no confusion, between having sex and making love. Having sex may relieve both of the two's tensions, but it is like eating ice cream through a paper bag, no enjoyment. One can have sex, but it takes two to make love, which lasts long after the loving. Ask yourself, what is more important, quantity of having sex for the short term or quality of making love that lasts long after the flame dies.
"Freedom is not free, but worth fighting for." | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/31/2008 5:06:29 PM | The difference would lye with the two people......they should be in one accord and know if they are reliving tension or building a relationship...it can be a trap off for both...fun is fun and Ive been in both situations... | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/31/2008 6:30:31 PM | possibly but this is the thing... its all dependent on ...
1) age = you are young (OR you are mature & experiencing 'new found freedom') you get caught in the moment you think 'this is love' but typically it is lust, raging hormones and dare I say it .. a little touch of desperation that'I must have another partner since 'A' dumped me ' .. most probably just sex
2) circumstance = instant attraction .. passionate kissing, touching, etc.. ooppps... sex (!)
3) the 'one'= you think about one another ALL the time, you send each other coded messages, cant wait 'til the other comes home so you can surprise them, feel that without them you can't live .. could be LOVE :)
*please don't take these assumptions of mine as fact.. hell .. I could be wrong!!! :) | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 7/31/2008 6:46:30 PM | | Yes... I think more so for women. When women have sex, we are allowing someone to enter our bodies. When men have sex (with a woman) they are just entering. I've also heard that if you let them ejaculate inside of you, it creates a chemical bond with your body that can make you crazier about them. She spreads herself wide open, and lets the insects in... She has the blood of a reptile just underneath her skin. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 8/1/2008 12:05:12 AM | Sure it can! Haven't you heard men call each other "Player"? Women do it too, but I suppose more discretely, generally speaking. One person PRETENDS to love the other, goes thru the motions and words of how a loving person would be expected to behave. They get their sex, and whatever other benefits they might be able to con out of their victim, while providing the illusion to their sex partner that it's all real love.
There's nothing wrong with pure raw sex for the sake of the "Big O", so long as BOTH people recognize it for what it is, and there's no deception involved in getting your partner between the sheets. Whatever happens between 2 honest consenting adults,a pre-op transexual, a donkey and a midget, is perfectly OKAY, so long as everyone understands exactly what's going on. Usually, it's the donkey that understands best, or so I hear. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 8/1/2008 12:15:57 AM |
Whatever happens between 2 honest consenting adults,a pre-op transexual, a donkey and a midget, is perfectly OKAY, so long as everyone understands exactly what's going on. Usually, it's the donkey that understands best, or so I hear.
hahahah but how do you prove the donkey gave consent when the police show up? | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 8/1/2008 7:11:53 AM | A man sex is just sex..that it but when a man love a women with all his heart then is out of this world...(making love)but if he make love to another women then is sex...strange..we try not to mix the two....stay sweet | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 8/30/2008 12:31:44 AM | I agree with tiegekitty, most people are having sex for their own satisfaction when someone has devoted themselves to you and your love making then you are no longer having sex but making love.
P.S. tiegekitty you have blocked me by accident and i cant reply to you!!!!!! | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 8/30/2008 12:46:26 AM | Absolutly, but I wouldn't call it confusion in most cases.
There would need to be a definition of love.
Sex certainly isn't love - - You can have sex with someone you love, but you can also have sex with someone you don't love. Love isn't derived from the physical act of sex. It can be an expression of love, but I think where the confusion arises (pardon the pun) is that many people believe sex as the defining expression of love.
That is not the case. That would be putting a condition on love and as I see it love is unconditional. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 9/3/2008 12:27:17 PM | | To me the difference is in how you feel. If you feel aroused below the waist first, then you have intercourse, that is having sex. But if someone moves you deeply, warms your heart first, and that is what leads to the arousal, the intercourse you have after that is making love. | |
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| can having sex be confused with making love?
Posted: 9/3/2008 12:40:20 PM | Isn't it all the same, just different wording? Having sex, making love, screwing, getting laid, banging, bonk, get it on, have a go at it, hump, jazz, lie with, sleep with, the list goes on. Sorry but I'm just not seeing the difference. Maybe I'm just not at that point in life yet where I see a difference.  | |
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