| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/3/2008 12:25:07 PM |
Hmmm...a new cd costs $15-20. So do ingredients for a homemade meal.
Both choices are also tough for just meeting someone (most people do not want to go to someone's home right away or have strangers in their home). I don't know what sort of places you have in your area, but I think you just need to be more creative. There are a lot of fun hole-in-the-wall sort of restaurants where 2 people can eat for $20 or less.
You can also make things fun with picnics in the park. You can go to see art exhibits or shows at colleges (these are often free).
I'm more talking of in the long run. For a first date going to see a band play is cool. $7 a person and there is hours of entertainment. I go to shows as often as I can.
It's in the long run that I can't afford restaurants or vacations or nights out on the town.
I buy pretty much all of my cds used for $7 a piece. I live in a university driven city so there is always a good selection of used cds (keep selling those for beer money guys!).
I know what you mean about not wanting to have strangers over. That's pretty much a given. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 1:13:45 PM | How would I go about looking for a woman whose in the same financial status as me?- Brewtality
Local community centers offer a lot of low cost activities & would therefore likely attract other
people with limited imcomes.Also, you mention that you live in a university driven city. Many
students are in tight financial straits, so the area closest to the university, would offer a lot
of low-cost alternative types of entertainment. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 1:55:30 PM | hi again folks
ooohhhh i just had to write back in after seeing that last few posts!
It has to be loud, and there has to be drinks involved...because women/men are that insecure.
#1. i for one am not in anyway insecure, but if i was, i would deffo not be choosing to drink on my date, because IMO, being drunk and f*uking up on a date is absolutely the worst thing i could ever do, and nothing could dent my confidence more than that!
but if i decide to go for a few drinks on my date, does that make me insecure, no i dont flippin think so!!!
#2. loud???? wtf?? are you talking about a rave? the cinema? what? But how in the name of god if anything is loud does that have to do with a womens insecurity?? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 2:02:29 PM | OP: There are lots of women who will date a guy without money. It depends on how well he fits her lifestyle. For me, I can have fun doing cheap things, and I know how to do the more extravagant things cheaply. No need to go to a fancy restaurant as I can make most of what those restaurants make. People keep telling me I should sell some of the stuff I make, but I have a career already.
Also, in my case it depends more on the intelligence and responsibility level of the guy. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 2:19:52 PM | It doesn't bother me long as he can take care of himself, just as I do - and most men can do that. If I want to go out to dinner, a movie, out dancing, on a cruise or vacation or whatever, I can take myself and I usually do - I don't date men for what they can give me, so it's not a big deal.
I wouldn't force someone to go to places he doesn't want to go either or give him crap for not wanting to spend money on something that's more my interest - I can go it alone or drag friends. Luckily I am not the type that needs constant romantic companionship.
When two people are together a ton of money doesn't have to be spent to enjoy each other's company. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 2:19:58 PM | | Why don't you consider dutch?It's what i do.That way you only need to worry about paying your share.Just go to a restaurant that serves good food at a reasonable price.One of my favorite restaurants serves good hearty portions for less then 10 dollars.That way for a first date you can linger over a nice meal and coffee ,usually included,for a couple of hours. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 2:26:26 PM | OP,
Bad news...dating is hard no matter who you are. I look great on paper and still get no dates. Besides, you have only been on here one month. Give it a little more time. :) | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 2:58:52 PM | | Not at all and I prefer a "cheap" date where we can talk more than anything anyway. I have diabetes so when I eat out usually the only thing I can have on the menu is salad and half the time the salad dressing is loaded with sugar. I prefer to cook and eat at home where I have all diabetic friendly foods. Just coffee or a diet soda is fine by me and a nice walk through the mall if it is too cold or a park if it is nice outside. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 3:00:54 PM | I outearn probably seventy percent of the guys I date. I'm 23 and lucky enough to have a "good" job for someone my age (35k a year, full benefits, generous vaca time, etc.)
Most guys in my age group are either still in school (broke), working retail (broke), or living on their own in their first crummy apartment (broke). Many still live at home.
Many girls I know won't date guys under thirty for the above reasons.
My thing is not money. Due to the fact that many guys I date are students, I KNOW they likely can't take me on a weekend jaunt to Club Med. However, if a guy won't even spring for dinner (as in a slice of pizza) and a movie, it makes me feel that he doesn't value me enough to try and court me.
The most impressive guy to me is the one who I know doesn't have a lot, but is generous to me anyway. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 3:02:53 PM | Thundercloud
i get what your saying there and theres nothing i would liike better than a guy to cook me a special home cooked meal for a date, or likewise!
but what happens after those first few dates when you get fed up of eatin each others chicken? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 3:49:23 PM | | If the two of you are really into each other then you could be eating crackers and not get tired of it. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 3:57:58 PM | | well i found my someone special when we both was skined as church mice, on studies, not enugh money to live on not talking about going out, i was on chemo for brain tumor, and till now , even when we are bit better of, there was no better date than my lil rented room , music from radio, one candle to save on electric ... so does money matters? well it didn't and still doesn't much. we are still renting place to live, well have enough of food, enough money for electric and lovely son, but still paying of my cancer therapy, so not much left for luxury ... but it is 9 years together now and yes i am tired sometimes or sad cos would like to give more to my son, but we are giving him all we can, and giving all love we have to eachother. no money can buy love or a true smile in the morning or feeling of being loved and loving. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:10:03 PM | It wouldn't bother me... Take turns paying... Also as others have said if your not wanting to spend $50 for dinner choice a dinner type place that charges less... Applebees? Pretty cheap and my fav resturant. :)
Good luck!!! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:17:15 PM |
if a guy won't even spring for dinner (as in a slice of pizza) and a movie, it makes me feel that he doesn't value me enough to try and court me.
So... spending money on you is a way to make you feel valued??
The fact that it is enough to spend little money does not make it any more appropriate... just cheaper.
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:45:51 PM | Since other posters have already mentioned the home cooked meals I'm going to address the 'never will' part of your employment status.
First of all there is a certain percentage of your ODSP that you are allowed to earn free and clear. You can report it and there is not going to be a deduction or a demand that you seek full time employment instead of receiving further benefits. There have been recent changes to the amount so check with your local office.
There is also the Community Placement option where you receive a transportation allowance of $100 per month for a minimal amount of volunteer work regardless of whether you have transportation expenses. The allowance is in place so that you don't cancel your volunteer days due to a lack of transportation and cause the organization you work for to be looking for a last minute replacement.
Not only are volunteer positions excellent places to meet people but they help to build your resume. Why would you need a resume if you are 'never' going to work again?
Because there's also a completely voluntary program you can become involved in where they offer you a support person to assist you on the job in an area you may be interested in and capable of working in if only part time to start.
Should it ever become a full time job but for whatever reason you wind up needing to go back on ODSP they have also changed the re-entry system so your cheque can be speedily returned to you.
You may think that you have less chance of obtaining employment than someone else but that is also not true at this point in time. The federal government has handed down a huge amount of money to the provinces for training, community projects, etc. that used to be the federal government's responsibility within the last year.
Plus there are now, and have always been, special grants and subsidies for employers who take advantage of the option of hiring people who have been unemployed in the longterm.
IMO, if ever there was a time to cash in on this it would be now before the same old same old bunch who usually grab all the cash (non-governmental organizations) use it to pay their staff to wring their hands and study another social issue to death.
It's a game of whoever comes up with the best proposal on paper wins the money -- think of one fast! Otherwise you can bank on a further barrage of studies from the friends of people at Toronto's City Hall claiming horror's link to the oppression of women. Probably from the Health Department.
And Toronto being the media capital of Canada, it might as well be true coz everyone will think it is.
Googling 'Employment Supports' would be a good start. I've been collecting info in PDF format for close to a year. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 5:14:26 PM | | to me it doesn't matter. I think it would be fine either way. There are low cost activities that would be fun. As far as the movie thing goes, If me and someone else went to see them often it wouldn't be much fun. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 5:53:36 PM | Of course treating me on a date makes me feel valued. Why on earth wouldn't it? Also, in this country, cultural standards and traditions are still very much in play.
I have noticed when a date is going well and there's obvious interest on the guy's part, he pays. When it's not going well and I can tell he's not into me, he often says "let's split this".
I am a more traditional girl, and that works well for me. I don't need to assert my feminine independence from the male patriarchy in silly ways, and am quite content to be treated like a lady on dates.
I might add that I always offer to pay or split on dates, out of politeness, and am always refused. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 6:31:18 PM | | I know this is off the subject, but is there a hidden meaning behind the username "Brewtality"? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 7:18:58 PM |
Does a restriction like this play alot into the dating factor for you? Mate, be fun and interesting. Every date I've had, wasn't about the money. She earned more than me, and liked me for me, because we had a great time. The money was never an issue, because we had such a great time. To be honest, I've had far more dates when I was poor than rich.
Not being able to go to places you want because of money issues. Not too long ago, I was going through a bad patch. Lived on nothing but oats and raisins for a while. Know what I did? Every time I passed a restaurant, or a shop, I went in and checked out the prices. Pretty soon, I knew where all the cheap but decent restaurants were, and the cheap shops that sold quality stuff. So when I wanted to go somewhere and spent a little money, but have a great time, I did. Still do.
I know that, but where are these women. I don't feel like picking up chicks in the doctor's waiting room. That's just not polite. Women are open to being picked up ANYWHERE with an approach that works for that woman, in that time, in that place, at that time in your life. Go for it. What have you got to lose?
P.S. If you are going to try and get their number, make it light-hearted and playful. That way, if she says no, and you see her again, you can just wink and smile, and then no-one has to feel awkward.
Think bold. Feel great. Live outside the box. You'll find that a lot of women are keen to date a man who can make them happy on a little money, because things can only get better from there.  | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:28:47 PM | You buy CDs? psssshhhh! I just download it for FREE on the Internet. 
I spend my money on stuff like...rent and car payments. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:59:41 PM | Next Time Round had some good ideas. They have a similar program here in BC. I have been
disabled (& low-income) most of my adult life, so I understand where you are coming from. It's
hard, but not impossible. | |
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